FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Haven’t met anyone

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it hardly any of my messages even get read? I send a message with attached photos (no dick pics) but they don’t even get opened!?

How are you supposed to meet anyone on here?

I’m only getting attention from men!

I know women must be inundated with messages but what’s the secret??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Patience, read the profile, send personal messages, some luck. And patience.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

If messages from men are adding to your frustration, use your filters to stop men contacting you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only been on a few weeks, you need a lot of patience on here, never given up

I've been on over 10 years and still in hope of a first meet one day.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.

Spend your time concentrating on people that you actually fit what they are looking for. If you arent what they are after then why waste your time and theres,

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

If you ask for some profile advice, we may be able to give you some pointers

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people look at the profile first, if they're not attracted to that then they probably either won't open or won't reply to your message.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.

Damn it, im going to be fed to the spelling police now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to some socials and give it time, quality over quantity.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Can't give profile advice because you've not asked for any but often when people say they're not getting the response they hope for that is where the problem is...

...so take a look at yours and ask if it sells you well, does it put across some personality and make you stand out from the crowd of generic profiles? Does it have a good selection of pictures that entice and tease? Does it tell the reader a little about you and what you are looking for, and can offer?

Be brutally honest with yourself and if it doesn't do any of those things then make changes.

Also remember there are other ways to interact with people then sending cold messages, like getting involved in the forums or chat rooms, or getting along to socials or clubs - all of which are good ways to get to know people and get yourself known.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP. You've only been on here 7 weeks.

What did you expect? Hordes of ladies beating a path to your door or flooding your In-Box?

It's a numbers thing. You are up against so many other guys all seeking the same thing.

Your profile is too short, and doesn't say what you SEEK from a meet, but also what you can CONTRIBUTE to one.

Get into clubs, socials and so on, even involve yourself in the Forums, as it's all about being NOTICED! You have to SELL yourself, in other words!

Patience, Perseverance and even more Patience are key elements. Plus a thick skin at times too.

Put the effort in, and it will work ... eventually.

Good Luck.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"Damn it, im going to be fed to the spelling police now "

Shhhhhh. I don't think they are awake

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha yes please do

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Damn it, im going to be fed to the spelling police now "

Nah

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are far too busy to read messages friend

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re cute so it’s probably your height. It took me a good few years to get over my obsession with height. People around your age may still have a lot of requirements in a guy before they realise that things like height don’t really matter.

Just stay polite in the face of rejection and remember it the real world women won’t be so rigid in their requirements.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London


"Damn it, im going to be fed to the spelling police now "

I'd eat you up

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit thought the age was in the twenties! Anyway, a lot of women come here for fantasy fulfilment so they have a specific type of guy they wanna meet.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Like it's already been said - patience.

Join in on the forums.

Just be nice.

If a fat fucker like me can get to meet a lady then anybody can.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at other guys profiles and take bits from there profiles and get tips with pictures.

P.s you can’t catch the ghey just looking at a mans profile

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Damn it, im going to be fed to the spelling police now "

Shame on you !

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Shit thought the age was in the twenties! Anyway, a lot of women come here for fantasy fulfilment so they have a specific type of guy they wanna meet. "

You always come up with the best usernames

Anyway OP, you say that you've been here before?

Maybe have a pic of you without a bottle of beer in yer gob, write a profile that explains what you can provide, and what you are looking for. Inject some kind of humour into it, and after all that effort, don't expect to be knee deep in clunge after only a few weeks

Good luck

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People view the profiles of people who send them messages, so interest starts or ends there, depending on the quality of it.

Read the many posts on how to improve profiles, if it seems a likely opportunity to improve your success.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like it's already been said - patience.

Join in on the forums.

Just be nice.

If a fat fucker like me can get to meet a lady then anybody can. "

And be able to cook !!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock


"Can't give profile advice because you've not asked for any but often when people say they're not getting the response they hope for that is where the problem is...

...so take a look at yours and ask if it sells you well, does it put across some personality and make you stand out from the crowd of generic profiles? Does it have a good selection of pictures that entice and tease? Does it tell the reader a little about you and what you are looking for, and can offer?

Be brutally honest with yourself and if it doesn't do any of those things then make changes.

Also remember there are other ways to interact with people then sending cold messages, like getting involved in the forums or chat rooms, or getting along to socials or clubs - all of which are good ways to get to know people and get yourself known."
great advice. Hollie

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What do your messages say? We get messages from guys who probably think they are being polite and they are absolutey devoid of an interest.

Post an example message and we can give you more tips.

We can see the first part of a message without opening it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good profile helps also attend clubs and socials, be decent and do things the right way and you will be fine. Everyone isn’t for everyone and you are up against lots of competition as such, so being patient and easy going about it will help. Maybe find a nice female friend and go to clubs together and do it that way, might be easier and a great way to meet people who are on here but don’t use the forum’s. Good luck

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile is the window into the sexual soul of a person so read it and improve yours and stay frosty.!!

T

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

There is literally a post about this kind of thing.... At least every other day

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Depends what you say, how you say it, who you say it to, if they are willing recipients, if your profile is good. If they fancy you, if they have time.....

So many variables that you can’t guess which one is stopping them replying, so don’t stress over something you have no control over. Concentrate on improving those aspects that you can control,

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it hardly any of my messages even get read? I send a message with attached photos (no dick pics) but they don’t even get opened!?

How are you supposed to meet anyone on here?

I’m only getting attention from men!

I know women must be inundated with messages but what’s the secret??"

Top tip #1, read. The. Profile.

That's the top reason why I delete messages without reading them, because I know immediately that the person hasn't bothered to read my profile.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap


"Damn it, im going to be fed to the spelling police now "

Yep, I've found you!

I'll let you off with a warning this time. Here's some apostrophes, full stops and commas for later use.

Please take them with you. I won't be so lenient next time.

,.',.',.',....'''',,,,..',.',,,,''''.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it hardly any of my messages even get read? I send a message with attached photos (no dick pics) but they don’t even get opened!?

How are you supposed to meet anyone on here?

I’m only getting attention from men!

I know women must be inundated with messages but what’s the secret??"
make your profile which is your advert the best it can be, you have a great profile pic but maybe more pics and patience how did you get on previous time you were here?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top