FabSwingers.com forum: Why did you become a swinger?

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For more sex I suppose, always the exitement of meeting new people for just sex

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By *inky BunnyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Um, just a natural progression really. I was/we were BEFORE we knew it was even a phenomenon. But then my 1st love was a French girl and I lived in Normandy between ages 20-26! Almost mainstream there ha!

Great question though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuz im a BBW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Entertainment...;-);-)

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

Because I really like sex and other people that do. So it was swinging or being a monk and my hair was too short to be a monk

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By *_and_MCouple
over a year ago

kings lynn

When I was 17 I was going out with my boyfriend and we were enjoying an evening in with two friends of his. We put 'Debbie does Dallas' in the betamax and I got rather carried away with all three of them...needless to say boyfriend couldn't handle it but his mate was knocking on my door several days later! We've now been together 28 years and still love reliving that night and enjoying all there is to offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

starting swinging when i was single and i still dabble in it now and again

i love sex and great times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

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In your case you probably need the friends?

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"starting swinging when i was single and i still dabble in it now and again

i love sex and great times"
only now n again?

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Because when we met we soon realised neither of us was going to be 'faithful' in our relationship (both married before and had lots of extra-marital fun) so swinging was a good way to have the sexual variety we both need without deceit. It's worked, we're still together and still in love after 10 years of the lifestyle.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"starting swinging when i was single and i still dabble in it now and again

i love sex and great timesonly now n again?

According to rumours jaq's is very shy, she started the rumour thou

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

There was fuck all on the tele, so we thought we'd give it a whirl, you know how it is!!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Sensible answer.... we had various fantasies that we shared during sex to spice things up, a favourite one being either us two and another guy, or another girl, and one night in the throes of passion one of us (cant remember if it was me or Jayne) said that we should give it a go for real.... next day we talked about how hot it sounded, got on the interwebby thing and, hey presto....!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

started with a dare! now here we are lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kind of assume people on here are of a similar sexual nature. if you get my drift.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Because there were things we wanted to try that involved more than 2 people and to experiment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is that so

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

cos threesomes were so fab we wondered if more people meant more fab

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Cos I wasn't getting any at home!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Cos I wasn't getting any at home!

smiles .. good answer

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"Cos I wasn't getting any at home!

smiles .. good answer

Thanks...was waiting for the usual judgmental comments but couldn't give a rats ass what they think

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

greedy,horny,experimental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love shairng my wife with others and seeing her get off.

* CReEpS rOunD cRyPt * -l-

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By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset

Always liked the Tarzan films.

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By *eper61Couple
8 weeks ago

Berks/Hamps/surrey

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By *eper61Couple
8 weeks ago

Berks/Hamps/surrey

Why do some couples start swinging?

We aren't taught about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging and alternative lifestyles. Instead, we are taught, and expected, to grow up and have monogamous relationships, ( regardless of our sexuality) and live, happily ever after with one person.

This one person is supposed to support us, be emotionally exclusive with us, love us, care for us and fulfil every sexual desire that may enter our heads.

Enter the swinger relationship! Swingers retain all of the emotional exclusivity they have within their relationship, whilst enjoying sex, with others, together.

So why consider the life style?

Your Sex Life Needs Spicing Up? You could decide to start swinging because you are looking for new ways to spice up your sex life.

To Keep Family Life Intact, You dont want to disrupt family life you have worked so hards to build up, so maybe enjoying swinging will breath new life into your relationship.

You have voyeuristic/ exhibitionist tendencies- These kinks are quite popular, especially among men who would like to watch other men having sex with their wives.

Or maybe you have the urge to be an exhibitionist and become excited at the thought of other people watching you have sex? Again, this fantasy can easily be made a reality, if you were to attend a swingers club.

Some People Just Dont Play By The Rules- There are many people who simply dont enjoy the constraints a genuinely monogamous relationship places on them.

If You Can Separate Love and Sex- some people can and do, whereas others struggle with it, and some people can't.

If you identify as the first group, then chances are you will find the transition to becoming a swinger a reasonably easy one.

