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Friend request etiquette

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By *elshkinky OP   Man
over a year ago

south wales

What is the etiquette when sending a friend request. Has some real shit off some when I have requested someone I like the look of. Seemingly some take them very seriously

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's polite to ask first. We ignore the random ones.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I send one after I've been chatting to someone a while, normally I'll ask them if it's OK first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless asked I don't even look at them

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We ask after exchanging messages on here...we delete random ones and tend to block the senders...would you walk up to a random stranger in a pub and say 'I like the look of you, be my friend?' or would you speak to them for a bit first?

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I only accept friends invites from people I've actually met in person.

People who I've chatted with face to face, maybe played with. People I'll keep in touch with.

It's not facebook, it's not a popularity contest, I'm not looking for picture collectors.

I'm a swinger

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

If we’ve not chatted for a bit I don’t accept them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask and only ask after been chatting for a while

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Just ask!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine 100 single men sent you invites almost every day, how would you feel about that? They aren't your friends, you've never spoken with them and they may only want to see your friends only photos for wank material.

It's always a better option to add those you have built up some communication with, even then, it's better to ask first

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

Ask. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random ones are deleted. Dont accept unless we have spoken for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole point of friends only pics is to only show them to people you choose. If you were going to just accept anyone who sends a request you might as well make them public.

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By *elshkinky OP   Man
over a year ago

south wales


"We ask after exchanging messages on here...we delete random ones and tend to block the senders...would you walk up to a random stranger in a pub and say 'I like the look of you, be my friend?' or would you speak to them for a bit first?"

You seem to know me

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

I usually ask after chatting for a while or have met them at a club. I don’t accept random ones from people I have never spoken too

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Never send a friend request "blind" is the etiquette I go by, anyone on my friends list is either someone I have messaged with for a while (and usually asked if a friend request would be appropriate) or in a few instances people I've interacted with on the forums and we've "friended" via "Make A Friend" type threads.

I wouldn't dream of sending a friend request to someone I don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only accept friends invites from people I've actually met in person.

People who I've chatted with face to face, maybe played with. People I'll keep in touch with.

It's not facebook, it's not a popularity contest, I'm not looking for picture collectors.

I'm a swinger "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I clearly state in my profile "no friend requests without prior contact"

As lots of guys don't bother to read my profile this gets ignored lots, so I just delete.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I clearly state in my profile "no friend requests without prior contact"

As lots of guys don't bother to read my profile this gets ignored lots, so I just delete. "

You're better off leaving them there undeleted - that way they can't send you another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I clearly state in my profile "no friend requests without prior contact"

As lots of guys don't bother to read my profile this gets ignored lots, so I just delete.

You're better off leaving them there undeleted - that way they can't send you another "

Is that the case? Thank you

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I only accept friends requests from people we have been chatting to and hope to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only Dems a friend request if I've been talking to them for a while (then I generally ask if it's ok) or if I've met them and we got on well

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By *attyduk76Man
over a year ago

nearby

Friends only after meeting

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"What is the etiquette when sending a friend request. Has some real shit off some when I have requested someone I like the look of. Seemingly some take them very seriously "

i only accept invites once weve swapped numbers, i always send face pictures in my opening messages so need to send/receive invites if weve both swapped face pictures then i think we both should be able to tell if we fancy eachother or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friends only after meeting "

To be fair same here with two exceptions because of distance but I'll make the effort and meet both!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I ignore friend requests unless I've agreed to accept them. My friends pictures are more private for a reason, and my friend list is a bookmark. Some random person I've never spoken to is never going to be on my list.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I clearly state in my profile "no friend requests without prior contact"

As lots of guys don't bother to read my profile this gets ignored lots, so I just delete.

You're better off leaving them there undeleted - that way they can't send you another

Is that the case? Thank you

"

Indeed it is - not sure if they auto-delete after a few months, or a certain number have piled up, but it at least helps keep them at bay

The other popular "game" is accept the request when the other person is off-line, Fab a couple of their friends pics (so they know you've been there) then delete them as friends

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No need to ask people. Just don't be offended if they don't accept it. The one's who give you grief like that kind of thing. Keep asking them loads of times.

I'd never accept as a friend , someone I had never heard of before no matter what they looked like.

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By *attyduk76Man
over a year ago

nearby


"Friends only after meeting

To be fair same here with two exceptions because of distance but I'll make the effort and meet both! "

Yes agree with that. There had to be some sort of connection. I use hotlist as a sort of bookmark system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people just send random requests? We find it a bit creepy.

We have face pics in our friends pics, so we only add people we've met In person.

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