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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I used to think I was pretty good at both picking them up and giving them. However in recent times I have discovered, as the need for a more direct approach appeared to be required to get over my inertia and start meeting again, that I had been missing more subtle cues and hints.

So my question is are you any good at spotting these things, or do you need to hear things more directly? Are you able to read between the lines or do you need things spelled out? Do find some things easy to spot and others more difficult? Do you prefer subtlety or do you like people being direct?

Hey you know what I’m talking about, answer it in any way you like

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting? "

Is that what you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting? "

Sounds more like a nervous fidget!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting? "

Oh GMF. I didn’t know you cared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really that great at subtle or hints if I fancy someone I just say so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not really that great at subtle or hints if I fancy someone I just say so. "

*crestfallen*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting? "

Damn, I constantly play with my hair. How many people have thought I was flirting when I was probably just thinking about food or something.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach."

Oh good fancy a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting? "

If it is, I flirt with everyone I speak to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach."

I just giggle like Barbara Windsor and ask if they fancy a bit

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

Oh good fancy a fuck? "

That's a very generous offer Doc but maybe if I was a bit older

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is lip biting and hair twiddling to be considered as flirting?

If it is, I flirt with everyone I speak to "

Ooh I forgot to mention in my OP about picking up signals wrongly and making assumptions - good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pretty much just say what I want or feel at the time so I don't worry about too much about signals. Much prefer people being direct

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Clarity is always best at some point!

I think I'm good at reading signals and giving them but you can only do that for so long. I don't like to presume and we are all good at filtering things, one way or another, through our own lenses. There can be many truths. So I like upfront x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

I just giggle like Barbara Windsor and ask if they fancy a bit "

Why am I imagining you presenting your bosom as you do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

Oh good fancy a fuck?

That's a very generous offer Doc but maybe if I was a bit older "

Yeah I was thinking of joking geriatrics’r’us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

I just giggle like Barbara Windsor and ask if they fancy a bit "

Got to love innuendo

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I'm absolutely awful, I have no idea at all when anyone is interested and on the rare occasion when I think they do I find out they're just super friendly and I'm wrong.

I suppose I'm very literal as a person so need to be told outright.

Dating or anything else is a pain in the ass for just that reason

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm terrible at spotting signals when directed at me, if someone is being subtle in their flirting, I will have absolutely no idea.

I found out the other week that my girlfriend had been trying to get my attention for ages on the forums. I was completely oblivious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

I just giggle like Barbara Windsor and ask if they fancy a bit Got to love innuendo "

I try to keep the phrase "a bit of hows your father" alive just because

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clarity is always best at some point!

I think I'm good at reading signals and giving them but you can only do that for so long. I don't like to presume and we are all good at filtering things, one way or another, through our own lenses. There can be many truths. So I like upfront x "

I think this media especially makes it more difficult in that respect and asking questions to clarify meaning and explaining meaning are important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hopeless at both, needs to be pretty direct for me to get it. Though it's partially to do with confidence and not believing it if I did suspect someone was flirting with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

I just giggle like Barbara Windsor and ask if they fancy a bit

Why am I imagining you presenting your bosom as you do "

Ah but no one did it like our Babs

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By *il FiskMan
over a year ago

sefton

I'm awful, I need a big signpost with flashing lights and a siren.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I'm terrible at spotting signals when directed at me, if someone is being subtle in their flirting, I will have absolutely no idea.

I found out the other week that my girlfriend had been trying to get my attention for ages on the forums. I was completely oblivious. "

Bloody nora. It was hitting you in the face. I'm not mystic meg or am I.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm terrible at spotting signals when directed at me, if someone is being subtle in their flirting, I will have absolutely no idea.

I found out the other week that my girlfriend had been trying to get my attention for ages on the forums. I was completely oblivious. "

Brilliant . Flirting with you is definitely a challenge, I’ve tried it . That said you were probably right to ignore it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m terrible Doc, I really am, I don’t have a clue

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

You have to tell me out right that's the way I roll.....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have no clue.

