FabSwingers.com forum: The 5 love languages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you heard of them?

Which one are you most predominantly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you heard of them?

Which one are you most predominantly?

What are the five?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yorkshire

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Yorkshire"

Aye

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Brb just need to google

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Words Of Affirmation

Acts Of Service

Receiving Gifts

Physical Touch

Quality Time.

There's and online quiz you can do to find out. It's really interesting and often used in therapy for couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Defo a good book to read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read this a while ago and it's interesting. Understanding what a partner really values can strengthen the relationship but it still takes effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you heard of them?

Which one are you most predominantly?

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italiano

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Erm... none of the above.

Yes, I am single.....

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Time and touch

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Predominantly Acts of service & physical touch I'd say. But with a good dose of the others as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical touch and quality time are right up there. I have the book out at the moment to re-read. There's also another book on attachment that's absolutely fascinating!

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Just took quiz

Physical touch and Quality time

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Quality time - which is true as i do like full undivided attention from a fella and just being with them.

Very interesting OP, i hadn’t heard of it before.

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Have you heard of them?

Which one are you most predominantly?

Yes! Great for understanding those you’re connecting to.

For me, physical touch and quality time.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

11 Quality Time

6 Physical Touch

5 Words of Affirmation

4 Acts of Service

4 Receiving Gifts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd love to post my answers but I want a certain person to me tell me theirs first.

Intresting that most that have answered are quality time and physical touch! I was curious hence the post.

I found it very useful and fascinating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Physical touch and quality time are right up there. I have the book out at the moment to re-read. There's also another book on attachment that's absolutely fascinating!"

By the same author?? I need to read!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd heard about it but never actually found out what language best described me.

A bit surprisingly it's Quality Time closely followed (1 point difference) by Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch joint second. I did think language might be top but there you go.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Quality time and physical touch are by far the highest for me...0 for receiving gifts which is spot on, I'd much rather spend time with someone than them buy me a gift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where’s the quiz?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It *is* interesting that so many are time and touch.

I’m another, I had heard of the 5 before I opened this thread.

This is why the ones that say they can’t stay over (why would you not want morning sex?!) are never for me! I want tiiiiime!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical touch which is quite surprising but I guess makes sense, in day to day life I'm not at all touchy freely yet with a partner I am quite affectionate that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It *is* interesting that so many are time and touch.

I’m another, I had heard of the 5 before I opened this thread.

This is why the ones that say they can’t stay over (why would you not want morning sex?!) are never for me! I want tiiiiime!"

Love that!!

I actually wondered if most on here would be more physical touch and didn't expect quality time to be the feature.

Thought there might have been a few joke comments about acts of service thrown in though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/"

Many thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm intrigued.....

But then I'm just a sad old incurable romantic

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Erm... none of the above.

Yes, I am single.....

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

10 Physical Touch

9 Quality Time

4 Acts of Service

4 Receiving Gifts

3 Words of Affirmation

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

The questions were a tad red herring though... same but in a different order or wording

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical touch for me. I am a groper

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Quite simply the 'language of GMF' is enough

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Physical touch for me. I am a groper

Come here now!!

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By *ust cheerfulMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm definitely acts of love and physical touch...

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

10 Physical touch

9 Quality time

8. Words of affirmation

2 Acts of service

0. Receiving gifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yorkshire

Aye"
thats it lass bob on

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

11 Physical Touch

7 Quality Time

6 Acts of Service

3 Receiving Gifts

3 Words of Affirmation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Physical touch for me. I am a groper

Come here now!!"

With my wandering hands

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Physical touch for me. I am a groper

Come here now!!

With my wandering hands

Abso-fucking-lutley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 quality time

9 words of affirmation

5 acts of service

5 physical touch

2 receiving gifts

Interesting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 Quality Time

7 Physical Touch

6 Receiving Gifts

5 Words of Affirmation

4 Acts of Service

Felt like I was back at school

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Here's mine

7 physical touch

7 Words of affirmation

6 Quality time

6 Receiving gifts

4 Acts of service

I knew physical touch would be top, im a very touchy feely person...

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

10 Quality Time

9 Physical Touch

7 Words of Affirmation

3 Acts of Service

1 Receiving Gifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quality time - which is true as i do like full undivided attention from a fella and just being with them.

