FabSwingers.com forum: Being a woman on fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Must be wonderful. Are there any downsides?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Nope

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think it’s wonderful?

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

If you ladies was on here for a day as a guy then you would totally understand what it's like??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes abuse when you politely say thanks but no thanks x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

treated like an unpaid prostitute!

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?"

I’m guessing all the messages. Some have a false view that you ladies get a ton of messages from Adonis’ and that you are all spoilt for choice.

I believed that too, until a good friend of mine who I met on here a few years back showed me her inbox and what a mess it was.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I would tell you the downsides but we've been here before and you just wouldn't believe us anyway.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

Hahahahahaha perfectly worded!

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"If you ladies was on here for a day as a guy then you would totally understand what it's like??"

What’s it like?

I cannot relate to other men on here who’ve been here years and do not get messages or meets.

I’ve had meets, great meets over the years, I’ve had good responses to my messages, many have been read and deleted. But the way some guys describe Fab I wonder why they stay tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fab experience is wonderful. I ignore anyone but the select few I'm interested in. I fucking love fab.

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

I know that you lovely ladies must get loads and loads of winks and messages from guys and you must get fed up with this.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

The bitchy women. The nice ones are lovely though

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If you ladies was on here for a day as a guy then you would totally understand what it's like??

What’s it like?

I cannot relate to other men on here who’ve been here years and do not get messages or meets.

I’ve had meets, great meets over the years, I’ve had good responses to my messages, many have been read and deleted. But the way some guys describe Fab I wonder why they stay tbh. "

I wonder this too. Especially when they complain about the attractiveness of the women they're struggling to get meets with too.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I show couple and single male friends some of my messages and they are horrified by them, as someone said above, it's really like wading through sewage.

Occasionally you meet a really good guy though, makes it all worth it.

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"If you ladies was on here for a day as a guy then you would totally understand what it's like??

What’s it like?

I cannot relate to other men on here who’ve been here years and do not get messages or meets.

I’ve had meets, great meets over the years, I’ve had good responses to my messages, many have been read and deleted. But the way some guys describe Fab I wonder why they stay tbh.

I wonder this too. Especially when they complain about the attractiveness of the women they're struggling to get meets with too."

Agreed. Complaining about the attractiveness of the women here whilst still being a member is very amusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's amazing. I love the penis pictures so much. I always lick my screen when one arrives in my inbox. 300 times a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's mainly a load of messages from profiles with no pictures and/or text who think they're entitled to instant sex from you and calling you fat and/or ugly when you say no.

I reckon being a woman is a lot harder on here than being a man, mainly because so many men seem to resent us for thinking they have it so much harder. Vicious circle.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Loads.. you have to ignore a lot of crap to enjoy the nice bits. It’s a learning curve.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I would tell you the downsides but we've been here before and you just wouldn't believe us anyway."

Quite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope none. Even us ugly fuckers get a good fucking now and again. Desperate men keep us in business. Love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would tell you the downsides but we've been here before and you just wouldn't believe us anyway.

Quite. "

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"treated like an unpaid prostitute!

i know the feeling

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

I smelt my hands. Thanks

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes. Many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooof if u saw some of the wierd as fuck messages some of them get u may not be saying that

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nope none. Even us ugly fuckers get a good fucking now and again. Desperate men keep us in business. Love it.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"If you ladies was on here for a day as a guy then you would totally understand what it's like??

What’s it like?

I cannot relate to other men on here who’ve been here years and do not get messages or meets.

I’ve had meets, great meets over the years, I’ve had good responses to my messages, many have been read and deleted. But the way some guys describe Fab I wonder why they stay tbh.

I wonder this too. Especially when they complain about the attractiveness of the women they're struggling to get meets with too.

Agreed. Complaining about the attractiveness of the women here whilst still being a member is very amusing.

I'm honestly constantly amazed by the attractiveness of the women on here. I know filters, angles, lighting blah blah but even so, many of the pictures on here are breathtakingly beautiful.

And if it's because they took 100 shots to get a good pic, all the more to admire for making the effort to produce top quality photos.

I take my hat off to the ladies on fab and feel grateful if any take the time to chat to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

Perfect description

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If you ladies was on here for a day as a guy then you would totally understand what it's like??

What’s it like?

I cannot relate to other men on here who’ve been here years and do not get messages or meets.