I need to be told directly or I just think someone is being friendly. I’m far too shy to approach anyone myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m terrible Doc, I really am, I don’t have a clue "

See I never know when you’re serious or just taking the piss that’s why I always ask you

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I never know if they are. I just think they just been nice to _hortarse. I'm just a big flirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have to tell me out right that's the way I roll....."

Sometimes saying it directly is quite scary though and it often comes out all the wrong way too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m terrible Doc, I really am, I don’t have a clue

See I never know when you’re serious or just taking the piss that’s why I always ask you "

In this instance, I’m serious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have no clue.

I need to be told directly or I just think someone is being friendly. I’m far too shy to approach anyone myself."

I wish I was a bit more shy at times and other times I wish I had a bit more devil may care...

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

When they start stroking my bum I think I might be in with a chance but outside of that I haven't got a clue. Terrible at recognising the signals.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Some will understand the subtle supposedly innocuous conversation, but as the crumbs are laid, it just flows naturally and you both understand the underlying message.

Some you do have to slap around the face, take the plunge face to face and just kiss them. Then they might get it, some you still have to spell it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m terrible Doc, I really am, I don’t have a clue

See I never know when you’re serious or just taking the piss that’s why I always ask you

In this instance, I’m serious "

Yay I guessed that one right

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'd rather they spat it out. Although it obvious at times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they start stroking my bum I think I might be in with a chance but outside of that I haven't got a clue. Terrible at recognising the signals. "

Bbbbbbuttt what about consent. May I stroke your bum please?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd rather they spat it out. Although it obvious at times"
but what if I like to swallow?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes I get it - it's hard not to. Most of the time I just think they are being friendly flirty (you know, no real intent) and go with that. It's a pleasant surprise when you find out it's a bit more than that.

I like directness but not overt directness if that makes sense? More gentle flirting that builds in anticipation and tension and you wonder if and when they'll kiss you. I like that moment when it clicks and you realise that yes, they lust after you as much as you do them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m terrible Doc, I really am, I don’t have a clue

See I never know when you’re serious or just taking the piss that’s why I always ask you

In this instance, I’m serious Yay I guessed that one right "

Well done and great video

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"When they start stroking my bum I think I might be in with a chance but outside of that I haven't got a clue. Terrible at recognising the signals.

Bbbbbbuttt what about consent. May I stroke your bum please?"

I rarely discourage it

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Sometimes I get it - it's hard not to. Most of the time I just think they are being friendly flirty (you know, no real intent) and go with that. It's a pleasant surprise when you find out it's a bit more than that.

I like directness but not overt directness if that makes sense? More gentle flirting that builds in anticipation and tension and you wonder if and when they'll kiss you. I like that moment when it clicks and you realise that yes, they lust after you as much as you do them."

Puckering up myself reading this

That's just how I like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some will understand the subtle supposedly innocuous conversation, but as the crumbs are laid, it just flows naturally and you both understand the underlying message.

Some you do have to slap around the face, take the plunge face to face and just kiss them. Then they might get it, some you still have to spell it out "

Actually I like both approaches if I’m honest. However. You need to be on the same wavelength for the subtle innocuous conversation with an undercurrent to work. I must say though I’ve never been slapped around the face and kissed. I did get close at a social though, we hadn’t even got through the coffee shop doors before something a bit like that happened and Lisa’s approach too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some will understand the subtle supposedly innocuous conversation, but as the crumbs are laid, it just flows naturally and you both understand the underlying message.

Some you do have to slap around the face, take the plunge face to face and just kiss them. Then they might get it, some you still have to spell it out "

Nothing says it like... nothing lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they start stroking my bum I think I might be in with a chance but outside of that I haven't got a clue. Terrible at recognising the signals.

Bbbbbbuttt what about consent. May I stroke your bum please?

I rarely discourage it "

Good to know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some will understand the subtle supposedly innocuous conversation, but as the crumbs are laid, it just flows naturally and you both understand the underlying message.

