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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 hes probably insecure and over compensating to make himself feel good

And 2 men lie, men say whatever they think a woman wants to hear in order to get her into bed

Block him and move on, no point stressing about it, if all he did was make you feel 'ordinary' then you dont need him around anyway.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1 hes probably insecure and over compensating to make himself feel good

And 2 men lie, men say whatever they think a woman wants to hear in order to get her into bed

Block him and move on, no point stressing about it, if all he did was make you feel 'ordinary' then you dont need him around anyway.x"

2 people lie*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

Firstly you are absolutely gorgeous!! Secondly hes just lost out big time, his loss not yours. Obviously wasnt good enough for you x

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

It may be a confidence thing.

Bigged himself up (lack of confidence)

Gone silent (lack of confidence)

It might just be he has got what he wanted and is all after the number (some are) so is not into a FWB as such.

Ah well, try not to over think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1 hes probably insecure and over compensating to make himself feel good

And 2 men lie, men say whatever they think a woman wants to hear in order to get her into bed

Block him and move on, no point stressing about it, if all he did was make you feel 'ordinary' then you dont need him around anyway.x

2 people lie*"

My post didnt need correcting

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

He’s clearly deranged, gone blind or totally lost his mind as far as I can see... has he not seen your profile or listened to anything you said when you met?!

actually...

I think you’ve just turned him insane. Maybe you should come with a warning...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It will be on my mind now for a few days, unfortunately. I’m annoyed to have been taken in by the b*llocks again

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

Some men are just idiots.

He will die alone most probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I can see in your profile and pictures you are a very gorgeous woman.

I echo what others have said, insecurities. Definitely with the part of saying he could get good looking women, that says to me he doesn't want you to think you exceed others as that gives you a power over him and leads to him feeling lesser or more vulnerable.

His silence, maybe he felt afterwards that he didn't have enough to offer you and walking away leaves whatever he does have in tact and is a protective mode of himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're drop dead gorgeous so it might be he's a bit of a bell end.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

This sounds like the crap that they "teach" on these teach on these "how to pull beautiful women" websites. The concept it to make you feel like he is really doing you a favour and you should be lucky to have his attention... then once he's got you into bed, that's game over and he moves onto the next target.

It's a crap way to treat people.

Cal

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

He told you what he thought you wanted to hear in order to fuck you and now he's achieved that he's lost interest.

Sorry, but that's how some men roll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He told you what he thought you wanted to hear in order to fuck you and now he's achieved that he's lost interest.

Sorry, but that's how some men roll

Because if they dont tell lies, they cant get layed?

How sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I can see in your profile and pictures you are a very gorgeous woman.

His silence, maybe he felt afterwards that he didn't have enough to offer you and walking away leaves whatever he does have in tact and is a protective mode of himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He told you what he thought you wanted to hear in order to fuck you and now he's achieved that he's lost interest.

Sorry, but that's how some men roll

Because if they dont tell lies, they cant get layed?

How sad"

They have been doing it since the beginning of time. Its pathetic

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!

It's a crap way to treat people.

Cal"

Yep, it's a tactic used by incels too.

What a shame they can't just treat women as equals in the dating game.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"He told you what he thought you wanted to hear in order to fuck you and now he's achieved that he's lost interest.

Sorry, but that's how some men roll

Because if they dont tell lies, they cant get layed?

How sad"

Not quite. He fancied her and wanted to fuck her and didn't want anything more. However he took the view (which is probably correct) that he was more likely to get a fuck if he told her he wanted something more.

It's the old story that lots of men will say anything to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be honest, this has nothing to do with the guys confidence.

It's a common trick with pickup artists to drop in subtle hints during a date that they've been with better looking people. It serves to dampen the lady's confidence and makes her more open to suggestion.

Op you're most likely a beautiful woman so don't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!

It's a crap way to treat people.

Cal"

Snap

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's be honest, this has nothing to do with the guys confidence.

Op you're most likely a beautiful woman so don't worry about it. "

Triffic

Ah well. Done now. At least my sex drive was satiated for a few hours

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Let's be honest, this has nothing to do with the guys confidence.

Op you're most likely a beautiful woman so don't worry about it. "
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It has the opposite effect on me. If a guy keeps on about how gorgeous the women are that he mixes with I think I must be gorgeous too or he wouldn't have met me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest, this has nothing to do with the guys confidence.

Op you're most likely a beautiful woman so don't worry about it.

Triffic

Ah well. Done now. At least my sex drive was satiated for a few hours

Win/win then.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

All i can say is what a bellend. You look stunning and anyone not wanting 2nds 3rds etc must be crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest, this has nothing to do with the guys confidence.