I’ve had meets, great meets over the years, I’ve had good responses to my messages, many have been read and deleted. But the way some guys describe Fab I wonder why they stay tbh.

I wonder this too. Especially when they complain about the attractiveness of the women they're struggling to get meets with too.

Agreed. Complaining about the attractiveness of the women here whilst still being a member is very amusing.

I'm honestly constantly amazed by the attractiveness of the women on here. I know filters, angles, lighting blah blah but even so, many of the pictures on here are breathtakingly beautiful.

And if it's because they took 100 shots to get a good pic, all the more to admire for making the effort to produce top quality photos.

I take my hat off to the ladies on fab and feel grateful if any take the time to chat to me. "

Haha hot women like sex too! Swinging can be for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?"

You have cock on tap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap "

Do we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap "

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?"

Your Avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x"

I could only dream!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

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Don’t be jel x

I could only dream!!"

We should compare, one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?"

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x

I could only dream!!

We should compare, one day "

Deal, you bring the tape.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x"

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Of course "

I think not

But hey. This has been explained to you many times now. So no point repeating myself like a broken record.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x

I could only dream!!

We should compare, one day

Deal, you bring the tape."

Will do. Do I bring the measuring tape as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x

I could only dream!!

We should compare, one day

Deal, you bring the tape.

Will do. Do I bring the measuring tape as well?"

Loooolz

i suppose you should!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap "

You really have no idea about this site swinging and possibly even women do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too? "

Seriously mickey do you really think most of the women on here will just meet any cock on tap? None of the ones I know would and I know quite a few on the forums! I don’t know what land you live in sometimes.

N x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x

I could only dream!!

We should compare, one day

Deal, you bring the tape.

Will do. Do I bring the measuring tape as well?"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too? "

Yes, we can, if we have no standards, no regard for our safety, are prepared to go anywhere at no notice, and run the risk of some of them not showing up and not being what they say.

Personally I'd rather gouge my eyeballs out with rusty nails, but to each their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too? "

If she wants to get laid by desperate, illiterate creeps then sure. The men we use fab for are the ones that take some time and effort in getting to know, not last minute shags.

I think what it boils down to is that men and women use this site in very different ways. Women want the type of man that they would date in real life even if only for sex and men, well, just want sex and they want it now.

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too? "

So can a man, single or otherwise.

Question - Do you actually like women?

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too?

If she wants to get laid by desperate, illiterate creeps then sure. The men we use fab for are the ones that take some time and effort in getting to know, not last minute shags.

That's because generally men and women are turned on in quite different ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

And the abuse some men give when you don't reply/turn them down is terrible. Even when they're sending you disgusting messages.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

And the abuse some men give when you don't reply/turn them down is terrible. Even when they're sending you disgusting messages."

Yes.

The messages I get here make me mourn for my lost innocence (yes I know I have options on how to run my account, thank you for telling me).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm having 931 messages in your inbox which will increase by 10 by the time I finish posting this comment. Answering one while more come through. Having FOMO if I put a block on single men.

Trying to organise the potentials from the not suitables.

Bitchiness from other women is the biggest downside to my fab experience though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bitchiness from other women is the biggest downside to my fab experience though. "

Same

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No downsides for me.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Reality is no-one has it easier or harder than anyone else, regardless of their gender or which group they belong to, what dictates someone's experience of the site is their approach, attitude and expectations of it, and that is ALL within the hands of each and every user to control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too? "

OK putting my 2p in. As a woman with a single profile AND a couple profile I think I can comment from both sides.

As a single woman, when I'm able and want to meet I have NEVER EVER put a meet up on Fab AND actually got a guy round or gone to a guy for sex. Never. All my veris are from clubs and/or parties.

As for being a couple we have had alot of meets with single women, most from clubs and/or parties. Also 4-5 meets with single women at our or their place.

Take from that what you will.

I can put a meet up as a single woman. Waste 4/5 hours wading through 'sewage' and time wasters to actually GET a (seemingly) great guy to agree to meet and get ghosted/pied off/let down. So add that and how SOME single guys think they can use this site no wonder single men get a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reality is no-one has it easier or harder than anyone else, regardless of their gender or which group they belong to, what dictates someone's experience of the site is their approach, attitude and expectations of it, and that is ALL within the hands of each and every user to control."

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"treated like an unpaid prostitute!

