FabSwingers.com forum: Wish you could block messages by distance.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

This would be the best filter ever, seen many posts regarding people wanting it.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

They could be visiting your area though and that’s why they are wanting to contact you, we have had that before where someone visits family or on works business close by to us but live miles away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For example you could have someone from Glasgow messaging you to meet, you say you only want local guys and they try and say that they travel with work or whatever. It’s like be realistic. Then you also get disappointed cos someone could be really handsome but they’re miles and miles away.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Would u not travel ?

I've a really good friend 3 n half hours away we travel some things are worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They could be visiting your area though and that’s why they are wanting to contact you, we have had that before where someone visits family or on works business close by to us but live miles away."

That's still a good reason to be able to filter though, for those who don't want one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "

There are alot who travel for business or relatives meet.. Hence it shows closer.

No harm in asking em back if they seem worth meeting..

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Many of my friends on here aren't local.

But its nice to chat even if we never meet.

Just my opinion though.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

"For example you could have someone from Glasgow messaging you to meet, you say you only want local guys and they try and say that they travel with work or whatever. It’s like be realistic. Then you also get disappointed cos someone could be really handsome but they’re miles and miles away. "

Personally I’m not fussed about distance, i know folks on here that travel the country to attend club nights - I’ve even driven 150 miles for a social.... ideally my hotlist would all be within 30 miles.

The trouble is there’s nothing stopping you just changing your “address” on here to get past the filters.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"They could be visiting your area though and that’s why they are wanting to contact you, we have had that before where someone visits family or on works business close by to us but live miles away.

That's still a good reason to be able to filter though, for those who don't want one offs

Well yes understand that but how do you know it’s a one off when you first meet just because they live miles away now doesn’t mean they always will, shame to miss out but get it would cut down on messages if you can filter more out

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I know you're gutted that I'm so far away and all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I haven’t got time to chat to people I’m not interested in meeting and I’m not interested in one offs. The thought of someone travelling to me puts pressure on me as I know that I might not even fancy them in the flesh. Can’t expect someone to travel just for what could only be a cuppa tea at the end of it.

Hate it when they say travelling through as if they’re the circus like. No just no.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I know you're gutted that I'm so far away and all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found the requirement curious. Yes, it'll be useful for Someone looking for a regular FWB or a regular FB.

But there are some people on here that I wouldn't mind travelling down to meet. If its going to be a one off or a once every other month arrangement then it shouldn't matter.

I guess the trouble is that given the percentage of no shows from people within the same area it'll probably double when it involves Train, taxi and hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "

This would be an awesome feature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many of my friends on here aren't local.

But its nice to chat even if we never meet.

Just my opinion though.

That’s just it. We all have different wants and needs from fab, which is as it should be.

A filter would allow those of us who only want to meet local people to stop unwanted messages.

Those that do want to chat or meet others who are further away simply don’t put the filter on

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"Many of my friends on here aren't local.

But its nice to chat even if we never meet.

Just my opinion though.

That’s just it. We all have different wants and needs from fab, which is as it should be.

A filter would allow those of us who only want to meet local people to stop unwanted messages.

Those that do want to chat or meet others who are further away simply don’t put the filter on

This!

I live as south as it gets, I'm closer to france then Scotland yet pretty sure every guy in scotland has responded to a posted meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is the best idea! I hope they see this and it's the next thing they do. It would really improve it. I know people will travel for a meet and that's fair enough but to have the option to turn on a filter for those of us that only want to meet local people would be very helpful.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "

I've had messages from a couple in Texas !!!

Yes Texas .

I'll start fucking swimming now shall I

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think this is the best idea! I hope they see this and it's the next thing they do. It would really improve it. I know people will travel for a meet and that's fair enough but to have the option to turn on a filter for those of us that only want to meet local people would be very helpful. "

Yes. Filters for messages, improved meet functions, search engine improvements. Things that help us meet.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"I haven’t got time to chat to people I’m not interested in meeting and I’m not interested in one offs. The thought of someone travelling to me puts pressure on me as I know that I might not even fancy them in the flesh. "

^^^ Have to agree 100% We are exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "
why block newbies or unverified men ? They got to start somewhere Iv never understood this, and distance ?? Don’t we have trains cars etc?? Just a thought

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I'm very clear on my profile that when I say local only, I mean it. I still get messages from people in the south coast, Scotland, Ireland, etc. I'd love to be able to filter out the ones far away that want to meet. On the other hand, it'd stop me from chatting to fellow forumites.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last night I did a bulk delete on 1,086 messages. Now I block newbies, unverified, people without public pictures and only men age 30-45 can get through as it is.

