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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Confident people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

We don’t. We hate arrogant people that assume it’s confidence.

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By *otstuffbabeCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Confident people?

Do we? I don't! I don't know why anyone would

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I dont. Arrogance yes but I like confidence xx

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"We don’t. We hate arrogant people that assume it’s confidence. "

Or confident people that are also arrogant.

Blurred lines and overlaps between the two. But that is essentially it, when the confidence appears to be or is arrogance

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Our regular meet is confident and glad he is as pushes us out of our comfort zone so all good ,there is confident then there is cocky hate that off putting for us ../

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

One persons confidence is another’s arrogance - I personally love a bit of self-deprecating arrogance (is that an oxymoron?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Grrrrr .... dont get me started!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

A quiet confidence I think is what is liked. It's not part of their personality or their being, it is just there without any effort of brash larger than life "look at me" about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confident people?

Insecure people hate confident people I love confident people

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Grrrrr .... dont get me started!

(Blows raspberry).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think true confidence is attractive. False confidence is a lot more transparent than people think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To everyone asking - yes, confidence is very disliked. Only if you’re female, though

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

It's when it's displayed as cocky and arrogant that I don't like it. In my professional life I can't stand salesmen as they all seem to have that personality trait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont i just compete mainly with myself

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I dont really hate anybody, I'm more jealous of the confident than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confident people?

We don't =)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hate confidence. It can be attractive.

I dislike arrogance.

I pity people who need to seek the approval of others to increase their self worth and self confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Grrrrr .... dont get me started!

(Blows raspberry).

That's precisely why

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Confident people are fine, it's people who mask inadequacy with fake over-confidence that get our goat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Who could hate you CG? xx

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"To everyone asking - yes, confidence is very disliked. Only if you’re female, though "

Sweeping generalisation ahead

I think men love a confident woman - and by that I mean, comfortable in their own skin and not afraid get what they want.

Other women can see them attention seekers

As stated it’s a very broad sweeping observation (dismount white knights!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is attractive

Arrogance is not

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Who could hate you CG? xx"

I know. I'm adorable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.. I hate disrespectful people and bad manners

But then I'd be quite confident so maybe people hate me.. But I don't care lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m confident in who I am and what I do in my life.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Grrrrr .... dont get me started!

(Blows raspberry).

That's precisely why"

Big hugs.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"To everyone asking - yes, confidence is very disliked. Only if you’re female, though

Sweeping generalisation ahead

I think men love a confident woman - and by that I mean, comfortable in their own skin and not afraid get what they want.

Other women can see them attention seekers

As stated it’s a very broad sweeping observation (dismount white knights!) "

I think insecure people can dislike confident people. I don't think it's gender specific. I had a man dislike me for the 4 years he knew me because early on he called me unattractive for swearing at my own flat party at university and my response was that I didn't need him to be attracted to me. We ended up living in the same big house the next year and I tried to be nice but he just never wanted to know and seemed annoyed that everyone else we lived with was friends with me. Some men also seem to prefer insecure women as they're easier to manipulate which is a bit sick.

Some insecure women can also dislike other women for being confident but I don't think most women do at all.

The loud mouth, cocky types of any gender are annoying to most but they usually aren't actually confident people. It's usually a persona to mask a lot of deep seated insecurity.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

There are areas of my life where I'm very confident. I'm brilliant at my job, I shine and I like to have my expertise acknowledged.

As a man that would be confidence, as a woman it's sometimes seen as arrogant. So be it, call me arrogant and watch me not care.

Thankfully as I reach more senior positions I find I'm valued for my strength rather than criticised for it.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Insecurity and some people just see the need to knock people down. Misery begets misery.

If it’s real confidence that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I consider myself confident.

Am I hated then?

Grrrrr .... dont get me started!

(Blows raspberry).

That's precisely why

Big hugs.

;-)

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Because something tell u you that they aren’t sincere, perhaps ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Insecurity and some people just see the need to knock people down. Misery begets misery.

If it’s real confidence that is. "

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

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It is my opinion that confidant people are hated for various reasons. Maybe they come off ad arrogant or cocky... Have a holier than thou type of attitude. Or maybe they're hated because of jealousy. Like you see a person with nice things they dress nice so on and so on. So in turn they exude that confidence and swagger. Meanwhile a person not as well off looks at the successful confidant person like damn i want that why can't that be me...

