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By *234 hot saira OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

west midland

So naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its now the mafia

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Do they all sniff each other's bumholes?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It doesn’t exist, except with those of you who assume it does...

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Do they all sniff each other's bumholes? "

One can only hope. How else do you introduce yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do they all sniff each other's bumholes? "

In a line, like a human centipede.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do they all sniff each other's bumholes?

In a line, like a human centipede. "

Nooooo I have that film in my head now

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By *234 hot saira OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

west midland

They all post here they cant help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a forum, the place to post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They all post here they cant help it"

So you’re in the clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

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People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar "

I don't mind but seriously it just seems if you post regularly and interact with people, some see it as bad thing but I just see it as being involved.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar

I don't mind but seriously it just seems if you post regularly and interact with people, some see it as bad thing but I just see it as being involved. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar

I don't mind but seriously it just seems if you post regularly and interact with people, some see it as bad thing but I just see it as being involved.

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I completely agree, not only that, but there are some ridiculous threads posted, so no wonder they get ripped.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar

I don't mind but seriously it just seems if you post regularly and interact with people, some see it as bad thing but I just see it as being involved. "

It’s called interaction pure and simple, that’s what a forum is for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar

I don't mind but seriously it just seems if you post regularly and interact with people, some see it as bad thing but I just see it as being involved.

It’s called interaction pure and simple, that’s what a forum is for "

True words, it's why I'm here.

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

So it’s not French for clit then? Would explain the difficulty in finding it!

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

Thank f*** I'm new , no one is going to say I'm in the clique

Forums are fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank f*** I'm new , no one is going to say I'm in the clique

Forums are fun ."

careful they'll pull you in

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

At least it wasn't called a Click

First rule of the forum clique, don't mention the forum clique

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"At least it wasn't called a Click

First rule of the forum clique, don't mention the forum clique

"

If the forum is clicking, check your device.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"At least it wasn't called a Click

First rule of the forum clique, don't mention the forum clique

If the forum is clicking, check your device. "

Could be my arthritic hands from posting too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does one know if one is in the clique? Is there some sort of ritual induction?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"How does one know if one is in the clique? Is there some sort of ritual induction? "

When you're in you know ...

Or so I've heard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cliques are a natural part of life, never noticed by those in them only by those wanting to join them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could easily name about 20 people who are perceived to be in the clique, even though I don't really think there is one tbh

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've never tried their products are they any good or better than Clarins?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"How does one know if one is in the clique? Is there some sort of ritual induction? "

Even those that are in, don’t know they are in, it’s that elusive

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"I got accused of being in the clique the other day.

People can be mean

Make love, not w.ar

I don't mind but seriously it just seems if you post regularly and interact with people, some see it as bad thing but I just see it as being involved. "

This is an old chestnut of mine, and someone else probably said it first but...,

the biggest (and possibly only?) clique on Fab is the “Fab’s too cliquey” clique.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I could easily name about 20 people who are perceived to be in the clique, even though I don't really think there is one tbh "

But perceived by whom?

Those wanting in? Or those people themselves?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've never tried their products are they any good or better than Clarins? "

Try The Ordinary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could easily name about 20 people who are perceived to be in the clique, even though I don't really think there is one tbh

But perceived by whom?

Those wanting in? Or those people themselves?"

Perceived by people who think there is a clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here over a year and post often but still get ignored regularly by a few forumites. I dont look at them as a clique ust because they dont include me, I just think they have known each other for a long time on here and have gotten more friendly with each other than everyone else. Plus, not every post gets replied to and my post are generally lighthearted and sometimes completely off topic anyway

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

One persons clique is just another’s group of

Mates.

We used to get this with a club we attended. Which was often described as cliquey for the body beautiful. When In fact it was just a group of people who had met on the scene and would socialise on a club night.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you. "

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away."

Couldnt agree more xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you. "

Great advice..Although I do know a few of them..Lol

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx"

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I think a lot of it is just people not really getting the nature (good and bad) of interaction online.

I’ve posted utterly magnificent stuff that’s been totally ignored and complete drivel that people have responded to in their droves.

It’s all good. People just read too much into the amount of response they get, partly because its gratifying to see people taking an interest.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop "

Just not AT me... it gets stuck in my hair

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop

Just not AT me... it gets stuck in my hair "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine"

I'm not sure anyone would deem me a mindless lemming, I've always spoken my mind, and I know damn well I'm part of the so called clique.

Curate your early forum experience.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

I'm not sure anyone would deem me a mindless lemming, I've always spoken my mind, and I know damn well I'm part of the so called clique.

Curate your early forum experience. "

I cant say I've ever felt theres a clique? If you are in it who else is? Serious question by the way I'm always lost when people think theres a clique x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

I wouldn’t say clique as such, but when you see the same names (hate it when people change theirs) popping up over and over it could be perceived that way.

Tbh.... if it wasn’t for the regular posters this place would be dead!