This!!! You think you're being invited to a good meet, they talk a good game but ultimately, the fella gets his happy ending after 10 bloody minutes & suddenly has to go out & virtually kicks you out. There's nothing worse. It's so disrespectful.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too? "

Yes if she wants to be shagged by a barely evolved reject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

You really don’t have any idea do you?!

N x

You mean a single woman can't get laid when she wants too?

Yes if she wants to be shagged by a barely evolved reject. "

also those who can't get hard when the protection comes out

I hate that!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yeah. Your 3 minutes of hotness only lasts until someone hotter comes along. Ruins a gals mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Your 3 minutes of hotness only lasts until someone hotter comes along. Ruins a gals mood."

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"treated like an unpaid prostitute!

Been there

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"The bitchy women. The nice ones are lovely though "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many if these replies are true. We don't have it as easy as you think OP. There's also a lot of guys on here that have seen/read the shit us women get and are as gobsmacked as we are about it. There are some decent blokes on here but as an above post put it, 'we have to pan through the shit to find the gold'

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

Everyone bloody complains. You seem to pick up on women complaining a lot though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Your 3 minutes of hotness only lasts until someone hotter comes along. Ruins a gals mood."

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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

Exactly this ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. Your 3 minutes of hotness only lasts until someone hotter comes along. Ruins a gals mood."

This !!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I have a pretty good time to be honest I just use the block button or up the filters ... yep there are idiots but I don’t engage with them same as in real life ... things happen too such as he finds a better option or is disrespectful so that one is ignored and not met again ... there are some lovely males here it just takes time to sort them ... I’ve been swinging 15yrs so nothing can shock or disappoint here

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London

"Yeah. Your 3 minutes of hotness only lasts until someone hotter comes along. Ruins a gals mood.

This !!

This gets picked up every few days on a thread.

We get it nobody wants to be"colours in a box" we want somone to choose us out of all those colours. "he's mine"

Ill let don draper explain

https://youtu.be/5y4b-DEkIps

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

Everyone bloody complains. You seem to pick up on women complaining a lot though

They do and guys get roasted for it,(daily) if I post on the guys threads about not getting meets etc you'll find I'm consistent in my answers. Same as on the ladies and couples threads. Press the green arrow you'll see.

I treat fab as a two way street no one is less or more equal in 2 goods part of fab,

those that complain are given the same suggestion(s) from me.. change something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

By all means flip it.

But in my experience of Fab over the years far more guys have complained than ladies have.

I find ladies complain about abuse, quality of messages which to some extent they can control but not all. Some guys tend to complain about nobody reading their message and all women being stuck up cows or that the ladies shouldn’t think they are “all that” or that ladies are shallow for wanting to meet men they are attracted to. Sour grapes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If getting a quick crap shag is your goal then Im sure its great. I dont know how many of those quick shags would ever actually materialise though and how crap or not they would be. So Yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

By all means flip it.

But in my experience of Fab over the years far more guys have complained than ladies have.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times "

It happens all the time...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times "

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It happens all the time... "

But I’m seeing no white knights on this thread bashing them for that comment. Just the usual

in agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment "

What on the forums

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It happens all the time...

But I’m seeing no white knights on this thread bashing them for that comment. Just the usual

in agreement "

And isn't it interesting that there's a specific derogatory term for men who stand up for women...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults. "

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It happens all the time...

But I’m seeing no white knights on this thread bashing them for that comment. Just the usual

in agreement

And isn't it interesting that there's a specific derogatory term for men who stand up for women... "

If they stand up for women hoping to get a shag then yes they deserve to called that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue "

If you say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The bitchy women. The nice ones are lovely though "

Yes and yes again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

Definitely this

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

It was actually a guy who said it.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Lol it's not really like that though. Single females get crap from couples and single guys simply for having the nerve to shag who we want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

You have cock on tap

Do we?

Your Avatar

Don’t be jel x

I could only dream!!"

Phwoar.

Sorry. Did I say that out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?"

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times "

God if only it was just not matching my preferences. If that was all I had to complain about fab would be a much better place.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

I've been called fat a few times on the forums.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times "

Honestly, if you'd seen the contents of my inbox over the last 6 months, you'd understand. It's not about not matching preferences, it's about being downright disrespectful and treating women on here as unpaid prostitutes. The men on the forums seem pretty decent for the most part, and are downright saints compared to most of the men that message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right, fellas!!! Enough of your shit to the women on here.

If you cant have the decency to respect their decision in here to not reply to your message of even sleep with you then you should just leave the site.