Some you do have to slap around the face, take the plunge face to face and just kiss them. Then they might get it, some you still have to spell it out

Nothing says it like... nothing lol "

Sings “You say it best when you say nothing at all” yep ok I’ll get my coat

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm often dreadful with hints. And will tend to assume the worst. I definitely need metaphorically slapping sometimes. Particularly about sexual things.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Most of the time I'm oblivious even if someone introduces themselves as Ms/Mr Flirt from Flirtsville and uses a lot...

...but every now and then trails are laid and mischief abounds and it's both unmistakable and magical and just flows naturally...and that is when it's at its best

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I'm bloody useless at picking up signals and then when I do realise it's normally to late and they've given up...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can often be left a trail with neon flashing lights and still need a kick up the arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm often dreadful with hints. And will tend to assume the worst. I definitely need metaphorically slapping sometimes. Particularly about sexual things."

A bit of slap then tickle then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes I get it - it's hard not to. Most of the time I just think they are being friendly flirty (you know, no real intent) and go with that. It's a pleasant surprise when you find out it's a bit more than that.

I like directness but not overt directness if that makes sense? More gentle flirting that builds in anticipation and tension and you wonder if and when they'll kiss you. I like that moment when it clicks and you realise that yes, they lust after you as much as you do them."

Yep it’s hard to get that balance right with people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m terrible Doc, I really am, I don’t have a clue

See I never know when you’re serious or just taking the piss that’s why I always ask you

In this instance, I’m serious Yay I guessed that one right

Well done and great video "

Shhhh I thought that had been forgotten about

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I run around with "Fuck me" on my forehead, just makes it easy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of the time I'm oblivious even if someone introduces themselves as Ms/Mr Flirt from Flirtsville and uses a lot...

...but every now and then trails are laid and mischief abounds and it's both unmistakable and magical and just flows naturally...and that is when it's at its best "

Nah we’ve never been subtle with each other. Not since the re-enactment of the Ollie Reed and Alan Bates naked wrestling scene was mentioned

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I run around with "Fuck me" on my forehead, just makes it easy x "

Is that tattoed or in biro

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right? "

But what if it’s lemon drizzle?

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

If know one notice me on here. Who notice me in the real world,..

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right?

But what if it’s lemon drizzle?"

I’d ask what the drizzle is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely useless at picking up any flirty signals from others. Maybe that's why I'm resigned to living in the cave.....

I've been there that long I cant remember if I could ever flirt. Now I just talk and listen and wait to be hit over the head with a stick before I realise anyone is actually interested or flirting with me.

Life would be much simpler if some didnt just talk in riddles or were more open about what they may seek....

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Some will understand the subtle supposedly innocuous conversation, but as the crumbs are laid, it just flows naturally and you both understand the underlying message.

Some you do have to slap around the face, take the plunge face to face and just kiss them. Then they might get it, some you still have to spell it out

Actually I like both approaches if I’m honest. However. You need to be on the same wavelength for the subtle innocuous conversation with an undercurrent to work. I must say though I’ve never been slapped around the face and kissed. I did get close at a social though, we hadn’t even got through the coffee shop doors before something a bit like that happened and Lisa’s approach too "

True re the wavelength and it’s something special when it happens.

Haha you need a tango slap and kiss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I run around with "Fuck me" on my forehead, just makes it easy x "

Yeah good idea. Carry a post it with it on just in case

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich


"I run around with "Fuck me" on my forehead, just makes it easy x

Is that tattoed or in biro "

Post it note x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If know one notice me on here. Who notice me in the real world,.."
come out come out wherever you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I run around with "Fuck me" on my forehead, just makes it easy x

Is that tattoed or in biro

Post it note x "

great minds

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Completely useless at picking up any flirty signals from others. Maybe that's why I'm resigned to living in the cave.....

I've been there that long I cant remember if I could ever flirt. Now I just talk and listen and wait to be hit over the head with a stick before I realise anyone is actually interested or flirting with me.

