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Is a woman with a high sex drive emasculating

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By *urvySub87 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Honestly....if I could go again then not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I’d be happy to oblige

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah bring it on but you're going cowgirl as I'm tired of thrusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s when your wife rejects you regularly it affects the psyche, wanting more would surely give most guys a boost, it would me. We’re all different I suppose.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

That sounds like total bullshit to me. It sounds like "A woman wants something so I'm going to blame her for daring to".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy that she asked me to go again, I'd be thinking she enjoyed round one now let's see how good round 2 can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd think I must be brilliant at it

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

Yep, wouldn't bother me. In fact quite the opposite.

"that was crap, you're staying here till you get it right..."

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I’d be going till I she cannae take it captain in my head.

But

No I’d be ok with it, maybe try more foreplay next time.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

Sounds like you’re friend has doubt he would be able to go round 2/3 but I’d say most guys would leap at the challenge! Besides, it’s not as if you would openly attempt to make someone feel as if they couldn’t step up to the challenge...

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

In my experience yes it does seem to do damage. I am like the OP... but I can just finish an amazing sex session and want more pretty much straight away.

It is for me no slur on the guys performance.. in fact if I dont want more afterwards.. is more likely to be a sign it was okay but not great.

I am insatiable... and the more I get the more I want....

In most situations I find that over time guys egos seem to take a battering with the fact that they can have me climbing the walls... causing a tsunami. ... Orgasming over and over... yet I'm always ready for the next round almost immediately...

Unfortunately... and is one of the reasons I choose to stay single and do so much group sex

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


" Is a woman with a high sex drive emasculating"

No, but he may struggle to keep up and so think/work a bit harder than he’s used to.

Depends upon how fragile the male ego in question is.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy...

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy..."

Why #4 particularly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with that at all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your friend is projecting his beliefs (and sounding like quite the d*ck in the process).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no shes exhausting

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"In my experience yes it does seem to do damage. I am like the OP... but I can just finish an amazing sex session and want more pretty much straight away.

It is for me no slur on the guys performance.. in fact if I dont want more afterwards.. is more likely to be a sign it was okay but not great.

I am insatiable... and the more I get the more I want....

In most situations I find that over time guys egos seem to take a battering with the fact that they can have me climbing the walls... causing a tsunami. ... Orgasming over and over... yet I'm always ready for the next round almost immediately...

Unfortunately... and is one of the reasons I choose to stay single and do so much group sex "

I think it depends on someone's mindset.

I have a FWB very much like yourself.

On a Friday night we'll be busy (in one way or another) for 3-5 hours, and if she doesn't get into double figures is "disappointed".

However, I am very much a pleaser, and the more pleasure I see her getting, the more pleasure I take from the experience.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

Sounds like bollocks. Your sex drive is no reflection on him - in fact, couldn't it be construed as a positive reflection on him?

Mrs TMN x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

Not at all. I'd probably be asking first

I certainly have no issues with insatiability as that sums me up sexually. Even if a guy can't repeat as quickly as you'd like, there's so much he can do to pleasure you until he's ready to go again. Not everything is narrowed down to penetrative sex after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once i get going im greedy as fuck im lucky to have the auto inflate skill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most men who have a reasonable level of self confidence and enough awareness of a sexual partners responses and reactions will not react this way. They will see it as a desire to repeat a positive experience rather than as a negative reflection on the earlier experience.

I would suggest that any man who does view it as an issue may have significant self confidence issues. I would steer clear of any man who would deflect his own negative feelings on to me.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"Sounds like bollocks. Your sex drive is no reflection on him - in fact, couldn't it be construed as a positive reflection on him?

Mrs TMN x"

I’m reading between the lines but I’m guessing he wants to feel he can meet her needs, and frankly has more than met his match.

I sort of get it, but there’s more to life than penetrative sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also nothing wrong with a guy getting his hands wet for her too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy...

Why #4 particularly? "

That's what I was wondering!! Lol

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy...

Why #4 particularly?

