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Meeting at Home, am I being unreasonable?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Heck no this is the reason why we won't accommodate as it's our kids home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfectly reasonable. I’d be uncomfortable meeting knowing there were kids in the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good god no !! It’s unreasonable they suggest it !!

Avoid those ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. And if anyone kicks up about it just block them without a second thought.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Certainly not no!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

God no, your home is you and your child sanctuary. Totally agree with you. Any guy who tells you different is a shunt

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By *aughty island coupleCouple
over a year ago

Portland dorset

You have to think of your safety and your childs . No way meet at home x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Heck no this is the reason why we won't accommodate as it's our kids home "

Thank God. I was starting to feel like I was strange. But I do not think it is safe or fair.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When guys get shitty about that they're the ones being unreasonable and not the sort of people you want in your life anyway!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Tip em bollox!

S

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

Not unreasonable at all! I don't meet at home even when the kids aren't here, just in case they turn up. If anyone got pushy about meeting me at home I'd tell them to fuck right off!

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Nope not unreasonable. We don’t meet at home and we don’t have children. You are allowed to do what you feel comfortable doing and shouldn’t fee pressured into anything you’re not happy with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unreasonable at all I'm a single guy and I won't accommodate I don't even let my parents in there the unreasonable ones just block move in safety first

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You're being entirely reasonable. It's your child's home, that's sacrosanct. Tell them to take a long walk off a short pier.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Heck no this is the reason why we won't accommodate as it's our kids home

Thank God. I was starting to feel like I was strange. But I do not think it is safe or fair. "

Totally agree with you, it isn't safe with an unknown. Use it as a filter to get rid of the weirdos

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

You set the rules

You decide

It’s your choice

These guys who get ‘shitty’ with you are selfish so just block the dingbats!

Also on the other end of the scale be careful visiting single guys homes even if they do seem nice when messaging.

Take care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you guys. It’s unbelievable how many guys have kicked off about it!!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

We won't entertain at home whether our kids are home or not.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

You do what is right for you not them it's that simple.

I personally would never allow anyone to visit my home come hell or high water,and the same now for visiting other swinger's home, you never know who's going to be in those room's or were the hidden cameras are

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Completely reasonable. I would only meet a Lady (after Social etc...) where both would be comfortable to play e.g. a Hotel.

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

We do accommodate at home, and we do play with the kids upstairs

If we didnt we would never get to play ! We have 3 young kids finding a sitter is a nightmare

Kids come first always, only ever had 1 wake up in 5 years and he didnt even reach the living room door before i was up the stairs to him

We play in the living room only with the door locked

Its not sutited to everyone but those that do come round leave with smiles on there faces

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

It’s never unreasonable. Family first always. Anyone who has a problem with it is not worth the air it takes to respond. I have met single mothers in the past and even if there has been a last Minute cancellation because of a sick child I don’t get arsey. When I have kids they will be my world and my everything. So don’t feel down or bad just except use the block button on the arseholes who have an issue with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely your home is a private place and your immediate family and their safety is vital. If people kick of then avoid as they should understand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope not unreasonable. We don’t meet at home and we don’t have children. You are allowed to do what you feel comfortable doing and shouldn’t fee pressured into anything you’re not happy with x"

Agree with this and the other sentiments voiced above. Its not unreasonable. Yours and your childs safety comes first.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'm a single mum & I would never have a fab meet in my home (whether my kids were here or not) & that is non negotiable. Any guy who won't accept that just doesn't get to meet me.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Thank you guys. It’s unbelievable how many guys have kicked off about it!! "

Tightwads won't pay for a hotel?

Avoid

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't accommodate because I don't want to. Anyone kicks off, I block them.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

That's why I don't accommodate and use day use hotels

Family life and fab life are separate, if they won't respect that block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will meet at my place when my son's not here, when he is not a chance in hell. Whether he's awake or asleep it's a hard no, no exceptions. It's not unreasonable at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no kids first and obviously your safety delete and block any arse that tries to sway you

Even me a big scary bloke insist on a public social first you can't be too careful

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

You do what suits you, if the other person doesn't like it, tough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!!

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I wouldn't necessarily want to meet in someone's own home on first meet anyway, social or hotel ideally. Just a safety/comfort thing more then anything...But after that, it's up to the woman.

You're not being unreasonable. Should only meet with guys who agree with your terms

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!! "

Your place??