Life would be much simpler if some didnt just talk in riddles or were more open about what they may seek.... "

I thought it would be a club given that you live in a cave. You could always use your club to get a few back there too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some will understand the subtle supposedly innocuous conversation, but as the crumbs are laid, it just flows naturally and you both understand the underlying message.

Some you do have to slap around the face, take the plunge face to face and just kiss them. Then they might get it, some you still have to spell it out

Actually I like both approaches if I’m honest. However. You need to be on the same wavelength for the subtle innocuous conversation with an undercurrent to work. I must say though I’ve never been slapped around the face and kissed. I did get close at a social though, we hadn’t even got through the coffee shop doors before something a bit like that happened and Lisa’s approach too

True re the wavelength and it’s something special when it happens.

Haha you need a tango slap and kiss "

Yay you’ve been tangoed. Always wanted to learn to tango......horizontally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right?

But what if it’s lemon drizzle?

I’d ask what the drizzle is "

always good to clarify, you don’t want to assume that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not good at picking up on subtlety, I like direct communication. Say what you mean and mean what you say kinda thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m crap

I need it spelt out

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

I’m useless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to notice it but then convince myself they don't mean it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not good at picking up on subtlety, I like direct communication. Say what you mean and mean what you say kinda thing. "

Sometimes it’s good to censor it though

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I like the flirting thingyo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m crap

I need it spelt out"

I think there are times with the amount of flirty stuff, empty compliments and sycophancy it is hard to spot something genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not the most perceptive at picking up on flirting ques especially over text , in person it's different if they have been on the toilet in the restaurant for three hours I tend to assume they aren't interested

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"I tend to notice it but then convince myself they don't mean it "

Hi. Nice shoes. Would you a biscuit. God I sound like a dirty old man. Oh wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it all as banter and then when I realise it's actually meant (which could take some time) I freeze or make a joke coz I don't quite know how to react

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely useless at picking up any flirty signals from others. Maybe that's why I'm resigned to living in the cave.....

I've been there that long I cant remember if I could ever flirt. Now I just talk and listen and wait to be hit over the head with a stick before I realise anyone is actually interested or flirting with me.

Life would be much simpler if some didnt just talk in riddles or were more open about what they may seek....

I thought it would be a club given that you live in a cave. You could always use your club to get a few back there too

"

Lost my club somewhere. Still it means the baby seals are safe

It's the boomerang people, those who come and go time after time, each time taking a little more and giving a little less that are the scary ones....

Maybe it's just consistency and knowing I'm not just a toy to be picked up and put down that allows me to flirt be open and.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m useless"
Im sure your worth and usefulness comes out in many ways but It really does help if someone lets you know they really do like you.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I'm terrible at spotting signals when directed at me, if someone is being subtle in their flirting, I will have absolutely no idea.

I found out the other week that my girlfriend had been trying to get my attention for ages on the forums. I was completely oblivious.

Brilliant . Flirting with you is definitely a challenge, I’ve tried it . That said you were probably right to ignore it "

See? Not a bloody clue Doc!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I'm usually pretty good at picking up on subtle, but I'm absolutely useless at doing subtle... people tend to know if I like them or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tend to notice it but then convince myself they don't mean it "
. Ah no...that’s really tough on yourself when you do that. I hope that doesn’t mean you both miss out because of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm terrible at spotting signals when directed at me, if someone is being subtle in their flirting, I will have absolutely no idea.

I found out the other week that my girlfriend had been trying to get my attention for ages on the forums. I was completely oblivious.

Brilliant . Flirting with you is definitely a challenge, I’ve tried it . That said you were probably right to ignore it

See? Not a bloody clue Doc! "

it was even on one of your threads - sigh

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I'm terrible at spotting signals when directed at me, if someone is being subtle in their flirting, I will have absolutely no idea.

I found out the other week that my girlfriend had been trying to get my attention for ages on the forums. I was completely oblivious.

