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Do you want the guy to show interest quick or take his time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you watch a utube video you get this guy talking about relationship advice on the commercials have you seen him too? He said that some ladies want you to show them interest quick and others want you to take the time with them what type of ladie are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood I guess and how long the bacon takes to cook

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Depends what you mean by showing interest. I don't like people to be too full on really quickly, but if they don't show any, I will move on.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I don't want a drop your pants and let me fuck you introduction. I like an easy flowing coversation, to get a feel for someone and let it build up naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have go say i was a very fast mover usually was offered sex or a social within the first few hours of messaging once flow has been established and rules passed

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I like to take time to chat with someone and see how we got on when there is no sex talk. Most of time I get from guys “ Wanna meet tonight?” What is quite upsetting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by showing interest. I don't like people to be too full on really quickly, but if they don't show any, I will move on."
Yes it was advice on dating and the beginning of a relationship with someone.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head."

Yes - it's like this pinnacle of daftness. I want to be treated like a human. Too little interest and I lose interest. I just like things to be relaxed and enjoyable and actually get a chance to know them.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Long gone are the days that I care what I "should" be doing.

You can never knowingly get it right and be successful everytime, so now I go at my own pace either they like it or they don't. It's on them to accept it or not, I have my own reasons for doing what I do and far too many other things on my mind to worry about it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’d like to know if someone fancies me or not. Much better all round I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be arsed with games if someone likes me I want to know. Life is too short

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Wait... I'm confused..

Is the question a case of making sure they know you are interested initially and then the speed at which that interest grows

OR

Finding somebody and then at what point do you shown interest, sooner or drag it out?

Because if its the former fair enough.

If its the latter surely its a simple yes you let them know you are interested from the start.

Dragging that initial interest out is just a dangerous game of them thinking are they interested or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I can't be arsed with games if someone likes me I want to know. Life is too short "

damn right.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I want someone to take the time to like me as a person rather than just like my photos. That’s way more meaningful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't be arsed with games if someone likes me I want to know. Life is too short

damn right."

Perfect answer, if you play games your only asking to lose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on my mood I guess and how long the bacon takes to cook "

I'm getting the impression that bacon plays a significant role in your life

Mr

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By *jangoMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's subjective of course but I prefer people to be reasonably up front about their intentions. If not, the relationship isn't in balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be upfront. But recognise for some that isn’t what they want. Hey ho!

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I want people to be themselves and go with what they're feeling. I'll have my response accordingly. Love upfront, with a bit of humility and curiosity. Anything goes when met or delivered with warmth and honesty. I appreciate it when someone is intense and takes risks and I appreciate when people are slow burning too. I can go either way. Not being afraid to communicate is attractive. Presence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on my mood I guess and how long the bacon takes to cook "

That depends on if you like your bacon fat crispy or not lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone’s different

The last man I was intimate with showed interest quickly, but it soon faded.

I like interest to remain , not wane after the horizontal shenanigans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet I’m a crap fuck

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I bet I’m a crap fuck "

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah "

You’re just too gorgeous

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah "

I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah

I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck"

What is up with all the compliments ...

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah

I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck

What is up with all the compliments ... "

Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah

I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck

What is up with all the compliments ...

Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism? "

Fair point

Thank you

Can you tell all the hot men in my area that I’m an ok fuck please

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah

I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck

What is up with all the compliments ...

Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism?

Fair point

Thank you

Can you tell all the hot men in my area that I’m an ok fuck please "

Better than ok!

It’s good to see you owning your sexiness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet I’m a crap fuck

No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah

I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck

What is up with all the compliments ...

Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism?

Fair point

Thank you

Can you tell all the hot men in my area that I’m an ok fuck please

Better than ok!

It’s good to see you owning your sexiness! "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think it very much varies from person to person, with some I've met it's been a slow burner where mutual interest grows over time, with others it's been fairly immediate from the get go where we've just "clicked" from that first message - the only constant has been that regardless of how the interest came about we've taken some time to chat and get to know each other better before meeting

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"When you watch a utube video you get this guy talking about relationship advice on the commercials have you seen him too? He said that some ladies want you to show them interest quick and others want you to take the time with them what type of ladie are you? "

I like both tbh it depends on the person and situation we are both in at the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head.

Yes - it's like this pinnacle of daftness. I want to be treated like a human. Too little interest and I lose interest. I just like things to be relaxed and enjoyable and actually get a chance to know them."
That is good way of seeing it, as you get to know the person more by taking the time rather than to quick and not know so much about them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you watch a utube video you get this guy talking about relationship advice on the commercials have you seen him too? He said that some ladies want you to show them interest quick and others want you to take the time with them what type of ladie are you?

I like both tbh it depends on the person and situation we are both in at the time"
That is right as well as it also depends on the person you meet

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I've been burned aa few times by this, occasionally byy being too eager too quickly (as in we're getting along over many texts ut does she see me as amusing, or as aa friend, so attempting to speed it up subtley andd getting a negative, or no response), or taking the slow burner approach and they lose interest.

Honest, no fear communication from both sides is key. Too many things can be misinterpreted otherwise and then everyone's frustrated.

Grr.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It does seem to depend from person to person how quick it moves along, that is purely down to the connection, how the conversation naturally flows etc. But if they come on to strong, to full on, talking about the future has me running a mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here you go

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over a year ago

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends. If i like them then i like them to show interest sooner rather than later.

If i’m not that interested then they can take as long as they like.

Also, don’t come on too heavy.

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over a year ago

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