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"Loneliness.... It sucks. It's anyone truly happy being single? Are these types of sites the right place to find a match? " I'm happy being single. | |||
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"Loneliness.... It sucks. It's anyone truly happy being single? Are these types of sites the right place to find a match? " I'm truly happy single! Find a match for what? Just sex? Then yes | |||
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"Just sex is high on anyone's list lol. But what about finding "the one" person who meets our sexual needs but also had a real connection with us?" I don't want to find that person. | |||
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"That's so true! I think most of us have been with someone but felt the lack of connection. I think being with someone who you do not truly feel connected with is worse than being lonely and a lone " I know being alone isn't easy, but learn to be happy, a time will come where you might meet someone that you share a connection with and you can share with them the happiness you already feel, begin with them will then add to that | |||
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"I agree. It's not all the time, I'm actually happy most of the time and enjoy life. I guess I've always wanted to find that special someone but it's hard when you're a perv like us lot haha " Patience is key, they will come along when you least expect it, stay positive, it will happen and it will be worth the wait | |||
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"Thanks J" No worries, keep ya chin up and keep smiling. | |||
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"Why not? I'm just curious " I've never had the best luck with relationships so I decided that I'm better off single. It works for me, I go out with my friends, fuck when I want to and don't get all the drama from a relationship. Sometimes it's nice to have a spooning session but I don't want someone in bed with me most nights, once or twice a week is plenty. | |||
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"Just sex is high on anyone's list lol. But what about finding "the one" person who meets our sexual needs but also had a real connection with us?" Try a dating site. | |||
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"I find Women on dating sites to be..... Not as open minded " Some arnt, I am on pof though so we are out there. However I am on there for a FWB not a boyfriend lol | |||
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"Loneliness.... It sucks. It's anyone truly happy being single? Are these types of sites the right place to find a match? " I agree. I hate being single but I just can’t do vanilla | |||
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"Loneliness.... It sucks. It's anyone truly happy being single? Are these types of sites the right place to find a match? " I share with friends so get the companionship at home that I need. With this being the case I am certain I am happy remaining single but if I lived alone and didnt spend enough time with friends my mindset could well change. | |||
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"I feel lonely sometimes. I've been single for a long time now and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not relationship material. I'm not good at living with other people. I crave intimacy- but when it suits me Selfish and stuck in my ways - I've made my peace with being alone now." My ex was this all over. We were together 1.5yrs but 3 months ago I walked away. I live alone so do miss the company but it is worth it as I could be in the same room as him but still feel lonely and ignored, which was worse | |||
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"I feel lonely sometimes. I've been single for a long time now and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not relationship material. I'm not good at living with other people. I crave intimacy- but when it suits me Selfish and stuck in my ways - I've made my peace with being alone now." This | |||
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"I feel lonely sometimes. I've been single for a long time now and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not relationship material. I'm not good at living with other people. I crave intimacy- but when it suits me Selfish and stuck in my ways - I've made my peace with being alone now. My ex was this all over. We were together 1.5yrs but 3 months ago I walked away. I live alone so do miss the company but it is worth it as I could be in the same room as him but still feel lonely and ignored, which was worse" Being invisible to your partner is heartbreaking. Some people need a lot of attention and its difficult to keep up with them. I need a lot of space and find anyone that needs constant reassurance exhausting. I know it's my issue because other people seem to manage just fine. I'm not sure if I'm selfish or the people I attract are needy My ideal relationship would be living separately- but coming together for the fun stuff - holidays, going out and of course sex and intimacy. I dont want anymore of the mundane - I dont want to do anyone elses laundry, be involved with any kids from other relationships or family members or watch them fall asleep on the sofa in front of sports | |||
