FabSwingers.com forum: No means no

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can you guys help me out here.

I was chatting to someone local to me before Christmas on here. Then went to talk on kik.

We met for a coffee locally and after 5 minutes thru no fault of his own he was called away.

At least we met face to face right?

I decided I would rather leave things and not meet again. My reasons were personal and I'm not going to list them here. I was polite and basically said. I would rather not take things any further.

He was unable to accept this and messaged me a lot to say I can't possibly judge him on a 5 minute meet. Which may be true. But after a lot of nervous messages from him trying to meet again, I felt I made the right choice to leave things.

I didn't block him without an explanation. I repeated myself and he acused me of being married and all sorts and I thought. Enough is enough. So I blocked him on here and on kik.

Today I get a message from a man I have never chatted to asking me if I will unblock the original guy I met for coffee.

The message said 'a little bird tells me....'

I don't feel comfortable with this at all. Should I report the guy? I don't know what to do tbh

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Yes. Report him. He's harassing you.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Tell him to go $€%#

You had your reason not to carry on and if he can’t accept that well then looks like you made the right choice. We have all met people that we just don’t click with and decide to leave it at that.

You did the right thing. You can report him to admin for he continues to contact you and they will act upon it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely report the second guy it might even be the first creep with a second account take snap shot of the message then block them both just no need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report both profiles

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Just block the 2nd guy as well. Sadly people talk on here or he may even have a 2nd profile. That has happened to me before. But ye I'd just block him and move on. It's everyone's right to decide not to take things farther and anyone meeting people on here should respect that choice of they can't then it's not a place for them really.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Crikey.

I had a similar experience.

I just blocked both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. Report him. He's harassing you.

How do I report him? Thanks people x

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Just block without another thought. Sounds like your judgement was spot on and you dodged a weirdo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report both profiles

Agree with advice, report and block both profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just block the 2nd guy as well. Sadly people talk on here or he may even have a 2nd profile. That has happened to me before. But ye I'd just block him and move on. It's everyone's right to decide not to take things farther and anyone meeting people on here should respect that choice of they can't then it's not a place for them really. "

That's how I feel, he wants to know all my reasons but that would be a mistake to talk about especially as he seems anxious

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Yes. Report him. He's harassing you.

How do I report him? Thanks people x"

Look at their message - under the pink delete banner you'll see a report icon.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Yes report. That's harassment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Report him. He's harassing you.

How do I report him? Thanks people x"

There should be a report button when you open the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely report him!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely report him! "

Okay I've reported it. Thanks everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find everyone knows everyone on here. Gossip and rumours are part of the site.

Report both profiles and they will automatically be blocked after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block both and any others who to I think are from him.

He will eventually move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The second guy is so painfully obvious is the first guy. Bet he’s the type to sniff your seat after you’ve used the bike at the gym, I’ve legit had a guy do that to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report and block both.

No is a complete sentence in itself, it does not need clarification or explanation. You said No and if he has a problem with that then how can you trust him to respect you saying No about something else.

For someone else to get involved in his behalf is just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The second guy is so painfully obvious is the first guy. Bet he’s the type to sniff your seat after you’ve used the bike at the gym, I’ve legit had a guy do that to me. "

Yeah I thought that. I told second guy this was harassment and he said I barely know the guy and was very apologetic. I can't say for sure if it was him but I've blocked second guy and reported first guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Report and block both.

For someone else to get involved in his behalf is just as bad. "

Well said, no is enough. Thank you

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

So likely as you know to be the first guy, just report and block and watch out for similar profiles and messages.

Trust your instinct, let somebody know if and when you are meeting somebody and restrict that to in public till completely comfortable...all the normal keep safe measures that you probably use.

I hope he is gone for good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The second guy is so painfully obvious is the first guy. Bet he’s the type to sniff your seat after you’ve used the bike at the gym, I’ve legit had a guy do that to me.

When was second profile created? Verified? Very lucky you met him out somewhere public and didn’t ask him to pick you up from home or anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The second guy is so painfully obvious is the first guy. Bet he’s the type to sniff your seat after you’ve used the bike at the gym, I’ve legit had a guy do that to me.

