FabSwingers.com forum: Advice needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not your monkey not your circus.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No. Why would you? Maybe he knows she's here.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?"

Not your monkeys not your circus

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"Not your monkey not your circus. "

Damn

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Not your monkey not your circus. "

Czy mówisz po polsku?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not your monkey not your circus.

Damn "

Not fast you're last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its their business. Block & Leave her be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not your monkey not your circus.

Czy mówisz po polsku?"

Nope!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Not your monkey not your circus.

Czy mówisz po polsku?

Nope!"

Ok! It's just that that is a very Polish thing to say... Nie moj circ, nie moje malpy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them "

Welcome back

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them

Welcome back

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By *ceKweenWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

I take it you’ve heard the saying...shoot the messenger !

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Block and leave well alone

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By *hedevilKTWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes

Maybe ask him for advice say a friends missus is on dating as single and ur not sure if u should tell him if he says he would wanna know tell him if he says don’t tell him don’t

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why would you tell him?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also how do you know it's her?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

No. Block and ignore

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Definietly not. You shouldn't meddle in other peoples relationships. You have no idea what goes on in their marriage.

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Let it be! Not your business!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them "

Yes welcome back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them "

Welcome back G

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Don't mention it to anyone, then nobody knows you know.

Plus it's not your problem, they have to be left to sort their own relationship. He may even be encouraging her.

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

You don’t know what’s agreed behind closed doors. Best to stay out of it

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Whoever you have seen on whatever site, you don't tell their partner.

You don't know what's going on in their respective lives; it may be a part they both know about. But it might not!

Blabbing about it, no matter how convoluted you try to make it, can only make things potentially worse now or in the future.

Problem is you've seen her, so that means she could see you in return, if she checks. Her knowing you too, could throw up all sorts of issues including anxiety or stress on her.

Thus, Block Her NOW, and say nothing.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Maybe message her , saying you know who she is , and say that is an idea you be more discreet or her husband may already ready know ,,, need to find out the full story possible ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?"

Yes but no. Is kinda show him this site. And let him see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them "

Here here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them "

Oh hello gorgeous

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"Not your monkey not your circus. "

This

How do you know he doesnt know- could be a hotwife scenario for all you know.

Ms Icebreaker

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By *inkydiscreet91Man
over a year ago

London

Exspose the hoe im sorry but love how these girls say dont say nothing but the moment the shoe on the other foot its diffrent story.. his your friend you said, some friend you are mate, if they into hotwife lifestyles who would be beter to trust than you, do the right thing he probs works his ass off why she bums about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had split from my now ex husband, but hardly anyone on the outside knew.

However, he was controlling as hell.. So when I first went on a site like this one.. a mutual (friend) told him they'd seen me on there.

He ended up cornering me about it? Called me all the names under the sun and threatened to take out kids off of me and go to the police about it.. which caused me all sorts of trauma and had me too scared to do anything online for years!!!

Now my point in telling you this.. is the fact that you don't know what any ones home life is like.

Maybe he knows she's on there and gets off on it. Maybe they've spoken about it and he allows her on there as long as he heard nothing about it, And is too embarrassed to tell his mates about his 'kink' (maybe he's a cuck???) Saying your wife is on a swing site isn't exactly something that's going to come up in polite conversation.

Maybe, speak to the wife about it when you get her on her own for a spare minute? If you absolutely must. See how she responds.

However, I've also been cheated on.. and would never have found out of I hadn't hhave been told by others... but.. if you speak to the husband... and they split up... how would you feel knowing you'd been the catalyst that ruined their marriage ???

But.. there's always the chance that your friend finds out you noticed her on here... and if their relationship spirals.. So will your friendship with him. He'll end up blaming you...

Or.. it's all consensual.. and he gets embarrassed you find out... or she asks you to join... there's a number of possibilities that can happen...

But ultimatly its up to you...

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Yes if I had a wife and she was on a dating site and my mate hadn't told me who knew I wouldn't be mates with them "

how do you know he dsnt know shes on here? leave them alone id say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?"