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

I'm not sure anyone would deem me a mindless lemming, I've always spoken my mind, and I know damn well I'm part of the so called clique.

Curate your early forum experience. "

Why should I come in as a sycophant if I do not ever want to be one.....

For the record I have been on here before....for many years ....circumstance deemed that I had to start a new profile....

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Good grief it's merely establishing and working with an established culture.

If you don't want to, more power to you, but then don't complain it doesn't work for you because the solution is right there in black and white.

And this is from someone who is very inclusive of new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First rule of The Clique Club, deny all knowledge of A Clique Club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you. "

You don't have to do this to get "in" on the forums. You're in no matter what as long as you ain't blocked

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

100% there is a clique. Wish I was part of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

I'm not sure anyone would deem me a mindless lemming, I've always spoken my mind, and I know damn well I'm part of the so called clique.

Curate your early forum experience.

I cant say I've ever felt theres a clique? If you are in it who else is? Serious question by the way I'm always lost when people think theres a clique x"
want to borrow my satnav

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"100% there is a clique. Wish I was part of it!"

So who's in the clique???

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine"

I feel like I agree with this even though I don't know what it means

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Damn it’s always the same old sentences rolled out with this topic !

At the end of the day, post what you want to post, expect that some won’t get answered (most don’t by the way), join in with the interaction and don’t wait for it to come to you; don’t assume because some are more interactive with others it’s a clique, it’s just people that have actually met getting along.

You will get out of this what you put in, there is no magic formula. Just be yourselves, but personally I look for positivity. Nothing worst than moaning threads over and over, some just can’t help themselves and it’s not becoming to want to interact with them

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

There are many people on here who know each other from socials, so they are bound to interact with each other, I wouldn't call it a clique, most are inclusive of othes

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Damn it’s always the same old sentences rolled out with this topic !

At the end of the day, post what you want to post, expect that some won’t get answered (most don’t by the way), join in with the interaction and don’t wait for it to come to you; don’t assume because some are more interactive with others it’s a clique, it’s just people that have actually met getting along.

You will get out of this what you put in, there is no magic formula. Just be yourselves, but personally I look for positivity. Nothing worst than moaning threads over and over, some just can’t help themselves and it’s not becoming to want to interact with them "

I've barely met any of the regs, but think I generally get along

Except when I don't, so I throw poop instead ... or has that been mentioned?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Damn it’s always the same old sentences rolled out with this topic !

At the end of the day, post what you want to post, expect that some won’t get answered (most don’t by the way), join in with the interaction and don’t wait for it to come to you; don’t assume because some are more interactive with others it’s a clique, it’s just people that have actually met getting along.

You will get out of this what you put in, there is no magic formula. Just be yourselves, but personally I look for positivity. Nothing worst than moaning threads over and over, some just can’t help themselves and it’s not becoming to want to interact with them

I've barely met any of the regs, but think I generally get along

Except when I don't, so I throw poop instead ... or has that been mentioned? "

Throw poop oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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lol i agree with what you originally said but dont think the Op started a thread to criticise any cliques which exist on all sites it is as you said groups of people that have met at socials so have that common bond and a feeling of comaradery

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate


"100% there is a clique. Wish I was part of it!

So who's in the clique???"

If you have to ask, you’re part of it!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

"

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Damn it’s always the same old sentences rolled out with this topic !

At the end of the day, post what you want to post, expect that some won’t get answered (most don’t by the way), join in with the interaction and don’t wait for it to come to you; don’t assume because some are more interactive with others it’s a clique, it’s just people that have actually met getting along.

You will get out of this what you put in, there is no magic formula. Just be yourselves, but personally I look for positivity. Nothing worst than moaning threads over and over, some just can’t help themselves and it’s not becoming to want to interact with them

I've barely met any of the regs, but think I generally get along

Except when I don't, so I throw poop instead ... or has that been mentioned?

Throw poop oh dear."

Or retreat to the cushion fort

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop "

As long as you clean it up after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be. "
i want to be......... nice bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you. "

nice post

but as I can go without logging of for 6 months to a year at a time which does happen, and due to only logging on as and when (usually when bored) then I guess as I am not on here 24/7 I wont be part of the above

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be. i want to be......... nice bum "

Great taste..I knew I liked you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

nice post

but as I can go without logging of for 6 months to a year at a time which does happen, and due to only logging on as and when (usually when bored) then I guess as I am not on here 24/7 I wont be part of the above "

You are though

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

nice post

but as I can go without logging of for 6 months to a year at a time which does happen, and due to only logging on as and when (usually when bored) then I guess as I am not on here 24/7 I wont be part of the above "

But that would be the same in any situation. If you don't interact with people, people forget plus on here there will be new users

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be. i want to be......... nice bum

Great taste..I knew I liked you "
lol come sit on my lap I'll guess your weight

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop

As long as you clean it up after "

Have you any idea how hard it is to find monkey poop bags????