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"I feel lonely sometimes. I've been single for a long time now and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not relationship material. I'm not good at living with other people. I crave intimacy- but when it suits me Selfish and stuck in my ways - I've made my peace with being alone now. My ex was this all over. We were together 1.5yrs but 3 months ago I walked away. I live alone so do miss the company but it is worth it as I could be in the same room as him but still feel lonely and ignored, which was worse Being invisible to your partner is heartbreaking. Some people need a lot of attention and its difficult to keep up with them. I need a lot of space and find anyone that needs constant reassurance exhausting. I know it's my issue because other people seem to manage just fine. I'm not sure if I'm selfish or the people I attract are needy My ideal relationship would be living separately- but coming together for the fun stuff - holidays, going out and of course sex and intimacy. I dont want anymore of the mundane - I dont want to do anyone elses laundry, be involved with any kids from other relationships or family members or watch them fall asleep on the sofa in front of sports " Couldnt agree more. Theres a lot that's crap doing on your own and always nicer to share without having to do each others crap stuff that you really should be doing for yourself. | |||
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" Couldnt agree more. Theres a lot that's crap doing on your own and always nicer to share without having to do each others crap stuff that you really should be doing for yourself." Exactly- I think a lot of relationships break down because people are just bored. Fab is an insight into how bored some people are - cheating on their partner because the spark has gone. Washing someone's pants takes the romance out of things | |||
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"I feel lonely sometimes. I've been single for a long time now and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not relationship material. I'm not good at living with other people. I crave intimacy- but when it suits me Selfish and stuck in my ways - I've made my peace with being alone now. My ex was this all over. We were together 1.5yrs but 3 months ago I walked away. I live alone so do miss the company but it is worth it as I could be in the same room as him but still feel lonely and ignored, which was worse Being invisible to your partner is heartbreaking. Some people need a lot of attention and its difficult to keep up with them. I need a lot of space and find anyone that needs constant reassurance exhausting. I know it's my issue because other people seem to manage just fine. I'm not sure if I'm selfish or the people I attract are needy My ideal relationship would be living separately- but coming together for the fun stuff - holidays, going out and of course sex and intimacy. I dont want anymore of the mundane - I dont want to do anyone elses laundry, be involved with any kids from other relationships or family members or watch them fall asleep on the sofa in front of sports " That is the difference between love and friends/ relationships and FWB If you love someone you share the good and the bad together, you want them to meet your family and be around the things you care about most. Friends with benefits is exactly that, a friend to do fun stuff with and have sex, without an emotional commitment | |||
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"I feel lonely sometimes. I've been single for a long time now and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not relationship material. I'm not good at living with other people. I crave intimacy- but when it suits me Selfish and stuck in my ways - I've made my peace with being alone now. My ex was this all over. We were together 1.5yrs but 3 months ago I walked away. I live alone so do miss the company but it is worth it as I could be in the same room as him but still feel lonely and ignored, which was worse Being invisible to your partner is heartbreaking. Some people need a lot of attention and its difficult to keep up with them. I need a lot of space and find anyone that needs constant reassurance exhausting. I know it's my issue because other people seem to manage just fine. I'm not sure if I'm selfish or the people I attract are needy My ideal relationship would be living separately- but coming together for the fun stuff - holidays, going out and of course sex and intimacy. I dont want anymore of the mundane - I dont want to do anyone elses laundry, be involved with any kids from other relationships or family members or watch them fall asleep on the sofa in front of sports That is the difference between love and friends/ relationships and FWB If you love someone you share the good and the bad together, you want them to meet your family and be around the things you care about most. Friends with benefits is exactly that, a friend to do fun stuff with and have sex, without an emotional commitment" Everyone has their own definition of love and all of the other labels - FWB etc .. We all need to find what works for us. This is what is so hard. Yearning for an illusive "soul mate " and the crushing disappointment when they dont live up to your expectations is unreasonable. Comparing your relationship with what you think others are like etc ... I'm not sure I want to be a part of it anymore. I'd rather feel a bit lonely than basing my happiness on how another treats me etc ... X | |||
