FabSwingers.com forum: Safe word

By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

What is it and how often is it used?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SweetPotato!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bernard

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Cockwobble.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘Get the fuck off me!!!’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's used usually in BDSM scenes when the bottom/submissive wants to stop play, or indicate their close to their limit.

People use different words depending on what they prefer, personally I use yellow to mean slow down and red to mean stop.

This is just my own experience, every d/s dynamic/ scene is different depending on the people involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never needed one i use instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harder

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

Great safe words guys, some are very random

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've only ever used red. Only had to use it once as I really needed to pee

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Try it and die

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I struggle to speak in subspace so they're a bit pointless for me. M knows my tells though so know I'm safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

veruka............ never had to use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trev

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hedge fund.

Saw it on a documentary once. Quite tickled me.

Trafguc light system simple and works. Red... Stop. Yellow... Slow down. Green... Carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trev

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trevago so that means book the late room

clever

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I never used them - if I said stop it meant stop.

If bound and gagged and unable to speak we would agree a hand signal beforehand, that was as close as I got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try it and die"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pineapple

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"more "

Is the correct answer. However ‘I’m calling the Police’ usually works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine was taken away years ago when I didn't need it any more. It was lullaby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try it and die"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giraffe. Ive never used it, too stubborn

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Try it and die

It's quite effective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harder

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Over the past year a " house safeword " has been rolled out across kink clubs in the Midlands

Safe words have drawbacks though.

Nothing is better than honest communication, be it verbal or non verbal

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

Don’t

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"It's used usually in BDSM scenes when the bottom/submissive wants to stop play, or indicate their close to their limit.

People use different words depending on what they prefer, personally I use yellow to mean slow down and red to mean stop.

This is just my own experience, every d/s dynamic/ scene is different depending on the people involved."

We only use red though Amber and green would mean the same as yours if S ever needed to use them. He hasn't ever used red yet either. I've stopped play a few times when he's zoned out and is bleeding from head to toe though

I've let others play with him before and they have never needed it either. He's good to read. Though one person almost stopped it cos he swore once as they were kicking the shit out of him... They asked me and I replied "no that's him getting turned on"!lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Giraffe. Ive never used it, too stubborn"

I had a bet once , 5mins , I was so convinced she would, she proved me so wrong , women can be soooo stubborn

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"It's used usually in BDSM scenes when the bottom/submissive wants to stop play, or indicate their close to their limit.

People use different words depending on what they prefer, personally I use yellow to mean slow down and red to mean stop.

This is just my own experience, every d/s dynamic/ scene is different depending on the people involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had one or set one up but think we should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc"

Why not?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?"

Because these words can be used in jest, or if you are doing certain role plays they maybe used. This can lead to confusion and that is dangerous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never needed one. Always said 'no' or 'stop' and expect it to be heard and respected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harder biach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?

Because these words can be used in jest, or if you are doing certain role plays they maybe used. This can lead to confusion and that is dangerous"

They're pretty clear and unambiguous though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meatloaf

Because I'd do anything for love but I wont do that.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?

Because these words can be used in jest, or if you are doing certain role plays they maybe used. This can lead to confusion and that is dangerous

They're pretty clear and unambiguous though "

It's whatever works best with you and your Dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'We' had 'chicken' true story

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"'We' had 'chicken' true story "

Chicken obviously meant more

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I struggle to speak in subspace so they're a bit pointless for me. M knows my tells though so know I'm safe "

Subspace is a tricky one, you almost enter in to a type of trance as you full awareness is external and on the submissive, there is little room for a lot of cognitive thought.

Depends on the type of play, however one thing is for the submissive to hold something in her hand and if she drops it, you stop, immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

I’ve got that tattoo

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?"

In role play you would expect them to be used as part of the play so you need to distinguish between real life and the play to now what is not consensual, or you could end up upsetting someone or much worse

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Red.

“ came very close at times “

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

I’ve got that tattoo

On your penis?

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

I’ve got that tattoo

On your penis? "

That would be a mouth full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

I’ve got that tattoo

On your penis?

That would be a mouth full

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I nearly had "lawsuit" as mine but decided that I better be a bit more serious and just went with "yellow"

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?

Red and Amber are the words I was told to use by my first Mistress and I ones I have used ever since.

Only ever used red once when I was blindfolded to a cross.

The previous week the Mistress was asking my thoughts on sounding and telling me how much she enjoyed it but hasn't done it in a long while.

While blindfolded she said this may feel a strange and took hold of my cock, at this stage I was convinced a sound bar was about to go down my japseye and used the safe word.

The Mistress removed the blindfold saying I was no fun to which She showed me a flashlight pussy and laughed saying I would never get to feel inside her toy pussy now

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?

Red and Amber are the words I was told to use by my first Mistress and I ones I have used ever since.

Only ever used red once when I was blindfolded to a cross.

The previous week the Mistress was asking my thoughts on sounding and telling me how much she enjoyed it but hasn't done it in a long while.

While blindfolded she said this may feel a strange and took hold of my cock, at this stage I was convinced a sound bar was about to go down my japseye and used the safe word.