That's what I was wondering!! Lol"

Normally by round four there’s no cum left, maybe why

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

I think a lot of guys here may be simply trying to appease with their comments, possibly trying to earn some brownie points, but I'll be very honest with you;

After cumming, a man can sometimes struggle to get hard again. If he does get hard, it's generally not as vigouous. Sometimes, he has the stamina to continue, but sometimes not. Sometimes it's to do with the woman, and sometimes not. It's hard to explain, but sometimes, it just won't get hard again, even if you want it to.

If the woman wants it and he's physically unable, then yes, absolutely, it can knock confidence in the man. He can feel 'unable', and yes, it can have undesirable effects.

At the end of the day though, it is what it is.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Sounds like bollocks. Your sex drive is no reflection on him - in fact, couldn't it be construed as a positive reflection on him?

Mrs TMN x

I’m reading between the lines but I’m guessing he wants to feel he can meet her needs, and frankly has more than met his match.

I sort of get it, but there’s more to life than penetrative sex. "

That there is. It sounds more like a communication issue, or a mismatch of sex drives. Framing it as "you are damaging him" is not at all helpful, to my mind.

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By *ear and pudCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

A strong female who knows what she wants should never have to apologise for who or what she is. Some men will not be able to handle it others will. Everyone is different and it's not just limited to one sex. Men get far to wrapped up in what society has taught us is manly. In today's society we are taught that heterosexual monogamous relationships are what's acceptable. When at various points in history this is not the case. For christ sake at one point we thought giant fancy cod pices were manly. Just because 1 man cant keep up with a high sex drive on a given day does bot make the any less of a man. If all else fails pop a viagra and feel like a god. It was very satisfying when the wife and a play mate lay there in a crumpled heap on the bed..

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

Hell no! A Hugh sex drive and a confidence to go with it is a massive turn on!

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

*high

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By *urvySub87 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I'd never put a guy down for not being able to go a second round. It's just that for me, sex turns me on so I want to keep going until I can't anymore

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"I'd never put a guy down for not being able to go a second round. It's just that for me, sex turns me on so I want to keep going until I can't anymore "

It's a good thing too. Huge amounts of men are very keen to meet a woman who loves sex. It's just one of those things though. If you never out him down, if you go easy, you'll be fine!

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By *az2019Man
over a year ago

Yorkshire/stockport


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

Love going again... several rounds.... starting again.... building back up to orgasm is best sex

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I'd never put a guy down for not being able to go a second round. It's just that for me, sex turns me on so I want to keep going until I can't anymore "
have you ever actually found the point where you cant

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I wouldn't say it was a negative thing - from my point of view it's a compliment, I've enjoyed it and want to do it again.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

If a woman cares enough to get me ready for more then it’s rude not to oblige surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy...

Why #4 particularly?

That's what I was wondering!! Lol

Normally by round four there’s no cum left, maybe why "
like fuck i was still shooting the white stuff 14 rounds in on friday what a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to hold some back if I know there is going to be subsequent rounds. I can’t cum and cum and cum, but I can control when I cum and get hard and stay hard as long as I need to.

This way I have managed to give a lady as much as she wants. I have know girls want to have sex 5, 6 or 7 times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

Not at all, like the majority in this thread I think I'd be happy with that but I find when a woman that knows what she wants and not afraid to say so very attractive. Confidence is attractive.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?

I think a lot of guys here may be simply trying to appease with their comments, possibly trying to earn some brownie points, but I'll be very honest with you;

After cumming, a man can sometimes struggle to get hard again. If he does get hard, it's generally not as vigouous. Sometimes, he has the stamina to continue, but sometimes not. Sometimes it's to do with the woman, and sometimes not. It's hard to explain, but sometimes, it just won't get hard again, even if you want it to.

If the woman wants it and he's physically unable, then yes, absolutely, it can knock confidence in the man. He can feel 'unable', and yes, it can have undesirable effects.

At the end of the day though, it is what it is. "

Absolutely no appeasing or brownie point seeking here, I can assure you, if you choose to think otherwise that is your prerogative.

The *only* way that a guys psyche can be damaged by what the OP suggests is if *he* allows it to be damaged, or *if* the lady in question makes him feel bad somehow with derogatory comments etc (which the OP has made it clear she doesn't).