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"[Removed by poster at 08/01/20 09:11:31]lol i agree with what you originally said but dont think the Op started a thread to criticise any cliques which exist on all sites it is as you said groups of people that have met at socials so have that common bond and a feeling of comaradery "

It’s still there but with spelling mistake corrected. I know was not intention of the original OP, it’s just where these threads always end up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be. "

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"At least it wasn't called a Click

First rule of the forum clique, don't mention the forum clique

If the forum is clicking, check your device.

Could be my arthritic hands from posting too much "

"Posting"

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I've said it before and will always continue to say it.

There IS clique like behaviour from some, deny it all you want but you can see it littered across many posts. It happens, not just here. It's not some higher power conspiracy overlord clique though that some make it out to be.

One way of actually creating a clique is by insisting there actually is one. You are strengthening the divide and enforcing the split. Creating what you hate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 08/01/20 09:11:31]lol i agree with what you originally said but dont think the Op started a thread to criticise any cliques which exist on all sites it is as you said groups of people that have met at socials so have that common bond and a feeling of comaradery

It’s still there but with spelling mistake corrected. I know was not intention of the original OP, it’s just where these threads always end up"
i know how they go but to deny they exist is somewhat naive but i agree no point being negative about it really its a fact of life on all sites/Internet domains

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"[Removed by poster at 08/01/20 09:11:31]lol i agree with what you originally said but dont think the Op started a thread to criticise any cliques which exist on all sites it is as you said groups of people that have met at socials so have that common bond and a feeling of comaradery

It’s still there but with spelling mistake corrected. I know was not intention of the original OP, it’s just where these threads always end upi know how they go but to deny they exist is somewhat naive but i agree no point being negative about it really its a fact of life on all sites/Internet domains "

I didn’t deny they exist, it’s called friendship.

I have lots of people I interact with via PM, but do I feel the need to comment on their comments in the forum, no. I only comment on what interests me or I have something to say.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

"

Are they seen to be ganging up just because they agree with each other? Like minded people and all that.

Or because they are Cliquey.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Good grief it's merely establishing and working with an established culture.

If you don't want to, more power to you, but then don't complain it doesn't work for you because the solution is right there in black and white.

And this is from someone who is very inclusive of new people. "

An established culture.....a website for what is essentially the equivalent of a hobby..

There are fanatics in every hobby.....and those are the ones who over time become the fascists...newcomers are accepted only if they fit in or shall be accepting of the indoctrination...and eventually the original ethos upon which the hobby was based is lost....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

A forum people chat have fun talk joke etc its called interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 08/01/20 09:11:31]lol i agree with what you originally said but dont think the Op started a thread to criticise any cliques which exist on all sites it is as you said groups of people that have met at socials so have that common bond and a feeling of comaradery

It’s still there but with spelling mistake corrected. I know was not intention of the original OP, it’s just where these threads always end upi know how they go but to deny they exist is somewhat naive but i agree no point being negative about it really its a fact of life on all sites/Internet domains

I didn’t deny they exist, it’s called friendship.

I have lots of people I interact with via PM, but do I feel the need to comment on their comments in the forum, no. I only comment on what interests me or I have something to say.

"
yes i see that in your interactions but obviously that doesn't apply to others

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine"

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop "

There's enough monkeys around here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

Are they seen to be ganging up just because they agree with each other? Like minded people and all that.

Or because they are Cliquey."

Some don't have their own opinion so they join in with there mates, others don't like being disagreed with I assume. Either way it isn't cliquey it's just they're arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are all the patterns unstructured group dynamics that go on on this forum. Cliquish behaviour is one of them. We have clowns, gatekeepers, harmonisers, oracles, confessors - you name it we’ve got them. The dysfunctional dynamics of such a group are to be expected.

I’m not surprised people see cliques where others feel welcomed, or feel scapegoated and ganged up on, feel included or excluded, experience bullying or strong friendships, power plays and psychological games, relationships forming, building and breaking down, people loving it, hating it and everything in between.. I could ramble on.

The thing is the forum is just a mirror image of what happens in other group situations. We can all do things that help it to feel more of a community or we can do things that hinder that.

Like SpursChick above I feel the more positive our approach is, the more likely we are to experience it positively. That doesn’t mean that the dysfunctional stuff won’t happen, it just means we can choose our response to it.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

Are they seen to be ganging up just because they agree with each other? Like minded people and all that.

Or because they are Cliquey.

Some don't have their own opinion so they join in with there mates, others don't like being disagreed with I assume. Either way it isn't cliquey it's just

they're arseholes."

No one likes an arsehole...I know I don't x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

Are they seen to be ganging up just because they agree with each other? Like minded people and all that.

Or because they are Cliquey.

Some don't have their own opinion so they join in with there mates, others don't like being disagreed with I assume. Either way it isn't cliquey it's just

they're arseholes.

No one likes an arsehole...I know I don't x"

Oh I don’t know I’m quite an advocate these days for the erotic possibilities of the arsehole

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

Are they seen to be ganging up just because they agree with each other? Like minded people and all that.