Bloody nora. It was hitting you in the face. I'm not mystic meg or am I. "

Apparently so!

*gallic shrug*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm usually pretty good at picking up on subtle, but I'm absolutely useless at doing subtle... people tend to know if I like them or not"
yep, I’m not subtle at least I don’t think so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I take it all as banter and then when I realise it's actually meant (which could take some time) I freeze or make a joke coz I don't quite know how to react

P"

Yep TT you never realised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take it all as banter and then when I realise it's actually meant (which could take some time) I freeze or make a joke coz I don't quite know how to react

P

Yep TT you never realised "

See, even now I think you're messing

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not the most perceptive at picking up on flirting ques especially over text , in person it's different if they have been on the toilet in the restaurant for three hours I tend to assume they aren't interested "
it could have been the oysters they ordered, those fuckers work quick

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I doubt I'd see a hint even if it was in front of me lit up with neon lights.

So to me just make it obvious.

Call a bucket a bucket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right? "

Oh man, really? I am so not good at this game. I need to study and study hard!!

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By *rishcowboy36Man
over a year ago

dundalk

I get all my info from the eyes they dont lie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I take it all as banter and then when I realise it's actually meant (which could take some time) I freeze or make a joke coz I don't quite know how to react

P

Yep TT you never realised

See, even now I think you're messing

P"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I doubt I'd see a hint even if it was in front of me lit up with neon lights.

So to me just make it obvious.

Call a bucket a bucket. "

A bucket and a spade for Seeside it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get all my info from the eyes they dont lie "

The eyes, nearly everyone is headless on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like the flirting thingyo "

Come on then big boy, pucker up

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

I'm so terrible at picking up signals

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm so terrible at picking up signals "
Have you tried EE?

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right?

Oh man, really? I am so not good at this game. I need to study and study hard!! "

Here, come use my kitchen table to study on

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"I doubt I'd see a hint even if it was in front of me lit up with neon lights.

So to me just make it obvious.

Call a bucket a bucket.

A bucket and a spade for Seeside it is "

I'll make a sandcastle on the beach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I doubt I'd see a hint even if it was in front of me lit up with neon lights.

So to me just make it obvious.

Call a bucket a bucket.

A bucket and a spade for Seeside it is

I'll make a sandcastle on the beach. "

Perhaps someone would like their body sculpting in the sand

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By *rishcowboy36Man
over a year ago

dundalk

Defo eyes for me and if you ignore the eyes then your missing the signals.surely I'm not alone on that

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By *il FiskMan
over a year ago

sefton

Did someone mention cake???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer people to just be direct and say what they want or don’t want. Also sometimes saying nothing also tells you want you need to know, especially when it comes to knowing if someone is interested or not.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

I'm bloody rubbish.

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By *rishcowboy36Man
over a year ago

dundalk

Also say it out,I met a very sexy lady last year and she came to me and asked do ya wanna fuck me???that worked very well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Defo eyes for me and if you ignore the eyes then your missing the signals.surely I'm not alone on that"

I agree, the eyes are the windows to the soul, but reading them is another matter.

Then again...sings

*You can’t hide your lyin’ eyes

And your smile is a thin disguise....’

Or

‘What do you want to make those eyes at me for

If they don’t mean what they say?’

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did someone mention cake??? "
Yeah but what does it mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Much prefer people to just be direct and say what they want or don’t want. Also sometimes saying nothing also tells you want you need to know, especially when it comes to knowing if someone is interested or not. "

Yep silence can be deafening

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

I just giggle like Barbara Windsor and ask if they fancy a bit "

Ooh, saucy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm bloody rubbish. "
P is going to provide lessons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually pick up some signs but then doubt whether I'm just being optimistic. Unless she throws herself naked at me these days I probably wouldn't respond..

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By *il FiskMan
over a year ago

sefton


"Did someone mention cake??? Yeah but what does it mean? "

Dunno!!