The Mistress removed the blindfold saying I was no fun to which She showed me a flashlight pussy and laughed saying I would never get to feel inside her toy pussy now"

Anything being forced down my japs eye would result in some words, be them safe or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouchywawa which I've never had to use thankfully. That being said, if I push back while saying it then I dont really mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t have one, my other half is totally aware of when enough is enough and when I’m in sub space I struggle to formulate any kind of words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meatloaf

Because I'd do anything for love but I wont do that."

That's the best safeword I have heard ! Excellent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use Red but only with my partner.

We like rough scenes where I want to be able to say No, Stop, Please Don't, or struggle, without the scene ending.

He is the only person I do that with though. Everyone else, the standard words apply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use the traffic light system, but red just means back off for a minute...

Dragonfly on the other hand stops everything and I take her to a safe space. All about trust and aftercare in bdsm.

Vic's only safe worded once.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

"Never needed one. Always said 'no' or 'stop' and expect it to be heard and respected"

Amazes me how grown ups seem incapable of communicating what they want, or don’t want. As you said simple language is sufficient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used mine twice...

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Lou) 'oww that fucking hurt' is mine

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've used "Donald Trump" for years

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?

Because these words can be used in jest, or if you are doing certain role plays they maybe used. This can lead to confusion and that is dangerous

They're pretty clear and unambiguous though "

In bdsm they are not... I've been in an integration scene actaully begging them to stop and they didn't listen... Even my safe word didn't work. The only thing they wanted to know was the "secret password" which only one person knew the person who told me it..... I knew that. They knew that I knew that... I eventually told them when they dragged my friend in and started beating her so I would tell them (that was pre planned but I didn't know that) mind fuckery of the highest order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'We' had 'chicken' true story "
tonight?

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

"Used mine twice... "

What was the reasons Miss?

Happy to hear in PM if You would like to x

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Yes means yes

No means no

Stop means stop

And go means go.

No need for safe words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine is ' yes please'

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"mine is ' yes please'

How safe is it though?

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Yes means yes

No means no

Stop means stop

And go means go.

No need for safe words."

That's not necessarily true, not in BDSM or roleplay where I might be saying stop or "don't do it" within the role but the dom knows that this isn't a real instruction. This is why separate safe words exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"mine is ' yes please'

How safe is it though?

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safe as houses

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Mine was “chastity please”.

Bit of a mind fuck because if I used my safeword I was asking to be locked in chastity for an extended period.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Rather than "amber" I like the one used by the porn site that concentrates on kink. They replace it with "mercy". Whereas "amber" is neutral and may not mean much. Whereas "mercy" is used as a plea to take it easy and it has a certain resonance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes means yes

No means no

Stop means stop

And go means go.

No need for safe words.

Exactly this as I told daddy no at the weekend and he still did it

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘Now far be it for me to criticise your technique which I’m sure is quite satisfactory, nor do I wish to spoil any specific enjoyment which you may derive from thIs particular sexual pursuit that you have presently so earnestly commenced upon, but - and not in any way, shape or form wishing to appear ungrateful or uncivil, nor passing any form of judgement upon your obvious predilection towards this specific act, please, may I entreat you to desist immediately. Thank you.’

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

‘Kettle’s boiled’

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

You fucking c***

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You fucking c***"
clit...... clot...... chin....... coin?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"What is it and how often is it used?

You and every time I'm with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"mine is ' yes please'

How safe is it though?

It isn't, he just sounds like he's begging. Which some dommes like so I guess it could work, for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that’s my taxi outside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stubbornness stops me from using mine. Boundaries set in place beforehand tho

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Chub"...well its a kind of safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Red and amber - you can’t use don’t, stop , get off etc

Why not?

Because these words can be used in jest, or if you are doing certain role plays they maybe used. This can lead to confusion and that is dangerous

They're pretty clear and unambiguous though

I'd say that all sounds pretty dangerous

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By *ike_TrishaCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes means yes

No means no

Stop means stop

And go means go.

No need for safe words.

Exactly this as I told daddy no at the weekend and he still did it

This,

no doesn't always mean stop. Safewords are much clearer for those of us into certain kinks.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PINEAPPLE!!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What is it and how often is it used?

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I made the mistake of using the phrase ‘harder, ya bitch’ with a Domme as a safe phrase

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

different with different partners. The main one is ‘hieroglyphics’. Can’t mistake that one and I wanted to be an archaeologist when I left school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pull it out

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Ice cream

Only used once from memory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jammy Dodgers

Never had to use it.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

‘Harder’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends...

When tied and gagged...its hand signals.

When not gagged a word totally unassociated with play.

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Newport

No!

Keep it simple stupid, No means No, straight, safe and blunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes means yes

No means no

Stop means stop

And go means go.

No need for safe words."

That just won't work with CNC play. If that's your thing you need safe words or signs, I tissue held in your hand being dropped is one that works when a person is gagged for example. Don't remember having used is before but I can normally read her well and know when to stop or back off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always use the traffic lights system that way I wont ever forget it.

Amber (slow down)

Red (stop)

Its the best and most recognized in BDSM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fuck me NOW and its used a lorra lorra lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ow what the fuck, never used it yet

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