Or because they are Cliquey.

Some don't have their own opinion so they join in with there mates, others don't like being disagreed with I assume. Either way it isn't cliquey it's just

they're arseholes.

No one likes an arsehole...I know I don't x

Oh I don’t know I’m quite an advocate these days for the erotic possibilities of the arsehole "

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There are people who have met each other or have been longer than me. Of course they chat to each other more that is human nature. I've been on here 4 months I don't know everyone, buy I've started to interact more with people who regularly post here.

It's like walking into a new job and expecting everyone to be your best friend on the first day, it isn't going to happen. People need to manage their own expectations, and not throw a hissy fit if they aren't the most popular straight away.

Couldnt agree more xx

Ditto

I say, be more monkey, throw poop

There's enough monkeys around here"

Not .. ssshhh.. ... a monkey clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bum hole cleaning again lol 2 knuckles deep

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????"

The flirty one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????"

It's just the people who are friends people probably perceive you to be in the clique but you are definitely not cliquey

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

The flirty one "

Not me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Oh I don’t know I’m quite an advocate these days for the erotic possibilities of the arsehole "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

It may feel like the same people because there are a lot of regulars who post and without them this place would be much quieter and poorer for it.

I say be yourself, post regularly and people will get a feel for you and you them. Conversation then becomes easier. You can't be liked by all the people and why would you want to be.

Yes but there are alot of regulars who who don't feel the need to gang up and jump on people who have a different opinion to them yet there are other "regulars" who do.

Are they seen to be ganging up just because they agree with each other? Like minded people and all that.

Or because they are Cliquey.

Some don't have their own opinion so they join in with there mates, others don't like being disagreed with I assume. Either way it isn't cliquey it's just

they're arseholes.

No one likes an arsehole...I know I don't x"

Without arseholes I'd be straight so I reserve judgement but yes x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

It's just the people who are friends people probably perceive you to be in the clique but you are definitely not cliquey "

I stand alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

It's just the people who are friends people probably perceive you to be in the clique but you are definitely not cliquey

I stand alone x"

Exactly yet everyone likes you and you post loads so people probably perceive you to be in it x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

The flirty one

Not me "

Everyone loves a good flirt and a positive way to interact

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I often think that the concept of the dreaded 'c' is based on a couple of things;

Some *do* exhibit behaviour intended to exclude others, this happens in all walks of life though, the forums are no different.

Some know/meet/have friendships from the forums and socials, it's natural that they will chat to each other, it's not personal to newbies.

Everyone considers their experience to be individual, it's easy to feel ignored. You really aren't though. On a busy forum day, I can post 20 or 30 comments, only a few will be responded to. It doesn't mean I'm being ignored though.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

I am

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

It's just the people who are friends people probably perceive you to be in the clique but you are definitely not cliquey

I stand alone x

Exactly yet everyone likes you and you post loads so people probably perceive you to be in it x"

Well I'm not you maybe though

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

The flirty one

Not me

Everyone loves a good flirt and a positive way to interact "

Ooftitude

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock


"I am "

Oh sorry ....I thought you said the Clink

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

The flirty one

Not me

Everyone loves a good flirt and a positive way to interact

Ooftitude "

I’m using that next ooft thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What clique ???

Nah I ain’t experienced none of that

The forums is a laugh

Can’t justify that

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I am "

Yep the leader

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

This is all rubbish. There is no clique. People come and go, contributing to the forum for a while then disappear. Some remain but most quickly run out of things to say.

Anyway, on to more important things - any squirters on here? Let’s ha e a squirting thread as not seen one for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say!

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"I don't think its about people wanting to join in on the forums so they can be everyone's best mate. When I started I couldn't give two shits about that I just use them to pass time, as would alot of newbies.

I think it's when they post something people don't like it's always the same group of people jumping on it, and that puts them off posting again and they think there's a clique because they can see them doing it to other people too.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I fail to see how a group of people who interact are naughty. People who gang up on others are abhorrent agreed. But the clique also help when people are being arseholes to others.

They generally have been here the longest and have experience and or knowledge newbies don't. They're the ones who have the confidence to start more difficult topics such as jealousy etc.

Additionally when I see a post from someone saying hello and that they are new, they are often the first to say hello.

Why see the negative all the time, why not see the positives?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"This is all rubbish. There is no clique. People come and go, contributing to the forum for a while then disappear. Some remain but most quickly run out of things to say.

Anyway, on to more important things - any squirters on here? Let’s ha e a squirting thread as not seen one for a while."

Go start it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say! "

I'd say but it would take me ages and CBA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clique....or friends?

You get them here, you get them in chat rooms, you get them in clubs and you get them in work.

What is the issue here? It is human nature.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"This is all rubbish. There is no clique. People come and go, contributing to the forum for a while then disappear. Some remain but most quickly run out of things to say.

