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"I try to daily. Exercise helps. You've just reminded me to do my physio excerises. " I still cringe thinking about some of mine | |||
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"Owning a dog helps massively Walks, cuddles, constant companionship. He has really helped me on dark days, more than a person can sometimes Jo x " Visiting dogs helps for those who can't own them. (Dog pictures and stories always appreciated) | |||
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"Owning a dog helps massively Walks, cuddles, constant companionship. He has really helped me on dark days, more than a person can sometimes Jo x " I agree 100% | |||
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"Owning a dog helps massively Walks, cuddles, constant companionship. He has really helped me on dark days, more than a person can sometimes Jo x Visiting dogs helps for those who can't own them. (Dog pictures and stories always appreciated)" We got ours as I was just coming out of a really bad bout of depression, he dragged me through. He was a tiny pup, I've never been depressed since! Ok change of mindset and meds too but he's had such an impact! X | |||
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"Get on my bike for a couple of hours & ride the Somerset levels when it's not raining .." That sounds awesome. | |||
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"As much as I love the company of people, I also need regular alone time. Time for me to unwind and regroup is essential for my continued happiness. Going out for a run, a drive or even just lazing in my room in front of the tv, the time alone gives me the time I need to switch off or to concentrate on me and me only " Yes. It's a balance for me. I love people but shit you guys exhaust me. And I need enough people, but also not to hit the point where I'm so exhausted I stare at the wall mindlessly for hours | |||
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"As much as I love the company of people, I also need regular alone time. Time for me to unwind and regroup is essential for my continued happiness. Going out for a run, a drive or even just lazing in my room in front of the tv, the time alone gives me the time I need to switch off or to concentrate on me and me only Yes. It's a balance for me. I love people but shit you guys exhaust me. And I need enough people, but also not to hit the point where I'm so exhausted I stare at the wall mindlessly for hours" Exactly. People are great but also they require attention and brain power to keep satisfied, be that nothing more than a conversation, you gotta think about them and it can indeed get exhausting. Especially if you are the dependable sort that people turn to for advice to get though their day to day shit. I prefer not to burden other people with my shit so I need that alone time to work through it and unburden myself. | |||
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"I like to go to the prom & watch the waves break against the walls when the tide is in. An hour quiet time alone does one the world of good" Oh I envy you having that close by. | |||
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"The gym Spending time with my kids And i volunteer to take kids/adults with autism out and about. " | |||
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"If it’s something I need to have time for & think about then it’s a walk up the mountain with the dog with some headphones. If there’s something that I can do nothing about but its still niggling I’ll go out on my motorbike for an hour or so as when I’m on that it’s 100% focus for me & I don’t think of anything else. When I come back the issue seems far less important & pretty soon it’s “Meh” Que Sera, Sera. Shout up if you want a pooch pic, he’s a cute fcker but you wouldn’t want him on your lap S" Guessing he's a big dog then? What breed have you got? Very jealous of everyone with a dog on this thread | |||
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"If it’s something I need to have time for & think about then it’s a walk up the mountain with the dog with some headphones. If there’s something that I can do nothing about but its still niggling I’ll go out on my motorbike for an hour or so as when I’m on that it’s 100% focus for me & I don’t think of anything else. When I come back the issue seems far less important & pretty soon it’s “Meh” Que Sera, Sera. Shout up if you want a pooch pic, he’s a cute fcker but you wouldn’t want him on your lap S Guessing he's a big dog then? What breed have you got? Very jealous of everyone with a dog on this thread " American Akita Long coat (bear headed some call them), currently on a diet as he hit 10st a few weeks ago, not one for public parks though, we got him from a rescue @4yrs old & he just doesn’t trust other dogs so something must have happened to him when younger. It’s fine though as we’ve always lived rural so plenty of places to go & the Cambrians we are Lon are the most desolate of the Welsh ranges for people & animals S | |||
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"If it’s something I need to have time for & think about then it’s a walk up the mountain with the dog with some headphones. If there’s something that I can do nothing about but its still niggling I’ll go out on my motorbike for an hour or so as when I’m on that it’s 100% focus for me & I don’t think of anything else. When I come back the issue seems far less important & pretty soon it’s “Meh” Que Sera, Sera. Shout up if you want a pooch pic, he’s a cute fcker but you wouldn’t want him on your lap S Guessing he's a big dog then? What breed have you got? Very jealous of everyone with a dog on this thread American Akita Long coat (bear headed some call them), currently on a diet as he hit 10st a few weeks ago, not one for public parks though, we got him from a rescue @4yrs old & he just doesn’t trust other dogs so something must have happened to him when younger. It’s fine though as we’ve always lived rural so plenty of places to go & the Cambrians we are Lon are the most desolate of the Welsh ranges for people & animals S" Oh my gosh what a lovely looking breed. That is the advantage of living in Wales plenty of places to walk minus people. F | |||
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"Thank you all for sharing, I'm going to get off my arse and go for a walk to try and shift this gloom I have woken up with. Some days are just more difficult than others.x" I hear you x | |||
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"Thank you all for sharing, I'm going to get off my arse and go for a walk to try and shift this gloom I have woken up with. Some days are just more difficult than others.x" We are all different & seek different things to help deal with stuff. H requires company, talk, hugs & distractions. I on the other hand prefer to just escape on my own & can be pretty unapproachable in my solitude, but I like it there. Enjoy your walk.. S | |||
