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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I am often rushing about doing various activities in the evenings and at the weekend and I'm often asked why....why can't I just relax?

Well tonight I've had a rare night home and while it's been nice to have some cuddles with my cat I've spent the evening feeling more and more down.

I've ventured on to the dating apps again and have ended up feeling like the most unwanted person ever. I know I'm not beautiful, I know I'm not skinny but I am fun (I know I don't always come across like that on here!), I'm loving, I'm caring, I'm actually very active for a fatty.

I've sat here overthinking every last interaction.

I fucking hate this damn shelf! I sometimes wonder what is so terribly wrong with me.

Not sure why I'm posting this to be honest and I know there will be some smart arse replies but just needed to get it out of my head and not suitable for mainstream social media.

I just thought my life would be so very different than a single 39 year old with a cat.

Maudlin I know, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 47 single with no cat...!

Plus all of the above.. Lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm 47 single with no cat...!

Plus all of the above.. Lol"

Lol think the big birthday blues have hit hard this year.....I'm not 40 till bloody July!

Never been married, never even been asked.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm 34 and single and too don't like the dating apps where no-one matches... And if they do they don't talk. But I keep plodding on in the hope that things will change someday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think you’re lovely.

I’m single too having had my marriage collapse and my boyfriend get cold feet.

I’m sure there’s someone lovely as we are just around the corner xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Well I think you’re lovely.

I’m single too having had my marriage collapse and my boyfriend get cold feet.

I’m sure there’s someone lovely as we are just around the corner xx"

Awww thank you X

Sorry to hear about your marriage and boyfriend X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone

I live alone, never married, no kids, no meets, no messages, not even a cat!

Still have a great life though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think you’re lovely.

I’m single too having had my marriage collapse and my boyfriend get cold feet.

I’m sure there’s someone lovely as we are just around the corner xx

Awww thank you X

Sorry to hear about your marriage and boyfriend X "

Thanks. I’m jumping lots of men to get over it. Doing rather well at finding very fit guys at the moment.

NEXT PLEASE

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"You're not alone

I live alone, never married, no kids, no meets, no messages, not even a cat!

Still have a great life though

Yeah, I do have a great life and do lots of things but I just get lonely.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

So rarely get to see the word 'maudlin', it's a pretty word. Never see it in good circumstances, though.

I'm sorry you feel that way today, OP. Dating sites don't really have that option to vent and discuss like you just did... which is why I don't like 'em.

They don't have all these people to cheer you up too.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm 34 and single and too don't like the dating apps where no-one matches... And if they do they don't talk. But I keep plodding on in the hope that things will change someday

That's the thing. I bet loads of 'matches' but when I message.....nothing. Makes me wonder if it was their mates taking the piss or some pissed swiping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're not alone

I live alone, never married, no kids, no meets, no messages, not even a cat!

Still have a great life though

Yeah, I do have a great life and do lots of things but I just get lonely. "

A lot of people live alone these days, I guess it's just about being happy in your own company.

I'm very used to it and enjoy being on my own doing the things I like.

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

You must maintain a positive state of mind!

Negatives begets negativity.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I am 40 and not been married. Is it really a big deal these days?

Don’t put yourself under so much pressure. If you find something like online dating apps making you unhappy then don’t put yourself through it.

Learn to enjoy the alone time by changing what you do in it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I am 40 and not been married. Is it really a big deal these days?

Don’t put yourself under so much pressure. If you find something like online dating apps making you unhappy then don’t put yourself through it.

Learn to enjoy the alone time by changing what you do in it. "

Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage is no longer the sine qua non it used to be. A lot of married people want out anyway but find themselves to entangled to actually achieve it.

I'd say find what works for you, travel, get a lot of sex, find a job you enjoy and don't live your life to anyone's expectations (not saying you are).

We are all beautiful in our own ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am 40 and not been married. Is it really a big deal these days?

Don’t put yourself under so much pressure. If you find something like online dating apps making you unhappy then don’t put yourself through it.

Learn to enjoy the alone time by changing what you do in it.

Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason. "

I have low days too. I did a thread on loneliness a few weeks ago and it keeps popping up. If anything it drags me back there.

Hope you’re feeling happier today xxx

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Nothing wrong with living alone with a cat..... unless the cat in question thinks she runs the house

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I spend the majority of nights alone, hell i even spent new years eve home alone, music, quite a few beers and some top food- had a great night

I like my own space, do miss the company and conversation sometimes tho

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

This is why I have dogs. You will never feel like a cat lady with a dog making you laugh.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason. "

Maybe the thing to remember is the mental health adage - it’s ok to not be ok sometimes.

You’re a good person, hopefully you know that. Even billionaires with a dozen lovers having a party with a hundred people feel low sometimes. It comes, as long as it goes again you’re fine.

If it doesn’t go again, don’t ignore it. Happy to chat

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason.

Maybe the thing to remember is the mental health adage - it’s ok to not be ok sometimes.

You’re a good person, hopefully you know that. Even billionaires with a dozen lovers having a party with a hundred people feel low sometimes. It comes, as long as it goes again you’re fine.

If it doesn’t go again, don’t ignore it. Happy to chat

Thank you X

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I think fab can be better than dating sites it's often a much more accepting place as are fab social networking events and clubs.

I love the lifestyle and attitude of people I meet here most of the time that's all I'm seeking as everything else just occurs as it happens over time.

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