As with anything great sex is about communication and being open and honest, along with being able to adapt - just because a guy cums and can't get hard again (either immediately or for a number of hours) it doesn't have to mean game over - as Chill said there are still plenty of things that can be done which are mutually satisfying.

It's not all about the hard on

It ultimately comes down to how *both* people deal with that situation, and what their individual expectations are - if the lady *expects* a guy to stay hard all night and repeat and expresses displeasure when someone can't, then yes that could knock his confidence - but you have to question why that hadn't been discussed up front as there's clearly a compatability mismatch.

I make it very clear to people that I meet that I can't go all night and that once I've cum I take a while to recover, but also make it clear I don't see it as game over either - that way everyone knows what to expect, and so far no complaints.

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By *urvySub87 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough


"I'd never put a guy down for not being able to go a second round. It's just that for me, sex turns me on so I want to keep going until I can't anymore have you ever actually found the point where you cant "

Yes, once I think. He took half a viagra pill and we had a 10 hour marathon. I was a bit sore after that lol

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy...

Why #4 particularly?

That's what I was wondering!! Lol

Normally by round four there’s no cum left, maybe why like fuck i was still shooting the white stuff 14 rounds in on friday what a day"

Was you playing with your water pistol but with milk in it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rounds #1, #2, and #3 sound like fun

It is round #4, however, that I usually particularly enjoy...

Why #4 particularly?

That's what I was wondering!! Lol

Normally by round four there’s no cum left, maybe why like fuck i was still shooting the white stuff 14 rounds in on friday what a day

Was you playing with your water pistol but with milk in it"

Of sorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men unfortunately do have this mentality.

Generally I have an average sex drive but I find that the more good sex I have the more I want it.

So when I'm in a relationship I literally want to have sex with my partner all the time which can lead to them feeling inadequate and/or like they're not satisfying me which is not the case at all.

I've been accused on cheating because of it as well cause the guy thinks him alone is not enough for me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Have to disagree OP. It’s not all about how long the guy can be hard and penetration takes place and if you expect this you aren’t living in the natural world !

For me, as those that have met me know, I don’t have an off button. Does that mean it’s down to the guy to be physically active for hours with a hard on, definitely not. It’s a mutual two way experience, so much more you can do together without penetrative sex and still obtain mind blowing pleasure, whilst enjoying each other’s company

If a guy feels ‘damaged’ by this then it is how the woman has made him feel, with her words or reaction. No one should feel inadequate and communication is key.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

The trick is to find a man who...

Listens! You have a high sex drive. "Sex was amazing! Let's do it again!"

And who is comfortable with his masculinity.

I could ride beast all night and have orgasm after orgasm, he takes it as a huge compliment when I can't get enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

No, I would feel like a boss! She has just had mind blowing sex with me for two hours and she wants to go again! Where’s the lucozade?!

D.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Have to disagree OP. It’s not all about how long the guy can be hard and penetration takes place and if you expect this you aren’t living in the natural world !

For me, as those that have met me know, I don’t have an off button. Does that mean it’s down to the guy to be physically active for hours with a hard on, definitely not. It’s a mutual two way experience, so much more you can do together without penetrative sex and still obtain mind blowing pleasure, whilst enjoying each other’s company

If a guy feels ‘damaged’ by this then it is how the woman has made him feel, with her words or reaction. No one should feel inadequate and communication is key.

"

Yes, you could give the guy a break at some point. Give him a show with vibrator. Something to keep you ticking over, but let him have a chance to catch his breath!

;-)

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?

I think a lot of guys here may be simply trying to appease with their comments, possibly trying to earn some brownie points, but I'll be very honest with you;

After cumming, a man can sometimes struggle to get hard again. If he does get hard, it's generally not as vigouous. Sometimes, he has the stamina to continue, but sometimes not. Sometimes it's to do with the woman, and sometimes not. It's hard to explain, but sometimes, it just won't get hard again, even if you want it to.

If the woman wants it and he's physically unable, then yes, absolutely, it can knock confidence in the man. He can feel 'unable', and yes, it can have undesirable effects.

At the end of the day though, it is what it is.

Absolutely no appeasing or brownie point seeking here, I can assure you, if you choose to think otherwise that is your prerogative.