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"Sometimes even the self care is a balancing act. The line between processing and ruminating, for example. Accountability or beating yourself up? Mindful awareness of your body or hypochondria?" Processing is really good... But once it turns into rumination it is bad... Step 1) recognise you are doing it... Step 2) 'stop it'... Not so easy Essential to be kind to yourself and forgive yourself ..too hard? Imagine you are talking to a friend.. What would you say? Now say it to yourself... I cried the first few times i did this... In fact, i still do..its very powerful | |||
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"Sometimes even the self care is a balancing act. The line between processing and ruminating, for example. Accountability or beating yourself up? Mindful awareness of your body or hypochondria?" S | |||
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"Sometimes even the self care is a balancing act. The line between processing and ruminating, for example. Accountability or beating yourself up? Mindful awareness of your body or hypochondria? Processing is really good... But once it turns into rumination it is bad... Step 1) recognise you are doing it... Step 2) 'stop it'... Not so easy Essential to be kind to yourself and forgive yourself ..too hard? Imagine you are talking to a friend.. What would you say? Now say it to yourself... I cried the first few times i did this... In fact, i still do..its very powerful " I'm a work in progress on this one. Big worrier, big fixer. It's anxiety inducing to let things go. Self compassion has been a huge, huge struggle for me. I had to start with self not contempt and self indifference. It's still hard sometimes. | |||
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" I'm a work in progress on this one. Big worrier, big fixer. It's anxiety inducing to let things go. Self compassion has been a huge, huge struggle for me. I had to start with self not contempt and self indifference. It's still hard sometimes." You know we sound very similar. I am regularly reminded that i cannot fix the world ... I get around 4-5 hours (broken) sleep, but i used to get around 3 before i started to use some of the techniques i mentioned earlier | |||
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" I'm a work in progress on this one. Big worrier, big fixer. It's anxiety inducing to let things go. Self compassion has been a huge, huge struggle for me. I had to start with self not contempt and self indifference. It's still hard sometimes. You know we sound very similar. I am regularly reminded that i cannot fix the world ... I get around 4-5 hours (broken) sleep, but i used to get around 3 before i started to use some of the techniques i mentioned earlier " Sister? | |||
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" I'm a work in progress on this one. Big worrier, big fixer. It's anxiety inducing to let things go. Self compassion has been a huge, huge struggle for me. I had to start with self not contempt and self indifference. It's still hard sometimes. You know we sound very similar. I am regularly reminded that i cannot fix the world ... I get around 4-5 hours (broken) sleep, but i used to get around 3 before i started to use some of the techniques i mentioned earlier Sister? " We need a self love weekend xx | |||
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"The gym helps me a lot. It's empowering and a place to switch off. I channel my frustration and emotions into my workouts and in the long term I feel weight lifting in particular, my muscles being strong, helps me manage my anxiety better. I write, often for here. Music. Enough sleep, adequate nutrition." Mine is similar to yours. Gym Good healthy home cooked food Chatting with friends Reading or leaning about new things Being outdoors Being mindful Listening to my body. | |||
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"The beach. I was in a very very dark place last year mentally and I struggled to find things to help me with it. Talking was a struggle, doing things became a struggle etc. Then I started walking the beach front on a nightly basis, regardless of weather. That became two to three times a day then moving forward as every time I walked I felt free. Possibly the easiest way to describe it. Plus it’s great for your physical health too, which is always a bonus!! " I highly recommend a beach walk | |||
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"Lying in a dark room with white noise sounds on, so relaxing and definitely helps when feeling anxious" Thanks, that’s good, actually helping with my headache. Reminds me of that midway point on a night flight when my QC35”S lose charge | |||
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"The beach. I was in a very very dark place last year mentally and I struggled to find things to help me with it. Talking was a struggle, doing things became a struggle etc. Then I started walking the beach front on a nightly basis, regardless of weather. That became two to three times a day then moving forward as every time I walked I felt free. Possibly the easiest way to describe it. Plus it’s great for your physical health too, which is always a bonus!! I highly recommend a beach walk " I love the beach too.. Grew up in a seaside town | |||
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"The beach. I was in a very very dark place last year mentally and I struggled to find things to help me with it. Talking was a struggle, doing things became a struggle etc. Then I started walking the beach front on a nightly basis, regardless of weather. That became two to three times a day then moving forward as every time I walked I felt free. Possibly the easiest way to describe it. Plus it’s great for your physical health too, which is always a bonus!! I highly recommend a beach walk I love the beach too.. Grew up in a seaside town " Takes me less than a minute to walk from front door to the beach. It’s a fantastic bonus to living where I do! | |||
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"How do you take care of yourself? Self care is often discussed in terms of mental health, but you certainly don't need a diagnosis. What helps you recharge your batteries, manage things well, stay happy?" Simplicity. One or two very simple objectives in life. And the awareness to discard anything that detracts from those. Especially negative or toxic influences. | |||
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"I find that simply switching off my phone, avoiding all forms of news or social media, and just reading a book is fantastic for my mental health, really helps to balance me out again. Other times, I’ll take myself off for a day or two, somewhere quiet, and go fly fishing. Again, it’s about restoration of my equilibrium, and I find that concentrating on just one thing is the best way to do that." | |||
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"I go for a splendid walk in the hills . It's perfect for just slowing the world down and taking a moment to just appricate how wonderful the world can be . I also cycle , so out on my bike burning up any negative emotions, choosing some where lovely to ride too and just stop sit and let the world be as it is " Walking is my peace too x | |||
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