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!! "

Are you hosting at yours?

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!! "

As long as it’s in a nice big hotel roomies club lol

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

As long as you don't answer the door with a hockey mask on holding a chain saw, or your house is full of Annabelle doll's!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lmao yeah could have it at mine when child asleep!!!!!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Nope not unreasonable at all. I wouldn’t meet at someone’s house if they had a child.

Just men thinking with their cock.

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Not unreasonable at all. If meets aren’t respectful enough to care about your wishes before meeting who’s to say what else they won’t respect during or after it. Stick to your guns and kick em into touch. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a great way of filtering out the idiots. If they throw a strop over something like that, then it’s a red flag.

I don’t accom at mine for the same reason.

Whatever your choices are, they are your choices and you don’t have to justify them to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!!

Your place?? "

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Lou) Not at all, children should always come first and if they cant understand that then they not worth the time and effort of a meet in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!!

Are you hosting at yours? "

You coming?!

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

When I have profile text the last line reads:

I never accomodate. I don't want you in my house.

That's all the explanation needed. Stick to your guns op. You're the Queen of your castle and what you say goes.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!!

Your place??

"

If not I'm throwing toys out the pram, swinging into my cushion fort throwing poop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t have anyone in my home regardless of how many times I’ve met them. Nobody on fab knows exactly where I live and they never will. This is my children’s home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I have profile text the last line reads:

I never accomodate. I don't want you in my house.

That's all the explanation needed. Stick to your guns op. You're the Queen of your castle and what you say goes."

Love this!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We r in the same boat. With a 5 month old, we can’t meet anyone right now

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By *asterslittlewhoreCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No i only accom after i know someone and when kids arent home. Anyone who gets shitty about it i would so ok no bother bye x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this thread will open a few people's eyes. I do accommodate when kids aren't home but only limited areas of my house, like it or lump it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Perfectly reasonable.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Definitely reasonable if anyone doesn’t understand that, they aren’t worth bothering with.

I’m a single mum and in the last five years I’ve only had two people I n my home and never when my child was here. Both were FWB, one I had known for 15 years; and the other didn’t come to my home or even suggest it, until I did after seeing them for 6 months.

This is my child’s safe haven and I would never put that at risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet if a single guy can’t accommodate he’s a cheating scumbag

And a guys home is he’s kids aswell

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No one on Fab knows precisely where I live and I plan to keep it that way.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"Wow great response, so glad Iasked. Feel like arranging a great big gang bang to celebrate!!!

Are you hosting at yours?

You coming?! "

Only if we've met before, and your kid's not at home.....

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

Nope not whatsoever sounds totally reasonable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely reasonable if anyone doesn’t understand that, they aren’t worth bothering with.

I’m a single mum and in the last five years I’ve only had two people I n my home and never when my child was here. Both were FWB, one I had known for 15 years; and the other didn’t come to my home or even suggest it, until I did after seeing them for 6 months.

This is my child’s safe haven and I would never put that at risk "

I have a fwb (although he is not as regular as I’d like!) and I have also known him for 15 years, he sometimes comes over late at night but that is only because I 100% trust him. Even as a friend he has never met my child.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Not at all, men have tried to bully me into accommodating, I just block them.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

Definitely not unreasonable. And I wouldn't be meeting in my child's home even if they weren't there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yet if a single guy can’t accommodate he’s a cheating scumbag

And a guys home is he’s kids aswell "

Well, surely you should take the same advice as I’ve been given. I don’t judge people on if they can accommodate or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

No you are been a wonderful caring responsible mum.. Well done

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley


"Heck no this is the reason why we won't accommodate as it's our kids home "

No way, they should understand your circumstances and accommodate or pay for a hotel. Idiots

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I wouldn't dream of suggesting meeting at someones home let alone get shitty about it and if anyone did that to me I'd immediately know we weren't a good match.

A decent hotel doesn't have to be hugely expensive if you split the cost and plan in advance and frankly if someone is too tight to pay that it would suggest to me they were just looking for a free fuck without consideration for anything else and again would be a massive red flag.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I think if someone reacts negatively towards you based on your reasons for not accommodating then it tells you everything you need to know about them. Avoid them at all costs. You’re absolutely making the right decision OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet if a single guy can’t accommodate he’s a cheating scumbag

And a guys home is he’s kids aswell

Well, surely you should take the same advice as I’ve been given. I don’t judge people on if they can accommodate or not. "

I doubt a single guy would have got the same feedback as yourself

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I think if someone reacts negatively towards you based on your reasons for not accommodating then it tells you everything you need to know about them. Avoid them at all costs. You’re absolutely making the right decision OP "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose not to accommodate. No ifs buts or maybes.