Ive had the misfortune of reading my fab buddies messages from some of you lot and its discusting the way some of you introduce yourself and deal with the rejection.

Grow up and learn manners and respect.

Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Must be wonderful. Are there any downsides? "

Probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some. "

I never sugar coat anything to please anyone. I say it how it is. Maybe you should read some of the messages we get or we can send them to you if you'd like? Then you can see what we are all talking about.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It happens all the time...

But I’m seeing no white knights on this thread bashing them for that comment. Just the usual

in agreement

And isn't it interesting that there's a specific derogatory term for men who stand up for women...

If they stand up for women hoping to get a shag then yes they deserve to called that

I'm always interested in the white knight thing. How do you know that their intentions are to get a shag out of it?

Mrs TMN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It works both ways. I was called gross the other week via message.

But I find on the forums guys are respectful unless it’s guys that have been here a while and had no meets.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

It was actually a guy who said it."

Originally It was, you also asked the same.

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?"

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"Right, fellas!!! Enough of your shit to the women on here.

If you cant have the decency to respect their decision in here to not reply to your message of even sleep with you then you should just leave the site.

Ive had the misfortune of reading my fab buddies messages from some of you lot and its discusting the way some of you introduce yourself and deal with the rejection.

Grow up and learn manners and respect.

Rant over "

Careful you’ll be called a white knight for having the audacity to be decent.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Must be wonderful. Are there any downsides? "

Just being a woman would be awesome in itself the daily fun I could have with myself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It works both ways. I was called gross the other week via message.

But I find on the forums guys are respectful unless it’s guys that have been here a while and had no meets. "

Most of the men from the forums are. But I’ve had some awful messages from some.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

Agree! It's not calling all men shit, it's some of the messages that women receive. We get them too. Bet men do too!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes abuse when you politely say thanks but no thanks x "

Everything from a slag to a fat pedo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right, fellas!!! Enough of your shit to the women on here.

If you cant have the decency to respect their decision in here to not reply to your message of even sleep with you then you should just leave the site.

Ive had the misfortune of reading my fab buddies messages from some of you lot and its discusting the way some of you introduce yourself and deal with the rejection.

Grow up and learn manners and respect.

Rant over "

Waste of time ranting to forum users. It’s the other 95% of fab that you need to contact

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

It was actually a guy who said it.

Originally It was, you also asked the same.

I just agreed with him that it's strange. I didn't say it so it's a bit weird to comment that it was a woman that said it. A woman agreeing with man saying it doesn't really fit your argument so well though does it?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

For some reason men seem to think that getting quantity of messages outweighs anything, no idea why, as if they are all shit with shite profiles and just cock pics? Why would that excite you?

Messages that think your a free prostitute, with come to my hotel now! With nothing but a cock pic? FUCK right off!

If you men still think that is great, you obviously don't give a shit who you stick your cock in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

It works both ways. I was called gross the other week via message.

But I find on the forums guys are respectful unless it’s guys that have been here a while and had no meets.

Most of the men from the forums are. But I’ve had some awful messages from some. "

Report them. And I hardly ever reply from forum posts unless it’s on the thread. Just because someone as a different opinion don’t give them the right to send abuse

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"For some reason men seem to think that getting quantity of messages outweighs anything, no idea why, as if they are all shit with shite profiles and just cock pics? Why would that excite you?

Messages that think your a free prostitute, with come to my hotel now! With nothing but a cock pic? FUCK right off!

If you men still think that is great, you obviously don't give a shit who you stick your cock in!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For some reason men seem to think that getting quantity of messages outweighs anything, no idea why, as if they are all shit with shite profiles and just cock pics? Why would that excite you?

Messages that think your a free prostitute, with come to my hotel now! With nothing but a cock pic? FUCK right off!

If you men still think that is great, you obviously don't give a shit who you stick your cock in!"

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Right, fellas!!! Enough of your shit to the women on here.

If you cant have the decency to respect their decision in here to not reply to your message of even sleep with you then you should just leave the site.

Ive had the misfortune of reading my fab buddies messages from some of you lot and its discusting the way some of you introduce yourself and deal with the rejection.

Grow up and learn manners and respect.

Rant over "

Rants really should be in capitals.

if you read the forums you'd see there are daily threads about abuse etc. Your post is likely same as the other posts on the other threads gonna be

A) not read by the guy sending such messages

B) ignored cos its not recognised as inappropriate by him or he don't care..

