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Don’t judge a book by its cover

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, a man messaged me, sent a photo, I don’t fancy him so replied “thanks for the message, I’m not physically attracted to you but happy fabbing”

Then I get the response “don’t judge a book by its cover”

I am on this site to meet people for sex, I absolutely have to be physically attracted to someone to sleep with them, if someone sends a photo and I don’t fancy them, then it’s absolutely not going to work in the bedroom.

They could have the best personality ever and I get that however I have to have that initial attraction.

It one of the tamest replies I’ve had to “thanks but no thanks” I guess so should be thankful for that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

That's utterly absurd.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think most people would agree with you. It's a bit of a pointless silly response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like his book was even uglier than his cover...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel there has to be some physical attraction atleast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people both guys and girls just think because its fab they can sleep with anyone they please. Ive had abuse for not wanting to meet women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely agree. Personality is very important to me but there needs to be physical attraction in the first instance. People can be really rude and accuse you of being reslly shallow if you state your preferences.

If attraction wasn't ah issue then we would all be fucking 90 year olds!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing is, I used to reply to everyone and would get some shit responses back, then I stopped and still got shit so you just can’t win.

From now on I think I’ll just block, which is a shame as we are all adults and should be able to handle a “no thanks”, I wouldn’t dream of sending a crap message to someone who said no thanks.....you accept you aren’t their type and you move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I completely agree. Personality is very important to me but there needs to be physical attraction in the first instance. People can be really rude and accuse you of being reslly shallow if you state your preferences.

If attraction wasn't ah issue then we would all be fucking 90 year olds! "

Exactly, and whilst personality is important the chances of me getting to know someone’s personality is greatly increased if I have that attraction in the first place.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

So much for people who are sapiosexual? Maybe there is a 4th dimension.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

redbottom I know I am not everyones cup of tea but if you said took the time knowing that your single lady and get loads of messages but taking a sec to and respond even a no for me is much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t fuck personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on the profile.. But can you really base it on the pixels?

I've seen ladies in the forums who are not my type and I havent felt an initial attraction towards them, But now I fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can’t fuck personality "

Cracked me up that & true

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I have a gsoh, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ceases to amaze me, how people react, if someone don’t like the look of you, just move on. End of. No need for comments, just a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never fancied shagging a book, the pages would get stuck together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless it's been through word of mouth or a review I've read, I always judge a book by its cover lol

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

You need a very thick skin to be on fab

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Problem with a lot of men's face pics is they look like them mugshot pics taken at the police station just after they've been arrested for kerb crawling. I always prefer to receive a variety of 3 or 4 face pics that show the personality of the man. Helps if they are bloody smiling too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just a response that shows they have not wanted to listen to what you are saying. Sure, personality can grow towards attraction for some, but that isn’t what you said.

Frankly it’s just embarrassing, why people wish to argue their case rather than gracefully accept the answer. You don’t need thick skin either as someone said, a response on an internet based site shouldn’t change your self-perception, if you have received an honest and fair response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think organised socials are the way forward.

We don't get to know anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can’t fuck personality "

Absolutely. But to be fair, it's a different game at a social event.

Personality gets some folks over the line so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can’t fuck personality

Absolutely. But to be fair, it's a different game at a social event.

Personality gets some folks over the line so to speak. "

Personality and I don't think many people look as good as their pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can’t fuck personality

Absolutely. But to be fair, it's a different game at a social event.

Personality gets some folks over the line so to speak.

Personality and I don't think many people look as good as their pictures. "

Those filters can get one over on you alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can’t fuck personality "

Sorry but boring personality means boring fuck

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"You can’t fuck personality

Sorry but boring personality means boring fuck"

What this lady said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me, I read the flyleaf before I decide to judge a book....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a knee jerk response..

Think yourself lucky you didn't get a torrent of abuse..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem with a lot of men's face pics is they look like them mugshot pics taken at the police station just after they've been arrested for kerb crawling. I always prefer to receive a variety of 3 or 4 face pics that show the personality of the man. Helps if they are bloody smiling too! "

THIS!

Also, no sunglasses, and the face has to be big enough to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the guy talking about sapiosexuals I consider myself to be one as I find intelligence highly attractive but there still needs to be physical attraction for sex to happen.

I actually turned down a bit I am or was very physically attracted to. He mainly seems to meet women who get on page 1 who are far more attractive than myself and he seems to have amazing veris but he comes across as a complete twat.

He keeps deleting and returning and asks to meet every time he rejoins He's clearly stumped that someone like myself would dare to reject him when he fucks the A list of fab.

Anyway the point veing I wouldn't meet someone solely in looks but I don't want to have sex with people i'm not turned on by.

Point made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just commented about this on another thread. In a nutshell I once had sex with a curvy girl which I'm not attracted too as I like slim and went on to have the best sex I ever had. Not judging a book by it's cover is a fair point as you could be too hasty and be missing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can’t fuck personality

Absolutely. But to be fair, it's a different game at a social event.

Personality gets some folks over the line so to speak. "

I would probably do so much better at a social as people say I'm lovely in person but i'm very much disliked and put people off on here.

I'm too shy to spend time in a room full of people though!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"You can’t fuck personality

Absolutely. But to be fair, it's a different game at a social event.

Personality gets some folks over the line so to speak.

I would probably do so much better at a social as people say I'm lovely in person but i'm very much disliked and put people off on here.

I'm too shy to spend time in a room full of people though! "

If you ever need a chaperone, let me know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I completely agree. Personality is very important to me but there needs to be physical attraction in the first instance. People can be really rude and accuse you of being reslly shallow if you state your preferences.

If attraction wasn't ah issue then we would all be fucking 90 year olds! "

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"Problem with a lot of men's face pics is they look like them mugshot pics taken at the police station just after they've been arrested for kerb crawling. I always prefer to receive a variety of 3 or 4 face pics that show the personality of the man. Helps if they are bloody smiling too!

THIS!

Also, no sunglasses, and the face has to be big enough to see. "

Yep, what is it with the sunglasses pics? Eyes are so important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem with a lot of men's face pics is they look like them mugshot pics taken at the police station just after they've been arrested for kerb crawling. I always prefer to receive a variety of 3 or 4 face pics that show the personality of the man. Helps if they are bloody smiling too!

THIS!

Also, no sunglasses, and the face has to be big enough to see.

Yep, what is it with the sunglasses pics? Eyes are so important "

Even mingers look good in sunglasses.

Disclaimer: my minger maybe someone else's adonis

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