Anyway, on to more important things - any squirters on here? Let’s ha e a squirting thread as not seen one for a while.

Go start it ! "

I’m too scared to start it. I’m afraid of the clique!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say!

I'd say but it would take me ages and CBA "

I’ve honestly never really understood what it’s all about. Is it people who are friends? People who post a lot? People who bully? All I’ve noticed is some post more than others. Maybe that’s what it is. Who knows.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I just try to have fun.

I like everybody (almost).

Big hugs.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say!

I'd say but it would take me ages and CBA

I’ve honestly never really understood what it’s all about. Is it people who are friends? People who post a lot? People who bully? All I’ve noticed is some post more than others. Maybe that’s what it is. Who knows. "

I think its regular users but that changes

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"So who's this clique everyone keeps talking about?????

The flirty one

Not me

Everyone loves a good flirt and a positive way to interact

Ooftitude

I’m using that next ooft thread "

I have it copyrighted

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I often think that the concept of the dreaded 'c' is based on a couple of things;

Some *do* exhibit behaviour intended to exclude others, this happens in all walks of life though, the forums are no different.

Some know/meet/have friendships from the forums and socials, it's natural that they will chat to each other, it's not personal to newbies.

Everyone considers their experience to be individual, it's easy to feel ignored. You really aren't though. On a busy forum day, I can post 20 or 30 comments, only a few will be responded to. It doesn't mean I'm being ignored though. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say!

I'd say but it would take me ages and CBA

I’ve honestly never really understood what it’s all about. Is it people who are friends? People who post a lot? People who bully? All I’ve noticed is some post more than others. Maybe that’s what it is. Who knows. "

Who knows N

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much. "

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say!

I'd say but it would take me ages and CBA

I’ve honestly never really understood what it’s all about. Is it people who are friends? People who post a lot? People who bully? All I’ve noticed is some post more than others. Maybe that’s what it is. Who knows.

I think its regular users but that changes"

Ah ok. Don’t get how that’s a clique though. Surely that would be a group of people. I post quite a lot and I have friends on here but I don’t do the “stick together” thing. If one of my friends posts something I don’t agree with id challenge them as much I would someone I didn’t know and I’d back anyone up against bullying regardless of whether I knew them. I just can’t see this clique thing at all. Glad I can’t really.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Who cares. Post or don’t post. This apparent clique has been around for years. Fuck knows who’s in it. Nobody seems brave enough to say!

I'd say but it would take me ages and CBA

I’ve honestly never really understood what it’s all about. Is it people who are friends? People who post a lot? People who bully? All I’ve noticed is some post more than others. Maybe that’s what it is. Who knows.

I think its regular users but that changes

Ah ok. Don’t get how that’s a clique though. Surely that would be a group of people. I post quite a lot and I have friends on here but I don’t do the “stick together” thing. If one of my friends posts something I don’t agree with id challenge them as much I would someone I didn’t know and I’d back anyone up against bullying regardless of whether I knew them. I just can’t see this clique thing at all. Glad I can’t really. "

I don't and I always speak my mind and try to be civil.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up..."

How can you be ‘bullied’ in an anonymous online forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

How can you be ‘bullied’ in an anonymous online forum?"

Oh you can. I’ve seen it happen a lot to people

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up..."

You shouldn’t let a minority out you from the forums. If you feel strongly about being bullied, report their comments and get them dealt with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up..."

Yes to this

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Yes to this "

We shall be the new clique you and I

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I often think that the concept of the dreaded 'c' is based on a couple of things;

Some *do* exhibit behaviour intended to exclude others, this happens in all walks of life though, the forums are no different.

Some know/meet/have friendships from the forums and socials, it's natural that they will chat to each other, it's not personal to newbies.

Everyone considers their experience to be individual, it's easy to feel ignored. You really aren't though. On a busy forum day, I can post 20 or 30 comments, only a few will be responded to. It doesn't mean I'm being ignored though. "

Nail on the head there as usual

The thing is, and this is what a lot of people seem to overlook is that the site *is* an individual experience ultimately - yes people get to know one another and bounce of one another as they would in any walk of life, doesn't mean they are necessarily a clique - but coming back to the "individual" thing - I find all too often not only on this subject but many others too, people focus on what others do and how others interact rather than focusing on their own use of the site.

Yes, when people bully others it's a terrible thing and should be clamped down on, but when a group of people know each other and bounce off each other without any nastiness what does it matter ultimately? Does it affect my personal use of the site? Not one bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Yes to this

We shall be the new clique you and I"

Deal

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up..."

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Yes to this

We shall be the new clique you and I

Deal"

Love you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Yes to this

We shall be the new clique you and I

Deal

Love you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society. "

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Its now the mafia "

Italian?

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock


"Its now the mafia

Italian?"

Remember the code of Omerta......sshhhh

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much."