Very interesting OP, i hadn’t heard of it before.

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well you lead a sheltered life in the valleeeeeeeeys

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By *ollee78Man
over a year ago

HARROGATE

"Have you heard of them?

Which one are you most predominantly?

By Gary Chapman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical touch

Quality time

Words of affirmation

All scored equally high for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

romance........ tick

fun.......... tick

tactile....... tick

attentive........ tick

inventive......... tick

hilarious......... tick

italiano........... Caio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still think opposites attract and surveys like these create their own opposites whereas it's probably more basic in real life. A chance meeting of the planets and any 2 people that wouldn't normally like each other are just in that right moment that it works. They might learn to dislike each other but still stay together for some particular reason or another that overrules their heart and balances a love hate relationship.

On Fab these type of surveys likely mean less to the masses as a higher percentage of users are probably driven by more carnal desires

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lightning in a bottle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think opposites attract and surveys like these create their own opposites whereas it's probably more basic in real life. A chance meeting of the planets and any 2 people that wouldn't normally like each other are just in that right moment that it works. They might learn to dislike each other but still stay together for some particular reason or another that overrules their heart and balances a love hate relationship.

On Fab these type of surveys likely mean less to the masses as a higher percentage of users are probably driven by more carnal desires

And its just a way to steal your email address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On Fab these type of surveys likely mean less to the masses as a higher percentage of users are probably driven by more carnal desires

And its just a way to steal your email address

I fell for it again lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On Fab these type of surveys likely mean less to the masses as a higher percentage of users are probably driven by more carnal desires

Agree with you. But it helped me understand a few things about my last relationship. He was an Acts of service and hardly scored on anything else. We did not speak in the same one at all.

Defo think on fab it's likely to apply but I was curious to see how many would come out Hugh on physical touch on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you heard of them?

Which one are you most predominantly?

By Gary Chapman?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gutted I took so long to get around to reading this post; very interesting and right up my street.

9 Quality time

7 Acts of service

7 Physical Touch

6 Words of affirmation

1 Receiving gifts

I'd be interested to take this again when me and my OH don't spend most of the time working away from each other. If we were in each other's space constantly, I'm not sure QT would be at the top of my list; but buying a bigger garden shed would be

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Words of Affirmation

closely followed by

Physical Touch

Interesting...

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

9 Physical Touch

6 Quality Time

6 Acts of Service

5 Words of Affirmation

4 Receiving Gifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 Physical Touch

6 Quality Time

6 Acts of Service

5 Words of Affirmation

4 Receiving Gifts

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its not Christmas yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words of Affirmation for me definitely.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes it’s a decent book we read together years ago and used when running a marriage course!!

I think the important thing is knowing yours and your partners, especially if they are different.

Ours haven't changed at all in 25 yrs - think these are hard wired at an early age - she’s words of affirmation ,He’s touch. If you have too even spread study again, if it’s a test do it super fast for best results you want one dominant one much higher than the others that’s your language

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

On Fab these type of surveys likely mean less to the masses as a higher percentage of users are probably driven by more carnal desires

If your dominant language is touch , which many are, and you haven’t read this book or have good emotional intelligence , you may likely focus on giving affection to a partner using touch. Like asking if they want a massage, giving lots of hugs etc. Because it’s what you value most you might naturally assume it’s what they want but they might want surprise gifts if you to talk to them instead!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 Quality Time

8 Words of Affirmation

6 Physical Touch

4 Acts of Service

2 Receiving Gifts

That doesn't surprise me at all and quality time is one of the things that went wrong with my relationship with Beast. When we would meet but he would be sat there not listening but on his phone it would annoy me as we got so little time together anyway.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Quality time can be hardest, to completely give your full attention to someone , no phone, no distractions, putting your agenda aside in conversation and really, really listening......but great rewards. Same with teenagers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Physical touch and quality time are right up there. I have the book out at the moment to re-read. There's also another book on attachment that's absolutely fascinating!

By the same author?? I need to read! "

It's called 'Attached' by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. To me this is the fundamental stuff and then you get into the Venus/Mars and love languages. Crack that lot and wahay!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

9 Words of Affirmation

8 Acts of Service

7 Quality Time

6 Physical Touch

0 Receiving Gifts

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