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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should regular people that agree to meet then back out at last minute with crapy excuses be black listen somehow?

It's not fair on genuine people, if you realise that they are unreliable, well let's face you wouldn't have juggled your week to accommodate them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some are genuine

some aren't

i rarely get let down, but then again i pick my prospective meets VERY carefully

i can generally tell a talker from a do-er

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had to cancel a meet when the guy was actually 5 mins from my house..

REASON.. my son had bumped his head bad at school...

It was last minute cancellation... couldnt be helped... and I didnt lose any sleep over cancelling.

why should people be blacklisted.. and actually if someone doesnt show up you can report it...

Cali

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Well your name would go to the list. You cancelled on me 10 mins before we were supposed to meet.

Or did you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this a lot on here .. why can't people just put it down to experience without wanting to black list people etc

How on earth would it work ... you can't black list someone because something came up and they couldn't make it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion."

I agree, life just gets in the way of the best made plans sometimes. Doesn't mean people should be punished for things out of their control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've cancelled a meet when I got trapped on the motorway behind a bad RTA on my way home from work. There was nothing I could do to get back in time.

Should we be blacklisted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

life happens and you can't help it if there's an emergency, my family always come 1st before any stranger and if there was even a minor problem I would cancel.

I was once in the middle of fun when I got a call to say my child had been sick and I was straight home to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blacklisted!! why?? for having a life outside of fab! if it happens once then put it down to unavoidable circumstances and move on! twice or more then just dont contact the person again! but if there was a blacklist button for peeps that miss one meet then half the site would be on it!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I have had to cancel a meet when the guy was actually 5 mins from my house..

REASON.. my son had bumped his head bad at school...

It was last minute cancellation... couldnt be helped... and I didnt lose any sleep over cancelling.

why should people be blacklisted.. and actually if someone doesnt show up you can report it...

Cali "

i was thinking this, was chatting over the weekend with a bloke we had to cancel with last month cos i came on...its not predictable now i am on the coil...i suppose we could have just let him come anyway

People have lives, its not hard to spot genuine reasons to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothin' stoppin you starting yer own private 'blacklist' if that's what floats yer boat.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Should regular people that agree to meet then back out at last minute with crapy excuses be black listen somehow?

It's not fair on genuine people, if you realise that they are unreliable, well let's face you wouldn't have juggled your week to accommodate them .

"

You roll the dice you take ya' chances.

I do appreciate how fucking annoying it is, trust me I do know. But I have also needed to back out of arrangements once or twice, not often I admit, but still I would hate to think I didn't have that option if it was needed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Def not me

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By *ady n the trampCouple
over a year ago

Chudleigh


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion."
wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion. wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home "

Changed their mind is not an emergency though is it...and you chose to drive to meet people you didnt know.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion. wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home "

I think that is really mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion. wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home "

exactly why i only choose local peeps for meets! you never know whats around the corner so to speak! (maybe thats why i dont get any replies tho, lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion. wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home "
WHAT!!! it was a family emergency, and if you choose to drive 250 miles for a meet more fool you

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Can I just say the OP has never cancelled on me, the comment was purely to show how it could be open to abuse.

Yvonne

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wont meet out the Midlands and if people dont like it they can feck off

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Damn I thought I had just got out of my Hospital appointment then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wont meet out the Midlands and if people dont like it they can feck off "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion. wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home "

My point was if people did on a regular basis, its not fair on those who make an effort......something unforseen , accident etc can happen to anyone, but regular accidents, means something else..... ..........isn't this a hot topic !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People sometimes have to cancel meets due to as above a family emergency to have them blacklisted would be bang out of order in my opinion. wonder if you would feel the same if you had just drove 250 miles to a meet only to be rang 15 mins before and told that they had changed their mind. mmmmmm long 250 mile drive home

My point was if people did on a regular basis, its not fair on those who make an effort......something unforseen , accident etc can happen to anyone, but regular accidents, means something else..... ..........isn't this a hot topic !"

but if it was happening regularly wouldnt u just stop contacting the person responsible! or am i missing something here?

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By *ady n the trampCouple
over a year ago

Chudleigh

well maybe we are all right. im sure all of us have been shit on from a great height at some point. catch me once, shame on you, catch me twice, shame on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i agree to meet someone who is out my area. i will make sure i have cammed chatted on the phone to make sure its not a wasted journey

but sometimes hindsight is a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well maybe we are all right. im sure all of us have been shit on from a great height at some point. catch me once, shame on you, catch me twice, shame on me "

i agree twith this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well maybe we are all right. im sure all of us have been shit on from a great height at some point. catch me once, shame on you, catch me twice, shame on me

i agree twith this"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should regular people that agree to meet then back out at last minute with crapy excuses be black listen somehow?

It's not fair on genuine people, if you realise that they are unreliable, well let's face you wouldn't have juggled your week to accommodate them .

"

People cancel all the time nothing you can do about it fact! Their reasons may be crappy but the real reason might be you came across in a negative way in the last few communications and they had second thoughts. There is always 2 sides to a story theirs may be very different to yours.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I think they should be flogged....publically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can usually tell from verifications and chatting whether they are likely to cancel . There are wannabes , pic hunters and simple time wasting tossers on here and it would be great to verify them publicly - like a badge on their profile describing them for what they are !

However we can't do this and folk will always defend the indefensible so use your own block system and maybe mention such people in private posts when it may help save someone else wasting their time ?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"I think they should be flogged....publically"

Steady on! A simple sign around their neck should suffice.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I think they should be flogged....publically

Steady on! A simple sign around their neck should suffice."

No.....I insist on a flogging, whilst they are wearing a sign around their neck.....and a rose up their arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they should be flogged....publically

Steady on! A simple sign around their neck should suffice.

No.....I insist on a flogging, whilst they are wearing a sign around their neck.....and a rose up their arse."

with or without the thorns

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I think they should be flogged....publically"

and this is meant to discourage me how?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they should be flogged....publically

and this is meant to discourage me how? "

Trust you lmao

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I think they should be flogged....publically"

Oh come on Jane!!! If you are flogging them because they don't turn up for meets, you aint gonna get much for them, are you? Bet it wouldn't even cover the costs!

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

only reasons I have ever cancelled a meet are a)have come on

b) am ill or

c) my kids

if someone wants to see them as flimsy excuses that is their problem...but I will not lose any sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to give people a chance but if it keeps happening then jog on its their loss.

Swinging is fun so putting presure on people if the have genuine reasons is a bit far.

Anyway after you have been in the scene as long as I have you can spot a timewaster a mile away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have cancelled before, and had people cancell out on us.....as the saying goes "shit happens" if thier reason sounds like bullshit dont bother with them again.....if it sounds genuine then perhaps one last chance....xxx

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