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on "

I see where you're coming from but since I've called them out on it it's stopped majority of it tbh haven't seen it happen for a while bar one the other day on a young lad, but when I called them out on that they stopped.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

You shouldn’t let a minority out you from the forums. If you feel strongly about being bullied, report their comments and get them dealt with

"

Ah now there is further irony to this.....report it and nothing get done....yet if a member of clique raises a report a ban occurs...I know because a friend of mine has left Fab for this very reason....

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on

I see where you're coming from but since I've called them out on it it's stopped majority of it tbh haven't seen it happen for a while bar one the other day on a young lad, but when I called them out on that they stopped."

Both work. As they don’t like being confronted

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I used to be in the clique, then I went rogue.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up..."

Meh, from what I've heard from older scene friends/club owners/event organisers/etc on both sides, there's been a divide between swingers and kinksters for a very long time.

I'm more involved in the BDSM scene than the swinging scene and I've seen just as much judgement from kinksters about swinging as I have swingers about kinks. From my own experience at least, swingers aren't neccessarily accepting of different kinks and can be very judgemental about ones they don't understand, just as kinksters, while very accepting of others kinks even if they are not their own, can be pretty judgemental about people having multiple sexual partners or combining kink with sex.

Things seem to be getting better over time but for now those issues still remain and it's not just limited to the internet or any one site. A lot of us younger ones on the BDSM scene are certainly a lot more open minded and accepting of people doing BDSM their own way as long as they are safe and many like myself dip our toes in both scenes but still are happy for others to only want to explore one or the other. Many in my age group still do do things in the traditional way but many don't and that doesn't go down too well with a lot of older kinksters who have been on the scene for a long time so a lot of under 35s get a lot of stick.

From what I've witnessed, similar things are happening within swinging. There seems to have been an increase in swingers interest in kink which at least in my local area has led to the emergence of a lot of crossover events, mainly aimed at swingers who wish to dip their toes in and the club gives discounted entry to experienced kinksters who are happy to publically demonstrate, discuss and help educate. I'm also noticing more and more on here like myself who are more kinksters but exploring swinging too (because just because we like kink it doesn't mean we don't enjoy sex as a stand alone too!).

Personally I hope that in the future the two scenes will become more merged and there will be less of a divide. It seems to be moving that way and I personally welcome it. Many don't like change though and there will always be resistance and judgement of the unknown by those who aren't open to changing their minds enough to understand.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on

I see where you're coming from but since I've called them out on it it's stopped majority of it tbh haven't seen it happen for a while bar one the other day on a young lad, but when I called them out on that they stopped."

You are not a threat to them...the ones who are they continue to lock horns with....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on

I see where you're coming from but since I've called them out on it it's stopped majority of it tbh haven't seen it happen for a while bar one the other day on a young lad, but when I called them out on that they stopped.

You are not a threat to them...the ones who are they continue to lock horns with...."

a threat ? This isn't war

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"

The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society. "

And that hits the nail on the head.....question them about it and they deny it.....so how can a group of attention seeking individuals infiltrate a group and have an influence in how it is run, when they do not even participate.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society. "

I was vilified about 5 years ago for calling out the pack mentality. I was new then. It can be savage. Unfortunately groupthink is a common dynamic in these kind of fora.

I don’t get vilified anymore. Make of that what you will.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on

I see where you're coming from but since I've called them out on it it's stopped majority of it tbh haven't seen it happen for a while bar one the other day on a young lad, but when I called them out on that they stopped.

You are not a threat to them...the ones who are they continue to lock horns with....

a threat ? This isn't war "
.

Interesting ....you are now sounding like them....perhaps they accepted you because you have the same word twisting and snowflake tendencies....don’t be a twat, you know what I meant....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

You shouldn’t let a minority out you from the forums. If you feel strongly about being bullied, report their comments and get them dealt with

Ah now there is further irony to this.....report it and nothing get done....yet if a member of clique raises a report a ban occurs...I know because a friend of mine has left Fab for this very reason...."

Again I've been told by some I'm in the clique yet many of my reports don't result in anything yet I've had a fair few time outs . That's down to the mods though. Or are the mods the clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Illuminati are running the forums. Can’t trust the mods

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

I was vilified about 5 years ago for calling out the pack mentality. I was new then. It can be savage. Unfortunately groupthink is a common dynamic in these kind of fora.

I don’t get vilified anymore. Make of that what you will."

Unfortunately I must admit that I do have tendencies to want to challenge that pack to seek out the leader(s)

Progress never happens if one never challenges establishment....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Illuminati are running the forums. Can’t trust the mods "

Sshh ... people disappear for stating such things

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over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

I was vilified about 5 years ago for calling out the pack mentality. I was new then. It can be savage. Unfortunately groupthink is a common dynamic in these kind of fora.

I don’t get vilified anymore. Make of that what you will.

Unfortunately I must admit that I do have tendencies to want to challenge that pack to seek out the leader(s)

Progress never happens if one never challenges establishment...."

