FabSwingers.com forum: Being fetishised....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you feel about it?

Love it? Hate it?

Are you happy to be sought after because you have a certain trait or skill or interest?

Do you like to be seen as a person first and BBW, unicorn, cuck, stocking lover, etc after

Tell me....

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m not too bothered really, I would rather be with someone who appreciates my size than someone just pretending to if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you feel about it?

Love it? Hate it?

Are you happy to be sought after because you have a certain trait or skill or interest?

Do you like to be seen as a person first and BBW, unicorn, cuck, stocking lover, etc after

Tell me.... "

That's my niche baby!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Person first. There are certain aspects of me that get fetishised. When they do I am out.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t think it’s ever happened to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont call me an older woman

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Dont call me an older woman

In the autumn of your life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh it can be very weird and uncomfortable being fetishised... not for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont call me an older woman

In the autumn of your life? "

just a little less springy chicken still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really into labels, other than my name or ocassional goddess..

In all seriousness, of course I want to be wanted for being just me, however maybe just me isn't always exciting enough. For the right person, it will be but also for that person, I'm willing (at times) to be that fantasy.

On some levels that says a lot about my insecurities, but ultimately I'm just a pleaser, I like to give and see reactions. So long as I enjoy it, then why not indulge it

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Dont call me an older woman

In the autumn of your life?

just a little less springy chicken still"

Rubbery chicken!! That’s a new fetish!

But you’ll always be a younger woman to me!!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m not too bothered really, I would rather be with someone who appreciates my size than someone just pretending to if that makes sense

Kind of agree, but if someone isn't interested in me and is only interested in my fat then I find it a turn-off.

It's good when I meet someone who genuinely finds me arousing, but I'm more than just the size of my arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It dries me up like a dead rat in the sun. The quickest way to make sure you never get near me is to say how much you like bigger women or big tits.

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By *ottpair243Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield/Leeds

"How do you feel about it?

Love it? Hate it?

Are you happy to be sought after because you have a certain trait or skill or interest?

Do you like to be seen as a person first and BBW, unicorn, cuck, stocking lover, etc after

Tell me.... "

Great topic chick!

The thing is, sites like these just inherently objectify persons- the labels come with it like the examples you gave and therefore how easy it is to be fetishised- based on that info or pics. Even where you can manage your pics on profile, you can choose certain categories they fall into or the sexual interests ticked on a profile. So it’s just part of the territory, not really bothered by it.

Considering it’s a hook up site that would probably be the first/easiest thing most would look for- “do you fall within the label/category I/we like” to progress conversations meets etc; fairly or unfairly. We combine them but try to ensure we balance our attraction (or whatever label that tickles or fancy) with person and their personality etc (hence why socials are important for us).

All an inexact science surely and depends on who you are and what you like; what you’re looking for or will tolerate.

Great thread!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It can be a warning sign that my needs may get overlooked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't like being called a BBW it's just fetishising fat women and I don't think that's right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a warning sign that my needs may get overlooked"

Couldn't of said it better myself

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

It depends on who by a little for me too.

I get fetishized by men all to often and when your profile says I'm not into men at all it can be annoying as you know they've not even bothered to look and find out you're also a person.

Women are entirely different in how they do it as they talk to the person first and done that way it can be lovely.

That sort of fetishizing I'm happy to be the subject of as it's also coming from a learning and finding out about you and your quirks rather than just getting laid.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think it depends on how it comes across, someone saying they have a thing for redheads and explain why can be kind of nice.

However, conversations which start as I've never had a redhead, typically followed by if I keeps my pubic hair or not, erm hello I am a person thank you.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I get a lot of men message me wanting to meet so they can lick or wank into my armpit hair. But they’re pretty open about that.

I just say no.

I’m more than just a fluffy set of armpits goddamnit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything is fetishised these days.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

People want to spunk on my specs

They're very disappointed when I say I usually wear contacts. Short sightedness is sexy apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a convenient short hand.

I don't have an issue with being classed as a bbw. I prefer people who are attracted to me because they like larger women rather than someone just after sex.

We all have our preferences/ fetishes. Mine is for men with beards and larger ladies x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People want to spunk on my specs

They're very disappointed when I say I usually wear contacts. Short sightedness is sexy apparently. "

Oh fuck. No it's not hot. I'm blind.

And you can clean the fuckers mate.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't mind what I am being acknowledged. But turning it into a sexual characteristic when it isn't one and I can't help it... No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't mind what I am being acknowledged. But turning it into a sexual characteristic when it isn't one and I can't help it... No."

Spot on!!!

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Interesting topic! As a straight, cisgender white British meal you can imagine how marginalised I am, so obviously I'm an expert on this...

Seriously though. I'm too... ORDINARY to be fetishised generally I think. If people want to fetishise me because I have a beard or tattoos, that's okay by me, crack on. But those things are a choice, a conscious decision I made. If I had 'protected characteristics' though, say for example I was in a position that somebody had a fetish for me because of my race, or a disability, that sort of thing... I dunno about that. That seems kind of uncomfortable and not very appropriate, you know?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Interesting topic! As a straight, cisgender white British meal you can imagine how marginalised I am, so obviously I'm an expert on this...

Yes. Very much. I'm not sure if my stuff falls into protected characteristics, although it might. It's definitely stuff I can't do anything about. To be minding my own business and have someone turn something innocuous and non sexual about me into a kink... For me it's fucking gross to be honest.