My home my choice.

Let's go to yours if you want a homely experience. No? Didn't think so when the tables turned x

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By *oss25Man
over a year ago

Flitwick and Fakenham

Block them immediately!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

This is exactly normal. Whats not normal is anyone who does have a meet let alone a first one while children are home regardless of if their in bed or not. Its also not normal for any man to suggest its ok.

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By *hisCharManMan
over a year ago

South Manchester


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

NO

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth


"Yet if a single guy can’t accommodate he’s a cheating scumbag

And a guys home is he’s kids aswell

Well, surely you should take the same advice as I’ve been given. I don’t judge people on if they can accommodate or not.

I doubt a single guy would have got the same feedback as yourself "

If a single man's reason for not accommodating was because it was his children's home I don't think the responses would be any different

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Nope not unreasonable. Any guy getting shitty about it isnt worth your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your home, your rules!

I have children too and never meet when they're in the house. I do when they are not here but that is my choice as I feel safer here than going back to someone else's. That's only after conversation, social etc when I feel comfortable.

You play your way and block anyone that doesn't respect that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t even have kids at home and I don’t accommodate.

Kids first - always!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

I wont accom due to kids being at this house if people have prob with it then thats their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never .. If anyone pressures you they are not worth knowing

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By *cotsboyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Not at all it’s your home so you’re rules as said ignore and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even have kids at home and I don’t accommodate.

Kids first - always! "

Back when I was single I lived alone in one of the worst parts of Liverpool. That on it's own was making me anxious. I can't imagine bringing strangers back to my place, Not worth it.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope I won’t accomodate ....I don’t want various men coming to my house and one of my sons is at home ... he’s 24yr which makes it worse but even if I was in my own I’d still be the same

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By *luffy_blanketsMan
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Perfectly reasonable and anyone who gets shirty about it you wouldn't want to meet anyway.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Tell them to sod off (technical term).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unreasonable at all. Your home your familys safe place. Stick to your guns

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Good god no !! It’s unreasonable they suggest it !!

Avoid those ones"

This

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, your house, your rules. Tell ‘em to do one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Rule one of swinging. Never, ever, ever do anything you don't want to do.

Rule two. Never, ever allow anybody to tell you that you're unreasonable because you don't want to do something they want you to.

These things come under the rule of respect, respect for yourself and other people's respect for you.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Rule one of swinging. Never, ever, ever do anything you don't want to do.

Rule two. Never, ever allow anybody to tell you that you're unreasonable because you don't want to do something they want you to.

These things come under the rule of respect, respect for yourself and other people's respect for you."

Which I summarised as ‘tell ‘em to do one’

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

No, none of it is..

It's your boundaries, rules etc that your setting and if people don't respect you for them then delete, block and move on..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Rule one of swinging. Never, ever, ever do anything you don't want to do.

Rule two. Never, ever allow anybody to tell you that you're unreasonable because you don't want to do something they want you to.

These things come under the rule of respect, respect for yourself and other people's respect for you.

Which I summarised as ‘tell ‘em to do one’ "

Yeah but I'm a wimmin innit. I like to use ten words to your one.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

They are the ones being unreasonable...not you

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

I think you’re being very sensible. I met a guy here who was a single dad and he couldn’t get why I wouldn’t go to the house where he had a young child. It’s just an accident waiting to happen on many levels

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Yet if a single guy can’t accommodate he’s a cheating scumbag

And a guys home is he’s kids aswell

Well, surely you should take the same advice as I’ve been given. I don’t judge people on if they can accommodate or not.

I doubt a single guy would have got the same feedback as yourself "

If a guy had posed the same question, he would have got the same response.

I agree men who can’t accommodate are quickly judged, but again would you want someone so judgemental who hasn’t bothered to ask you why you can’t accommodate

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By *akemepurrWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

I remember one couple used to have on their profile that they only ever met at their house while their 4 kids were asleep upstairs!!! It turned my stomach..... it’s just an absolute no for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the reason we only ever meet at clubs..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yet if a single guy can’t accommodate he’s a cheating scumbag

And a guys home is he’s kids aswell

Well, surely you should take the same advice as I’ve been given. I don’t judge people on if they can accommodate or not.