The *only* way that a guys psyche can be damaged by what the OP suggests is if *he* allows it to be damaged, or *if* the lady in question makes him feel bad somehow with derogatory comments etc (which the OP has made it clear she doesn't).

As with anything great sex is about communication and being open and honest, along with being able to adapt - just because a guy cums and can't get hard again (either immediately or for a number of hours) it doesn't have to mean game over - as Chill said there are still plenty of things that can be done which are mutually satisfying.

It's not all about the hard on

It ultimately comes down to how *both* people deal with that situation, and what their individual expectations are - if the lady *expects* a guy to stay hard all night and repeat and expresses displeasure when someone can't, then yes that could knock his confidence - but you have to question why that hadn't been discussed up front as there's clearly a compatability mismatch.

I make it very clear to people that I meet that I can't go all night and that once I've cum I take a while to recover, but also make it clear I don't see it as game over either - that way everyone knows what to expect, and so far no complaints."

I feel the exact same way. I'm also clear... "Ok, so what are you expecting?", type thing. I think one of the huge problems we face is that a lot of men talk the talk, but then when it comes down to it, they can't deliver - but that's subject matter for a different debate I guess.

But essentially, I agree with your comment.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow "

It’s so not about that though !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though ! "

Tell others that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that "
u either got it or ya dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that u either got it or ya dont "

I’m a man of actions not words

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

No, I love repeat performances if I can manage .. go girl

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that "

There is one, maybe two, that have said that. The majority though are not and pointing out there are so many other ways you can please each other

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"

If a guy feels ‘damaged’ by this then it is how the woman has made him feel, with her words or reaction. No one should feel inadequate and communication is key.

"
I disagree here. I always try to make the guy aware it's a positive.. if it's someone I'm meeting regular I am always reassuring and complimenting.. I just find its the fact that I have no off switch and the fact I can go from having an amazing session .. and then wander off and have an experience with someone else.. and then maybe someone else. However I'm always up front about this..

Its not about a guy not being enough or not satisfying me.. its about the high I reach after great sex actually keeping my sexual desires fuelled.. be it for the one guy in a rare 121.... or a club night where I will have multiple encounters.

But I've had guys I meet regularly eventually tell me that they feel inadequate despite my reassurances. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that

There is one, maybe two, that have said that. The majority though are not and pointing out there are so many other ways you can please each other "

I got the thread. I’m not sure what the issue is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

If I’d just had an amazing time with Someone as sexy as you and you wanted to go again I’d take that as a massive compliment xxx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

I feel the exact same way. I'm also clear... "Ok, so what are you expecting?", type thing. I think one of the huge problems we face is that a lot of men talk the talk, but then when it comes down to it, they can't deliver - but that's subject matter for a different debate I guess.

But essentially, I agree with your comment."

Oh I think it ties into the debate to an extent - because it *does* come down to clear communication and expectations on both sides, something which is often overlooked here.

There's also the thing that a lot of (mainly) men think that's because it's a "sex site" they think they have to be able to perform like porn stars and then feel they have been a let down when in reality they can't. So to an extent they end up emasculating themselves as a result.

I don't deny there are *some* women who have false expectations too and who behave badly when they don't get what they want which can knock a guys confidence but again it comes back to open and honest communication being the key, along with a little respect and consideration and not to mention compassion.

To come back to the OPs point though, if a lady wants more then so long as she expresses it in the right way, with the right expectations of me and understanding of my limitations then I don't see it as emasculating in the slightest - more a sign that we've had a great time so far and she would like more of the same (or similar)

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm terrible, if I'm in bed with a man I'm always after more fun, I'm happy to wait as long as we can be doing other things in between

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Simple biology dictates that women are more likely to be able to indulge in sex for longer/multiple times.

If any men don't recognise that, even if they claim to be 'repeaters', able to stay hard for hours (naturally or chemically) or make statements that 'I can go all night' - then they're deluding themselves.

Can it damage a guys ego? I'm sure it can - if they let it.

But most sensible men will be well aware that women got the advantage when mother nature decided on anatomy and acknowledge the fact that we'll always be unable to keep up with some women.

