FabSwingers.com forum: Looks or Personality?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's more important in the fab world?

Curious to know peoples opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't we have both op? I'm pretty partial to a woman I'm attracted to having an attractive personality also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

For me, you can't just pick one! There has to be a combination otherwise I might as well ask for payment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. Looks attract. Personality to make me want to bed them.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Looks lure me in, personality keeps me there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't we have both op? I'm pretty partial to a woman I'm attracted to having an attractive personality also

Of course you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both I think, I need a mental and physical attraction or it's just not worth it.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Looks

I don't want to date him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I'd pick intelligence and kindness over everything

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Personality first for me, but looks have to be there too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality

- unless they have a beard in which case even if they have a great personality it’ll definitely be a no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be the best looking person in the world, but if they don’t have the personality, and there is no connection then it’s not going to happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone find that sometimes people who you dont usually notice become more attractive through their personality?

Happens the other way too, some stunning people can instantly become ugly through their personalities too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks. I want to fuck them not take them home to meet mother!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

What about us poor feckers who don't have either?

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

I think a mix of both is needed.

For instance I don't have a type like others such as BBW, blonde, brunette race none of this is important to me.

As long as someone has a aura of confidence which is the sexiest thing

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Looks lure me in, personality keeps me there. "

Exactly this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather someone who's averagely attractive who I can have a cracking conversation with and who I can build chemistry with, rather than someone who's absolutely stunningly attractive and a total Adonis, but who has a crappy personality and no chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about us poor feckers who don't have either?"

Hahaha. I like your style

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

"Looks lure me in, personality keeps me there.

Exactly this x

Think this might be the consensus

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looks lure me in, personality keeps me there.

Exactly this x

Think this might be the consensus

I think it's the best description

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fucked on both fronts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm fucked on both fronts

I'm a potato in a hat fella, but I get by rather well with my personality. Just gotta get their attention first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fucked on both fronts

I'm a potato in a hat fella, but I get by rather well with my personality. Just gotta get their attention first."

They don't like it when I get their attention, as a rule.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Oh this one again eh?

Both, it is both. It will always be both. Nobody is going to sleep with me if they don't find me attractive to look at. Nobody is going to sleep with me if they don't like my personality.

Based purely on fab and profile scrolling, looks are more important because generally if they don't have any physical attraction they won't even bother to know your personality in the first place.

I will add, there are some that don't care about personality due to their interests purely being about fuck and go. So it's all about looks.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Bit of both for me too...there has to be a spark of attraction but if you can't make me laugh or hold a conversation with me then I'll get awkward and will be put off of anything else happening!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Looks.

I'm fucking you not saying till death us do .......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh this one again eh?

Both, it is both. It will always be both. Nobody is going to sleep with me if they don't find me attractive to look at. Nobody is going to sleep with me if they don't like my personality.

Based purely on fab and profile scrolling, looks are more important because generally if they don't have any physical attraction they won't even bother to know your personality in the first place.

I will add, there are some that don't care about personality due to their interests purely being about fuck and go. So it's all about looks. "

Well said

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Neither..it's all about having that connection ,just because they are really stunning or have an awesome personality isn't going to make me want to get frisky with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks on here as I have to be physically attracted and not looking for a boyfriend. If personality is there then bonus and may end up FWB, I am yet to find this however x

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

When I was a teenager there was a lad who kept asking me out but I wasn't attracted to him. Over time I got to know him as a person and see the real him and fell in love with him..didn't work out then so I walked away. A bloke I have a child too was absolutely gorgeous but once got to know him properly, I found that he had a shite personality and was immature so I ended that relationship. Both made me realise something..it's definitely about personality and sense of humour..looks ain't everything, they're just a bonus xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's more important in the fab world?

Curious to know peoples opinion

Neither, it's whether they 'put out' on the first meet or not

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Looks. "

All the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality before looks, although they are important too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to find the face attractive, but if the conversation is dire, there’s not much chance if meet that person

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"When I was a teenager there was a lad who kept asking me out but I wasn't attracted to him. Over time I got to know him as a person and see the real him and fell in love with him..didn't work out then so I walked away. A bloke I have a child too was absolutely gorgeous but once got to know him properly, I found that he had a shite personality and was immature so I ended that relationship. Both made me realise something..it's definitely about personality and sense of humour..looks ain't everything, they're just a bonus xx"

That's the beauty of swinging, you don't have to really get to know them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh this one again eh?

Both, it is both. It will always be both. Nobody is going to sleep with me if they don't find me attractive to look at. Nobody is going to sleep with me if they don't like my personality.

Based purely on fab and profile scrolling, looks are more important because generally if they don't have any physical attraction they won't even bother to know your personality in the first place.

I will add, there are some that don't care about personality due to their interests purely being about fuck and go. So it's all about looks. "

And I'll add there are also those that don't care about either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Same. I dreamt of a gorgeous FHM top 100 woman and somehow managed to pull one. She was an absolute idiot. I know toilet seats with more personality than her. Since then I dont dream of the beautiful generic 'hot' woman that society tells us is beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an attraction as well as the personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence/Personality for me but most people use me for my looks

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Both! Hot with a good personality and a sense of humour, that's the elusive grail I look for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its looks on here i’m screwed.

