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By *lder A Wiser Passion OP   Woman
over a year ago

morecambe

Now three questions

1 How are we going to get more women on here for one thing?

2.How are we going to get more women who join to stay?

3.How are we going to stop some of the fuckwits on here to behave them selfs

Now there are a lot of good folk on here who are really nice people who cos of Dickhead that join and here who are having a hard time of it

So lets come up with some ideas that might help the admin on here so here we go lets open this forum up see where it leads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Charge men to join ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?"

God no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do nothing different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no "

May I ask why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not "

Why should men be treated any different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?"

Ok charge everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone "

Or....charge no one

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

I don’t think you can get someone to stay if they don’t want to.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do nothing different "

This

Everyone (men, women, couples etc) has it within their power to get the most from the site and have the best possible experience - it's up to them individually to find what makes it that for them by using the available tools, being respectful and considerate and adopting the right attitude and approach together with having the right expectations.

It really is that simple and can all be done without Fab or anyone (other than the profile owner) needing to do a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone

Or....charge no one "

But it's not working

So something different needs doing

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'd say change nothing, treat ladies with respect and you get respect back - quite often

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Do nothing different

This

Everyone (men, women, couples etc) has it within their power to get the most from the site and have the best possible experience - it's up to them individually to find what makes it that for them by using the available tools, being respectful and considerate and adopting the right attitude and approach together with having the right expectations.

It really is that simple and can all be done without Fab or anyone (other than the profile owner) needing to do a thing.

"

No more explanation required...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do nothing different

This

Everyone (men, women, couples etc) has it within their power to get the most from the site and have the best possible experience - it's up to them individually to find what makes it that for them by using the available tools, being respectful and considerate and adopting the right attitude and approach together with having the right expectations.

It really is that simple and can all be done without Fab or anyone (other than the profile owner) needing to do a thing.

"

All of which requires adult behaviour

Not always on show here or elsewhere for that matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone

Or....charge no one

But it's not working

So something different needs doing "

Fab is working fine. It’s down to the individual

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By *urple-roseWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

A basic English test, if you don’t pass you can’t join lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say change nothing, treat ladies with respect and you get respect back - quite often

"

Treat everyone with respect

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone

Or....charge no one

But it's not working

So something different needs doing "

Not working for you, change your approach maybe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a strike list against men that join.

Abusive behaviour gets report and they get a strike agaainst there name, to many complaints means you are gone

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Women only join if they want to but word of mouth might be a good way to let women know the site exists.

Women will stay if they want to.

There are rude and abusive people everywhere on line and they aren't always men.

Women can help themselves by making sure they have strict mail and age filters on, blocking and reporting abusive profiles and messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone

Or....charge no one

But it's not working

So something different needs doing

Not working for you, change your approach maybe ? "

I didn't start the thread

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

There’s plenty of women on here. If at first you don’t succeed try and try again

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Solve no 3 and have chance with 1 and 2 xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s plenty of women on here. If at first you don’t succeed try and try again "

And this has what to do with the op

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"

But it's not working

So something different needs doing "

Works fine for me.

I use the tools that are available to me, I have basic common courtesy and respect, and lo and behold, Fab works just fine.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone

Or....charge no one

But it's not working

So something different needs doing "

What isn’t working ?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do nothing different

This

Everyone (men, women, couples etc) has it within their power to get the most from the site and have the best possible experience - it's up to them individually to find what makes it that for them by using the available tools, being respectful and considerate and adopting the right attitude and approach together with having the right expectations.

It really is that simple and can all be done without Fab or anyone (other than the profile owner) needing to do a thing.

All of which requires adult behaviour

Not always on show here or elsewhere for that matter "

It does but that is something no-one can change about others - which is why I keep saying the more people focus on their own experience and quit worrying about others the easier it gets.

Yes, abusive behaviour should be dealt with, childish behaviour? I just ignore it and move on mostly and can honestly say my experience of the site is 90% positive and the other 10% I take with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one ever leaves. It all just finds a balance doesnt it. I dont think the wider fab population worries about the problems the forum highlights as much as we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience overall has been good on Fab.. Enlightening and sometimes eye popping, but overall positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make it so that if you message someone and they don’t reply you can’t message them again for a certain amount of time. At the moment there is a message that says you have already messaged without a reply but that isn’t going to stop anyone.

This would mean less people receiving abusive messages for not replying. I imagine there will still be some out there who may keep trying until the time limit passes, but hopefully most will have moved on to the next target by then. Also if the person reply’s, then normal message services apply, so then if someone who has been replied to then decides to become abusive after rejection the block button can still be used.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?"

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"My experience overall has been good on Fab.. Enlightening and sometimes eye popping, but overall positive"

Mine too

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph


"Charge men to join ?

God no

May I ask why not

Why should men be treated any different?

Ok charge everyone

Or....charge no one

But it's not working

So something different needs doing "

If it isn't working g, try another site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make it so that if you message someone and they don’t reply you can’t message them again for a certain amount of time. At the moment there is a message that says you have already messaged without a reply but that isn’t going to stop anyone.

This would mean less people receiving abusive messages for not replying. I imagine there will still be some out there who may keep trying until the time limit passes, but hopefully most will have moved on to the next target by then. Also if the person reply’s, then normal message services apply, so then if someone who has been replied to then decides to become abusive after rejection the block button can still be used."

But then I wouldnt be able to reply 3 messages in a row either with all the really interesting stuff I forgot to put in the first 2 messages. I would burst with anticipation and the knowledge I really must share

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

Does anyone know the ratio of men/woman on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one ever leaves. It all just finds a balance doesnt it. I dont think the wider fab population worries about the problems the forum highlights as much as we do. "

You're spot on. I don't here anyone I chat to mention any of the stuff that crops up all the time on the forum! It's like people are obsessed with what everyone else is doing, who is or has it better or worse. You just don't get that with regular fab members. Thank God!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone know the ratio of men/woman on fab?"