That's life guys. Deal with it.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple biology dictates that women are more likely to be able to indulge in sex for longer/multiple times.

If any men don't recognise that, even if they claim to be 'repeaters', able to stay hard for hours (naturally or chemically) or make statements that 'I can go all night' - then they're deluding themselves.

Can it damage a guys ego? I'm sure it can - if they let it.

But most sensible men will be well aware that women got the advantage when mother nature decided on anatomy and acknowledge the fact that we'll always be unable to keep up with some women.

That's life guys. Deal with it.

A "

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"

If a guy feels ‘damaged’ by this then it is how the woman has made him feel, with her words or reaction. No one should feel inadequate and communication is key.

I disagree here. I always try to make the guy aware it's a positive.. if it's someone I'm meeting regular I am always reassuring and complimenting.. I just find its the fact that I have no off switch and the fact I can go from having an amazing session .. and then wander off and have an experience with someone else.. and then maybe someone else. However I'm always up front about this..

Its not about a guy not being enough or not satisfying me.. its about the high I reach after great sex actually keeping my sexual desires fuelled.. be it for the one guy in a rare 121.... or a club night where I will have multiple encounters.

But I've had guys I meet regularly eventually tell me that they feel inadequate despite my reassurances. X"

I read your comment as relating to time in clubs and a situation that is the ideal for those with no off button.

I think most are talking of 1-2-1 experiences though and that does come down to effective communication & interaction between the two people. If that isn’t there then yes I can see how they could feel down about the situation. If they did however, I would feel responsible for their feelings as I’d obviously not been clear with them

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"

I feel the exact same way. I'm also clear... "Ok, so what are you expecting?", type thing. I think one of the huge problems we face is that a lot of men talk the talk, but then when it comes down to it, they can't deliver - but that's subject matter for a different debate I guess.

But essentially, I agree with your comment.

Oh I think it ties into the debate to an extent - because it *does* come down to clear communication and expectations on both sides, something which is often overlooked here.

There's also the thing that a lot of (mainly) men think that's because it's a "sex site" they think they have to be able to perform like porn stars and then feel they have been a let down when in reality they can't. So to an extent they end up emasculating themselves as a result.

I don't deny there are *some* women who have false expectations too and who behave badly when they don't get what they want which can knock a guys confidence but again it comes back to open and honest communication being the key, along with a little respect and consideration and not to mention compassion.

To come back to the OPs point though, if a lady wants more then so long as she expresses it in the right way, with the right expectations of me and understanding of my limitations then I don't see it as emasculating in the slightest - more a sign that we've had a great time so far and she would like more of the same (or similar)"

Again, this is how I feel about it.

On one or two occasions, I've "delivered", but then felt embarrassed about it not taking longer, etc. It can be the man, simply over-thinking it. It's a type of performance anxiety.

But at the same time, the woman in question can have a huge influence. A lady before said about the way she handles it.

I remember one time lasting hours, cumming 5 or 6 times in one night, but it wasn't me, it was the way she encouraged me and the way she made me feel.

It's a difficult one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that u either got it or ya dont

I’m a man of actions not words "
like mohammed ali im both

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that u either got it or ya dont "

If your that good lordy share it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A great thread for guys to say how amazing they are and can cum like a cow

It’s so not about that though !

Tell others that u either got it or ya dont

If your that good lordy share it "
nope iv done with sharing time to be selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a woman who knows what she's wants

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I like a woman who knows what she's wants "

Do they exist?

A

*runs and hides

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"

If a guy feels ‘damaged’ by this then it is how the woman has made him feel, with her words or reaction. No one should feel inadequate and communication is key.

I disagree here. I always try to make the guy aware it's a positive.. if it's someone I'm meeting regular I am always reassuring and complimenting.. I just find its the fact that I have no off switch and the fact I can go from having an amazing session .. and then wander off and have an experience with someone else.. and then maybe someone else. However I'm always up front about this..

Its not about a guy not being enough or not satisfying me.. its about the high I reach after great sex actually keeping my sexual desires fuelled.. be it for the one guy in a rare 121.... or a club night where I will have multiple encounters.