It Strengthens Bonds- The majority of swinger couples are emotionally secure within their relationships. Swinging paves the way for conversation, honesty and trust.

The inclusive environment- If you make friends with swinger couples via websites, or at clubs or parties, or a cosy threesome or foursome, etc, you chat, seek/give advice, Learn things, try something new, be surrounded by supportive, like-minded, non-judgemental people who are there for the same reasons as you.

Swinging can provide an outlet for your kinks and desires that involve others

Swinging Is Great Fun!- (Probably the most important reason), swinging is naughty, consensual, adult fun that allows you to have all benefits of a great secure relationship with your partner, whilst enjoying sex with others.

Attending a swingers club or party, even if you go to watch, is a massive boost to your esteem. Getting ready, choosing a sexy outfit, and feeling desirable all have positive effects on your relationship.

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By *tticusukMan
8 weeks ago

Formby

The love of mfm

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By *r-8-BBCMan
8 weeks ago

LONDON

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

To meet new people and make like minded friends and satify my sexual desires at the same time.

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By *onkoMan
8 weeks ago

here and there

So I can get blocked by everyone and pay for the privilege

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By *aughtcouple69Couple
8 weeks ago

Welwyn Garden City

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

Mine feeling (f) was more curiosity than anything. My guy friend from few years ago introduced me, we were fwb.

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By *mf123Man
8 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Im no swinger im more of a lingerer like fabs version of a cabbage fart

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By *inceIlkestonMan
8 weeks ago

Ilkeston

About 20 years ago, I was promoting dating websites and found one with couples on. Soon I was running l running my own and the wife joined in.

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By *irty-pairCouple
8 weeks ago

South Essex

We’ve never been vanilla, and love to push our sexual boundaries, so swinging was the next logical step. Since we started, we’re closer than ever and the sex is even better x

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By *etterryseeMan
8 weeks ago

near Swindon

Being blunt - not getting any at home and no sign of that changing. Too young to be the end of a sex life.

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By *r_GreyscaleMan
8 weeks ago

North Hertfordshire

Just too horny. Joined fab originally as a young, inexperienced straight boy. So very innocent.

No I've already done much more than I ever thought I would. There are still many new things to try though

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By *owestoft ManMan
8 weeks ago

Lowestoft

From the first time I met the Ex. I walked into the gents at a night club and she was bent over with a number of guys doing her in there.

Got talking with her later that night and we started going out. Was always swinging with her.

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By *bxanfCouple
8 weeks ago

Shadow Moses, Stourbridge

Because we wanted to have a bi threesome and here we are.

No special story 😂

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By *ee69Man
8 weeks ago

glasgow

Tbh I’m not one just like the odd chat and comment on here , a use site as a tool to try and have meets and meet potential fwb , one off the nice things on here is it’s not just swinging it’s quite a open and tolerant place

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By *unx2019Couple
8 weeks ago

Moray

He mentioned that would like to see me with another guy as a mfm, tried it, liked it. He started to just watch and liked that too. Now he's my cuck and gets to watch it all

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By *luebell888Woman
8 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

Because I wanted to indulge in group sex

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By *arry monk40Man
8 weeks ago

Telford

Enoumos sex drive vanilla girls could not keep up untill I met my sub and spent 2years in constant sexual filth

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By *eardedguy800Man
8 weeks ago

Kidderminster

To meet a FWB potentially. It’s been an eye opener! I’m very open minded, so the scene would be ideal for me.

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By *bione_1Man
8 weeks ago

Broxbourne

I joined in the hope of meeting a genuine bi couple for all round mutual ,inclusive horny fun .

So far one bi couple who actually met and there was not much bi fun .

Well I will keep looking xx

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By *agatoXXXMan
8 weeks ago

Mordor

Because I heard Fab guaranteed me a regular shag.