.my suggestion report block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just find it funny how I see so many single men getting annoyed and writing statuses like "men please stop messaging me filth and cock pics I'm 100% straight!!" but then they proceed to do the exact same thing to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right, fellas!!! Enough of your shit to the women on here.

If you cant have the decency to respect their decision in here to not reply to your message of even sleep with you then you should just leave the site.

Ive had the misfortune of reading my fab buddies messages from some of you lot and its discusting the way some of you introduce yourself and deal with the rejection.

Grow up and learn manners and respect.

Rant over

Rants really should be in capitals.

if you read the forums you'd see there are daily threads about abuse etc. Your post is likely same as the other posts on the other threads gonna be

A) not read by the guy sending such messages

B) ignored cos its not recognised as inappropriate by him or he don't care..

.my suggestion report block

It was a subtle rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many downsides but after years of experience on here, you get used to it. I've met some absolutely lovely people on Fab and for all the crap I've struggled through, those wonderful people have made it all worthwhile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No."

No one should get abuse ever, it's not on. We are all here to have fun and find what we want. Great if it doesn't bother you but don't belittle us for being bothered by the abuse we get. Forums or otherwise, None of it is okay.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it. "

Yes, so this

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"For some reason men seem to think that getting quantity of messages outweighs anything, no idea why, as if they are all shit with shite profiles and just cock pics? Why would that excite you?

Messages that think your a free prostitute, with come to my hotel now! With nothing but a cock pic? FUCK right off!

If you men still think that is great, you obviously don't give a shit who you stick your cock in!"

Yes. 50 copy pastes, 25 rude messages, 20 creepy/truly disgusting messages, 3 no thank you and two possibilities. Appreciate it's more than many men get but still...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For some reason men seem to think that getting quantity of messages outweighs anything, no idea why, as if they are all shit with shite profiles and just cock pics? Why would that excite you?

Messages that think your a free prostitute, with come to my hotel now! With nothing but a cock pic? FUCK right off!

If you men still think that is great, you obviously don't give a shit who you stick your cock in!

Yes. 50 copy pastes, 25 rude messages, 20 creepy/truly disgusting messages, 3 no thank you and two possibilities. Appreciate it's more than many men get but still... "

I once got 26 rude messages

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Further up a lady asked "when guys complain.......why do they stay"

I could flip that and ask If its as bad as some ladies describe why would they stay?

It was actually a guy who said it.

Originally It was, you also asked the same.

Ok makes little difference to my question whoever asked first And agreed thereafer ...

my question still stands .

those that complain if its so bad why would they stay ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does. "

I’ve not belittled anyone. If that’s how it’s come across then I don’t know how. Guys who send abuse are shit and should be banned from the site.

I just took offence about the comment shifting through the shit. With it referring to anyone that’s not there preference. Obviously I miss understand that ladies statement

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

In the seven odd years I've been here, I can't say I've had the unpleasant messages that other women seem to have experienced. The only bad few have been off the back of forum posts.

I really enjoy fab - it works well for me. I don't think my issues with it are down to me being a woman (respect, courtesy and lack of), it's something everyone deals with at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you learned nothing about the "plight of the fab woman" in the time you've been on the forums?

It has it's good bits, it has it's bad. It has it's fandabafuckingdozy bits, it has it's slice of hell

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

What a lot of men, the OP included, appear to overlook is the quantity vs quality factor when they make assumptions about women having it easier on here - the reality is, even with filters applied, women still get lots of interest the majority of it not of interest - men on the other hand may not get the volume of interest, but when they do it tends to be of a better quality.

Net result being that those men that understand the site, have the right approach, attitude and expectations, probably get a similar amount of interest (that is of interest) as women do.

So the key for any guy here is finding that right approach, attitude and expectations for them and whilst it of course won't guarantee a thing, it will enhance their experience no end.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does.

I’ve not belittled anyone. If that’s how it’s come across then I don’t know how. Guys who send abuse are shit and should be banned from the site.

I just took offence about the comment shifting through the shit. With it referring to anyone that’s not there preference. Obviously I miss understand that ladies statement "

I definitely wasn't referring to men that aren't my preference. We all have preferences and they should be respected. Perhaps I should have made it clearer. I was referring to the rude, abusive, disrespectful arseholes that message me. I might reply to maybe 2 or 3 in a hundred because the rest are just complete dross. I'd probably get a forum ban if I posted the contents of some of the messages I've had. And then half the time the ones that seem half decent will send me a message at some point that completely icks me out to the point I can't speak to them again so I have to block them to stop the inevitable abuse.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Why do you think it’s wonderful?