Does anyone care? Would it make a difference to your fab existence?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Make it so that if you message someone and they don’t reply you can’t message them again for a certain amount of time. At the moment there is a message that says you have already messaged without a reply but that isn’t going to stop anyone.

This would mean less people receiving abusive messages for not replying. I imagine there will still be some out there who may keep trying until the time limit passes, but hopefully most will have moved on to the next target by then. Also if the person reply’s, then normal message services apply, so then if someone who has been replied to then decides to become abusive after rejection the block button can still be used.

But then I wouldnt be able to reply 3 messages in a row either with all the really interesting stuff I forgot to put in the first 2 messages. I would burst with anticipation and the knowledge I really must share "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Does anyone know the ratio of men/woman on fab?"

The square of the hypoteneuse multiplied by sixty three divided by four take away pi r squared to one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really care how many women come here or stay, doesn’t impact on my experience. It’s an adult site so as adults we should be able to handle a few shitty messages. I never get abusive messages anyway and I’ve been saying no thanks to 100’s of people today.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Now three questions

1 How are we going to get more women on here for one thing?

2.How are we going to get more women who join to stay?

3.How are we going to stop some of the fuckwits on here to behave them selfs

Now there are a lot of good folk on here who are really nice people who cos of Dickhead that join and here who are having a hard time of it

So lets come up with some ideas that might help the admin on here so here we go lets open this forum up see where it leads

"

I know a few folk with handcuffs that might get folk to stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em"

Exactly.. Just delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it needs to change. It is what it is, if people don't like it they can leave.

We're all adults and we all know what kind of site it is.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

Exactly.. Just delete and move on"

yes..Water off a ducks back..why get bogged down in negativity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it needs to change. It is what it is, if people don't like it they can leave.

We're all adults and we all know what kind of site it is. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it needs to change. It is what it is, if people don't like it they can leave.

We're all adults and we all know what kind of site it is. "

Actually I'm wondering if some do

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Does anyone know the ratio of men/woman on fab?

Does anyone care? Would it make a difference to your fab existence?"

Noooo just curious, even if it was 10 woman to every 1 man it wouldn’t make me more attractive haha

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it."

Ahh..do men even really listen

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"There’s plenty of women on here. If at first you don’t succeed try and try again

And this has what to do with the op"

There’s no need for more. if you can’t attract them try a different approach. The answer isn’t flooding the site in the vein attempt that eventually you’ll hook one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Velcro. That will keep em here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it needs to change. It is what it is, if people don't like it they can leave.

We're all adults and we all know what kind of site it is.

Actually I'm wondering if some do "

Actually I maybe should've put a "most of us" in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also fuck getting more women, I don't need the competition for the good guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very bad idea.

That is sexism in the first.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Also fuck getting more women, I don't need the competition for the good guys "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

Exactly.. Just delete and move on

yes..Water off a ducks back..why get bogged down in negativity "

I had a message recently asking if i had an eating disorder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very bad idea.

That is sexism in the first."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

Exactly.. Just delete and move on

yes..Water off a ducks back..why get bogged down in negativity

I had a message recently asking if i had an eating disorder "

Bet it was from a fat guy

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

Exactly.. Just delete and move on

yes..Water off a ducks back..why get bogged down in negativity

I had a message recently asking if i had an eating disorder "

Idiots are bloody everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

Exactly.. Just delete and move on

yes..Water off a ducks back..why get bogged down in negativity

I had a message recently asking if i had an eating disorder

Bet it was from a fat guy "

It was from a blank profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I got a shitty message I wouldn't take it all that personal. They don't know me so fuck em

Exactly.. Just delete and move on

yes..Water off a ducks back..why get bogged down in negativity

I had a message recently asking if i had an eating disorder

Bet it was from a fat guy

It was from a blank profile "

Shock

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen "

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased.

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Let's all just take a deep breath, count to ten and relax.

Everything is fine my end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's all just take a deep breath, count to ten and relax.

Everything is fine my end. "

Does your end shine

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased."

we all have our niche

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on here for about 9 months and my experience has been amazing.

I’ve met some brilliant, supportive people, had some new experiences, and I’m looking forward to more.

I reply to pretty much all my messages with a polite rebuff (unless they are really gross messages), and I’ve not yet had any abuse.

If anyone did message abuse, I would just use the block button and let it go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased."

I thought the easily pleased ones were very moaney

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I’ve been on here for about 9 months and my experience has been amazing.

I’ve met some brilliant, supportive people, had some new experiences, and I’m looking forward to more.

I reply to pretty much all my messages with a polite rebuff (unless they are really gross messages), and I’ve not yet had any abuse.

If anyone did message abuse, I would just use the block button and let it go. "

That is good to hear and as it should be x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased.

I thought the easily pleased ones were very moaney "

That's me out then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased.

I thought the easily pleased ones were very moaney

That's me out then

"

And ne haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You thinking of a global marketing campaign OP?

People will always do what works or doesn't for their own lives.

Or are you going to chain all these "new women" in a cave and control what they do too..

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"You thinking of a global marketing campaign OP?

People will always do what works or doesn't for their own lives.

Or are you going to chain all these "new women" in a cave and control what they do too..

"

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased.

I thought the easily pleased ones were very moaney

That's me out then

And ne haha "

*Both removed from hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't need more women on here if all they are going to do is moan about it.

Ahh..do men even really listen

That's not the point. I don't want to fuck the moany ones as I'm looking for women who are easily pleased.

I thought the easily pleased ones were very moaney

That's me out then

And ne haha

*Both removed from hotlist "

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