Does it come with custard??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum flirting is a tricky one to fathom really. I always just think it means people are happy and being playful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bloody rubbish. P is going to provide lessons "

Is she? Oh god

P

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"I doubt I'd see a hint even if it was in front of me lit up with neon lights.

So to me just make it obvious.

Call a bucket a bucket.

A bucket and a spade for Seeside it is

I'll make a sandcastle on the beach.

Perhaps someone would like their body sculpting in the sand "

Not dun sand sculpting before but Id be willing to give it a go for a lovely lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terrible, when I was leaving a job years ago, a woman I had fancied for ages came to my office to say goodbye, i didn't expect it but as she came in she closed the door behind her amd gave me one of the longest hugs I've ever had.

It wasn't until 2 yearsater I was speaking with an old colleague and he told me she had come to my office to sleep with if I had wanted to.

I was completely oblivious and happy to be getting the hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I do I usually then think I've misread things! I don't like to push it as I think women must get fed up with being flirted with. I'm probably missing out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually pick up some signs but then doubt whether I'm just being optimistic. Unless she throws herself naked at me these days I probably wouldn't respond.."

What’s the worse that could happen if you did check out the signals?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did someone mention cake??? Yeah but what does it mean?

Dunno!!

Does it come with custard?? "

Wouldn’t be cake then it would be pudding

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I'm really good for other people and women wanting to play with MrXOXO but not so much myself.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I need someone to spell it out to me in capital letters. I’m rubbish at knowing. Lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No good. I need to be told straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Forum flirting is a tricky one to fathom really. I always just think it means people are happy and being playful. "

I think that’s when it becomes helpful to be slightly more direct if interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forum flirting is a tricky one to fathom really. I always just think it means people are happy and being playful. "

Anything a man says and does is flirting in the hope of getting lucky ... anything a woman does is being playful...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I doubt I'd see a hint even if it was in front of me lit up with neon lights.

So to me just make it obvious.

Call a bucket a bucket.

A bucket and a spade for Seeside it is

I'll make a sandcastle on the beach.

Perhaps someone would like their body sculpting in the sand

Not dun sand sculpting before but Id be willing to give it a go for a lovely lady. "

There was a lovely section on one of the recent episodes of Naked Beach using body sculpting in sand to help with body confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible at it, I've misread a female colleague buying me coffee every morning to mean she wants to screw me, thought a hot lady on Insta that kept messaging me to know how my day was going was just being nice and I missed the fact that the girl I was in love with for most of my teenage years was also in love with me. I ended up marrying her friend, which didn't work out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Terrible, when I was leaving a job years ago, a woman I had fancied for ages came to my office to say goodbye, i didn't expect it but as she came in she closed the door behind her amd gave me one of the longest hugs I've ever had.

It wasn't until 2 yearsater I was speaking with an old colleague and he told me she had come to my office to sleep with if I had wanted to.

I was completely oblivious and happy to be getting the hug "

I don’t think I’d have picked up on a long hug as a sign either, just a show of affection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely useless

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I'm utterly crap at picking up signals. Completely bloody useless.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm really bad at it and I'm also really bad at putting out the signals that show I'm interested in someone(s)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm bad at hints, I like people to be direct, but I dance around things myself. It's awful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I do I usually then think I've misread things! I don't like to push it as I think women must get fed up with being flirted with. I'm probably missing out! "

I think you find out pretty quickly if they don’t appreciate the flirtation. I think given what is being said many of us could do with a little more self belief to reduce missing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible at giving signals, much prefer when I'm d*unk and I'm much more upfront about what I want.

Reading signals I'm absolutely shit with, if I think I'm being given a signal I tend to ask them if that's what they meant by it just for clarity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they offer me cake, that means they want bending over the kitchen table, right?

Oh man, really? I am so not good at this game. I need to study and study hard!!

