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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Not me. I’m as rude and brash in real life as I am on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, on occasion

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I just put it down to that sometimes the nerves take over, they soon relax though

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It probably does but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't meet anyone who comes across as a keyboard warrior on here. If people are rude and on just to stir all the time I've no interest in meeting them. I don't mind difference of opinions but trolling is a turn off.

But ye I bet a lot are not like that in real life or you would hope they aren't anyhow.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’ve met people from the forum and being surprised both positively and negatively by both attitude/personality and their physical appearance

I’m in the agreement with the lady above though, I wouldn’t choose to meet anyone who comes across troll like and are consciously mean.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It probably does but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't meet anyone who comes across as a keyboard warrior on here. If people are rude and on just to stir all the time I've no interest in meeting them. I don't mind difference of opinions but trolling is a turn off.

But ye I bet a lot are not like that in real life or you would hope they aren't anyhow. "

This for me.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Yes it does provide the anonymity to be offensive, rude, brash. I still believe it takes a certain personality trait to be that way though. If they were completely different in person that would make me cautious.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

People say I'm the same in person, or better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someones an arsehole, they are an arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someones an arsehole, they are an arsehole. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's like the old fashioned poison pen letters. They were often written by the people you'd least expect.

We're often surprised at the difference between the actual person and the on line person but I expect people say the same about us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never believe all you read on the internet....

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"Never believe all you read on the internet...."

I think when people post on here for long enough, you get a good idea of their personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For myself I am polite and respectful on here and in person, but maybe 10 minutes first off in person I am a little reserved then I pop out my shell but everyone is different I guess

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

No am same on here as real life can be shy at 1st but allways respectfull of others

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

I did wonder why Mr Gorgeous shot off so quick last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit more reserved in person but I like to think I'm not rude or abrasive online either. Just a bit more animated.

I used to stammer as a kid so I've always expressed myself better on paper (or by keyboard).

I usually find it's the opposite for others though, they are reserved online but pretty much full on in person

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

Yes! Thank you. Someone has finally said it out loud.

I've found that for many years and even at work!

The most docile and quiet ones would write the most out of character and aggressive emails.

And I've seen the shy and timid ones give some very harsh and judgemental opinions (even pre-internet when I received customer service letters in a certain job).

It's sometimes not even anonymity, simlpy the detachment from a situation is enough to bring out confidence (and sometimes the worst in people)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be shy at first but if the guy is bubbly and can make me laugh them jitters soon disappear and the fun takes over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
nope, you are either rude and brash or you arent

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By *ellsuitedMan
over a year ago

Elstree

If someone is rude on here it will go no further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely the keyboard creates barrier people feel safer behind, just like people in cars can be far more aggressive to each other than if they were face to face.

To flip it a little, I’m an aspie (Aspergers) and struggle with personal communication but online the conversations happen more slowly and I can mange better, so I come across quieter in real life

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

Yes, this is common and i've seen this myself. The online filter can indeed embolden people who are otherwise more shy and reserved in person.

Not my case. What you see is definitely what you get

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

I would not be rude but find i do say things that i maybe would not say face to face.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?

I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash "

She wasn't saying she would consider meeting them, she was asking a question. Does being anonymous online, help people to be more rude/brash.

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I think I’m just as pervy in real as in my profile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m err ......just as awkward in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for me, the forums do allow me to be more confident. Conversely, the interactions and acceptance I have experienced in the forums have enhanced my personal confidence xx

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

I (Luke) am naturally quite an introvert. The thing I find about writing is that I can consider what I say more. There's no immediate pressure to answer a question. I can drop in and out of forum threads however I want. If I have nothing to say then I don't have to say anything. I can look at my words before I post them and rephrase or delete things, or just come back later.

None of that applies in a face-to-face social setting. Hopefully I do OK but I feel more pressure to be interesting and entertaining. I get nervous that I will end up with nothing to say.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"I think for me, the forums do allow me to be more confident. Conversely, the interactions and acceptance I have experienced in the forums have enhanced my personal confidence xx"

And circle of friends

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"I’m err ......just as awkward in real life"

You say you are confident on your profile ? Do you mean 'confident' in bed on there ?

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I've on occasion met people far nicer than expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once met up with someone that I'd been chatting with for a while but we'd never spoke over the phone before hand, she spoke in the same manner as they do on ab fab, at the time I was walking with crutches due to an injury, walking from the pub she was banging on doors and running away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think for me, the forums do allow me to be more confident. Conversely, the interactions and acceptance I have experienced in the forums have enhanced my personal confidence xx

And circle of friends "

A small circle. Small but perfectly formed x

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?

I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash

She wasn't saying she would consider meeting them, she was asking a question. Does being anonymous online, help people to be more rude/brash."

The thread title and indeed the first post strongly imply, almost say explicitly that OP has met such a person.

If I'm wrong, the title and thread are very misleading...

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?

I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash

She wasn't saying she would consider meeting them, she was asking a question. Does being anonymous online, help people to be more rude/brash.

The thread title and indeed the first post strongly imply, almost say explicitly that OP has met such a person.

If I'm wrong, the title and thread are very misleading...