You can search within 50 miles of your postcode so should be able to block messages coming from outside of 50 miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last night I did a bulk delete on 1,086 messages. Now I block newbies, unverified, people without public pictures and only men age 30-45 can get through as it is.

You can search within 50 miles of your postcode so should be able to block messages coming from outside of 50 miles. "

I get why you'd want to limit your messages to people that are local to you but on the flip side You're on the top of the hot pictures list, you have an amazing body and a cool username. Of course you should expect to get thousands of messages, especially on a site with way more men than women. Yes, quite a few of those men wouldn't mind jumping on a train or driving over 3 hours to come see you or just have a cuppa with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually do travel for work all over the UK.. But whenever I've told women this they think I'm lying.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Last night I did a bulk delete on 1,086 messages. Now I block newbies, unverified, people without public pictures and only men age 30-45 can get through as it is.

You can search within 50 miles of your postcode so should be able to block messages coming from outside of 50 miles.

Eh? That’s like saying yes, you have a valid point re what you’d like and enjoy but on the flip side you shouldn’t get to have that freedom because you’re hot etc. Odd comment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because having someone travel to me puts pressure on me and I don’t like that. They could get nasty if they travel a couple of hours and then get here and I’m like actually I don’t want to have sex with you now I’ve seen you in the flesh.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Because having someone travel to me puts pressure on me and I don’t like that. They could get nasty if they travel a couple of hours and then get here and I’m like actually I don’t want to have sex with you now I’ve seen you in the flesh. "

Exactly. But I've come all this way, etc!

I'm not dealing with that pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last night I did a bulk delete on 1,086 messages. Now I block newbies, unverified, people without public pictures and only men age 30-45 can get through as it is.

You can search within 50 miles of your postcode so should be able to block messages coming from outside of 50 miles.

Eh? That’s like saying yes, you have a valid point re what you’d like and enjoy but on the flip side you shouldn’t get to have that freedom because you’re hot etc. Odd comment.

No, I'm saying the attention from near and far comes with the territory.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself"

Blocking one by one or blocking en masse by a filter; both being done by the profile users choice, decision and action - or by themself. A nonsensical point.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Last night I did a bulk delete on 1,086 messages. Now I block newbies, unverified, people without public pictures and only men age 30-45 can get through as it is.

You can search within 50 miles of your postcode so should be able to block messages coming from outside of 50 miles.

Eh? That’s like saying yes, you have a valid point re what you’d like and enjoy but on the flip side you shouldn’t get to have that freedom because you’re hot etc. Odd comment.

No, I'm saying the attention from near and far comes with the territory. "

Yes. But that’s entirely irrelevant to the post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "

Try posting this in the Feedback forum, it may get on the list for future changes.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It wouldn't be something I'd use, but I do think it's a good idea.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

Blocking one by one or blocking en masse by a filter; both being done by the profile users choice, decision and action - or by themself. A nonsensical point. "

Yes. I can block Profile X, but doing that for his/her twenty thousand mates who are all outside my area... Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They could be visiting your area though and that’s why they are wanting to contact you, we have had that before where someone visits family or on works business close by to us but live miles away.

That's still a good reason to be able to filter though, for those who don't want one offs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself"

I wouldn’t be looking at profiles of people outside of South Wales though.

Like yesterday as an example, over a thousand messages and probably only 300 or so were from South Wales.

I couldn’t even get to messages to look because as soon as I was deleting, new messages were coming through. Now some of those messages from the 300 could have been from people I was interested in but couldn’t even look at them due to all the messages coming in from all over the UK.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The kind of volume (some) women deal with (some of the time, including the OP at the moment)... There isn't room to consider the magical special exception outside of given parameters. There isn't even enough room to consider everyone in the parameters.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The kind of volume (some) women deal with (some of the time, including the OP at the moment)... There isn't room to consider the magical special exception outside of given parameters. There isn't even enough room to consider everyone in the parameters. "

But then she wouldn't be able to talk to me.

Oh... She doesn't want to... Oops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

Agreed a distance filter for those that want it. But as mentioned a lot of my friends and meets are from all over.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Tbh, when I get messages saying "I know I'm not in your area but...", if it's even a hint of wanting to meet me (and it isn't forum connected), I block. No exceptions. And I can handle the volume of mail I get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I think a distance filter would be good especially if it can be applied to certain categories of user.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yep I think a distance filter would be good especially if it can be applied to certain categories of user."