The make-up shifts and changes but there are unwritten rules in here that guide the behaviour. Break the unwritten ones and you’ll be herded on, break the written ones and you face a ban. Some of the more subversive behaviour never gets reported because it doesn’t overtly break the rules and sometimes gets overlooked.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

I was vilified about 5 years ago for calling out the pack mentality. I was new then. It can be savage. Unfortunately groupthink is a common dynamic in these kind of fora.

I don’t get vilified anymore. Make of that what you will.

Unfortunately I must admit that I do have tendencies to want to challenge that pack to seek out the leader(s)

Progress never happens if one never challenges establishment...."

I find the challenging fun though. It's interesting to see how groups respond to things that make them question a widely held view. You do take some shit by doing so and putting your head above the parapet but that's inevitable in a lot of situations. I avoid it on days I'm not in the mood to deal with it but on other days I find it's worth it for those who are open to a reasoned discussion.

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over a year ago


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

Jesus so eloquently put yet cutting. Wish I could explain the hounding as well as this. Well done both. Luckily it has quietened down alot after I started calling them all out a few weeks ago doesn't happen as much.

Do you know though, the best way to deal with it is to ignore it, don’t let it show it’s bothering you. Why.... because they hate it and have nothing to thrive on

I see where you're coming from but since I've called them out on it it's stopped majority of it tbh haven't seen it happen for a while bar one the other day on a young lad, but when I called them out on that they stopped.

You are not a threat to them...the ones who are they continue to lock horns with....

a threat ? This isn't war .

Interesting ....you are now sounding like them....perhaps they accepted you because you have the same word twisting and snowflake tendencies....don’t be a twat, you know what I meant...."

unfortunately no I don't know what you mean, surely I'm the biggest threat because I'm the most popular person on the forums who calls out the pack ???.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock


"Illuminati are running the forums. Can’t trust the mods

Sshh ... people disappear for stating such things "

Wiki-leaks means something different on here

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I’ve been posting for years, get a few responses, if there is a clique they ignore my presence by & large which is cool because it shows I’m doing none of the things a previous posters advised.

Be nice, interact etc.etc.

I see a thread/post that interests & I think I have something to add I will & I don’t give a flying fuck who started the thread nor do I even check who has answered it until I see a good comment & will then look.

The comments are more important than who said them until they are good/valid/interesting to me or the thread.

Whether there is a clique or not doesn’t interest or concern me, if there is one though I must be immune/blind to their bullying because I’m still here.

Or is it just women being bitchy about other women? Far more likely in my book...

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where did that guy go, he was in the cliche he was from Manchester. had the motorbike profile photo, he was pretty cool think it was a photo of a tatto of a bike on his arm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been posting for years, get a few responses, if there is a clique they ignore my presence by & large which is cool because it shows I’m doing none of the things a previous posters advised.

Be nice, interact etc.etc.

I see a thread/post that interests & I think I have something to add I will & I don’t give a flying fuck who started the thread nor do I even check who has answered it until I see a good comment & will then look.

The comments are more important than who said them until they are good/valid/interesting to me or the thread.

Whether there is a clique or not doesn’t interest or concern me, if there is one though I must be immune/blind to their bullying because I’m still here.

Or is it just women being bitchy about other women? Far more likely in my book...

S"

Booooring. The narrative about how women are only ever bitchy to each other is so tired and outdated.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Tips to getting into the clique, or breaking into forums.

Read, get a sense of the regulars. Start posting bit by bit, be constructive, contribute. Expect to feel ignored for up to a month (that's perception more than reality). Persist. Be friendly, reach out but don't act like you know people when you don't.

Eventually you'll break in.

It's the same on almost any community forum. It's not a secret, it's not a clique. I did it here when I joined. So can you.

Hypocrisy rules on Fab...and it is the clique that are masters ....disagree and and you will get deemed a troll...I do not wish to be a sycophant.....if I agree with something I agree...if I disagree I say so....yet get bullied verbally by people who have opinions that are deemed to be “better” than mine

Lol! People have accused me of being in "the clique" yet I regularly disagree with the masses. Usually about stuff kink related or occassionally my left wing politics. I have some pretty unpopular kinks and opinions. My choices are either don't talk about them here or not care about others opinions. I can't make other people agree with me. I chose not to give a shit and remain a vocal minority. If you feel genuinely bullied, report it. If it's more just feeling dogpiled by a large number with an opposing opinion, maybe just avoid those topics if it affects you so much.

I do not give a shit to be honest, it is just that there are people like me that ARE bullied off the forums....why can one not be accepted as having a differing opinion.....swingers are “supposed” to uphold the ethos of being accepting of individuality, different kinks, and open minded.....so many of the clique are nothing like this....it is a fit in, or fuck off/shut up...

Certainly the clique does exist. Often denied, but you see it day in day out. The thing is alot on the forums are not swingers, they are insecure and love to round on people with different points of view, often newbies, think pack mentality. Upset one and the pitch forks are out.I've seen it happen many times. However, meet them in real life and they are comical, back stabbing, two faced individuals. The forums are such a tiny part of the scene, however they reflect society.

