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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think its possible to love more than one person at the same time. As in be in love with both and want a life with both. My friend recently told me that she has been seeing two guys and is in love with them both. One she has been seeing for 6 months and the other 4 months. It got me thinking as whether or not it's possible to actually be in love with two people at one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't be possible for me

And it always sounds a tad problematic when those who claim it is possible tell their tales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I absolutely do believe it.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Poly romantic. Seems to work for some

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

Absolutely.... My username is from the Poly scene. I would 'love' to be part of a Poly relationship. I actually think Poly is an 'orientation', it's just the way some people are. I would have no problem with any partner I had having other emotional and physical relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely "

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By *arracksCouple
over a year ago

Deal

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, no.

I'm not sure I can compartmentalise like that.

If love is that overwhelming need desire wish to be with another, then I would probably always feel confused conflicted and as though one or other was not getting all or the best of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get my head around how people can have the time and energy, both physical and emotional, to successfully negotiate more than 1 full loving relationship as well as the other demands that real life entails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is possible for some and not for others... Many of whom are very conditioned to believe certain things about emotional attachment of any kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s possible but impractical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. The idea of it being trouble or too much to think about just reduces love to practicalities which love doesn't really have any truck with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can't get my head around how people can have the time and energy, both physical and emotional, to successfully negotiate more than 1 full loving relationship as well as the other demands that real life entails "

I couldn't either. One is hard enough.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We can't. We love each other so much it seems hard to have that feeling with someone else.

Sharing on the other hand

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I think it's possible, well so I've been told recently but for me I would always be the jealous one thinking they loved the other more than me...if you love me you love me with all your heart not half of it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on your perception of true love. 6 months and 4 months is still the honeymoon period. Give it 6 months and ask her then.

But I cant see why you cant emotionally love more than one person at a time. I cant see why it couldn't work between 3 people either. Many cultures have different wives and it cant be anymore difficult than a serious relationship between two people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's possible, well so I've been told recently but for me I would always be the jealous one thinking they loved the other more than me...if you love me you love me with all your heart not half of it. X"

Why can't you love both of them with all your heart? Just curious.

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I believe you can

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Why can't you love both of them with all your heart? Just curious."

Im not to sure you can, can you?

I think it's possible to love 2 people but can you really love them both equally the same. that I'm not sure about. X

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I really do believe it is possible

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I think my husband felt like that towards me and his mistress for a good part of two years. He adored both of us and could not imagine life without either of us...

Which we both deemed unacceptable.

I just thought he’d got over the grief period when today, while innocently printing off forms for my daughter’s school, he was looking her up on LinkedIn. Bless his little cotton socks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think you can x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't you love both of them with all your heart? Just curious.

Im not to sure you can, can you?

I think it's possible to love 2 people but can you really love them both equally the same. that I'm not sure about. X"

People can love their children equally, then why cant romantic true love be the same?

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Why can't you love both of them with all your heart? Just curious.

Im not to sure you can, can you?

I think it's possible to love 2 people but can you really love them both equally the same. that I'm not sure about. X

People can love their children equally, then why cant romantic true love be the same?"

Yes your right you do love your children equally the same so I guess it must be possible to do it romantically I've never thought of it that way before.

I guess I'm just to selfish to want to share the person I'm truly in love with with someone else, I'd want the heart all to myself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think emotionally you can love more than one yes. Putting that into physical would be more difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. The end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. The end"

A confident finish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't you love both of them with all your heart? Just curious.

Im not to sure you can, can you?

I think it's possible to love 2 people but can you really love them both equally the same. that I'm not sure about. X

People can love their children equally, then why cant romantic true love be the same?

Yes your right you do love your children equally the same so I guess it must be possible to do it romantically I've never thought of it that way before.

I guess I'm just to selfish to want to share the person I'm truly in love with with someone else, I'd want the heart all to myself. X"

And there is nothing wrong with that either. I'm the same, I dont think I could have a polyamory relationship myself. It's not selfish though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. The end

A confident finish

I always finish confidently.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

It is possible yes. Making it work however is very difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why can't you love both of them with all your heart? Just curious.

Im not to sure you can, can you?

I think it's possible to love 2 people but can you really love them both equally the same. that I'm not sure about. X"

I have 3 kids and I love them all the same. I know it's not the same thing but still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a post for any poligamist mourmans to comment on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like a post for any poligamist mourmans to comment on"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course you can. I love my children differently but neither one more than the other. I like Cheddar and Cheshire depending on what i fancy at the time. Being in love can work the same if you're made that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes of course you can. I love my children differently but neither one more than the other. I like Cheddar and Cheshire depending on what i fancy at the time. Being in love can work the same if you're made that way."

Yah you could be right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. The end

A confident finish

I always finish confidently.

Good to know

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Yes, anyone that has more than one child knows it’s possible to love two (or more) people equally.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Of course.

There are several people I love dearly, in different ways, for different reasons.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Do you think its possible to love more than one person at the same time. As in be in love with both and want a life with both. My friend recently told me that she has been seeing two guys and is in love with them both. One she has been seeing for 6 months and the other 4 months. It got me thinking as whether or not it's possible to actually be in love with two people at one."

Define love!

Do you have children if so do you not love all of them?

Do you have a husband or partner is your love for them the same as your love for your children?

Do you love your Parents?

Just three types of love and very often the exist at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's entirely possible and not just for those in poly arrangements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on here,I can and do like more than one person. To love is to give all to one, that's just me, would be nice to find that special someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely. Ive been there... heart distroying place to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course.