"

Ah, it does, your right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It probably does but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't meet anyone who comes across as a keyboard warrior on here. If people are rude and on just to stir all the time I've no interest in meeting them. I don't mind difference of opinions but trolling is a turn off.

But ye I bet a lot are not like that in real life or you would hope they aren't anyhow. "

Met at a social event. Would not have chosen to meet away from site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?

I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash "

Came across at a group social. Would not have met through choice that’s for certain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its online, a lot of people think because no one is there they can be whoever they choose, an online version of themselves.

Then theres this site so everyone forgets we are human and just think they are don Juan or something and just act like sexual animals.

Plus there is a hell of a lot of ego's on here. People who want to be top fabbed pics or be the king or queen of sex.

I'm just myself, sarcastic, likes to be silly n finds the humour in most things me, no point pretending to be something you are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No im a cocky twat most of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been told a few times I am very much exactly how people expect me to be. I dunno if that’s good or bad but still

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

You don’t know anyone until you meet them in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don’t know anyone until you meet them in person. "

Agreed

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
totally agree...we are happy with our life and never over promise ....unlike some lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, some folk appear popular and dead nice online and then.....

Really though, online you can create a persona in whatever way you choose, whether it's the real you or not is up to you but it's a bit pointless on a sex site unless you're just planning on sitting behind a phone screen the whole time innit....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

shyness isnt something i suffer from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same miserable cunt in person that I am on here, just ask anyone who's met me (assuming they can remember who I am...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you meet someone who is rude to you online?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why would you meet someone who is rude to you online?"

Met him at a social event.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm the same miserable cunt in person that I am on here, just ask anyone who's met me (assuming they can remember who I am...)"

I remember meeting you. You're really not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same miserable cunt in person that I am on here, just ask anyone who's met me (assuming they can remember who I am...)

I remember meeting you. You're really not."

Hes a lucky twat then

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m taller in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don’t know anyone until you meet them in person. "

I still don’t know myself and a I’ve been 55 years at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don’t know anyone until you meet them in person. "
agreed and even then some

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Not me. I’m as rude and brash in real life as I am on here. "

No you're not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m taller in real life "

I’m shorter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m taller in real life

I’m shorter "
my knees are more muscley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m taller in real life

I’m shorter my knees are more muscley "

If I run to answer the phone naked, I get carpet burns on my bum cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m taller in real life

I’m shorter my knees are more muscley

If I run to answer the phone naked, I get carpet burns on my bum cheeks "
lol you run on your knees then or did you mean your nipples

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not me. I’m as rude and brash in real life as I am on here.

No you're not x"

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that I’ve met in real life have all been lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ones that I’ve met in real life have all been lovely "
thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ones that I’ve met in real life have all been lovely thank you "

I’ve not met you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ones that I’ve met in real life have all been lovely thank you

I’ve not met you "
you sure

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

I've found it to be the case both ways - people who don't give much away online are more open in person, and the opposite as you say.

It can be down to misinterpretation of the written word - it's easier to read people in person I find. Or some people use fab to create an entirely different persona, someone they want to be, or to troll. Pretty hard to tell sometimes!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.

In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "

Of course. People will often say on the internet things they wouldn't dare say to your face. Arseholes.

Shy and insecure people are often more creative and apparently outgoing online, than they are in person, but a long period of chatting is better at revealing the real person. Most people realise I am a twat fairly early on..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've known people I've worked with who have keyboard warrior traits. I dislike it. I think it's a known issue worldwide on sites and I'll avoid them, never getting to glimpse their issues and dis-ease. My heart goes out to people with life problems, typically excepting those causing pain for others whilst reasonably knowing or wanting to do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a keyboard warrior in real life i'm like stephen hawkins

Rip poor fella

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"You don’t know anyone until you meet them in person.

I still don’t know myself and a I’ve been 55 years at it "

Also true for a lot of people

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I've only met 1 person who wasn't what I thought they'd be like (non-fab lady, do not worry people I have met )

I like it here so as for rudeness etc, my real life is busy enough without causing drama by being a cock end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same miserable cunt in person that I am on here, just ask anyone who's met me (assuming they can remember who I am...)

I remember meeting you. You're really not."

You caught me on a good day. Ask anyone who's seen me at a social since.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

If they're quiet and shy they are weighing up whether you're worth going to prison for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ones that I’ve met in real life have all been lovely thank you

I’ve not met you you sure "

Yep, I’m positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ones that I’ve met in real life have all been lovely thank you

I’ve not met you you sure

Yep, I’m positive "
ahhhh but how can you be I'm the elusive pimpernel

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Sometimes the ones more chatty on WhatsApp are less chatty in real life and vice-versa, not necessarily a bad thing. Chemistry can also be very different in real life to text which can be disappointing, but I’m yet to meet someone who’s character surprised me, text is a good way to get to know what someone is like

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I have found this with some people. I've also met some people that have a friendly online persona that really aren't that pleasant in real life.

The internet does give people the anonymity to be whoever they want to pretend to be, but I think it's a bit pointless to send out a completely different persona if you actually intend to meet people - I would walk away if someone was completely different to the person that I'd chatted to online.

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