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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Found out you had a life threatening condition....would you want to know how long you had or remain blissfully unaware?

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Would want to know.... bin normal life and enjoy every last second!

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By *rAntrobusMan
over a year ago

Nantwich

Unaware - and just become a complete rebel

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'd want to know.

Sort things out and enjoy what's left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely want to know.

I'd like to downsize, for a start & not leave loads of stuff/ loose ends for friends and family to sort out. I've had to do this several times for folks that passed (& when you're sad, it's the last thing you want to do)

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Found out you had a life threatening condition....would you want to know how long you had or remain blissfully unaware? "

Life itself is a life threatening condition - we're all going to go at some point.

I sometimes think those given a timescale are at somewhat an advantage , especially when considering those that die suddenly in accidents or through completely unexpected circumstances without having any chance to say a simple goodbye to loved ones.

On that basis I'd like to know. Whether it was tomorrow, next week or next year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignorance is bliss but id make it count tho if im going out im going with a bang

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's don't know.

My mum recently asked her consultant if he could tell her how long she had left. He gave her a rough estimate but now she knows I think she wishes she didn't. The problem is once you have this knowledge there's no going back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would want to know. I'm currently in limbo over some health issues and it's the not knowing that's bothering me. I can't book holidays as I won't be insured. I'm seeing the haematologist this week so I'm hoping for answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd want to know, wouldn't want to empty the bank and load the credit cards in a week if I was going to be about for a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to know.... Get my affairs in order and make sure my kids are ok and make plans.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Would want to know - can put things in order, not only that prognoses are an estimate only, so would take great pleasure in sticking two fingers up when I outlived it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would want to know so i could sort a few things out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lift threatening implies, fairly soon? I don't want to know, I'll just have the best time possible till the day comes

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I would want to know. I'm currently in limbo over some health issues and it's the not knowing that's bothering me. I can't book holidays as I won't be insured. I'm seeing the haematologist this week so I'm hoping for answers "

I'm the same x Hope all goes well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over a 4 month period I almost met my demise 4 maybe 5 times due to unexpected and unforeseen reasons, regardless if you know or not, enjoy life and be grateful for what you have, make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same x Hope all goes well xx"

Same to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d definitely want to know the prognosis so I can get my.act together.

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

I'm the same x Hope all goes well xx

Same to you x "

Same to you both, goodness, life is hard, I hope you are both ok x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Over a 4 month period I almost met my demise 4 maybe 5 times due to unexpected and unforeseen reasons, regardless if you know or not, enjoy life and be grateful for what you have, make the most of it

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I agree. Why wait until you know you've got a limited time to sort things out of tell people you love them?

We've all got a limited time but live as if we're immortal

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I'd want to know.

Cash in everything I have through work and take medical severance.

Sell the house and go blow the lot doing everything I can think of and take those I care about along for the ride.

They'll be jumping out of planes, white water rafting and anything else I can think of before I decide when and how I'm going to go as no terminal illness is deciding that for me.

It's a short life once you know so go live it hard and fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to make the most of it though when you don't have the information you need. I wanted to go on holiday in April but I've been told I won't get insurance until I have more conclusive tests. So I would love to get on with my life but you can't help but worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to know as I care so much about my friends and family, that I would want to do the right thing by them. I would want to help with my funeral arrangements, make sure my will was updated and sort out all my belongings.

I would then stuff my face with dunkin duffnuts, go skydiving and do a bungee jump, just because

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I would like to know as I care so much about my friends and family, that I would want to do the right thing by them. I would want to help with my funeral arrangements, make sure my will was updated and sort out all my belongings.

I would then stuff my face with dunkin duffnuts, go skydiving and do a bungee jump, just because

Surely not after those donuts.. you'll be throwing up everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30yrs ago this month I was told the stage 4 Hodgkin's Lymphoma I'd been diagnosed with was going to kill me in less than 6 months. Happily I proved them wrong but yes I would and definitely did then want to know..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Why is it that people need to know they're definitely dying to start living?

My mum keeps telling me that I must do all the things I want to do (my dad sits on the sofa and shouts "she does"

) because she knows her time is limited and regrets not living to her fullest.

What stops us doing that bungee jump or taking that holiday? (Finances and health permitting)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have two ... "

Should say I was born with one ( longterm life affecting) and got the second onè (much more immediate) 19 years ago ... my kids have grown up knowing I could die very quickly

But feel for my brother as my sister-in-law could drop dead instantly at least I would take a couple of hours hahahahahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't made the slightest difference to me I was pretty wild before the first diagnosis at 24 and the second diagnosis at 33 ... always believed that we should wake up and be happy that we're alive every day.

Life is denied to so many at any age every day ... therefore I'm truly blessed every day! Have actually never lived "for the future" ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to know.....friend of mine was given 6 months....He passed away exactly to that day.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd prefer an outline timeframe and then live

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

After my diagnosis I was a little shook by it all, but then something changed, I put my affairs in order and just went out and lived.

4 Years on and well, after the last round of treatment I just said "enough" and walked out of the hospital never to return.

I wouldn't want someone to tell me how long I have, I have faced that demon and I choose to ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No..don't ever use doctors etc. .not even got a doctor..I'm a believer in old ways so what will be will be, sooner just go until nature deems my time is up and away I go

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

I’ll definitely want to know for planning and enjoying to the full the last period of my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Found out you had a life threatening condition....would you want to know how long you had or remain blissfully unaware? "

Blissfully unaware? It's likely you'd have some concerns about your health.

Oddly enough when I had a brain infection, one of the side effects was an overly happy demeanour (when the pain was controlled). And I didn't know about potential fatality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to those who have, as yet, undiagnosed health issues. I hope you find out soon.

Good luck to those who know their health issues.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I would want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Found out you had a life threatening condition....would you want to know how long you had or remain blissfully unaware? "
i wouldn't want to know why how long have i got?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blissfully unaware

I’ve seen what knowing does to you ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"No..don't ever use doctors etc. .not even got a doctor..I'm a believer in old ways so what will be will be, sooner just go until nature deems my time is up and away I go

Out of interest if you broke a bone would you get it set 2020 style or 1320 style? I'm not being critical just interested in how far you are prepared to take things.

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

I'd want to know and I do. Shrugs

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I'd like to know then I can create a massive "bucket list".

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