There are several people I love dearly, in different ways, for different reasons. "

True

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

I think it's possible,Just not something for me I like to give my love to just one special person x storm x

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Absolutely. I’ve been in poly relationships in the past and I can’t see myself ever being monogamous again. I love having a mix of people I’m close to and don’t do well in a monogamous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s possible. It’s just undesirable. Let’s say you have two children. You would never say: “I can only love one child. I can only feel parental love for one person”. I think it’s like that with romantic love. You can love many people. The reason it’s problematic is pretty obvious and has already been pointed out. In many cases it’ll end with conflicted loyalties. Someone is getting hurt eventually. The heart wants what the heart wants. But we don’t have to act on our feelings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s possible. It’s just undesirable. Let’s say you have two children. You would never say: “I can only love one child. I can only feel parental love for one person”. I think it’s like that with romantic love. You can love many people. The reason it’s problematic is pretty obvious and has already been pointed out. In many cases it’ll end with conflicted loyalties. Someone is getting hurt eventually. The heart wants what the heart wants. But we don’t have to act on our feelings. "

This is very true.

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

You're right we don't have to act on our feelings. However, denying ourselves what we yearn for leads to a life of self punishment and unanswered questions. Like I said earlier, I honestly believe it's an orientation. For me it's not about having half a dozen women in bed at once, it really is the emotional bond of more than one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do thisnk so like loving them for different reasons or qualitys

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Love flows both ways, so for it to be love, you need to love them and they need to love you.

So for her to love 2 guys they need to love her too, so they need to know about each other, blah blah blah.

But we are not hard wired to love more than one person at the same time, it fucks up genetic pools when men father babies with multiple women and we are hard wired to avoid it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Love flows both ways, so for it to be love, you need to love them and they need to love you.

So for her to love 2 guys they need to love her too, so they need to know about each other, blah blah blah.

But we are not hard wired to love more than one person at the same time, it fucks up genetic pools when men father babies with multiple women and we are hard wired to avoid it."

Some good points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle with this because unless both parties are aware, very happy with the situation etc

My ex husband told me he wanted a life like that ... all he wanted was his cake and eat it too but under the guise of a poly relationship. One person always seems to suffer and you’ll find that it’s ok for them to love two people - but if positions were reversed ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes it is VERY possible to love more than one person at once.

Love is a highly personal matter and we seldom know what the other means by love.

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over a year ago

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Yes I do think it's possible. We have huge capacity for love and it doesn't always fit into a model which is deemed ' normal' to society (or Disney).

Wether it's a healthy situation is another matter.

I choose to not limit my love to one person. Each one of my relationships is different to the next but that doesn't affect my ability to give and receive love. It's all 'ethical' in my case when it comes to lovers, as in were all clear that we are not monogomous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do think it's possible. We have huge capacity for love and it doesn't always fit into a model which is deemed ' normal' to society (or Disney).

Wether it's a healthy situation is another matter.

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can i be included in your love for a fellow alien

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over a year ago

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?"
is their a scale of love then lol

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

Yes I think u can love different ppl in different ways but after 6 and 4 months is that love or ate they one to fall in love easily

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By *oubleCookieeWoman
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I think emotionally you can love more than one yes. Putting that into physical would be more difficult. "

I would have thought emotionally is the difficult part whereas physically could be what swingers are doing on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the level i think 1 will always rise higher than the others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

Yes I think u can love different ppl in different ways but after 6 and 4 months is that love or ate they one to fall in love easily

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yes i agree you love different character traits in a person eg selflessness, generosity, gentlemanly, mannerable, happy, funny, sexy etc but the capacity to love doesn't diminish because of the numbers you love

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

Yes I think u can love different ppl in different ways but after 6 and 4 months is that love or ate they one to fall in love easily

yes i agree you love different character traits in a person eg selflessness, generosity, gentlemanly, mannerable, happy, funny, sexy etc but the capacity to love doesn't diminish because of the numbers you love

Depends some cant love more than one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

Yes I think u can love different ppl in different ways but after 6 and 4 months is that love or ate they one to fall in love easily

Depends some cant love more than one "
is that you?

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

Yes I think u can love different ppl in different ways but after 6 and 4 months is that love or ate they one to fall in love easily

Depends some cant love more than one is that you? "

Nope not at all why do u think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

Yes I think u can love different ppl in different ways but after 6 and 4 months is that love or ate they one to fall in love easily

Depends some cant love more than one is that you?

Nope not at all why do u think that?"
just asking, its not me either

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Not for me personally. When I fall in love my focus is on that person alone. Also I lose interest in other women totally.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

For others yes. For me no

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Yes, for me it's possible. I fall in love easily. I love the feeling of being head over heels about a woman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?"

Who knows

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't see why it's not possible. It's not going to be practical in many cases. I certainly wouldn't act on love with more than one person because I wouldn't feel I could devote myself to more than one person in the way I think they would deserve. I would also be worried about comparing the two and loving one more than another or or at least in different ways.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't see why it's not possible. It's not going to be practical in many cases. I certainly wouldn't act on love with more than one person because I wouldn't feel I could devote myself to more than one person in the way I think they would deserve. I would also be worried about comparing the two and loving one more than another or or at least in different ways. "

Very good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's very possible but is it doable and workable are u going to love one more than the other ?is their a scale of love then lol

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i think there definitely is

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definately "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely a few years ago I did bit my friends said you cannot be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes definitely a few years ago I did bit my friends said you cannot be "

Cannot be ?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love means never having to say youre sorry

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

I don’t think so I think you could love one and like the other a lot

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"love means never having to say youre sorry

Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I'd be "in love" with anyone after 6 months to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"love means never having to say youre sorry

Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry

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lol well in your case maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"love means never having to say youre sorry

Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"love means never having to say youre sorry

Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry

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you as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"love means never having to say youre sorry

Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry

you as well

Yah sorry

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