But I've had guys I meet regularly eventually tell me that they feel inadequate despite my reassurances. X

I read your comment as relating to time in clubs and a situation that is the ideal for those with no off button.

I think most are talking of 1-2-1 experiences though and that does come down to effective communication & interaction between the two people. If that isn’t there then yes I can see how they could feel down about the situation. If they did however, I would feel responsible for their feelings as I’d obviously not been clear with them "

Its the reason I rarely do 121. As I have found that over time no matter what... his ego feels a little dented. I'm quite happy at just being tactile. I do not expect it to be hours of just sex but the fact I can manage that..seems to be the issue.

Irony is I've been seeing a guy in the real world who actually has issues In that department and he seems okay with things.. because I've worked hard on showing him it's not an issue.. result has been hes actually surprised himself and been relaxed and enjoying things x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"

If a guy feels ‘damaged’ by this then it is how the woman has made him feel, with her words or reaction. No one should feel inadequate and communication is key.

I disagree here. I always try to make the guy aware it's a positive.. if it's someone I'm meeting regular I am always reassuring and complimenting.. I just find its the fact that I have no off switch and the fact I can go from having an amazing session .. and then wander off and have an experience with someone else.. and then maybe someone else. However I'm always up front about this..

Its not about a guy not being enough or not satisfying me.. its about the high I reach after great sex actually keeping my sexual desires fuelled.. be it for the one guy in a rare 121.... or a club night where I will have multiple encounters.

But I've had guys I meet regularly eventually tell me that they feel inadequate despite my reassurances. X

I read your comment as relating to time in clubs and a situation that is the ideal for those with no off button.

I think most are talking of 1-2-1 experiences though and that does come down to effective communication & interaction between the two people. If that isn’t there then yes I can see how they could feel down about the situation. If they did however, I would feel responsible for their feelings as I’d obviously not been clear with them

Its the reason I rarely do 121. As I have found that over time no matter what... his ego feels a little dented. I'm quite happy at just being tactile. I do not expect it to be hours of just sex but the fact I can manage that..seems to be the issue.

Irony is I've been seeing a guy in the real world who actually has issues In that department and he seems okay with things.. because I've worked hard on showing him it's not an issue.. result has been hes actually surprised himself and been relaxed and enjoying things x"

You’ve hit it on the head.... it’s hard work getting them to believe you it’s not an issue. When they realise that though, relax, enjoy the time together and don’t worry about their ‘performance’ it can be amazing how it turns out.

As I always say, there is no check list let’s just go with the flow and see where the mood takes us

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"

You’ve hit it on the head.... it’s hard work getting them to believe you it’s not an issue. When they realise that though, relax, enjoy the time together and don’t worry about their ‘performance’ it can be amazing how it turns out.

As I always say, there is no check list let’s just go with the flow and see where the mood takes us "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sex drive is 3 times the fellas, toys are very handy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No is the short answer.

You are who you are. You have a high sex drive not because you are a woman but because you are you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are unsatisfiable or insatiable us mere men can't keep up we're knackered after a hard days graft jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it might if he can't keep up. I have this a little bit with my regular squeeze. He worries he's letting me down if he can't do round 3 or 3. It doesn't stop him pleasing me in other ways though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it might if he can't keep up. I have this a little bit with my regular squeeze. He worries he's letting me down if he can't do round 3 or 3. It doesn't stop him pleasing me in other ways though. "
he doesn't ever reach round 4 or 4 then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s when your wife rejects you regularly it affects the psyche, wanting more would surely give most guys a boost, it would me. We’re all different I suppose."

It would give wives a boost to. I always wished my husbands sex drive was as high as mine. We were just incompatible sexually, best friends but incompatible

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"So I've been chatting to a friend who has said that my high sex drive could be "damaging to the male psyche" because a guy could think I'm never satisfied if I ask for round 2 or 3 after a great round 1. He said that me asking for more sex could "lower a mans self worth and make him think he isn't good enough for me long term". I've never told a guy that I'm unsatisfied and I am very vocal when I cum so let me ask you this. If you had spent the last 2 hours having mind blowing sex with a woman, would you feel like it wasn't good enough if she asked to go again half hour later?"