(Sarcasm, before anyone starts)

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By *un guy300Man
8 weeks ago

Carmarthen

We went on holiday when about 20 year old me my mate and our girlfriends to London we booked a hotel with 2 single beds and shared the room it was sexy times as the craze seemed to be watching porn together and at party,our first visit was to the porn capital of London to buy what we thought was proper videos wow did, we have a eye opener as to what we saw that night it clearly showed how horny it had made us we had sex for hours in the same room it was awesome this went on for 3 nights and in the mornings and

Afternoons if we went back, we then started doing it on the same bed it was a bit crowded but great and it was very clear how we all enjoyed it by the pleasures we all felt if we brushed against each other then one night while playing my mates girlfriend said you go with her and let him come with me, that was the start of great times

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
8 weeks ago

Coventry

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

All of the above really after I split from my ex wife and ended up a single parent.

Curiosity. I'd always been in monogamous relationships and been loyal. However I was in a position to start afresh and I always questioned sexual monogamy and wanted to explore different people and sexual encounters with more than two.

Sexual gratification and new freinds for me kind of a joint aim. Being a single parent to two very young children can be a little isolating. I tried dating, which was reasonably successful in terms of getting dates but finding time to actually date someone was difficult. But I still craved human and sexual connection. So the idea of being able to have this with no strings or wider expectations plus variety was very attractive to me. Because it simply ticked these boxes while working around my difficult home life.

At first it was just sort of causal hook ups with women. Then I started to have some meets with couples and tried my first club. Then I actually started to feel I was experiencing the lifestyle. I liked it, it made sense and felt like me. Seeing other wonderful couples made me realise this was possible to share going forward into a relationship and I could have this too. So now I was all in, a swinger. A while later I met Mrs Misfit on here and now we get to share this wonderful life together.

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By *ansoffateMan
8 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Because my partner and I talked about it, it turned us both on and then we had the thought - why not do it then?

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By *idssissyTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Birmingham

Not sure I qualify as a swinger yet but joined to gain more sexual experiences, esp giving o to men

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
8 weeks ago

manchester

‘Us’. That is the reason

It suits ‘us’

It excites ‘us’

It stimulates ‘us’

It pleases ‘us’

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By *eyond PurityCouple
8 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We were both singles on here when we met, so it was a natural progression as we had quite a few fantasies to complete and we needed extras for all of them…

Please we’ve found we absolutely love sharing too and giving people a glimpse into our sex life.

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By *infullyNaughtyMan
8 weeks ago

Greater London

Me and my partner have been together since teenagers. We've never been with anyone else sexually, so we figured we'd explore outside of our relationship, so I'm in an ENM relationship now and we're loving it!

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By *oo..Woman
8 weeks ago

Boo's World

Because I'm an insatiable pervert that likes too much sex apparently 🫣

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Central

I'd always been interested in it, from the time of my sexual dawn. I liked the opportunity for variety and still do

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By *ascaIMan
8 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

Just thought it’s summin to do.

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By *imples24Man
8 weeks ago

tamworth

I’m just a single man on a swingers site not sure I qualify as a swingers 🤣what do you need to do to qualify?!

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
8 weeks ago

Sheffield

Became aware of swinging at University.

Used swinging chatrooms in the early noughties as they had fewer idiots and you got to see naked people.

Made some friends and tried a few clubs.

I like going to swinging clubs rather than out to a nightclub. It's more relaxed and people are more honest about why they're there.

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By *una_RaineCouple
8 weeks ago

worcester

Bit of everything really;

I’m bi sexual and obvs my man doesn’t have boobs or a pussy XD

We don’t have friends so it’s a really fun way to socialise with people that are open

We enjoy sex and it’s a thrill to experience different feelings of sexual acts with other people together, I get to be fucked, I get to watch him fuck someone else

I also love the chats afterwards on what he enjoyed and what I enjoyed about the experience then we get to have great sex the next day too XD

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By *hMeOhMyOhCouple
8 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Also much more for friendship and open interaction with others. Adding a frisson to our own relationship. But sex is nice too.

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By *ries AngelWoman
8 weeks ago

poole

I wanted to do something for me..been married, brought up the kids etc wanted to do something exciting and explore a different side of me. I’ve had an amazing journey and met people I consider friends x

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By *r John WickMan
8 weeks ago

The Continental

Because having sex with other people is awesome, and swinging is the perfect way for both Mrs Wick and myself to do it in an ethical and non judgemental way.

