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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This I know is prob gonna be a touchy subject for some . But can some one please explain to me why men physical and or mentally abuse there partners . Do they think it’s acceptable or ok to do so . What could possibly be going through there head that they do it to begin with . It just baffles me to no end . What are your thoughts

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Women do it to.

They do it because it gives them power and control over a situation.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

It's not just men you know. I'm not ashamed to admit that I was physically and mentally abused by my ex. Really you should be asking why anybody would do it at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A million different reasons, none of which are acceptable but each situation is different and unless you're living it you'll never understand.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh yes I know it happens both ways . A man should never lay an abusive have on a woman and a women is no better to do the same . But come on like . Are you that much of a prick you feel mighty fro beating what in most cases is a pontently weaker target .

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It baffles me too. Having said that, I (Luke) was married to a narcissist for 13 years who verbally and emotionally abused me. I thing her abuse was related to abuse she received as a child. She replicated a lot of the behaviour of her mother. I guess she learned that that's the way to treat people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x"

This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yes I know it happens both ways . A man should never lay an abusive have on a woman and a women is no better to do the same . But come on like . Are you that much of a prick you feel mighty fro beating what in most cases is a pontently weaker target . "

I don't think it's as straight forward as you're trying to make it.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Oh yes I know it happens both ways . A man should never lay an abusive have on a woman and a women is no better to do the same . But come on like . Are you that much of a prick you feel mighty fro beating what in most cases is a pontently weaker target .

I don't think it's as straight forward as you're trying to make it. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just physical, there is emotional abuse too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x

This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. "
but we all hear so many cases the woman or man is afraid to leave .

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x

This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. "

I grew up in an abusive household and then was in an abusive relationship. You'd have thought I'd recognise the signs but it was a long time before I escaped. The physical abuse I got over, the mental abuse is a work in progress to get over x

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It's not just men and its always about control.

Nearly 20 years I was married to n abusive narcissist. It's not easy to get out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x

This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. but we all hear so many cases the woman or man is afraid to leave . "

Absolutely agree 100% that’s why I mean it when somebody finds the courage to leave it behind it takes bottle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not just men and its always about control.

Nearly 20 years I was married to n abusive narcissist. It's not easy to get out."
I agree and can understand how difficult it can

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It’s about power and control.

They wield fear as a tool to control you and empower them.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x"
and

I agree. I would also add that people don't always realise they've become addicted to control and that it has become unhealthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The scars from my past are ones that have help structure my belief on how not to treat others, I'm a better person than those who inflicted them because I will never be like them.

Unfortunately, there's people out there that have a warped sense of morality, narcissists who believe they can treat others how they please to inflate thier own sense of importance. I feel for those trapped in such destructive relationships with the abusers.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

They usually have issues themselves. Some have been abused themselves in the past. That's not an excuse, just an explanation.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It's not just men and its always about control.

Nearly 20 years I was married to n abusive narcissist. It's not easy to get out."

No it is not. Took me a decade.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It's not just men and its always about control.

Nearly 20 years I was married to n abusive narcissist. It's not easy to get out.

No it is not. Took me a decade."

Not easy I meant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes thinking about you would feel physicaly sick

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