FabSwingers.com forum: Schadenfreude

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Taking pleasure at another's suffering. Is this something you're guilty of at times?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes... especially guilty when you've been framed is on

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

On here very recently. And I felt very bad upon reflection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Taking pleasure at another's suffering. Is this something you're guilty of at times?"

I'd say so, like if trump stubbed his toe or something.... I'd take pleasure in that.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Serious suffering no, but in a minor way I suppose everyone is guilty of it. The guy at work I don't like spilled water all over himself the other day and I had a little snigger to myself.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm guilty of it when there's a sense of justice about it, wrongs being righted. But I try to keep it quiet and not let it fester.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Had it done too many times to me and it's ass ugly. I never want to be like that.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Taking pleasure at another's suffering. Is this something you're guilty of at times?"

Pleasure in another suffering no never

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No. Had it done too many times to me and it's ass ugly. I never want to be like that. "

I don't think it's a doing, it's a feeling. I never act on my schadenfreude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Had it done too many times to me and it's ass ugly. I never want to be like that.

I don't think it's a doing, it's a feeling. I never act on my schadenfreude."

No I get that

no one should be condemned for feeling anything, our feelings are ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes, I do. Especially if there's a degree of 'justice' about it or them "being hoisted on their own petard".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, I can't say I do.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Taking pleasure at another's suffering. Is this something you're guilty of at times?"

Only Brexit voters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in general life no. If a paedophile got beat up in prison then that kind of thing I would take pleasure in.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

No, unless it's a vile person like a peado/rapist!

Jo.Xx

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Only when it's consensual

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

When the person who ruined my life had some bad karma back? Yes absolutely

I wont laugh about it but I'm pleased he has some bad things happen although itll never be on the level that he willingly caused me.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it's a question of degree. Most of my schadenfreude is very minor, like ha, good to see things come around. Lasts for a second or two

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In a trivial sense then yes

To someone that had really wronged me then I might allow myself a wry smile of satisfaction/justice if something came back round to bite them in the bum.

Generally though I tend not to allow myself to get so bent out of shape about the actions of others to take any great pleasure from bad things happening to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally "

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

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"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

There is a sense of satisfaction more than pleasure for me, when karma finally catches up with someone who has wrong me.

But I also don't actively seek that information either.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There is a sense of satisfaction more than pleasure for me, when karma finally catches up with someone who has wrong me.

But I also don't actively seek that information either."

Yes, this.

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over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Generally though I tend not to allow myself to get so bent out of shape about the actions of others to take any great pleasure from bad things happening to them."

Yes, it's much the same for me. I also feel bad for people who experience suffering, regardless of if they've been a twunt to me. It's not pleasant for anyone to go through pain (not in the literal sense).

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Generally though I tend not to allow myself to get so bent out of shape about the actions of others to take any great pleasure from bad things happening to them.

We getting our "thing we agree on" out the way early this year?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like. "

If you're a Liverpool fan I genuinely didn't know and it wasn't directed at you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of laughing at people falling over or things like that but I wouldn't say I am guilty on a more serious level.

I'm not one to hold grudges but then I've been lucky not to have been seriously wronged by anyone, maybe it would be different if it was someone I had grown to hate.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Tbh no - not really. I think someone gave an example of a colleague spilling water on themselves - that I might find amusing - but I wouldn’t find satisfaction in anything ‘worse’ than that.

For instance - two people on here that I’ve had ‘history’ with - in a bad way - have both found love - and I’m genuinely happy for them. Even though I’m not their greatest fans I’d feel no pleasure if it didn’t work out.

I’m more of a ‘live and let live’ kinda gal - though if I’m honest I hope Trump - and Johnson - stub that toe REALLY hard!

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By *rjimMan
over a year ago

nr bristol

Just call me...MR. Schadenfreude

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

I'd laugh if Katie Hopkins fell on her nose .......Is that wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like.

If you're a Liverpool fan I genuinely didn't know and it wasn't directed at you xx"

It’s ok i can take it. We’ve been hated for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a thought of "couldn't happen to a more deserving arsehole" when it's someone who has behaved in a manner that's bang out of order. Glad? I can't say I am, but I do have a sense of "justice being served" kinda thing. Not even relief but more like balance being restored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Generally though I tend not to allow myself to get so bent out of shape about the actions of others to take any great pleasure from bad things happening to them.

When my ex's mate told me in passing that my ex in a d*unken stupor was mouthing off to 6 blokes in a pub thinking he was something special and ended up getting the shit kicked out of him by all of them I wasn't thrilled, but I admit my first response was "so he got his just desserts then, it's only what he did to me over the years.... karma does come through in the end" and yes, I slept more soundly that night and I don't feel guilty for it.

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

"Taking pleasure at another's suffering. Is this something you're guilty of at times?"

I wouldn’t take pleasure in any person suffering. However, a moment of “heh, karma caught up with you” might happen for the small few who have wronged me, within reason.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Generally though I tend not to allow myself to get so bent out of shape about the actions of others to take any great pleasure from bad things happening to them.

We getting our "thing we agree on" out the way early this year?

I'm aiming for three things this year. Don't let me down GM.

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm guilty of it when there's a sense of justice about it, wrongs being righted. But I try to keep it quiet and not let it fester."

This. If there is a sense of justice then I feel it. Other than that I don’t really get it. Always a little worried that maybe something will happen to me if I take joy in it.

Oh... but I love United losing of course (can’t stop being a bloke)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like.

If you're a Liverpool fan I genuinely didn't know and it wasn't directed at you xx

It’s ok i can take it. We’ve been hated for years.

You know how if you go to watch top flight football you kind of get used to seeing famous players up close but every now and then someone will still make your heart skip a beat? I can remember so clearly being at Highbury and thinking "oh my god... that's Ian Rush!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like.

If you're a Liverpool fan I genuinely didn't know and it wasn't directed at you xx

It’s ok i can take it. We’ve been hated for years.

He’s a really nice guy

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

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"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like.

If you're a Liverpool fan I genuinely didn't know and it wasn't directed at you xx

It’s ok i can take it. We’ve been hated for years.

He’s a really nice guy

He's nicer than the other Chuckle brother John Alridge

.....To you, to me. Great partnership though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only when my football team wins and our rivals lose

I tend to feel empathy and a sense of there but for grace, normally

Actually yes... Not a person as such but if Liverpool FC went into liquidation and the stadium was burnt to the ground I would laugh until I gave myself a hernia

Then I'd laugh a bit more

I don’t feel that way about Man United, Everton, Chelsea, Arsenal and City. But I do smile when they lose or things don’t work out with expensive signings or managers I don’t like.

If you're a Liverpool fan I genuinely didn't know and it wasn't directed at you xx

It’s ok i can take it. We’ve been hated for years.

He’s a really nice guy

He's nicer than the other Chuckle brother John Alridge

.....To you, to me. Great partnership though

"
For sure, John is a bit dour and miserable at times but his heart is in the right place and he does a lot behind the scenes too.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Not really no, because even when I really don't like someone I still have a degree of empathy.

Ie Someone I used to work with had a very bad blow recently. I had some very bad run ins with this person in the past but I do still feel sorry for them now.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Not really no, because even when I really don't like someone I still have a degree of empathy.

Ie Someone I used to work with had a very bad blow recently. I had some very bad run ins with this person in the past but I do still feel sorry for them now.

I'm not sure the two are mutually exclusive. I tend to get a small amount of schadenfreude followed by empathy or compassion

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