Those are just two examples as to why confidant people are hated.

Again... Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I don't hate anyone apart from one or two narcissist sociopathic type people who royally screwed me over in the past. My default position is love and respect until someone crosses a line. Life's so much more pleasant that way...

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Don't hate just slightly envious

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded! "

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

You don’t?!

I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't hate confident people, envy some of them yes, even dislike in some instances when that confidence manifests itself in an ugly way, but for me to truly hate someone takes a lot more than a single personality trait

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Confident people?

I don't think that people do.

I find confidence sexy, especially in women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t hate confident people I’m not a fan of arrogantly confident people though

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Insecurity???

Maybe some people find it easier/more satisfying to try to bring someone else down or to slag them off than to drag themselves up???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think confidence and arrogance are sometimes mixed up by people.

Absolutely nothing wrong with confidence.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

You don’t?!

I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...! "

I'm afraid so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

You don’t?!

I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!

I'm afraid so

Knew I was doing something wrong!

Or maybe I have an ugly cock?!

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

As you stated earlier these things aren’t gender specific (although we only have our own gender viewpoints to go on) women call men arrogant if they have the temerity to turn then down!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I personally prefer quiet confidence. The only thing i like shoved down my throat is a cock.

But some people are more exhubrant. I’m shy and quiet. So quieter types are more “my” people. If that makes sense?

If we were all the same life would be dull.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

You don’t?!

I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!

I'm afraid so

Knew I was doing something wrong!

Or maybe I have an ugly cock?!"

Maybe both.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

As you stated earlier these things aren’t gender specific (although we only have our own gender viewpoints to go on) women call men arrogant if they have the temerity to turn then down!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!

Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message

You don’t?!

I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!

I'm afraid so

Knew I was doing something wrong!

Or maybe I have an ugly cock?!

Maybe both."

I thought mine was decent looking-for a cock

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Well that's me potentially buggered then!...

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I don't hate confident people at all, although possibly envy them. The most confident people I've ever come across aren't flashy or look at me though, they just ooze it. Think that it's beautiful to see, someone so happy in themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually find that confident folk talk sense and get things done. Is that why they are envied/disliked?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Hate is a very emotive word

Which I would say is incorrect....

Perhaps envy or dislike but not hate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m misanthropic; I hate everyone equally

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"We don’t. We hate arrogant people that assume it’s confidence. "

Agree.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women. "

So is high confidence. It just depends who you ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women. "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem with confidence.

Arrogance however is another matter.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I like people who are confident and comfortable in themselves - it's a great, attractive trait. I don't like it when it becomes arrogance or thinking they are better than others (and being rude to people). But people who are not as confident can do that as well.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.

Yep

And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.

God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".

Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".

I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Confident people?

I come across as confident, but I’m really not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.

Yep

And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.

God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".

Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".

I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation "

It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.

Yep

And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.

God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".

Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".

I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation

It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves "

You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.

Yep

And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.

God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".

Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".

I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation

It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves

You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.

Gotta get those sympathy fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love confidence on anyone. I dislike people that are full of themselves arrogant and egotistical. Though sometimes a smudge of that in a humourous way is fun.

Absolutely hate narcissistic sociapath types

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't get ne started.

Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.

Yep

And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.

God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".

Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".

I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation

It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves

You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.

Gotta get those sympathy fucks"

Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?

What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm some people might say I’m arrogant just because I’m happy with how I look.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves

You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.

Gotta get those sympathy fucks

Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?

What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy? "

Reverse snobbery is real? No, surely not.

I do think though that women (and men and tvs etc) shouldn't tear each other down. Do away with the assumptions that someone who is confident is a twat and up themselves. Fuck the belief that if someone is lacking in confidence they are doing it to play games or get attention. Take people as they are and lift each other up instead of casting negative aspersions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves

You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.

Gotta get those sympathy fucks

Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?

What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy?

Reverse snobbery is real? No, surely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont hate anyone....

Sounds rather a negative waste of time that only affects the life of the haters....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves

You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.

Gotta get those sympathy fucks

Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?

What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy?

Reverse snobbery is real? No, surely not.

People who really lack confidence don't do it to get attention but people who pretend to do.

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