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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Randomish title but do you ever fee like you aren't anywhere near a 10 and are out of your depth on here?

I've been thinking and its hurt my head because its 4am lol but I've wondered how the rest of you feel you would cope with the same levels of flirting and sexy communication if it were as thick and fast in the real word.

We all flirt and subtly or not so subtly hint at sex with multiple people every day on the forum threads. Some of you are probably really good looking in real life and get asked out all the time and thus the opportunity at least is there to flirt or more. Some, like myself, might flirt with people in the real world but aren't 10's and aren't always as confident as we should be to try to take flirting further for fear of rejection.

The forum on this place gives people the chance to shine more through their personalities than their looks which I feel is awesome, but regularly I still think to myself when I'm talking to a lady on here "you wouldn't be intersted in me in real life" and if we met just that thought rattling around my head might put me on the back foot right away. I'm confident in myself but I still feel like I'm punching when I'm chatting to women on here and flirting with lots of women over time for one reason or another has felt really daunting now and then.

Does anyone else agree or even get where im coming from? Lol answers on a postcard

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

A few things,

1) There’s no such thing as a 10. Even the *really* good looking people have someone somewhere sick to the back teeth of how they eat toast or drink tea or the way they don’t dry their feet and legs first when they get out of the shower.

2) Stop rating people in your head in figures out of 10. People are so much more than just a double figure number

3) Flirting in real life is completely different. On the forums you’re actively flirting with people looking to flirt often (ooft threads, send a pic threads etc)

4) It’s all choice OP. I am not a good looking boy at all but there’s more to me than my face. I can’t make anyone fancy me but I can speak to someone and try to create connections. That’s what this is about. If you can connect with someone then your perceived self worth compared to your valuation of theirs is redundant. Try to remember that no one one here on in real life owes you anything. If you’re flirting and they flirt back, it’s for a reason. They want to connect. Try to back your ability to make a connection rather than let your out of 10 rating hold you back

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By *uck role-playMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Well said but for get where op comes from

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A few things,

1) There’s no such thing as a 10. Even the *really* good looking people have someone somewhere sick to the back teeth of how they eat toast or drink tea or the way they don’t dry their feet and legs first when they get out of the shower.

2) Stop rating people in your head in figures out of 10. People are so much more than just a double figure number

3) Flirting in real life is completely different. On the forums you’re actively flirting with people looking to flirt often (ooft threads, send a pic threads etc)

4) It’s all choice OP. I am not a good looking boy at all but there’s more to me than my face. I can’t make anyone fancy me but I can speak to someone and try to create connections. That’s what this is about. If you can connect with someone then your perceived self worth compared to your valuation of theirs is redundant. Try to remember that no one one here on in real life owes you anything. If you’re flirting and they flirt back, it’s for a reason. They want to connect. Try to back your ability to make a connection rather than let your out of 10 rating hold you back

"

You have good points and thank you for going into detail with your answer pal

I dont think it's as simple as me rating people out of 10 or that's even what I actually do, it was really just the way I chose to word my post. I do look at some women though and think they would want someone better looking but that's more to do with maybe a having less of a feeling of self worth than I should and not so much an indication of them being shallow of anything and not looking for a connection which is most important and what most people including myself are looking for.

Awk it's silly to value yourself or anyone else based purely on looks and I know this and see more than this when I chat to women.

I still feel like I'm punching from time to time though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Randomish title but do you ever fee like you aren't anywhere near a 10 and are out of your depth on here?

I've been thinking and its hurt my head because its 4am lol but I've wondered how the rest of you feel you would cope with the same levels of flirting and sexy communication if it were as thick and fast in the real word.

We all flirt and subtly or not so subtly hint at sex with multiple people every day on the forum threads. Some of you are probably really good looking in real life and get asked out all the time and thus the opportunity at least is there to flirt or more. Some, like myself, might flirt with people in the real world but aren't 10's and aren't always as confident as we should be to try to take flirting further for fear of rejection.

The forum on this place gives people the chance to shine more through their personalities than their looks which I feel is awesome, but regularly I still think to myself when I'm talking to a lady on here "you wouldn't be intersted in me in real life" and if we met just that thought rattling around my head might put me on the back foot right away. I'm confident in myself but I still feel like I'm punching when I'm chatting to women on here and flirting with lots of women over time for one reason or another has felt really daunting now and then.

Does anyone else agree or even get where im coming from? Lol answers on a postcard "
yes I'm out of my depth definitely omg

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"A few things,

1) There’s no such thing as a 10. Even the *really* good looking people have someone somewhere sick to the back teeth of how they eat toast or drink tea or the way they don’t dry their feet and legs first when they get out of the shower.

2) Stop rating people in your head in figures out of 10. People are so much more than just a double figure number

3) Flirting in real life is completely different. On the forums you’re actively flirting with people looking to flirt often (ooft threads, send a pic threads etc)

4) It’s all choice OP. I am not a good looking boy at all but there’s more to me than my face. I can’t make anyone fancy me but I can speak to someone and try to create connections. That’s what this is about. If you can connect with someone then your perceived self worth compared to your valuation of theirs is redundant. Try to remember that no one one here on in real life owes you anything. If you’re flirting and they flirt back, it’s for a reason. They want to connect. Try to back your ability to make a connection rather than let your out of 10 rating hold you back

"

That was insightful

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

Well I’m not gorgeous but I’m not god damn ugly either. However, the Mr is getting far more attention and messages than me at the moment. I think I need to reign him in a little....

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"A few things,

1) There’s no such thing as a 10. Even the *really* good looking people have someone somewhere sick to the back teeth of how they eat toast or drink tea or the way they don’t dry their feet and legs first when they get out of the shower.

2) Stop rating people in your head in figures out of 10. People are so much more than just a double figure number

3) Flirting in real life is completely different. On the forums you’re actively flirting with people looking to flirt often (ooft threads, send a pic threads etc)

4) It’s all choice OP. I am not a good looking boy at all but there’s more to me than my face. I can’t make anyone fancy me but I can speak to someone and try to create connections. That’s what this is about. If you can connect with someone then your perceived self worth compared to your valuation of theirs is redundant. Try to remember that no one one here on in real life owes you anything. If you’re flirting and they flirt back, it’s for a reason. They want to connect. Try to back your ability to make a connection rather than let your out of 10 rating hold you back

"

exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few things,

1) There’s no such thing as a 10. Even the *really* good looking people have someone somewhere sick to the back teeth of how they eat toast or drink tea or the way they don’t dry their feet and legs first when they get out of the shower.

2) Stop rating people in your head in figures out of 10. People are so much more than just a double figure number

3) Flirting in real life is completely different. On the forums you’re actively flirting with people looking to flirt often (ooft threads, send a pic threads etc)

4) It’s all choice OP. I am not a good looking boy at all but there’s more to me than my face. I can’t make anyone fancy me but I can speak to someone and try to create connections. That’s what this is about. If you can connect with someone then your perceived self worth compared to your valuation of theirs is redundant. Try to remember that no one one here on in real life owes you anything. If you’re flirting and they flirt back, it’s for a reason. They want to connect. Try to back your ability to make a connection rather than let your out of 10 rating hold you back

"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what you need to remember is one person's 10 is another person's 2. We all are attracted to different types of people.

I've had friends say to me urgh can't believe you like him etc over men that I've literally found my self swooning over.

It's hard but you just need to believe when someone says they like you.

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