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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " I have periods where I doubt my contribution to the world and my reason for existence. I know they say that you aren't alone and to talk to someone, the best way for me to turn things around is to lock myself away for a couple of days and get right with myself. It honestly doesnt work for me when I'm in that frame of mine to be with people. Thankfully it's not all that common these days that I think like this | |||
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"#itsoktonotbeok There's always help and support available if you feel you need it, don't be scared to reach out, if anyone needs to talk and feel you have no one, my inbox is open. " Agreed. All this shall pass. | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " well said ,I’ve been there too and would also have a lot of time for anyone that wants to talk . | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " Nicely put OP and well done for starting a conversation on it. Mental health is definitely something we should talk about more and encourage people to open up about. I'm my own worst enemy as I will happily help anyone that needs it but never open up myself. Hope your okay xx S x | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do. Mrs TMN x | |||
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"Also as some people cannot ask for help, as a friend make sure you are asking the are you ok question. As a lot of people just need a prompt to reply actually no I am not I need you right now." This!! I am not ok today, it's been a tough last week and today has beaten me. I'm going to withdraw into myself a bit now but great thread Tea and compersion is so right. Take the lead and check on those you love xx | |||
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"Also as some people cannot ask for help, as a friend make sure you are asking the are you ok question. As a lot of people just need a prompt to reply actually no I am not I need you right now." You know enough that you can always talk you me and confide in me. If I can't be there for a friend, then I'm not really a friend. | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do. Mrs TMN x" That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own. For me, talking is always the best course | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do. Mrs TMN x That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own. For me, talking is always the best course" Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx | |||
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"Thank you everyone. It is always difficult but know others are there is the first hurdle." Are you OK? You know where I am if you need to talk. X | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " Well done for posting OP, I know all too well. I would rather spend time talking to someone than visiting them in A+E or worse. | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " Very well said x | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Well done for posting OP, I know all too well. I would rather spend time talking to someone than visiting them in A+E or worse." Yeah, the worse sucks. I had a friend who I tried to talk to, begged to get help and I really, really did beg and then one day got a text from his brother in law to say he'd made his second suicide attempt and this one had been successful. However hard you tried and however many people tell you that he made his own choice there'll always be part of you wondering if you could have, should have done more. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do. Mrs TMN x That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own. For me, talking is always the best course Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx" Absolutely, I don't mean talk incessantly if that's not helpful. More tell someone how you feel, don't keep it to yourself. X | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do. Mrs TMN x That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own. For me, talking is always the best course Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx Absolutely, I don't mean talk incessantly if that's not helpful. More tell someone how you feel, don't keep it to yourself. X" Absolutely xx | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Well done for posting OP, I know all too well. I would rather spend time talking to someone than visiting them in A+E or worse. Yeah, the worse sucks. I had a friend who I tried to talk to, begged to get help and I really, really did beg and then one day got a text from his brother in law to say he'd made his second suicide attempt and this one had been successful. However hard you tried and however many people tell you that he made his own choice there'll always be part of you wondering if you could have, should have done more. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this " Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year. He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. | |||
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year. He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. " I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man. | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do. Mrs TMN x That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own. For me, talking is always the best course Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx" I agree and I know it's not for everyone. It's a case of what works best for each person. | |||
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"Keep breathing, feel body and air. When you feel there's nothing, no thing to lean into, shrink your world so small until you feel how the earth will hold you regardless. X " Yes, something as simple as 7-11 breathing has helped me so much. | |||
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"Keep breathing, feel body and air. When you feel there's nothing, no thing to lean into, shrink your world so small until you feel how the earth will hold you regardless. X Yes, something as simple as 7-11 breathing has helped me so much. " Me too. When suffering ptsd episodes I would literally need to lie on the earth and breathe. Counts of 4 in, 4 hold, 4 out until my parasympathetic nervous system took over. I have lay down in some strange places! I sacked off nearly everything in my life and spent hours next to a river, hugging a rock or amongst trees. I know lots of people can't access nature in the same way but it's a very good balance to the heady talking. Meditation, singing, anything that gives the body a chance to move things through as well as the mind. | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. " Those days are quite hard at times | |||
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year. He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man. " So sorry to read this. My Dad did exactly the same over 20 years ago. I still think that I should/could have done more. I always try to keep an extra eye on those I know struggle sometimes, the black dog is hard to lose, he so often comes back. | |||
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"Great thread, and of course everyone should be kind to themselves and others However while we look from the perspective of the suffere how about we give a huge shout out to those behind who give that support 24/7. I have been there and it is draining, you are invisible and have to have your own needs and feelings constantly put on hold whilst everyone is thinking about the sufferer, what about those standing behind 24/7. We need to look for everyone, as everyone is a victim in some way shape or form ?" Oh so true, don’t forget the counsellors, it’s a draining task and not easy to switch off from | |||
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year. He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man. So sorry to read this. My Dad did exactly the same over 20 years ago. I still think that I should/could have done more. I always try to keep an extra eye on those I know struggle sometimes, the black dog is hard to lose, he so often comes back." So many of us fall upon the thorns of life and bleed, and sometimes we bleed out. I'm so sorry you had to go through that x | |||
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year. He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man. So sorry to read this. My Dad did exactly the same over 20 years ago. I still think that I should/could have done more. I always try to keep an extra eye on those I know struggle sometimes, the black dog is hard to lose, he so often comes back. So many of us fall upon the thorns of life and bleed, and sometimes we bleed out. I'm so sorry you had to go through that x" Thank you. It’s tough for those left behind too isn’t it. It’s lovely that so many here are ready with a sympathetic ear x | |||
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"Massively struggling at the moment with a huge and debilitating panic attack yesterday. Happy days" Sending a hug. I'm here if there's anything you think I could do to help x | |||
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone. I have periods where I doubt my contribution to the world and my reason for existence. I know they say that you aren't alone and to talk to someone, the best way for me to turn things around is to lock myself away for a couple of days and get right with myself. It honestly doesnt work for me when I'm in that frame of mine to be with people. Thankfully it's not all that common these days that I think like this " Everyone has to find what works for them. Hopefully though if and when they are ready to talk, it's important not to feel alone. I hope those days become a thing of the past x | |||
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"Massively struggling at the moment with a huge and debilitating panic attack yesterday. Happy days" I hope you're over the worse xx | |||
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"Thank you Annabelle and Lola. Much appreciated Today was a better day and after tomorrow I'm not in work for a few days and away at a festival which should life my mood greatly!" Great stuff..you can't beat getting lost in music..Dance your socks off and let off some steam. Have a great time my lovely xx | |||
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"#itsoktonotbeok There's always help and support available if you feel you need it, don't be scared to reach out, if anyone needs to talk and feel you have no one, my inbox is open. " | |||
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"Struggling massively so this post is comforting " I'm sorry to hear this. Life can be really tough at times..I hope you are ok...my in box is open if ever you need to chat x | |||
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