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By *ripfillMan
8 weeks ago

havant

"When I was 17 I was going out with my boyfriend and we were enjoying an evening in with two friends of his. We put 'Debbie does Dallas' in the betamax and I got rather carried away with all three of them...needless to say boyfriend couldn't handle it but his mate was knocking on my door several days later! We've now been together 28 years and still love reliving that night and enjoying all there is to offer

That’s a lovely story - well done

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By *ripfillMan
8 weeks ago

havant

For me …

Non judgmental …

Like minded kindred spirits

High sex drive

MMF and MFM.

Love giving in a fab relationship and the foreplay is so important plus more over massage has become so key to turning on libido

I have delightful people to thank getting me to this point and more to achieve … in the future

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By *arla SwingerWoman
8 weeks ago

Somewhere

I orginally joined many years ago to meet women. Other than the odd frisk I'd never really had the opportunity to take anything further. I wanted to explore that. Since then it's just kinda gone a few different ways. I'm single, not wanting a serious relationship with anyone, but I still enjoy sex and fun with others. So here I still am 😄

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
8 weeks ago

chichester

I am single so can’t technically can’t be a swinger

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
8 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

"I am single so can’t technically can’t be a swinger "

That’s a good point, I have been an assistant to swingers.

I have only legitimately swung once with someone i was in a relationship (met on here)

She didn’t like it so we agreed not to do it again.

But getting into the LS, well it’s fun, exciting and you do get to make friends who have a liberal mindset like myself.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

I got bored of the slides and opted for different play.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I found sex boring I need kink and variation, I need the thrill of the chase, the new people you meet, the rush and the adrenaline.

But above all the fun and friendship you get.

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By *inja 636Man
8 weeks ago

Grays

Because I couldn't make it as a singer or a winger so I combined my talents boom boom

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
8 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

The cock, obvs.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ornucopiaMan
8 weeks ago

Bexley

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By *herrybakewellCouple
8 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Variety is the spice of life and all that

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By *artfordBlokeMan
8 weeks ago

Dartford

Curiosity, I discovered i liked to watch and be watched and decided to investigate more, it's been fun over the years as I've explored more

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
8 weeks ago

Essex

I (he) came across a contact magazine, though oh wow, this is hot!.. I showed my then girlfriend who then wanted to pose for the next issue ...we had some replies, but life had other plans back then.. we’ve loved the fantasy for 30years and the reality more so for the past 3 🥰

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By *herry delightWoman
8 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Sex lots of sex more sex .

I what sex, but I don't want friendship/relationship.

I don't care enough to what to get to know a person. I just want to know what you enjoy and is it something that I enjoy when it comes to sex.

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By *akedduo66Couple
8 weeks ago

Near Bordon

It was something we had talked about for a long time and then one day we decided to go for it.

We drove to the venue but could of floated back on a wave of euphoria, it definitely was for us.

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By *enelope2UWoman
8 weeks ago

Fife

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By *enelope2UWoman
8 weeks ago

Fife

I prefer male friends over females. So I had 6 good male friends we did everything together and including sex eventually. Together and individually, so I never had a vanilla sex life and never will. I also am still very close to guy friends so I just don't match with an insecure male.

I couldn't function being basic boring or into just fucking anybody to get a thrill and return to boring as most women and vanilla couples typically are and do.

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By *j2015Couple
8 weeks ago

Glasgow

Had a couple of unarranged threesomes, wanted other couples just to talk to, to feel more normal. So we went to a club and well lets just say they arnt unarranged anymore.

But truthfully we love the social side and being with other couples and sharing stories 🥰

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By *oubleswing2019Man
8 weeks ago

Colchester

We're both adventurous and curious. Tried it and made good friends and bed fellows. The rest is history.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
8 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Was it curiosity? The need for sexual gratification? To make friends?

Relationship trauma and group safety.

I knew it was a problem when I started to have anxiety attacks to go on dates with single men.

it was either the nunnery or...this..Lol! This is easier to do than becoming a nun.

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