Here, come use my kitchen table to study on "

Knocking on your door there, and not the back one, just to be clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm bloody rubbish. P is going to provide lessons

Is she? Oh god

P"

Special edition of Auntie P’s advice line?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

Don't get subtlety. Need very direct approach.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Hear it, see it, feel it, taste it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bloody rubbish. P is going to provide lessons

Is she? Oh god

P

Special edition of Auntie P’s advice line? "

People would remain celibate for all eternity

P

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm bloody rubbish. P is going to provide lessons

Is she? Oh god

P

Special edition of Auntie P’s advice line?

People would remain celibate for all eternity

P"

Omg

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Completely useless "

Hopefully we’ll get an advice line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely fucking clueless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not to bad picking up on signals the only problem is that its usually about 2 days to late when the penny drops I'm quite a friendly chatty person so normally just see it as nothing else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm bloody rubbish. P is going to provide lessons

Is she? Oh god

P

Special edition of Auntie P’s advice line?

People would remain celibate for all eternity

P"

That’s what went wrong for me. Now you tell me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopeless, I just don’t get subtle signs. I need it spelling out. I’ve been completely taken aback when someone has said they liked me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm terrible at giving signals, much prefer when I'm d*unk and I'm much more upfront about what I want.

Reading signals I'm absolutely shit with, if I think I'm being given a signal I tend to ask them if that's what they meant by it just for clarity. "

Clarification is rarely a mistake

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm really bad at it and I'm also really bad at putting out the signals that show I'm interested in someone(s)"

See Chloe’s post-its

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

People watching and picking up cues is one of my strengths

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Crap tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hopeless, I just don’t get subtle signs. I need it spelling out. I’ve been completely taken aback when someone has said they liked me x "

Yes I’ve experienced a few people being taken a back, and I thought I was being pretty obvious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People watching and picking up cues is one of my strengths "

Right you can run the training then

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

REALLY bad and if I'm not told.. Nothing will happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Completely fucking clueless!"

We definitely need better signaling systems then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m losing track now of who I’ve replied to. I’m not good at being systematic. I apologise if I didn’t respond. I’m also in danger of spamming the forum if I continue too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not to bad picking up on signals the only problem is that its usually about 2 days to late when the penny drops I'm quite a friendly chatty person so normally just see it as nothing else "

Does anyone know of a signal speed reading course?

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I'm crap at flirting which is probably why I've missed out.

As far as reading signals, I'm so so. I need flirting lessons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach."

FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really not difficult if you're good at tuning into others. I'm good at reading people. It's a fantastic skill to have when you manage a team of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much prefer people to just be direct and say what they want or don’t want. Also sometimes saying nothing also tells you want you need to know, especially when it comes to knowing if someone is interested or not. "
I thought I was being clear

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

I’m a flirting slut apparently...

but takes almost a Neon sign flashing in front of me to realise that it’s being responded to positively.

I do love it when a women just leans in and whispers “just fucking kiss me” - that’s the signal I respond to best

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a massive flirt!!

However have no idea if I'm being flirted with or just being flattered.

But have recently been told the direct approach works best, so I'm going with that.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm crap at flirting which is probably why I've missed out.

As far as reading signals, I'm so so. I need flirting lessons. "

I think there’s a market for it if we can find a tutor

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

FAF?"

That’s the spirit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's really not difficult if you're good at tuning into others. I'm good at reading people. It's a fantastic skill to have when you manage a team of people. "

I’m still using a wireless radiogram - maybe I need to get with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rubbish so I much prefer the direct approach.

FAF?

That’s the spirit "

Nah, I feel like the whole forum knows I'm into her at this point. I don't know what being subtle means

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Can we all agree just to tell people stuff and not hint?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Can we all agree just to tell people stuff and not hint? "

Depends on the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we all agree just to tell people stuff and not hint?

Depends on the person "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a flirting slut apparently...

but takes almost a Neon sign flashing in front of me to realise that it’s being responded to positively.

I do love it when a women just leans in and whispers “just fucking kiss me” - that’s the signal I respond to best "

Oh yeah that’s hot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanls everyone for your contributions they were all much appreciated. Hopefully we’ll all learn a bit more about how to make connections more easily and help each other out when we get stuck

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