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"Ahh, that state of lonliness can be so tricky and complex. Feeling lonely can be different to being alone. It can be experienced at any time, single, in a crowd, in a relationship, with friends. It's different for everyone. It's so human to want meaningful connection, companionship and touch. I have learned not to pin that on finding 'The one'. I found that by externalising that need, I was limiting the possibility of seeing where the meaningful connection, fullfillment and love are right here in my life. In lots of different guises. Shifting my perspective and expectation on this helped alot with the longing. I spent time on my relating with my self but stayed open to relationship.. ironically I began to attract more love and intimacy. I realise I'm my own 'The one' which means I place less expectation on my fullfillment to only come from outside of me/from another, without compromising my wishes. Love to all the lonely hearts x " | |||
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" Couldnt agree more. Theres a lot that's crap doing on your own and always nicer to share without having to do each others crap stuff that you really should be doing for yourself. Exactly- I think a lot of relationships break down because people are just bored. Fab is an insight into how bored some people are - cheating on their partner because the spark has gone. Washing someone's pants takes the romance out of things " Hey I dont mind washing someones pants if everything else is awesome and they're nice pants hahaha I'm as domesticated as they come and partners in the past haven't liked how independent and self sufficient I am. Finding an FWB for the good stuff.....yes please | |||
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"There is a hell of a lot to be said for what a lot of couples are doing now which is being in a relationship but living separately so you have your own space too. Yeah it costs more but at the cost of a relationship breaking down that has sometimes got to be an option worth exploring." This is probably what I’m looking for. I have a great social life, great family and lots of friends but just looking for that bit more but not 24/7! Someone to holiday with, enjoy new things with and obviously have great sex but not to live with every day. Someone I can phone and say had a shit day at work fancy going out for dinner? | |||
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"There is a hell of a lot to be said for what a lot of couples are doing now which is being in a relationship but living separately so you have your own space too. Yeah it costs more but at the cost of a relationship breaking down that has sometimes got to be an option worth exploring. This is probably what I’m looking for. I have a great social life, great family and lots of friends but just looking for that bit more but not 24/7! Someone to holiday with, enjoy new things with and obviously have great sex but not to live with every day. Someone I can phone and say had a shit day at work fancy going out for dinner? " Sounds good doesnt it? Finding someone and being honest enough to be able to say this is what I want is and them wanting the same is the almost impossible part. Hey POF, we've got an idea for you | |||
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"I've been single for most of my life and, by and large, that has worked for me. I like my own company and the freedom to do what I want, when I want. I have to say though, I'm not in a hugely happy place at the moment. A long term FWB has decided to settle down with someone, I'm out of work and therefore spending long periods at home alone, someone I've talked to online for years has disappeared without trace and I'm generally feeling the down side of single life. It can get pretty lonely, but this is not the sort of loneliness that friends, hobbies or long walks can solve. I sometimes feel like I fall down the cracks between conventional dating sites and Fab. On one hand I don't want a wife, or children. I don't want to share my home on a permanent basis and I don't even want a girlfriend. I don't think I will ever want those things, unless someone very special miraculously appears in my life. On the other hand, neither do I really want to shag lots of different women with whom I have no real connection. I'm not averse to the occasional one-off, but I'd rather be able to spend repeated time with the same person - sometimes just socially, or with bit of cuddling and spooning, other times indulging in hot sex with someone whose likes and dislikes I know really well. In short, a FWB arrangement. Perhaps that becomes more difficult to find as people get older? My search is also restricted considerably by my desire for any potential regular partner to share my watersports fetish, which is quite a big part of me. Mainstream dating sites or apps are generally geared up to LTRs and whilst I'm sure there are also lots of women seeking something more casual, I can't imagine describing a liking for being peed on in my profile! Meanwhile, Fab is great for expressing exactly what you're looking for, sexually and otherwise, and I like the fact that kinks can be discussed freely. However, as a single guy I encounter the usual drawbacks which have been discussed to death on here. Lots of single women seem to join the site daily, but the turnover is also high. The "competition" is insane and the site can be pretty soul destroying from that point of view." Yep...its a bit daunting to think of telling someone more vanilla about some of the more leftfield likes we all have. | |||