All y’all missing out on my endowed personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know that the looks don't taint your impression of personality though?

That's happened to me, once or twice.

Spun atoms by great looks, tight she was brilliant, and only afterwards realised, oh dear, not compatible at all, and if I wasn't thinking with the small brain, would have known that from the get go!

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

If I had to pick, it would be looks everytime. A good personality doesn't get me wet

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Personality first. Got to have a laugh.

Looks isn't as important.

Fortunately most of the ladies on here are pretty.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to talk a lot over messages first before even seeing a pic so I guess personality first, then showing faces we can both either run or take our chances

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

"What's more important in the fab world?

Curious to know peoples opinion

Yep, I've got both.

A big dick and modesty too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality first. Got to have a laugh.

Looks isn't as important.

Fortunately most of the ladies on here are pretty.

Must be 6ft tall

Jump tall buildings

6 pack within 6 pack

If ya dont have the above, then dont message

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It has to be both. Doesn’t have to be classically good looking, actually prefer people who look a bit different, but have to fancy them and connect.

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By *ertzMan
over a year ago

Sunderland

Both important, though personality can sometimes outweigh initial physical attraction the more I get to know someone. If we really hit it off I'm usually more attracted physically.. hard to separate the 2 for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's more important in the fab world?

Curious to know peoples opinion

Looks - it is inevitable in the world of internet ‘dating’. Pictures are always visible ahead of profile (and profile rarely reveals true personality). Chat might reveal personality - but most are too lazy, or have already made up their mind by self-imposed boundaries/criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has a lovely personality, they are instantly more attractive. I met some Absolute stunners, but once I got to know them. Those with crap personalities became unattractive.

For me anyway

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

As I mainly get done doggy I don't really care what they look like or what their personality is

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Has anyone ever realised they fancied someone too late , like fuck that guy / girl who just left the company was actually really hot , why the he’ll didn’t I pounce on them over the past year ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know that the looks don't taint your impression of personality though?

That's happened to me, once or twice.

Spun atoms by great looks, tight she was brilliant, and only afterwards realised, oh dear, not compatible at all, and if I wasn't thinking with the small brain, would have known that from the get go!

My want of someone is killed pretty quickly if they aren't as attractive in the personality department... One work has put a stop to my attraction before

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Looks get my attention but I stick around for the personality. So both for me.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"As I mainly get done doggy I don't really care what they look like or what their personality is

True dat!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I have to like their look, but I’ll only fancy those with personality.

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Mostly personality, let's say a 75/25 split.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"As I mainly get done doggy I don't really care what they look like or what their personality is

True dat!

Of course, I'm sure it works both ways for them too

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"Both. Looks attract. Personality to make me want to bed them."

What she said!

Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I mainly get done doggy I don't really care what they look like or what their personality is

That's worth noting

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I would say personality is the most important to me, because if I think someone's a dick or they bore me to tears then I don't even want to be in their company never mind anything else. Whereas someone with an amazing personality who makes me smile or laugh instantly becomes more attractive to me.

On the other hand, there still has to be physical attraction, otherwise they'll just stay as friends and nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm greedy and selfish and therefore need both amazing looks and an amazing personality for me to want to fuck someone. But you need physical attraction in the first instance something people seem to forget. You're shallow if you want a face photo with the first message and " really shallow " for staring your preferences.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Definitely personality.....but need to fancy them and that needs looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd pick intelligence and kindness over everything"

Very much so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know that the looks don't taint your impression of personality though?

That's happened to me, once or twice.

Spun atoms by great looks, tight she was brilliant, and only afterwards realised, oh dear, not compatible at all, and if I wasn't thinking with the small brain, would have known that from the get go!

My want of someone is killed pretty quickly if they aren't as attractive in the personality department... One work has put a stop to my attraction before "

One word even

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

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"How do you know that the looks don't taint your impression of personality though?

That's happened to me, once or twice.

Spun atoms by great looks, tight she was brilliant, and only afterwards realised, oh dear, not compatible at all, and if I wasn't thinking with the small brain, would have known that from the get go!

My want of someone is killed pretty quickly if they aren't as attractive in the personality department... One work has put a stop to my attraction before

One word even

Yeah I get that, as much as I might like someone initially, once I've got the ick then that's it, there's no going back.

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

"How do you know that the looks don't taint your impression of personality though?

That's happened to me, once or twice.

Spun atoms by great looks, tight she was brilliant, and only afterwards realised, oh dear, not compatible at all, and if I wasn't thinking with the small brain, would have known that from the get go!

My want of someone is killed pretty quickly if they aren't as attractive in the personality department... One work has put a stop to my attraction before

One word even

Yeah I get that, as much as I might like someone initially, once I've got the ick then that's it, there's no going back. "

Exactly this x

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