FabSwingers.com forum: Too inexperienced

By *ustyLeRoux OP Woman
over a year ago

Brecon

Not naming names or trying to be rude... disclaimer. Had a social meet on monday all went fine and had naughty chats via whatsapp after. However yesterday I recieved a message saying I'm too introvert and inexperienced for said person and for a swingers site. Obviously felt rejected but what defines experience? Anyone else feel the same or had similar feedback ? Re being introvert ?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I’m sure you’ll get lots of offers now to increase your experience!!

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By *ustyLeRoux OP Woman
over a year ago

Brecon

Hah yeah oops. Should have added in just after advice

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

It probably means that the person you were speaking to was looking for you to be ok with a particular thing or for you to have a particular attitude (e.g. more forward) and, when they didn't find it, decided to ditch you.

My advice: DON'T CHANGE A GODDAMN THING. We know what happens when you try to please everyone...

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Not naming names or trying to be rude... disclaimer. Had a social meet on monday all went fine and had naughty chats via whatsapp after. However yesterday I recieved a message saying I'm too introvert and inexperienced for said person and for a swingers site. Obviously felt rejected but what defines experience? Anyone else feel the same or had similar feedback ? Re being introvert ?

I suspect he's just sugar coating a lack of attraction. People often struggle to say what they really mean and look for an easy 'out' that is less likely to potentially hurt someone's feelings.

Some of the best meets I ever had (including early days with Fox) were with people who would happily confess to being inexperienced and introverted.

A far better way to be than someone who thinks they know it all.

Don't worry. The next will most likely be totally different.

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By *ustyLeRoux OP Woman
over a year ago

Brecon

"It probably means that the person you were speaking to was looking for you to be ok with a particular thing or for you to have a particular attitude (e.g. more forward) and, when they didn't find it, decided to ditch you.

My advice: DON'T CHANGE A GODDAMN THING. We know what happens when you try to please everyone..."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What guide were they using to measure your experience against? You have to consider that some people will use all kinds of excuses to let someone down rather than just saying the truth, but should that be his genuine reason I’m interested to know how he came to that conclusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fully paid up member of the introvert club and absolutely useless at small talk. I'm such a catch

Definitely is room for us in the world of swinging

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Stick to what YOU want. Do not let ANYONE change that. You'll enjoy your time on Fab more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god, she sounds so rude. I love how she is telling you you shouldn't be on fab like she makes the rules

there is absolutely nothing wrong with you being on here. You're not the first introvert to have a profile on Fab and you won't be the last. You do you matey.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Who ever said that to you is insulting.

It is not being let down lightly( as suggested by some ) for someone to say you are inexperienced and especially insulting to say you are too inexperienced for a swingers site.

What they have done is tried to make themselves look too sophisticated for you. They are attempting to generate a false image of sexual sophistication.

Don't give it another thought.

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By *ustyLeRoux OP Woman
over a year ago

Brecon

"Fully paid up member of the introvert club and absolutely useless at small talk. I'm such a catch

Definitely is room for us in the world of swinging

Well you do have a very nice ball

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fully paid up member of the introvert club and absolutely useless at small talk. I'm such a catch

Definitely is room for us in the world of swinging

Well you do have a very nice ball

Not too introverted to get it out

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I sometimes get that but people that know me well

Laugh and say they can’t shut me up!!!!

For me I like to suss people out a bit before opening up. Sometimes I get told I look like a miserable twat, it’s not but I am just being reserved.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been there. The confidence and mask thing may build over time.

Don't take it too personally, and consider ditching anyone who won't accept you as you are.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Some say my facial pictures I look too innocent to be here and when I have a meet they say they think I’m kinkier than they thought, you can’t win sometimes, never doubt yourself over other people’s judgments.

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By *hill44Man
over a year ago

hinckley

How can you get experience without being given the chance to try? Don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone forms an opinion on others you may not agree with it but that's their opinion not everyone's the best thing is just to leave them to it and move on. They may be right they may not but someone else may well think differently.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We haven’t had feedback as such, we are only just starting on our journey - we’ve been to our first social and really enjoyed meeting lots of new fab friends and we’ve been very lucky to have a massive amount of offers, yet some seem surprised when we refuse their offers of really experienced fun or to partake in their kinks. We clearly state that we are starting out and what we want to or are willing to do. So we are sticking to our guns and taking it slowly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have tons of sex, and still be rubbish in bed. Ignore the fool.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It will always be a subjective opinion, so has limited use. However, your own reasons for being here are up to you, as well as how you use fab. These are the important things here.

When people reject, it's poor form to give much other than a respectful no thanks.

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