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By *zreal_rdg OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

When someone wants to play with you and for your own reasons you turn them down. Have you ever experienced them getting angry or upset. And how do you deal with that?

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

Be honest about why you don't want to play.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes.

On here, block.

One on one, get safe distance away including by bluffing if necessary then block.

Club, tell them to back off and if they persist get staff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen it, but I here its pretty common for the women to get dogs abuse for rejecting mens advances. Delete, block and forget. Job done

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Be honest about why you don't want to play."

Does that work on here

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Be honest about why you don't want to play.

Does that work on here "

hahahaha definitely not most of the time!

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"Be honest about why you don't want to play.

Does that work on here "

Sometimes. I often give a polite 'thank you for asking, but I would not be looking to meet you, Sorry'. Some just delete, some say thanks for replying, some ask why. If they ask why, I try to explain as positively as possible. My personal preferences are....you live too far away....you work shifts that are not compatible with mine.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never take it on board as it’s their dummy they have to retrieve and no ours - we be polite and if they persist it is wasting our tine and theirs so we block.

There is always going to be people out there that feel entitled.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Be honest about why you don't want to play.

Does that work on here

Sometimes. I often give a polite 'thank you for asking, but I would not be looking to meet you, Sorry'. Some just delete, some say thanks for replying, some ask why. If they ask why, I try to explain as positively as possible. My personal preferences are....you live too far away....you work shifts that are not compatible with mine......."

Then you still get load of shit. I'm a polite person but not on here.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"Be honest about why you don't want to play.

Does that work on here

Sometimes. I often give a polite 'thank you for asking, but I would not be looking to meet you, Sorry'. Some just delete, some say thanks for replying, some ask why. If they ask why, I try to explain as positively as possible. My personal preferences are....you live too far away....you work shifts that are not compatible with mine.......

Then you still get load of shit. I'm a polite person but not on here. "

Very occasionally I get I wouldn't have shagged you anyway you fat old granny, but rarely. Most people value a reply and honesty I have found

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Most guys if we turn them down will say thank you for the reply happy fabbing etc etc. some wont reply and then you get the ones that send a message calling you every name under the sun and block you so you cant reply (not that we would anyway) so we just counterblock and leave it off

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Some men get nasty as they cant take rejection but others are totally fine

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston


"When someone wants to play with you and for your own reasons you turn them down. Have you ever experienced them getting angry or upset. And how do you deal with that?"

Rejection rage like every rage is limited to a few. If you get the rage by not meeting them then reward yourself for good judgement in saying no. You have dodged a bullet is my view.

E+R=O

The Event has happened and you cannot control that. The only thing you can control to get the Outcome you want is your Reaction.

If the outcome you want is to not let it affect you, move on and let them rage on their own.

Illegitimi non carborundum (yes I know that’s fake Latin)

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Regularly happens on here unfortunately. There are a great number of single guys who seem to think that just by being on this site a woman should be up for anything.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be honest about why you don't want to play.

Does that work on here "

Block and move on, if in a club, as stated earlier get staff. To be fair I’m a club there’s always someone around who will back you if you say no!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Does make me laugh when I say no thank you and then the insults start. When I don't respond they say ........ Knew it. You're a man. Then they stop ..... Is a man calling a woman a man the worst thing they can think of... ??

P.S. It is why my profile is hidden. One of the reasons anyway. It's unhidden if I wan't messages.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"Does make me laugh when I say no thank you and then the insults start. When I don't respond they say ........ Knew it. You're a man. Then they stop ..... Is a man calling a woman a man the worst thing they can think of... ??

P.S. It is why my profile is hidden. One of the reasons anyway. It's unhidden if I wan't messages. "

Awww, and I thought your profile was hidden because you were shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone wants to play with you and for your own reasons you turn them down. Have you ever experienced them getting angry or upset. And how do you deal with that?"
disappointment and rejection are part of this process for many but getting angry and abusive are not acceptable

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By *zreal_rdg OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

I turned a lady down yesterday and she had a real melt down.

I’m not sure she is used to rejection.

She really let loose with the insults. Had to block her in the end.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Does make me laugh when I say no thank you and then the insults start. When I don't respond they say ........ Knew it. You're a man. Then they stop ..... Is a man calling a woman a man the worst thing they can think of... ??

P.S. It is why my profile is hidden. One of the reasons anyway. It's unhidden if I wan't messages. "

Same here

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Does make me laugh when I say no thank you and then the insults start. When I don't respond they say ........ Knew it. You're a man. Then they stop ..... Is a man calling a woman a man the worst thing they can think of... ??

P.S. It is why my profile is hidden. One of the reasons anyway. It's unhidden if I wan't messages.

Awww, and I thought your profile was hidden because you were shy "

Fnarrr....... I am aren't I?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I turned a lady down yesterday and she had a real melt down.

I’m not sure she is used to rejection.

She really let loose with the insults. Had to block her in the end. "

Good for you and it's really good to hear the other side of the argument.

A t*** is a t*** regardless of gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I turned a lady down yesterday and she had a real melt down.

I’m not sure she is used to rejection.

She really let loose with the insults. Had to block her in the end.

Good for you and it's really good to hear the other side of the argument.

A t*** is a t*** regardless of gender. "
thug, twit or toad?

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By *zreal_rdg OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading


"I turned a lady down yesterday and she had a real melt down.

I’m not sure she is used to rejection.

She really let loose with the insults. Had to block her in the end.

Good for you and it's really good to hear the other side of the argument.

A t*** is a t*** regardless of gender. "

Very true

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