Difficult situation to be in. I wouldn't get involved if I were you, just block her profile & try to forget. Chances are if you recognised her someone else will too. Don't be the messenger.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?

Difficult situation to be in. I wouldn't get involved if I were you, just block her profile & try to forget. Chances are if you recognised her someone else will too. Don't be the messenger."

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By *inkydiscreet91Man
over a year ago

London

9 times outa 10 women cheat for emtionals reasons.. men cheat because we can and want to, its sad but true

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By *ub_Jess_TVTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

From my experience, best to keep out of it, get involved and you'll end up being the badguy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"9 times outa 10 women cheat for emtionals reasons.. men cheat because we can and want to, its sad but true"

I know many women who cheat because they can & want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd keep out of it. Block her and move on. I recognise people on here all the time who are married/attached. I have no right to meddle, nor would I want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come across people I know with partners. They've completely shit themselves when they've realised who I am. But their secrets safe with me. This is a site where I think number one rule is shut your mouth, close the curtains and move along x

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

"Not your monkey not your circus. "

Love that and letting you know will be using it in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd keep well out of it, few of us are squeaky clean and the messenger always gets shot anyway.

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By *inkydiscreet91Man
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?"

Introduce youre mate to the site..

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

No too messy and you don't want to cause trouble.

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By *inkydiscreet91Man
over a year ago

London

"9 times outa 10 women cheat for emtionals reasons.. men cheat because we can and want to, its sad but true

I know many women who cheat because they can & want to.

ye but no1 is talking about ur cirlce of friends hahaha im talking about the majority of women.. i belive we all equal but men and women aint the same

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Stick her in your Wank Bank

Block and keep schtum

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By *inkydiscreet91Man
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have a dilemma, I've just found my mate from works wife on here, her profile says she's single....

Do I tell him or not?"

Look at her profile every day. Then if you're in a social situation with your mate and his wife, pull out your erect cock and nod down so she looks at it. She'll recognise it from here as the one that's always noseying at her pics and the cats out the bag. Then you can let her decide the next move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's actually a mate (as in, you are a significant part of each others lives) then yeh, obviously tell him. You'd want him to do the same and if he's aware of it then he can either own it or make his excuses.

If he's just some guy from work then no, there's no good reason to blunder in to his life after sharing not much more than a fag and a sandwich together and start telling him about his business.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A lot of womens profiles have men, not women, behind them, so it could be your mate.

Generally it's better not to interfere and to retain discretion. It's possibly different if it's a close relative or friends, where you find something dangerous that's happening.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’d you found your mate on here would you tell his wife?

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

Yes . Than yes again .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind your own business

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

If it's your friend you should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How close are you?

If he's more of an acquaintance, I'd say leave it be.

If he's a really good mate, I think he should know. Like others have said, maybe he knows?!

Tricky one though... good luck in whatever you decide to do x Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you know your friend’s relationship 100%, no, don’t say anything.

You have no idea what’s going on behind closed doors between them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had similar at work i found a colleagues missus on loads of different local slags sights lol.

We didnt tell him as for all we knew he might have known.

Its a difficult ennit mate ..him

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Tricky one, I guess we'd all want to know if our other halves were cheating.

There's been alot of sound advice above, depends on the friendship, if it's a life long school friend you've known from childhood I'd be very tempted to have his back.

Most cheats eventually leave tell tale signs, he'll confide in you if he suspects and that's when you could bring it up.

Very tough one.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Say nothing do nothing

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Its nothing to do with you leave well alone ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had similar at work i found a colleagues missus on loads of different local slags sights lol.

We didnt tell him as for all we knew he might have known.

Its a difficult ennit mate ..him "

Just curious what’s a “slag site”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No its their business. Block & Leave her be."

This..you re damned if you do and damned if you don't if it's found out you know or knew or told them..blame is passed around too easily..stay out of it imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No its their business. Block & Leave her be.

This..you re damned if you do and damned if you don't if it's found out you know or knew or told them..blame is passed around too easily..stay out of it imo

My thoughts exactly

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