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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply can mean they're not interested...

Sorry to have to break it to you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*shrugs* no one knows ... and your not supposed to ask! Lol

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "

If I've not deleted it, it means in thinking about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s says that it’s a fake profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahhhh. So by all accounts all options are open. Damn this is confusing!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are either too busy to answer or too polite to immediately delete, I'd send them another 600 messages just to make sure.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "

Just delete your message once you've sent it and you won't dwell on it then. Can mean different things to different people. Some will go back to it, some just don't keep up with managing messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "
means they are either two busy to reply, have too many other messages, hubby came in and read your message or theyre not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They are either too busy to answer or too polite to immediately delete, I'd send them another 600 messages just to make sure."

On it!!! I’m sure that’ll work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. means they are either two busy to reply, have too many other messages, hubby came in and read your message or theyre not interested "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tells me they aren’t interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.

Just delete your message once you've sent it and you won't dwell on it then. Can mean different things to different people. Some will go back to it, some just don't keep up with managing messages x"

That’s not a bad tactic but keen to see what happens.

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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As the Mrs half posting... it would mean I've read it, I'm considering it but cant reply straight away due to where I am or what I'm doing. Read and deleted means your not for me but your messaged interested me enough to read, deleted and unread is I read the subject and first two lines and it's a no before I even open the message... sorry if that's brutal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tells me they aren’t interested "

Dagnabbit

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "

It means the end is nigh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As the Mrs half posting... it would mean I've read it, I'm considering it but cant reply straight away due to where I am or what I'm doing. Read and deleted means your not for me but your messaged interested me enough to read, deleted and unread is I read the subject and first two lines and it's a no before I even open the message... sorry if that's brutal "

Wooohoooooo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long ago did they read it?

If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).

If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could mean they're not interested but forgot to delete it

I could mean they've lent on their phone and read the message by mistake.

I could mean they're interested but havent got chance to reply and forgot to make it unread.

This are generally reasons I leave messages as read.

But dont message again, the ball is in their court so to speak

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How long ago did they read it?

If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).

If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch "

She’s just passed the 40 second threshold. That’s it. Done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*shrugs* no one knows ... and your not supposed to ask! Lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read and then mark as unread if they’re too polite to delete but not what I’m looking for. Extra polite messages or time permitting and I’ll send a no thanks message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long ago did they read it?

If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).

If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch

She’s just passed the 40 second threshold. That’s it. Done "

Teach them who’s boss from the start. No jumping through hoops on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women get a lot of messages in a day and probably only reply to ones that stand out or are from friends.

If you are keen, send one every couple days.... it’s not always what you think.

Some days I’m in a total shitter and delete everything without reading, some days I read and respond to them all...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read and then mark as unread if they’re too polite to delete but not what I’m looking for. Extra polite messages or time permitting and I’ll send a no thanks message. "

That’s most likely it. I should be rude and just fly with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they wanted to reply, they would. Delete your sent box so you aren’t checking it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are either too busy to answer or too polite to immediately delete, I'd send them another 600 messages just to make sure."

Ahaha I think I’m in love !! Too funny

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I could mean they're not interested but forgot to delete it

I could mean they've lent on their phone and read the message by mistake.

I could mean they're interested but havent got chance to reply and forgot to make it unread.

This are generally reasons I leave messages as read.

But dont message again, the ball is in their court so to speak "

I shall wait their return -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they wanted to reply, they would. Delete your sent box so you aren’t checking it "

Dammit. But that’s a good thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some women get a lot of messages in a day and probably only reply to ones that stand out or are from friends.

If you are keen, send one every couple days.... it’s not always what you think.

Some days I’m in a total shitter and delete everything without reading, some days I read and respond to them all...

"

Great advice. And finally what I was waiting for I thought it might be a little in.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Doesn't mean any one thing, everyone is different.

Don't pester people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not complicated...if someone wants to get to know you they'll reply

Without all the silly game playing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.

It means the end is nigh

"

Grrrrrrr. I refuse to accept such rejection.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A reply means they're interested unless it says otherwise. A delete means no thank you. Anything else, you don't and can't know. Leave it alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How long ago did they read it?

If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).

If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch

She’s just passed the 40 second threshold. That’s it. Done

Teach them who’s boss from the start. No jumping through hoops on here "

I’m totally done with her. ...... totally.

Dammit. I just sent another message. I’m so weak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Doesn't mean any one thing, everyone is different.

Don't pester people."

I’m definitely not a pestererererreeeer. I’ve only sent 6 messages since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it means I haven’t made my mind up yet

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d leave it. They know where you are if they want you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not complicated...if someone wants to get to know you they'll reply

Without all the silly game playing "

That’s fair enough. But perhaps - just perhaps this lady is. But then if she is do you really want that? Mmmmmm. Thrill of the chase.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To me it means I haven’t made my mind up yet "

Yesssss. Nice. I like that answer.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

probably not interested. I read but don't delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d leave it. They know where you are if they want you."

True. I’m drumming my fingers. Or drumming something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply can mean they're not interested...

Sorry to have to break it to you..."
some folks never change

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.

If I've not deleted it, it means in thinking about it."

