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"I think it would come down to trying to understand and appreciate what it was about the particular act that they enjoyed so much, or if it was something I liked but they didn't why they didn't like it - and from there see if a compromise could be found. It very much depends though, if it was something I found a complete turn off then I'd find it hard to indulge them, but would at least try and explain why - similarly if it was something they didn't like I certainly wouldn't expect them to continue doing it, but again would be good to have an understanding of why. As with most things, it's about open and honest communication." I was waiting for you to come along and explain the way I feel. Thanks GM. Jo.Xx | |||
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"I don't think it's enjoyable for either partner if one doesn't enjoy it. I would have had to find out why she doesn't like it though, is it his hygeine perhaps? A few guys I've seen over the years have said they really enjoy me sucking them as it's obvious how much I enjoy giving it " That's a good point, talk to each other. For me I love seeing my partner getting off on me getting off and vice versa. And I would do stuff that may be not be my favourite if it meant a lot to them But not if I hated it. | |||
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"I think it would come down to trying to understand and appreciate what it was about the particular act that they enjoyed so much, or if it was something I liked but they didn't why they didn't like it - and from there see if a compromise could be found. It very much depends though, if it was something I found a complete turn off then I'd find it hard to indulge them, but would at least try and explain why - similarly if it was something they didn't like I certainly wouldn't expect them to continue doing it, but again would be good to have an understanding of why. As with most things, it's about open and honest communication." Yes...definitely | |||
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"You know how men are rubbish at hoovering and loading the dishwasher so they don’t have to do it again? Well, I like to be toothy and lick a dick like it’s medicine I don’t want. Then I won’t be asked to do it again." like it...however I'm sure it would be a case of darling, practice makes perfect | |||
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"You know how men are rubbish at hoovering and loading the dishwasher so they don’t have to do it again? Well, I like to be toothy and lick a dick like it’s medicine I don’t want. Then I won’t be asked to do it again. like it...however I'm sure it would be a case of darling, practice makes perfect " Hm... need to rethink my plan | |||
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"Conducting a sex survey: Interviewer: Describe the worst blowjob youve ever had. Interviewee: Fucking awesome! From my point of view, there arr two main things: intimacy and pleasure. If the intimacy is thefe then the pleasure is multiplied and tbats saying something as the pleasure is usually sky high! I have a real issue Nd its why im on fab, if im honest. My wife wont do it. She did it for her previous boyfriends and she did it for me whrn we met (she was my first girlfriend and i was 26) and i was just blown away (sic) that anyone would love me so much. As time went on, however, she just came out one day and said she didnt want to do it. She didnt like doing it and that was the end of it. I dont want to force anyone into doing something they dont want to (and what would be the point anyway?) But the intimacy vanished overnight. I tried to say "how do you think i feel - being the only man you are not prepared to do this with and being your husband? You parted ways with your other two boyfriends one of whom yoh was still doing this for when you werent sleeping with him! Its not the act - its the intimacy. Im here trying to find that again and im devastated" When you love someone losing intimacy can be tough..for both of you x | |||
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"You know how men are rubbish at hoovering and loading the dishwasher so they don’t have to do it again? Well, I like to be toothy and lick a dick like it’s medicine I don’t want. Then I won’t be asked to do it again. like it...however I'm sure it would be a case of darling, practice makes perfect Hm... need to rethink my plan " Maybe worth a shot | |||
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"A couple of the women at work were talking and bj's came up. One asked how do you do it? (shes's been in a relationship for 10yrs) and the other replied...quickly,.it's awful, just get it over with. I found that really sad. I can't imagine performing a sexual act with my husband/partner that I found so distasteful.. So would you expect your partner to do something they really didn't like but you loved? (I could only enjoy it if I felt they liked what they were doing) Or do you, would you if you knew your partner loved an act and you hates it, perform it?" its kind of life though isn't it things move on, its kinda why the divorce rate is so high lol long live the great British blow job | |||
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"I think it would come down to trying to understand and appreciate what it was about the particular act that they enjoyed so much, or if it was something I liked but they didn't why they didn't like it - and from there see if a compromise could be found. It very much depends though, if it was something I found a complete turn off then I'd find it hard to indulge them, but would at least try and explain why - similarly if it was something they didn't like I certainly wouldn't expect them to continue doing it, but again would be good to have an understanding of why. As with most things, it's about open and honest communication." | |||
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"Is it not about being sexually compatible x" Not entirely, but it's a very important factor in a marriage/long term relationship. | |||
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"Conducting a sex survey: Interviewer: Describe the worst blowjob youve ever had. Interviewee: Fucking awesome! From my point of view, there arr two main things: intimacy and pleasure. If the intimacy is thefe then the pleasure is multiplied and tbats saying something as the pleasure is usually sky high! I have a real issue Nd its why im on fab, if im honest. My wife wont do it. She did it for her previous boyfriends and she did it for me whrn we met (she was my first girlfriend and i was 26) and i was just blown away (sic) that anyone would love me so much. As time went on, however, she just came out one day and said she didnt want to do it. She didnt like doing it and that was the end of it. I dont want to force anyone into doing something they dont want to (and what would be the point anyway?) But the intimacy vanished overnight. I tried to say "how do you think i feel - being the only man you are not prepared to do this with and being your husband? You parted ways with your other two boyfriends one of whom yoh was still doing this for when you werent sleeping with him! Its not the act - its the intimacy. Im here trying to find that again and im devastated" That is so sad and you're in a really difficult situation. I think you need a brutally honest conversation with your wife, find out what is really going on in her head, and find a way forward from there. Good luck. | |||
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