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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know how it goes on Fabswingers and its other site Fabguys. A guy sends you a message, then you message him back. The conversation goes well, you're both interested in each other and both available at the same time. Then it's time to meet.

Now he goes quiet, he's suddenly offline for ages, doesn't read your messages - or if he does read your messages, he ignores you or makes up endless excuses about not being able to meet you.

WHY???

This is making me feel so depressed. It isn't complicated: two available guys arranging to meet up. Should be that simple surely? No, it isn't.

I really do feel I'm under a bad luck curse/jinx. 100% failure. Nobody at all actually meeting me for such a long time.

I'm only 38 and dreading if this is the end. Dying alone. Unwanted. I'm not ugly btw, but it feels like I am!

Apologies for sounding so depressed, but I'm fed up with it. Also apologies that I don't mention women: I'm not into women, so can't help there.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

That’s a pain the arse, isn’t it? Metaphorically speaking.

Perhaps they don’t have much to go in profile wise - perhaps if there was more there, they might think there was more - if you know what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know anymore.

I have zero social skills. Can't do any of that well.

My profile is worded simply and straight to the point. I try to talk "horny" in messages with guys, but as with every attempt I make - it ALWAYS fails.

Guys are like circuit breakers: switch off without warning and never come back on!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Oh, don’t bother trying to chat them up! Men are visual not cerebral.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Don't feel down OP!

Come join in the forum nonsense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh, don’t bother trying to chat them up! Men are visual not cerebral. "

What you mean?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Don't feel down OP!

Come join in the forum nonsense "

Yes!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Unfortunately OP, it happens to many of us. Cheer up, men are like buses

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"I don't know anymore.

I have zero social skills. Can't do any of that well.

My profile is worded simply and straight to the point. I try to talk "horny" in messages with guys, but as with every attempt I make - it ALWAYS fails.

Guys are like circuit breakers: switch off without warning and never come back on!"

Change up, my dude. If you try to talk in that way and it isn't going so cool... talk about sonething else. Maybe you'll find some other common ground that way.

It's a maybe. But doing the same thing seems like its not making you happy

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Don't feel down OP!

Come join in the forum nonsense

Yes! "

Yay! Hopefully I'm helping!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Don't feel down OP!

Come join in the forum nonsense "

...also, this.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Don't let it get you down OP.

People can be fickle on here, some just enjoy the chase, and some are timewasters. But...there are some good genuine people on here too.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I think it's where you live. I moved from there. I know what the men like there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's where you live. I moved from there. I know what the men like there "

You've done the right thing!

Hate it here. Miserable place. People care more about money than other people.

Hope you're enjoying where you live now?

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I don't play games online (honestly!) but....have found that "talking horny" as you mentioned often gives the guy enough that he no longer is up for meeting.

At the same time--if he just disappears, was he worth meeting in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't play games online (honestly!) but....have found that "talking horny" as you mentioned often gives the guy enough that he no longer is up for meeting.

At the same time--if he just disappears, was he worth meeting in the first place?

"

Sadly there are too many who just "disappear" for no rhyme or reason.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I think it's where you live. I moved from there. I know what the men like there

You've done the right thing!

Hate it here. Miserable place. People care more about money than other people.

Hope you're enjoying where you live now? "

It's the best thing I did

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know it's mostly down to luck.

My ex (who is older than me) could pull all the REALLY good looking guys. He was always lucky. Those same guys he pulled, I only pulled two of them. That was a few years ago now.

As for me. Not anymore. Yes, when I was younger I could pull more guys and rarely I did get lucky and pull a hot guy. But now I'm 38, it's like being in a world where I don't exist. Perhaps it's all a bad dream? I wish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your head space.

Add a new picture

Change wording on your profile.. Anything minor changes.

Use the site to chat n join in forums.

Have the notion your not meeting.. Boom be like buses 2 at once.. Well you never know

Good luck x

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

OP I think people want validation. If you agree to meet - they're on a high. You like them.

If they meet you, there is the chance that you'll say 'no thanks'

If they don't meet you, in their head they're still validated.

They don't give a shit that you're feeling rubbish.

It's happened to me as well, people have asked, I've said yes then they've not replied again. It's not something I did or said because I'd not done or said anything.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it's mostly down to luck.

My ex (who is older than me) could pull all the REALLY good looking guys. He was always lucky. Those same guys he pulled, I only pulled two of them. That was a few years ago now.

As for me. Not anymore. Yes, when I was younger I could pull more guys and rarely I did get lucky and pull a hot guy. But now I'm 38, it's like being in a world where I don't exist. Perhaps it's all a bad dream? I wish!"

Wanting something so badly sometimes has the effect of repelling rather than attracting that what we want. Try less hard, relax, and think about something else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Change your head space.

Add a new picture

Change wording on your profile.. Anything minor changes.

Use the site to chat n join in forums.

Have the notion your not meeting.. Boom be like buses 2 at once.. Well you never know

Good luck x"

Perhaps playing hard to get may work?

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Just drop the "talking horny" to them, it puts most people off, I'm on fabguys too and anyone that tries to "sex text" me especially when non verified just sets alarm bells ringing. You sound like a lovely man so just have a normal conversation with them and it'll happen. Good luck xx

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I don't play games online (honestly!) but....have found that "talking horny" as you mentioned often gives the guy enough that he no longer is up for meeting.

At the same time--if he just disappears, was he worth meeting in the first place?

Sadly there are too many who just "disappear" for no rhyme or reason."

They had a wank and wife came home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds about right.

I'm giving up now. I admit defeat.

Thanks everyone for your replies

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Some women do this as well you know OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need to find other ways to kill the boring (spare) time of being single. I will certainly not find a boyfriend or any reliable regulars.

Time I went urban exploring. Great videos of this on YouTube. Some days I watch urban explorers on YouTube for hours and hours. Better than wasting time on these sites and being let down repeatedly (SEVEN times this month I've been stood up - we're only 18 days into it).

Sometimes I try hard video games like "I Wanna Be the Guy" or trying to win at Fortnite - very difficult to achieve (only pulling is harder than that!).

Before anyone says: yes I have some great friends who I see regularly.

Thank you everyone and take care.

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