No, I'd probably be pestering before that... Cuddling and hugs and stroking while chatting would be getting more amarous.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

To me it sounds like his problem, not yours. If I want more in the same session, the man should take it as a huge compliment! Because if it wasn’t up to much, I won’t want more, I’ll just go home and cry over my vibrator or something. Having said that, I never demand more. But if I’ve just had great sex with a guy and he wants to go again, I will be all over it. I’m only insatiable with guys I really want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. "
I agree with this to an extent but I dont get why a woman wanting more than one man says anything about a mans sexual prowess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. "
omg never thought of it like that....... are their any women on who only want it once a fortnight?

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. I agree with this to an extent but I dont get why a woman wanting more than one man says anything about a mans sexual prowess "

I think that is more about insecurity and the male ego, not to mention society's norms.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'd say a man who felt like that ought to look at his own self worth issues and stop projecting it onto someone else.

I'm one of those women who wants more and more .. I'm not having it that I would be the cause of insecurity. Those issues are already there. I like to attract compatible partners.

I'd be up for talking about it in a grown up manner with compassion and listening. But I wouldn't be taking responsibility for his feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. I agree with this to an extent but I dont get why a woman wanting more than one man says anything about a mans sexual prowess "

Someone with insecurities or a level of possessiveness would be like this imo. It's just how the would take it personally if they a jealous streak or insecurity.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It's a two way thing .. demanding more when his signals are saying enough would be disrespectful. I wouldn't push. Wounding his masculinity would not be at the forefront of my mind. Just plain responding to the person in front of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus I hope not I'm always wanting more

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. omg never thought of it like that....... are their any women on who only want it once a fortnight? "

Bah! Like 90% of non fab women in my experience! Ha!

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Its a bit like me saying men who like to fuck me from behind might make me insecure, I could think I'm ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. omg never thought of it like that....... are their any women on who only want it once a fortnight?

Bah! Like 90% of non fab women in my experience! Ha!"
are fab women different from normal women then, are you saying theyre not normal?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There is nothing better than going for rohns 2 or 3 or more even after a great round one. No one I have been with has ever complained when we do. It is all about making the best of the time you have together. I don't see why anyone one would emasculated by it. If they only want 1 round every time we meet then I really don't think we'd be compatable and that is grand as well there is others who will match both of us.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I had an ex who was definitely threatened by my sex drive, he couldn't keep up and resorted to making snide comments

Hence why he's an ex

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By *enn68Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I found rejection was the killer in a relationship not high drive

(Hmmm WTF am I doing FAB then !!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an ex who was definitely threatened by my sex drive, he couldn't keep up and resorted to making snide comments

Hence why he's an ex "

I did have that from one ex actually who told me that my constant wanting sex was off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found rejection was the killer in a relationship not high drive

(Hmmm WTF am I doing FAB then !!)

"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If both aren't on roughly the same page, then eventually it's going to become a problem...

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In my experience some men think they'd love a partner with a high sex drive until they get one. I've been shamed for it in the past and even had a boyfriend complain about me wanting sex every time we met up as part of his break up speech. I can take the rejections if someone isn't feeling it too but some people sure like to make you feel like something is wrong with you if you want sex more than them.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"I think also there are some men that like to leave their woman satisfied as it gives them a security that the woman won't want anyone else.

A woman that can keep going or want more may want more partners or go elsewhere and this can make the guy feel insecure and like he can't keep her when really he wants to be the one she goes to and sticks with. omg never thought of it like that....... are their any women on who only want it once a fortnight?

Bah! Like 90% of non fab women in my experience! Ha!are fab women different from normal women then, are you saying theyre not normal? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like something out of Jordan Peterson's Joy of Sex

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"In my experience some men think they'd love a partner with a high sex drive until they get one. I've been shamed for it in the past and even had a boyfriend complain about me wanting sex every time we met up as part of his break up speech. I can take the rejections if someone isn't feeling it too but some people sure like to make you feel like something is wrong with you if you want sex more than them."

It's true...

I think it's because most women are super boring, the guy is constantly desperate, and wants someone who is fun. Meets fun girl who is fun and is like woahhhh lady, I can't cope with this.

Ha!

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