FabSwingers.com forum: The art of understatement

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sort of a spin-off from another thread (squirting claims).

How do you navigate the balance between making yourself sound appealing without seeming like you're arrogant or bragging?

Do you think this is different on Fab than in the rest of life? Do you think it's different for men and women (on and off Fab)?

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Its a fine line between bragging and selling yourself, I think its all in the language used. For example saying I'm a considerate lover who takes my time is better than I can fuck you all night. In my option anyway

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

‘We’re great in bed! Well, we’ve never fallen out,’ seems to work.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It is fine to talk about your skills and success' and people enjoy hearing your achievements.

The line into arrogance is crossed in several ways, one of them being if you put others down in the process or equally set out yourself as in some way superior to others.

Another no no is laying it on too thick .... drip feed people - overkill or T.M.I at once puts people off.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m not one for bragging well I don’t think so. And I see everyday the multitude of sky remotes and mini linx cans being plastered all over the photos. And then there’s the look at me profiles and how’s my profile.

Then again I do have a lovely arse

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I tend to sarcastically undersell myself. Particularly on Fab. I don't need to brag, I get attention anyway, and I find it a bit gauche. So I'll happily call myself a shit shag.

I think it's different - and more difficult - for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing to brag about....

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

On the forums it's all a flirty giggle selling myself.

In conversations I like to sext, passing the sexual power between us and if it flows fluidly then essentially we both have sold ourselves to each other and will meet.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"On the forums it's all a flirty giggle selling myself.

In conversations I like to sext, passing the sexual power between us and if it flows fluidly then essentially we both have sold ourselves to each other and will meet."

I somewhere between undersell myself and lie (to my detriment) on the forum. In private messages I tend not to give much away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm chuffing hopeless at selling myself, I especially hate the "why should you work for us" type question on job applications. With personal relations I tend to not try, as such, except my appearance the rest is just being myself. I know I'd make a useless car sales man that's for sure.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't try and make myself appealing, I'm not actively looking to meet people currently. If anything happens it's a bonus. I guess arrogance is in as much of the delivery of something as it is in the recipient's perception of it? I think I'm fairly realistic about myself and my "appeal" and my flaws (possibly erring on a bit hard on myself at times). As far as sexually goes, I'd much rather someone experienced it person. And I know that works for one person might not for another. It's about our unique chemistry and how things play out from there.

At work I don't really need to sell myself as such - my work does that for me. I'm a bit of a twat if someone talks down to me (as in, when I ask for clarification as to what they mean by particular language usage and act like I'm thick grrr).

I think on fab it can be different for men and women to some extent. But it shouldn't be - we all want to meet the right people for us and I guess marketing yourself to do so isn't wrong.

Fuck that's a long post of waffle. Sorry Op.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Sort of a spin-off from another thread (squirting claims).

How do you navigate the balance between making yourself sound appealing without seeming like you're arrogant or bragging?

Do you think this is different on Fab than in the rest of life? Do you think it's different for men and women (on and off Fab)?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I don't really try to sell myself, I just go for honesty.

On my online dating profiles I tried to go for funny and give people something to chat with me about.

I'm getting no where though. Barely even a message.

I've come to the conclusion that my boobs must be more appealing than my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘We’re great in bed! Well, we’ve never fallen out,’ seems to work."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm chuffing hopeless at selling myself, I especially hate the "why should you work for us" type question on job applications. With personal relations I tend to not try, as such, except my appearance the rest is just being myself. I know I'd make a useless car sales man that's for sure."

Omg I HATE that question. As someone that's useless at selling myself at the best of times... it's one question I regularly dread. Lol

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I would never wish to come across as arrogant, nor would I want to brag

Am I appealing? - you be the judge...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Just try to present my best and most appropriate self for the situation.

I don't actively try and sell myself any further than that because whatever they may say the majority of people have made a decision to like me or not before I've opened my mouth.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Great thread..

I find this really tough. Talking up my skills and prowess really doesn’t come easily to me. I find this possibly just sets one up for fall, and ultimately nobody likes a braggart. I guess this uncomfortability has often held me back in all aspects of life.

I suppose that’s why writing a profile is similar to filling in an application. It’s actually very difficult to find a way of expressing a bit of personality a that same time as highlighting your strong suits. I hope people find that understatement can be a promise of more opportunities to come, rather than a declaration of mediocrity.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think there's a balance to be found personally - I'm myself, portray myself as myself and am fairly open and honest without making an effort to sell myself - if anything I completely undersell myself and use self-deprecation to do so.

I'd much rather people draw their own conclusions about me based on "me being me" than try and present myself as something that I'm not

And that applies equally to here and "real life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to sarcastically undersell myself. Particularly on Fab. I don't need to brag, I get attention anyway, and I find it a bit gauche. So I'll happily call myself a shit shag.

I think it's different - and more difficult - for men."

Your right...a women could say she's got warts the size of conkers growing g of her lady tunnel and there would still be a que of blokes going round the corner waiting to shove their cock in...

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I tend to do send deprecating humour

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im pretty recitant

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