FabSwingers.com forum: Is too much sex destructive?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not gunna say too much as very personal, but a friend today told me that she thinks I’m being destructive as I “probably” use sex as an antidepressant. What do you guys all think? Is it destructive? If something makes you feel good is it really a bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Destructive to what? Over use of sex toys but that's about it.

Your friend is talking nonsense

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"Not gunna say too much as very personal, but a friend today told me that she thinks I’m being destructive as I “probably” use sex as an antidepressant. What do you guys all think? Is it destructive? If something makes you feel good is it really a bad thing? "

She’s right. Sexual addiction is as bad as alcohol or gambling. It’s a route to escapism for whatever reason and shouldn’t be taken lightly.

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Your friend is correct that to some people it is, that does not mean it’s you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say destructive as long as you're being careful. Unhealthy coping mechanism maybe. I used to do something similar, I'd have sex with people because it made me feel better about myself and let me forget how I was feeling for a while.

That in itself isn't bad. But I was avoiding dealing with my issues and masking them with the validation I got from sleeping with someone.

So I guess it depends a lot on why you're doing it and what else you're doing to help yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

do you thinks she might be right?

Is she qualified to make such a statement?

Is she a concerned friend who is trying to help you?

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Not as destructive as not enough sex.....thousands of people can attest to that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say destructive as long as you're being careful. Unhealthy coping mechanism maybe. I used to do something similar, I'd have sex with people because it made me feel better about myself and let me forget how I was feeling for a while.

That in itself isn't bad. But I was avoiding dealing with my issues and masking them with the validation I got from sleeping with someone.

So I guess it depends a lot on why you're doing it and what else you're doing to help yourself."

Might have kind of dawned on me this evening that I do tend to do this. Almost looking for proof that I’m attractive and wanted. I do suffer mental health (as 1000s on here do) and recognise when it’s worse and tend not to have sex then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That in itself isn't bad. But I was avoiding dealing with my issues and masking them with the validation I got from sleeping with someone.

So I guess it depends a lot on why you're doing it and what else you're doing to help yourself.

It's really good that you recognise that. My inbox is open if you ever want someone to talk to about it. Wishing you all the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That in itself isn't bad. But I was avoiding dealing with my issues and masking them with the validation I got from sleeping with someone.

So I guess it depends a lot on why you're doing it and what else you're doing to help yourself.

It's really good that you recognise that. My inbox is open if you ever want someone to talk to about it. Wishing you all the best."

Thank you

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'd say sex as an antidepressant is pretty constructive. Unless you're putting Yourself or anyone else at risk in some way.

Lots of things we do in life are 'sticky plasters' for a deeper issue but if you check in with your instincts, you will probably know yourself if there is an imbalance somewhere.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I think this question requires both a reflection as to what constitutes an excessive amount followed by an introspection as to ones personal motivation for said proclivity.

Ultimately, only the individual can deduce their intrinsic reasoning.

Now sexual injuries brought about due to excessive sexual relations on the other hand......well that’s entirely another matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it can be if you're having sex with lots of people who you wouldn't usually have sex with because you're feeling like shit and need that period of feeling good. Then it can leave you feeling worse after than you did before.

I don't think it's usually destructive though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think this question requires both a reflection as to what constitutes an excessive amount followed by an introspection as to ones personal motivation for said proclivity.

Ultimately, only the individual can deduce their intrinsic reasoning.

Now sexual injuries brought about due to excessive sexual relations on the other hand......well that’s entirely another matter

I enjoy a sexual injury or 2!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To much of anything is bad if it starts to control your life and stops you doing other things.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Sex is my therapy.

Seriously though, I do get very sad and low when I don't get it.

Jo.Xx

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Only you can answer this one yourself. You'll know in your heart of hearts if she's right

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"I think this question requires both a reflection as to what constitutes an excessive amount followed by an introspection as to ones personal motivation for said proclivity.

Ultimately, only the individual can deduce their intrinsic reasoning.

Now sexual injuries brought about due to excessive sexual relations on the other hand......well that’s entirely another matter

Mmmm achey sex muscles ... part of the fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just to clear things up a bit as I was perhaps a bit vague. I don’t sleep about with loads of people. But I do enjoy sex and have a fair amount. I get grumpy if I have to go 2 weeks without it hence why I joined Fab as FWB can’t keep up! Lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Its subjective and thus personal. Many things can have different aspects, positive or not. We have to decide for ourselves, consider our objectives etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see it being destructive but it could desensitise you to sexual pleasure and make it mundane.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I think it can be addictive and then perhaps destructive. Like any addiction.

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