I’m guessing all the messages. Some have a false view that you ladies get a ton of messages from Adonis’ and that you are all spoilt for choice.

I believed that too, until a good friend of mine who I met on here a few years back showed me her inbox and what a mess it was.

I’ve seen my friend’s inbox too. Guys you’ve got to up your game.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"What a lot of men, the OP included, appear to overlook is the quantity vs quality factor when they make assumptions about women having it easier on here - the reality is, even with filters applied, women still get lots of interest the majority of it not of interest - men on the other hand may not get the volume of interest, but when they do it tends to be of a better quality.

Net result being that those men that understand the site, have the right approach, attitude and expectations, probably get a similar amount of interest (that is of interest) as women do.

So the key for any guy here is finding that right approach, attitude and expectations for them and whilst it of course won't guarantee a thing, it will enhance their experience no end."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does.

I’ve not belittled anyone. If that’s how it’s come across then I don’t know how. Guys who send abuse are shit and should be banned from the site.

I just took offence about the comment shifting through the shit. With it referring to anyone that’s not there preference. Obviously I miss understand that ladies statement

My apologies I totally misinterpreted it

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does.

I’ve not belittled anyone. If that’s how it’s come across then I don’t know how. Guys who send abuse are shit and should be banned from the site.

I just took offence about the comment shifting through the shit. With it referring to anyone that’s not there preference. Obviously I miss understand that ladies statement

My apologies I totally misinterpreted it

No worries, I've been up since 4:30am so I'm a bit knackered and grumpy right now

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I cannot relate to other men on here who’ve been here years and do not get messages or meets.

I’ve had meets, great meets over the years, I’ve had good responses to my messages, many have been read and deleted. But the way some guys describe Fab I wonder why they stay tbh. "

You're lucky being in/near London. This part of the country is definitely a lot quieter and the scene is way more geared towards couples, even though there are a few clubs down this way there's only one in about a 50-60 mile radius that accepts single guys and even then half the place is off limits to single guys unless you've been invited up by a couple. The only meets I have had off Fab were when I've been house sitting in London and Essex. I've had some great interactions on here with single women or hot wife types but invariably they're up North, in Wales or in the Midlands etc and therefore too far away to be able to meet easily although there's been more than one promise of play when people are here on holidays. That's not to say that there aren't any single women down here at all but most of the local ladies that catch my eye seem to have their hands full, flaked/ghosted at the last minute or aren't interested enough to reply. Still, it is what it is, I have enough fun on here posting on the forums, looking at sex photos and the like, at this point any meets arranged on here I look at as more of a bonus than my mainotivation for being here.

The way forward would be social events but again none have been organised nearby in quite some time, at least none hat I'm aware of.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another fart and walked off again. "

Terrible

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again. "

I wondered what that eggy sulphurous niff was!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again. "

He'll be back later when he's had a few drinks to stir the pot again

Can we change his name to Mickey Light The Blue Touch Paper Balls while he's gone?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

I wondered what that eggy sulphurous niff was!

That might be after I took my work boots off, sorry!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

He'll be back later when he's had a few drinks to stir the pot again

Can we change his name to Mickey Light The Blue Touch Paper Balls while he's gone?

Yeap

definitely truth there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again. "

Got to hand it to him. He knows how to work the crowd

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does.

I’ve not belittled anyone. If that’s how it’s come across then I don’t know how. Guys who send abuse are shit and should be banned from the site.

I just took offence about the comment shifting through the shit. With it referring to anyone that’s not there preference. Obviously I miss understand that ladies statement

You made perfectly clear in my opinion, it was obvious you were referring to the arseholes on here. Surely if someone is not an arsehole what you said shouldn’t cause any bother.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

I wondered what that eggy sulphurous niff was!

Was literally going to compare it to farting as you exit a lift

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Just be nice guys..... it’s not hard or difficult!

If you want to play in this adult world of fun - then pull your big boy pants on, act like an adult and if it doesn’t work out move on.

You get absolutely nowhere throwing your teddy’s out the pram, mmm that will definitely get them to change their mind about you.

Apologies - slightly off topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like panning for gold in a sewage outflow. Lots of shit to filter through but when you click with someone great the effort is worth it.

