FabSwingers.com forum: Breaking bad news

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On Tuesday evening I lost my nan after her being on palliative care for 2 weeks.

Losing her was hard enough but now I need to break it to my 8 year old son who has aspergers.

Does anyone have experience on the best way to do this? X

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

So sorry for your loss and no unfortunately xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Any aspergers parents help groups who can advise you, maybe on fb?

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

My condolences.

Michael Rosen's Sad Book is often recommend as a way of helping kids deal with grief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss.

If you are looking for direct advice I have nothing. I took advice from relate when I told my child about getting divorced and they were brilliant.

Perhaps get some professional advice from your GP / local nurse, or scour Google - there's a website called kidshealth I think that has all sorts of info....

Big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On Tuesday evening I lost my nan after her being on palliative care for 2 weeks.

Losing her was hard enough but now I need to break it to my 8 year old son who has aspergers.

Does anyone have experience on the best way to do this? X"

I'm sorry for your loss. I don't have any experience but I do know there is helpful information on the National Autism website under bereavement/illness. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (her) dont have personal experience of this or advice to share that may help, but I want to say how very sorry I am to hear of your loss. I am sure that you will inform your little boy in the best way possible as you know him best, my thoughts are with you and a virtual cwtch is on it's way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you very much x

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By *hisCharManMan
over a year ago

South Manchester

"On Tuesday evening I lost my nan after her being on palliative care for 2 weeks.

Losing her was hard enough but now I need to break it to my 8 year old son who has aspergers.

Does anyone have experience on the best way to do this? X"

There’s a children’s book called Badger’s Parting Gifts, really helped out with my kids when my Father died a few year ago.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you I hope you find the advice you are looking for x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My condolences.

Michael Rosen's Sad Book is often recommend as a way of helping kids deal with grief.

So sorry for your loss OP, and really recommend this book too.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I’m so sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you I hope you find the advice you are looking for x"

I'd really like to echo this x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Bless you, so sorry...x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think you’ll find he will be more resilient than you realise. You will have to tell him straight that his grandmothers life has ended as she was so old and she is dead. Try and answer his questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sons have coped very well with the news over the years. As you know just say the facts then try to answer his questions. Accept he will be upset, but they are resilient x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

So sorry for your loss OP

In relation to your son and telling him about his condition I’ll PM you something

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Sorry for your loss OP.

I wish I had the words to explain how loss like that affected me when I was younger and struggling with my condition. Unfortunately I don’t sorry. All I can say is that I took things incredibly literally and the routine being taken away of not seeing my Grandma hit me hard as they were an incredible comfort.

Sorry can’t explain or help more.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

So sorry for your loss. I woukd encourage you to look at guidelines and support from the Autistic society. Dealing with change and difficult news is complex for people with Aspergers and you must feel daunted. Look after yourself and remember you know your son better than anyone. Much love x

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Big hugs to you. I can't offer any advice but by you asking for it you will find the right way. Real squishy hugs on Saturday for you x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No advice OP but just wanted to express my condolences x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone. Your kind words and advice mean a lot xx

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

My sincerest condolences at this sad time xxx

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