Ooh yes. Rightly or wrongly, I have different requirements for different demographics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a few come from over a hundred miles to see me. Long distance is not always a block - some guys travel with their jobs etc

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ive had a few come from over a hundred miles to see me. Long distance is not always a block - some guys travel with their jobs etc"

So you would simply not use the filter then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I think a distance filter would be good especially if it can be applied to certain categories of user.

Ooh yes. Rightly or wrongly, I have different requirements for different demographics. "

Exactly it’s perfectly natural. That said despite my filters being more open than previously my box is unsurprisingly free of unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block everyone and only message those men who fit your requirements and are local enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

I wouldn’t be looking at profiles of people outside of South Wales though.

Like yesterday as an example, over a thousand messages and probably only 300 or so were from South Wales.

OP, why don't you take back control? Block all men messaging you. Then rather than spend the time deleting messages and getting overwhelmed, you can simply message who YOU want.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

It's a good choice to have on here, I personally wouldn't use it as I like my fab dirty weekends away, but I have 90% less messages than you to deal with, so I can see your frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

I wouldn’t be looking at profiles of people outside of South Wales though.

Like yesterday as an example, over a thousand messages and probably only 300 or so were from South Wales.

OP, why don't you take back control? Block all men messaging you. Then rather than spend the time deleting messages and getting overwhelmed, you can simply message who YOU want.

xN"

Or wink at them

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "

I agree that it would be a useful feature allowing a user to experience the site in a more convenient way for them, if locality is important to them. As pointed out the only way to achieve anything nearing this is to filter out everyone and search and message first yourself, but that compromises the fun (and time effectiveness and knowledge that the person does like you etc) of having someone message you first, which therefore isn’t the same effect as the new filter.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

I wouldn’t be looking at profiles of people outside of South Wales though.

Like yesterday as an example, over a thousand messages and probably only 300 or so were from South Wales.

OP, why don't you take back control? Block all men messaging you. Then rather than spend the time deleting messages and getting overwhelmed, you can simply message who YOU want.

xN"

Good point you make there, think that would work well for most who don’t want an inbox full of messages that just end up unread and deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

I wouldn’t be looking at profiles of people outside of South Wales though.

Like yesterday as an example, over a thousand messages and probably only 300 or so were from South Wales.

OP, why don't you take back control? Block all men messaging you. Then rather than spend the time deleting messages and getting overwhelmed, you can simply message who YOU want.

xN"

Nooo! Don't be logical on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can block them

When you look at their profile and see they are too far away,simply hit the block button

Job done

Sometimes it's good to do things for yourself

I wouldn’t be looking at profiles of people outside of South Wales though.

Like yesterday as an example, over a thousand messages and probably only 300 or so were from South Wales.

OP, why don't you take back control? Block all men messaging you. Then rather than spend the time deleting messages and getting overwhelmed, you can simply message who YOU want.

Nooo! Don't be logical on the forums.

Oops... sorry....

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

See sometimes we like to chat with people from the forums who are miles away so we wouldnt use this feature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *on a MangerMan
over a year ago

somerset/Bristol

"Why can’t that be a feature? Like you can block newbies, unverified, men, women etc can block by age but why can’t you block by distance.

So annoying when you get messages from all over the UK. "

Why not say on your profile local men only... or say only guys in south wales... at the moment there is no direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread, can I ask did you mind when people fab voted your photo who didn't live near you ? or would you have preferred locals only?

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

Turn off the ability for people to fab your pictures, that will instantly reduce your message inbox. Then you can go through the contacts made without the need for a PA and press secretary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How far is too far away though we had a guy travel almost two hours to meet with us and at the end of the evening said the journey was well worth while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On one hand it would be good, but you can change your location to get around it and people do move about the country so while their profile might say John O'Groats, it doesn't mean they cannot be in Lands End for a week and looking for a nearby meet.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Brilliant idea that way you have choice to aloud or not.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

It is about having the option so if she choose the radius she wants message from they will have to think before sending a message even though you can change your location. It will reduce mass mailings because are you going to change your location for all the local only profiles within set miles.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

You can to a point already (it'll require some effort on your part).

Block those genders completely,.. then in the search function set your requirements age distance etc and search for those that interest you. Be proactive. Its often said effort in reward out.

Simples.

Your choice, you can take control or wait for a feature that may not be implementted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a filter I'd use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't work trust me on this it wouldn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see the appeal, I have had a few messages and as a single guy that's always exciting lol!! Then see they are 200+ miles away gutting. I would use it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s not a feature I would use and something I could do myself, by blocking all setting my search settings to the distance required.

I love talking to and meeting people, no matter where they are in the country. Why limit yourself, and a road trip is always fun

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