This ^ but I mark it unread again to remind me to come back to it

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It might mean that they'll reply later, or they're not interested.

If it's the former do not send another message it comes across as pushy and that is a total turn off for a lot of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me it means I haven’t made my mind up yet "

Hurry up it's been 3 months

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.

If I've not deleted it, it means in thinking about it.

This ^ but I mark it unread again to remind me to come back to it "

Fingers crossed ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't mean any one thing, everyone is different.

Don't pester people."

This!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It might mean that they'll reply later, or they're not interested.

If it's the former do not send another message it comes across as pushy and that is a total turn off for a lot of women. "

I’ll resist the urge to. It’s so damn tempting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you to all comments. So. After 3 days of the post being there. Seen but not acted upon I took the plunge. Dropped a line saying “don’t want to be a pest but.... “

Boom. She replied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women get a lot of messages in a day and probably only reply to ones that stand out or are from friends.

If you are keen, send one every couple days.... it’s not always what you think.

Some days I’m in a total shitter and delete everything without reading, some days I read and respond to them all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one of those mysteries

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just one of those mysteries "

I shall report back with reasons soon. But - I think someone mentioned it is being busy to focus.

Imagine inboxes are just chocker

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

Maybe they are coming back to it, just not had time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "

If read but not deleted they may be interested later as they could already have a busy few days or week ahead. Little point in starting to chat and get your hopes up too quickly, but if you delete you won't know what you said to them.

If deleted, then as per fab rules, they're not interested. Just delete and block, saves bothering then again and getting more deletes.

Focus on those who show an interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read but dont delete. To me that means shes not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe they are coming back to it, just not had time "

Seems that way. Although wading through a heck of a lot too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read but dont delete. To me that means shes not interested "

I’m keeping fingers crossed as we’ve now started talking. Boom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested. Can't be bothered replying just yet. Interested but not sure how to reply.

It could mean a whole host of things or absolutely nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that you can be sure that it means is that they have opened your message.

If they want to reply, they will.

If they don't, they won't.

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Most messages don't get replied too - get over it

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If its not been deleted I'd say its a maybe, or they may reply later.

If it's a couple then I'd say they're waiting for the partner to see it.

But what do I know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhhh. So by all accounts all options are open. Damn this is confusing!!!! "

Not for us, it's a not interested as we rarely delete messages. We mark unread if interested and not time to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't always delete messages. But if I don't reply soon then it means I'm not interested.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Everything we must assume that no reply equals no interest. It's possible that some are read but left for evaluation, with a potential reply, at right point, perhaps when they have time etc. The easiest thing is to assume that you are not of interest, unless you ever hear from them.

Forget about who you have messaged. Focus on the others that you could and get active with many people.

And don't chase people up, if you don't hear. I don't look at details of what I've sent, that's passed.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

It can mean alot of things.

Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.

If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.

Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "

if they do that i take it as they are not interested and delete and block them so i dont bother them again, probably block after 24hrs of no reply as in my experience after that time period they are not going to reply

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"It can mean alot of things.

Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.

If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond "

my point exactly!

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Well usually if you speak to somebody in the flesh and they don’t reply you take the hint I don’t think fab is any different except couples and single ladies have a 100 guys trying to talk to them all at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a fake profile. Sometimes people have a life outside of fab and check in on the spare 5 minutes they have and reply at a later time. We do this. Doesnt mean no interest.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"It can mean alot of things.

Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.

If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond

my point exactly! "

It's a bit like "meeehhh, I might answer if I'm bored enough "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its not been deleted I'd say its a maybe, or they may reply later.

If it's a couple then I'd say they're waiting for the partner to see it.

But what do I know? "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly if I don't delete it means I'm not interested but now and then I'll go back to the odd one or two and reply if it's not been days since sent

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"Well usually if you speak to somebody in the flesh and they don’t reply you take the hint I don’t think fab is any different except couples and single ladies have a 100 guys trying to talk to them all at the same time "

Some couples and singles. Not all.

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"Well usually if you speak to somebody in the flesh and they don’t reply you take the hint I don’t think fab is any different except couples and single ladies have a 100 guys trying to talk to them all at the same time

Some couples and singles. Not all. "

Agreed not all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ahhhh. So by all accounts all options are open. Damn this is confusing!!!!

Not for us, it's a not interested as we rarely delete messages. We mark unread if interested and not time to reply. "

I guess there’s no right or wrong way on process. Interestingly i got a response so let’s see where that goes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not interested. Can't be bothered replying just yet. Interested but not sure how to reply.

It could mean a whole host of things or absolutely nothing."

Women are just so damn confusing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most messages don't get replied too - get over it "

I’ve been crying and playing my violin since. It’s a brutal uncaring world.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

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Just block em and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It can mean alot of things.

Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.

If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond

my point exactly!

It's a bit like "meeehhh, I might answer if I'm bored enough " "

Soooo true . I did get a response in the end so let’s see “how interested” that means.

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Just move on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mostly if I don't delete it means I'm not interested but now and then I'll go back to the odd one or two and reply if it's not been days since sent "

That’s just hoarding. Hahaha

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I rarely delete messages, if I have read it but haven't answered within an hour it means I'm not interested and it didn't merit a reply.

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