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

Unlabel sexuality ...set thoughts free ...let them run wild to find a match

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"Dont call me an older woman

This when being messaged by someone 25 and I am only 5 years older than them. That’s just rude!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Dont call me an older woman

This when being messaged by someone 25 and I am only 5 years older than them. That’s just rude!! "

Oh god yes. 28 year old guy, love to be with an old lady blah blah. Piss off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bi transvestite (essentially a single bi Male dressed up) I guess the contacts I get are primarily fetish based. I see posts from single guys discussing their difficulties, and I have to say I have no complaints about my fab success. The primary difference is the dressing I suppose. It is primarily fetish motivated for me so I am fine with peoples interactions with me being based on the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a bi transvestite (essentially a single bi Male dressed up) I guess the contacts I get are primarily fetish based. I see posts from single guys discussing their difficulties, and I have to say I have no complaints about my fab success. The primary difference is the dressing I suppose. It is primarily fetish motivated for me so I am fine with peoples interactions with me being based on the same."

#note to self ... try not to over use the word primarily #

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By *augthy couple2Couple
over a year ago

bradford

Mrs a Peel caters from gents who have nylons fetish

Message us for details

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some people don't like it, some do. I don't really mind but I do go

when people tell me that older women "know what they want and how to get it"

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's hard not to be seen as a label on here, bbw, unicorn, older, when it is just pictures and text that is seen first. I'm more than just a label but me as a person doesn't come through until you talk to me through messaging x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't think liking a certain type of person is fetishising them anyway, it's just attraction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't think liking a certain type of person is fetishising them anyway, it's just attraction. "

This is true.

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By *unnesscoupleMan
over a year ago

Inverness

Just checked your profile, you sexy young thing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't think liking a certain type of person is fetishising them anyway, it's just attraction. "

Yes. There's a difference between liking something and fetishising it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Person first. There are certain aspects of me that get fetishised. When they do I am out."

Same

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I think there is a difference between fetishizing certain characteristics and being attracted to certain things, although in can be a tricky thing to distinguish! For example, I've had a lot of guys say "you look so innocent" and tell me how hot they find the "Mum next door" thing. I wouldn't count that as a fetish, unless it was their sole topic of conversation and they weren't interested in anything else about me.

Mrs TMN x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think there is a difference between fetishizing certain characteristics and being attracted to certain things, although in can be a tricky thing to distinguish! For example, I've had a lot of guys say "you look so innocent" and tell me how hot they find the "Mum next door" thing. I wouldn't count that as a fetish, unless it was their sole topic of conversation and they weren't interested in anything else about me.

Mrs TMN x"

Yeah the creepy fixation is a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs TMN x

Yeah the creepy fixation is a clue."

I love swing dresses. Do you wear swing dresses all the time? They are so sexy dont you agree? How many swing dresses you got?

That sort of thing?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Kinda get used to it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Mrs TMN x

Yeah the creepy fixation is a clue.

I love swing dresses. Do you wear swing dresses all the time? They are so sexy dont you agree? How many swing dresses you got?

That sort of thing?"

Bet I could fuck you in one. Cover it in cum. Oh you look so innocent, wow the skirt hits the knee, and I'm going to take you oh baby oh baby.

Yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs TMN x

Yeah the creepy fixation is a clue.

I love swing dresses. Do you wear swing dresses all the time? They are so sexy dont you agree? How many swing dresses you got?

That sort of thing?

Bet I could fuck you in one. Cover it in cum. Oh you look so innocent, wow the skirt hits the knee, and I'm going to take you oh baby oh baby.

Yeah."

I think I have just cum

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Lol

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

"It's hard not to be seen as a label on here, bbw, unicorn, older, when it is just pictures and text that is seen first. I'm more than just a label but me as a person doesn't come through until you talk to me through messaging x"

I fight with labels .

Been given many .

Mostly from people making false assumptions based on lack or incorrect information , inability to ask makes them jump to conclusions.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Is fetishising when a person takes it too far and has an obsession with size or hair colour or feet for example. Does that differ from a person who likes different qualities in different people. Some men like bigger girls but being a feeder is a bit extreme I think. Fetishising sounds quite extreme to me.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Is fetishising when a person takes it too far and has an obsession with size or hair colour or feet for example. Does that differ from a person who likes different qualities in different people. Some men like bigger girls but being a feeder is a bit extreme I think. Fetishising sounds quite extreme to me."

Bloody hell, never thought I'd see the day when we agreed on something

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Bloody hell, never thought I'd see the day when we agreed on something

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I have a fetish for women in high heels but but doesn't matter if the girls are busty, slim, larger, red or blonde. Am I fetishising the woman or the shoes? And women in rubber and PVC..

Not sure ..

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Maybe it's not a fetishism in the part of the men who talk to me about red hair, but maybe objectification? Some come across as though I'm something to cross off their list, I've never had a redhead is a common one. You're correct fetishism is more extreme than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't everyone sought after because they have traits or skills or some indefinable quality that attracts another?

That seems a long way from fetishising, doesnt it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I’m fetishised when guys pick me just because I’m attractive with a good body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not hugely bothered, whether it's because I have tattoos, a big butt, long hair, will play as a unicorn or whatever, they're all aspect of who I am- as long as I'm seen as a person rather than only one of these features that's what's important.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Respect to you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think the line for me is where it's only X characteristic that matters.

Not, I like Swing for a bunch of reasons including (fetish).

But omg, (fetish). I've never had one of those! That's so hot I have to have you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the line for me is where it's only X characteristic that matters.

Not, I like Swing for a bunch of reasons including (fetish).

But omg, (fetish). I've never had one of those! That's so hot I have to have you!"

I have recently developed a fetish for swing dresses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm.

I wouldn't want to fetishied for one aspect of myself. I'd rather be thought of attractive because of my whole package.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think the line for me is where it's only X characteristic that matters.

Not, I like Swing for a bunch of reasons including (fetish).

But omg, (fetish). I've never had one of those! That's so hot I have to have you!

I have recently developed a fetish for swing dresses

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