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"There is a hell of a lot to be said for what a lot of couples are doing now which is being in a relationship but living separately so you have your own space too. Yeah it costs more but at the cost of a relationship breaking down that has sometimes got to be an option worth exploring. This is probably what I’m looking for. I have a great social life, great family and lots of friends but just looking for that bit more but not 24/7! Someone to holiday with, enjoy new things with and obviously have great sex but not to live with every day. Someone I can phone and say had a shit day at work fancy going out for dinner? Sounds good doesnt it? Finding someone and being honest enough to be able to say this is what I want is and them wanting the same is the almost impossible part. Hey POF, we've got an idea for you " Ha ha POF is where I found out about fab!! Though POF doesn’t allow you to interested in both sexes just heterosexual based so it may take a while to convince them to advance at all Also in POF I only get to look at guys in the meet me section if they have ticked they would like to meet me!! I have mentioned in my POF profile that I have a fab life so hoping someone will know why I mean | |||
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"There is a hell of a lot to be said for what a lot of couples are doing now which is being in a relationship but living separately so you have your own space too. Yeah it costs more but at the cost of a relationship breaking down that has sometimes got to be an option worth exploring. This is probably what I’m looking for. I have a great social life, great family and lots of friends but just looking for that bit more but not 24/7! Someone to holiday with, enjoy new things with and obviously have great sex but not to live with every day. Someone I can phone and say had a shit day at work fancy going out for dinner? Sounds good doesnt it? Finding someone and being honest enough to be able to say this is what I want is and them wanting the same is the almost impossible part. Hey POF, we've got an idea for you Ha ha POF is where I found out about fab!! Though POF doesn’t allow you to interested in both sexes just heterosexual based so it may take a while to convince them to advance at all Also in POF I only get to look at guys in the meet me section if they have ticked they would like to meet me!! I have mentioned in my POF profile that I have a fab life so hoping someone will know why I mean " It's been a few years since I had a profile on there and similar to here the ratio of men to women was weighted among other factors, the biggest one is that I wear clothes made for women from time to time. It didnt work that well so dont see the point in POF again at least for now. Not sure I want it on there that I'm a cd for the world to see as I'm out but not that far out | |||
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"Loneliness.... It sucks. It's anyone truly happy being single? Are these types of sites the right place to find a match? " Totally...but this is definitely not the place to solve it...quite the opposite. It’s a swingers site, not a dating app. Some people have found others they’d like to stick with, but that can be said through any walk of life...not looking at this site as an answer, just a way to be sociable and have some fun along the way. Being single is shite, where I am in my life. But fab is not the answer. Happy fabbing | |||
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"There is a hell of a lot to be said for what a lot of couples are doing now which is being in a relationship but living separately so you have your own space too. Yeah it costs more but at the cost of a relationship breaking down that has sometimes got to be an option worth exploring. This is probably what I’m looking for. I have a great social life, great family and lots of friends but just looking for that bit more but not 24/7! Someone to holiday with, enjoy new things with and obviously have great sex but not to live with every day. Someone I can phone and say had a shit day at work fancy going out for dinner? Sounds good doesnt it? Finding someone and being honest enough to be able to say this is what I want is and them wanting the same is the almost impossible part. Hey POF, we've got an idea for you Ha ha POF is where I found out about fab!! Though POF doesn’t allow you to interested in both sexes just heterosexual based so it may take a while to convince them to advance at all Also in POF I only get to look at guys in the meet me section if they have ticked they would like to meet me!! I have mentioned in my POF profile that I have a fab life so hoping someone will know why I mean It's been a few years since I had a profile on there and similar to here the ratio of men to women was weighted among other factors, the biggest one is that I wear clothes made for women from time to time. It didnt work that well so dont see the point in POF again at least for now. Not sure I want it on there that I'm a cd for the world to see as I'm out but not that far out " Yeah, not sure POF is the place to out yourself fully as the worlds perceptions are changing but not quick enough I go in the dating sites for a while then delete them as I get fed up with the nonsense | |||
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