Can you imagine the uproar if a guy referred to women that don’t match he’s preferences to as..shit on here.

sad times

We get called fat slags, ugly bitches, stuck up cunts, honestly, being called shit is like a compliment

What on the forums

Occasionally. Often they are far more snide insults.

Thing is if that does happen on the forums women will back you up,couples will and single guys will. If it happens to a single guy everyone will put the boot in

Oh that is so untrue

If you say so

Do you just have an issue with us women standing up for ourselves against the crap CE?

No. I just don’t like the double standards I see. Male or female. And don’t sugar coat things just to please some.

I was referring to the forums. Yes I know people receive abuse via pm. I have myself. Does it bother me. No.

And yes before you say it, I do report messages/profiles etc when I get abuse, still doesn't mean it should happen or that I can't be upset/bothered by it when it does.

I’ve not belittled anyone. If that’s how it’s come across then I don’t know how. Guys who send abuse are shit and should be banned from the site.

I just took offence about the comment shifting through the shit. With it referring to anyone that’s not there preference. Obviously I miss understand that ladies statement

You made perfectly clear in my opinion, it was obvious you were referring to the arseholes on here. Surely if someone is not an arsehole what you said shouldn’t cause any bother.

It’s easy to call someone a arsehole behind a keyboard bless you

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Oh my... face palm head and leaves !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's mainly a load of messages from profiles with no pictures and/or text who think they're entitled to instant sex from you and calling you fat and/or ugly when you say no.

I reckon being a woman is a lot harder on here than being a man, mainly because so many men seem to resent us for thinking they have it so much harder. Vicious circle. "

Another woman who reckons its harder for women than men lol

Just look at how many meets you have compared to me and I bet that's not half of them.

Yet it's harder for women lol is it fuck.

I know I've been through this before, but when women say this it's so annoying.

I wish you would try signing in male and then you'll know what hard is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

I wondered what that eggy sulphurous niff was!

Was literally going to compare it to farting as you exit a lift

I was having a bath

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

I wondered what that eggy sulphurous niff was!

Was literally going to compare it to farting as you exit a lift

I was having a bath

I hope you weren't farting in that either.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It's mainly a load of messages from profiles with no pictures and/or text who think they're entitled to instant sex from you and calling you fat and/or ugly when you say no.

I reckon being a woman is a lot harder on here than being a man, mainly because so many men seem to resent us for thinking they have it so much harder. Vicious circle.

Another woman who reckons its harder for women than men lol

Just look at how many meets you have compared to me and I bet that's not half of them.

Yet it's harder for women lol is it fuck.

I know I've been through this before, but when women say this it's so annoying.

I wish you would try signing in male and then you'll know what hard is. "

Think I'll take a leaf out of SC's book and facepalm my way out of here...

....you can lead a Mickey Blue Balls to water...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I notice that Mickey has dropped another bomb and walked off again.

I wondered what that eggy sulphurous niff was!

Was literally going to compare it to farting as you exit a lift

I was having a bath

I hope you weren't farting in that either."

Instant jacuzzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not straight ?

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Standards of male behaviour over last cpl of years has declined.

Its not fun anymore.

I rarely meet now as the connections arent right for me.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

"Just be nice guys..... it’s not hard or difficult!

If you want to play in this adult world of fun - then pull your big boy pants on, act like an adult and if it doesn’t work out move on.

You get absolutely nowhere throwing your teddy’s out the pram, mmm that will definitely get them to change their mind about you.

Apologies - slightly off topic

Its not off topic at all, but the instashag gene is alive and well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we hated it that much we would have left.

The abuse would be nice to lessen if anything

For no to be understood as no and not mither..

But then again it wouldn't be fab and we'd have nowt to moan about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's mainly a load of messages from profiles with no pictures and/or text who think they're entitled to instant sex from you and calling you fat and/or ugly when you say no.

I reckon being a woman is a lot harder on here than being a man, mainly because so many men seem to resent us for thinking they have it so much harder. Vicious circle.

Another woman who reckons its harder for women than men lol

Just look at how many meets you have compared to me and I bet that's not half of them.

Yet it's harder for women lol is it fuck.

I know I've been through this before, but when women say this it's so annoying.

I wish you would try signing in male and then you'll know what hard is. "

Wish you'd try signing in as a woman and seeing just how many bs messages you get as soon as a new woman comes onto the site, without any profile details or photos.