Op you're most likely a beautiful woman so don't worry about it. ,

It has the opposite effect on me. If a guy keeps on about how gorgeous the women are that he mixes with I think I must be gorgeous too or he wouldn't have met me. "

When that happens, they begin to make subtle digs at your appearance and what you're wearing. I just find the whole charade pitiful.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It’s the nature of the fab beast unfortunately OP. I will never understand the point of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am curious now though...

Have any of you tried these tactics...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am curious now though...

Have any of you tried these tactics...?"

No, but I’m going to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am curious now though...

Have any of you tried these tactics...?"

I'm on a site like this so I don't have to and I don't get a kick from making women feel worthless. I guess it takes a certain type.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

His loss, you look fabulous;)

Move on and find others to enjoy your amazing body

Maybe think about an older married guy ?! X

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Your beating yourself up .

Over what a man that man u feel ordinary and not the sexy gal u are

U should look at it the other way and count your blessing that u had a lucky escape as if they make u feel like that why would u want to be with them again

Drown your sorrows tonight but wake up in the morning and think thank fuck I was to good for him

Your worth more than that u just got to believe it

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I am curious now though...

Have any of you tried these tactics...?"

No bloke is going to say he uses that tactic as if he he tells you it's a tactic, it will cease to work

The cynical truth is that it's best to assume, until proven otherwise, every bloke on here just wants a fuck, whatever line they spin you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People, not just guys, say and do things to get what they want.

When they have had it, then something more shiney comes along and all those words are forgotten.

Actions are more important than words.

It happens to guys too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Happens to everyone. No matter how much they deny it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear, very disrespectful to just disappear without justifying why

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Unless he was Champion The Wonder Fuck,put it down to experience and forget about him.

Obviously a knobhead

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I am curious now though...

Have any of you tried these tactics...?"

God no, it all sounds like a lot of effort.

I generally turn up and talk bollocks for an hour or two. Seems to work.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sounds to me like you've dodged a bullet. Often if people talk extensively about how attractive or impressive people they have previously been with are it's an attempt to intimidate you. A friend of mine dated a guy who couldn't stop talking about how he'd dated minor celebrities

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Although, I know he talked bollocks - the bollocks I'm referring to is more mundane than that.

The weather, favourite cheese, that kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking back - the warning signs were probably there....you've mentioned one. We've all seen those signs but ignored them because sometimes we don't want to notice them...they are inconvenient at the time.

However, as many have said, you look fabulous, have a great profile, you're smart, clever and pretty. Dust yourself down and move on. He's a fool for settling for one evening with you....he could be with you now ffs!

Ps Peaches are my favourite fruit....his must be a melon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible he has a bit of post orgasm regret and is ghosting as a result?

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

You're hot, he probably thought he had reached his high point on fab and it could only go down hill from here so quit while ahead. It's the only explanation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never really understood the say anything to get a fuck. The feelings of having had a fuck dont last, if you burn your bridges after one meet you have to start all from scratch again. Must get a bit tiresome.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Why? Cos his balls are now empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never really understood the say anything to get a fuck. The feelings of having had a fuck dont last, if you burn your bridges after one meet you have to start all from scratch again. Must get a bit tiresome.

Ain't that the truth

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Let's be honest, this has nothing to do with the guys confidence.

Op you're most likely a beautiful woman so don't worry about it. ,

It has the opposite effect on me. If a guy keeps on about how gorgeous the women are that he mixes with I think I must be gorgeous too or he wouldn't have met me.

When that happens, they begin to make subtle digs at your appearance and what you're wearing. I just find the whole charade pitiful. "

One subtle dig at my appearance and I'm outa there quick sharp. I'm too damn old, too damn tired and have dealt with too many cows to be worried about calves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thanks everyone, genuinely. x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

How long has he been silent?

You know men take at least a few days to recover/ feel horny for the same person again right?

After all it’s not a dating site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he's afraid you will find him out, and he can't keep up the charade? I would have thought talking about exploits with other women would have been a bit of a downer..

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

His loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

To get laid.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Unless he was Champion The Wonder Fuck,put it down to experience and forget about him.

Obviously a knobhead

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Sounds like he's been watching too many 'how to get women to like you' videos.

Negging by making you feel insecure/inferior, and lying about what he wanted to make himself seem more appealing.

Douchebag. You're well out of it

He'll learn one day.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"
The chase is over.

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By *ubsteffTV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"He’s not on here so I’m safe

Met a guy, we got on, really talked, had chemistry...had fun.

But two things he did, I can’t work out.

One, is the stories he recounted that constantly involved amazing looking women he had been mixing with. I don’t feel like a supermodel myself, so immediately start feeling very ordinary.

Two, is the age old: we’ve had sex and now he’s gone absolutely silent. It’s fine, it is what it is - but this is someone who talked a storm about wanting a friend with benefits

Whyyyyyy?!"

He must be fucking mental to be ignoring you.

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