I was vilified about 5 years ago for calling out the pack mentality. I was new then. It can be savage. Unfortunately groupthink is a common dynamic in these kind of fora.

I don’t get vilified anymore. Make of that what you will.

Unfortunately I must admit that I do have tendencies to want to challenge that pack to seek out the leader(s)

Progress never happens if one never challenges establishment....

The make-up shifts and changes but there are unwritten rules in here that guide the behaviour. Break the unwritten ones and you’ll be herded on, break the written ones and you face a ban. Some of the more subversive behaviour never gets reported because it doesn’t overtly break the rules and sometimes gets overlooked."

There absolutely are some assholes about who know the precise line to tread to upset others while not obviously breaking the rules. That's a different thing to a clique though. If there was a large group of people like that rather than the odd individual I wouldn't stay and why would people want to be part of something like that anyway unless they were that sort of person to? So then why all the complaints about not being able to "break into the clique"?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It's not women being bitchy

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I’ve been posting for years, get a few responses, if there is a clique they ignore my presence by & large which is cool because it shows I’m doing none of the things a previous posters advised.

Be nice, interact etc.etc.

I see a thread/post that interests & I think I have something to add I will & I don’t give a flying fuck who started the thread nor do I even check who has answered it until I see a good comment & will then look.

The comments are more important than who said them until they are good/valid/interesting to me or the thread.

Whether there is a clique or not doesn’t interest or concern me, if there is one though I must be immune/blind to their bullying because I’m still here.

Or is it just women being bitchy about other women? Far more likely in my book...

S"

But you have taken the advice of some on this thread, which is post what you want and be you. I've noticed your posts on here does that make you part of a clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember how you had your group of friends in the playground at school? You shared the same interests and simply got on? How you were selective of new kids who wanted to join?

It’s the same here in the forums.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I’ve been posting for years, get a few responses, if there is a clique they ignore my presence by & large which is cool because it shows I’m doing none of the things a previous posters advised.

Be nice, interact etc.etc.

I see a thread/post that interests & I think I have something to add I will & I don’t give a flying fuck who started the thread nor do I even check who has answered it until I see a good comment & will then look.

The comments are more important than who said them until they are good/valid/interesting to me or the thread.

Whether there is a clique or not doesn’t interest or concern me, if there is one though I must be immune/blind to their bullying because I’m still here.

Or is it just women being bitchy about other women? Far more likely in my book...

S"

Either way it sounds like you're doing it right. As is anyone else who enjoys their experience. If not, change how you use it rather than getting twisted over things beyond your control like other people being friendly with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember how you had your group of friends in the playground at school? You shared the same interests and simply got on? How you were selective of new kids who wanted to join?

It’s the same here in the forums. "

Can you take me in to your bosom please

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Remember how you had your group of friends in the playground at school? You shared the same interests and simply got on? How you were selective of new kids who wanted to join?

It’s the same here in the forums. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why worry about such a tiny part of the site ?? the forums don't run the site the swingers who play and avoid the forums run the site

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I’ve been posting for years, get a few responses, if there is a clique they ignore my presence by & large which is cool because it shows I’m doing none of the things a previous posters advised.

Be nice, interact etc.etc.

I see a thread/post that interests & I think I have something to add I will & I don’t give a flying fuck who started the thread nor do I even check who has answered it until I see a good comment & will then look.

The comments are more important than who said them until they are good/valid/interesting to me or the thread.

Whether there is a clique or not doesn’t interest or concern me, if there is one though I must be immune/blind to their bullying because I’m still here.

Or is it just women being bitchy about other women? Far more likely in my book...

S

Booooring. The narrative about how women are only ever bitchy to each other is so tired and outdated. "

Haha most of the in fighting I have been aware of on here has been between men.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Cliques and pack mentality often share a lot of similar things. They often cross paths and blur lines.

Pack mentality is most certainly the dominant force when it comes to this forum in particular. Just not enough for it to push in to clique territory.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"I’ve been posting for years, get a few responses, if there is a clique they ignore my presence by & large which is cool because it shows I’m doing none of the things a previous posters advised.

Be nice, interact etc.etc.

I see a thread/post that interests & I think I have something to add I will & I don’t give a flying fuck who started the thread nor do I even check who has answered it until I see a good comment & will then look.

The comments are more important than who said them until they are good/valid/interesting to me or the thread.

Whether there is a clique or not doesn’t interest or concern me, if there is one though I must be immune/blind to their bullying because I’m still here.

Or is it just women being bitchy about other women? Far more likely in my book...

S

But you have taken the advice of some on this thread, which is post what you want and be you. I've noticed your posts on here does that make you part of a clique? "

I don’t think so because I have never taken that advise & in nearly four years have usually just posted what I want to say regardless of any “Prick,Twat, You’re right, I agree” responses it might encounter. The other part to your question just means your a forum user

S

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