When was second profile created? Verified? Very lucky you met him out somewhere public and didn’t ask him to pick you up from home or anything. "

Second guy profile was created 13 months ago. I have blocked them both now so can't see if that's the same date. Even if different could still be the same guy. I don't feel like meeting anyone at the moment tbh. Very good advice though x

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

"Definitely report the second guy it might even be the first creep with a second account take snap shot of the message then block them both just no need"

Agree with this, stay safe and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely report the second guy it might even be the first creep with a second account take snap shot of the message then block them both just no need

Agree with this, stay safe and enjoy"

Thank you

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Looks like you got yourself a stalker. You can actually judge if you'll bed someone in 5 mins.

Direct the new contact to this forum maybe then he'll get the point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looks like you got yourself a stalker. You can actually judge if you'll bed someone in 5 mins.

Direct the new contact to this forum maybe then he'll get the point."

What do you mean 'bed someone in 5 minutes'?

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

It is against the rules to ask someone to mail on your behalf to get around a block.

It is against the rules to mail somebody on behalf of someone else with the intent of helping them get around a block.

I experienced this a long time ago. I reported it, admin dealt with it severely.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

"Looks like you got yourself a stalker. You can actually judge if you'll bed someone in 5 mins.

Direct the new contact to this forum maybe then he'll get the point.

What do you mean 'bed someone in 5 minutes'? "

They mean, it is quite reasonable to judge if you want to take someone to bed in 5 minutes. So 5 minutes in someone's company, is enough for you to judge if you want to meet them enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is against the rules to ask someone to mail on your behalf to get around a block.

It is against the rules to mail somebody on behalf of someone else with the intent of helping them get around a block.

I experienced this a long time ago. I reported it, admin dealt with it severely."

Thank you. I'm hoping this will be dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looks like you got yourself a stalker. You can actually judge if you'll bed someone in 5 mins.

Direct the new contact to this forum maybe then he'll get the point.

What do you mean 'bed someone in 5 minutes'?

They mean, it is quite reasonable to judge if you want to take someone to bed in 5 minutes. So 5 minutes in someone's company, is enough for you to judge if you want to meet them enough

Ah right thank you x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Deffo report op,as another user said it's against the rules to try and get round the block.

You were honest and upfront and it says a lot about him that he can't accept your decision.

I think you made the right call,keep any messages from others in case you need them as evidence.

Hope you get it sorted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report both profiles

Yes, this.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Block them both. No one needs hassle on here. And report them to admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you guys help me out here.

I was chatting to someone local to me before Christmas on here. Then went to talk on kik.

We met for a coffee locally and after 5 minutes thru no fault of his own he was called away.

At least we met face to face right?

I decided I would rather leave things and not meet again. My reasons were personal and I'm not going to list them here. I was polite and basically said. I would rather not take things any further.

I didn't block him without an explanation. I repeated myself and he acused me of being married and all sorts and I thought. Enough is enough. So I blocked him on here and on kik.

Today I get a message from a man I have never chatted to asking me if I will unblock the original guy I met for coffee.

The message said 'a little bird tells me....'

I don't feel comfortable with this at all. Should I report the guy? I don't know what to do tbh"

Report, you've been polite and that didn't work so report!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

If you need reassurance that your first judgement was right, the fact he can’t accept No is a massive red flag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Deffo report op,as another user said it's against the rules to try and get round the block.

You were honest and upfront and it says a lot about him that he can't accept your decision.

I think you made the right call,keep any messages from others in case you need them as evidence.

Hope you get it sorted x"

Thank you, will do x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you need reassurance that your first judgement was right, the fact he can’t accept No is a massive red flag."

I agree, the flags were going off like mad when I refused to meet again. But messages from other people that's just not OK.

I have done as everyone advised! Hope to hear from admin soon x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Admin are unlikely to contact you, they will take whatever action they feel is necessary but I believe it's rare for them to respond individually to messages.

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