I doubt a single guy would have got the same feedback as yourself "

A single guy posting that he had had women insisting they meet at his and throwing a tantrum when he refused in a similar way to the OP would have got *exactly* the same response.

A single guy posting cannot accommodate on a profile with "need to be discreet" plastered all over it is completely different - and yes *some* guys do get a raw deal for not being able to accommodate but those with genuine reasons for not being able to generally don't.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

For your own safety and then of your child, strangers in your house - I wouldn't, have done, but not any more

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Block any man who objects. Seriously I have a child protection background. There are reasons you don't even want to think about for blocking, blocking and blocking again

Ms Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only accompdate when my kids aren't around. I blocked a guy the other day cos he pushed and pushed at 2 am saying that it would be fine cos my kids would be asleep I even blocked someone earlier who started questioning if my kids had wandered in when I had a meet they dont even do that when my partners here let alone a random guy off the internet

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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No. Tell them to fuck right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not unreasonable at all it’s your home just block them you don’t need people like that being shitty when you’ve said no fuck them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always your choice OP. Anyone trying to force you to do anything should be ringing loud alarm bells for you. It's not worth it and just shows a lack of empathy or worse on their part. I suggest that you block and move on.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"No. Tell them to fuck right off."

That's a little bad mannered.

Its:- "please fuck right off"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my sons home too. Yeah he's an adult now but I still wouldn't bring anyone into my home for just a meet.

If it was a full blown relationship that's different.

Stick to what you feel is right for you OP. If it's a problem for others that's for them not you to address

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So grateful for all responses. Relatively new to the world of Fab and so far 60% of guys have been nice but tbh I am definitely a poor judge of character!!!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"No. Tell them to fuck right off.

That's a little bad mannered.

Its:- "please fuck right off""

Hey kinky freak from the interweb.....I don't want you knowing where I live, now cock off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Tell them to fuck right off.

That's a little bad mannered.

Its:- "please fuck right off"

Hey kinky freak from the interweb.....I don't want you knowing where I live, now cock off "

Completely off topic but hey honey bee, Hope you’ve been well in my absence.

Back to the op, no you’re not wrong to tell a guy you won’t have anyone at your home for a first meet or when your children are there. You are completely within your rights to say fucking no chance mate, to anyone who asks. Most guys wouldnt even dream of it or take it badly that you wouldn’t have them there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Most sensible thing we have read in the forum for a long while..good on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Family always first.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"No. Tell them to fuck right off.

That's a little bad mannered.

Its:- "please fuck right off"

Hey kinky freak from the interweb.....I don't want you knowing where I live, now cock off "

OK. You win.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"No. Tell them to fuck right off.

That's a little bad mannered.

Its:- "please fuck right off"

Hey kinky freak from the interweb.....I don't want you knowing where I live, now cock off

Completely off topic but hey honey bee, Hope you’ve been well in my absence.

Back to the op, no you’re not wrong to tell a guy you won’t have anyone at your home for a first meet or when your children are there. You are completely within your rights to say fucking no chance mate, to anyone who asks. Most guys wouldnt even dream of it or take it badly that you wouldn’t have them there.

"

Next they start asking for breakfast and then it all goes tits up.

Don't shit on your own doorstep, make them pay for a hotel.

Hey lady- I'm well, how are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Tell them to fuck right off.

That's a little bad mannered.

Its:- "please fuck right off"

Hey kinky freak from the interweb.....I don't want you knowing where I live, now cock off

Completely off topic but hey honey bee, Hope you’ve been well in my absence.

Back to the op, no you’re not wrong to tell a guy you won’t have anyone at your home for a first meet or when your children are there. You are completely within your rights to say fucking no chance mate, to anyone who asks. Most guys wouldnt even dream of it or take it badly that you wouldn’t have them there.

Next they start asking for breakfast and then it all goes tits up.

Don't shit on your own doorstep, make them pay for a hotel.

Hey lady- I'm well, how are you?"

I’m good. Glad there’s still some familiar faces knocking about here!

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I agree with all the other comments. I don't meet strangers in my home and I don't have kids.

If they don't like it, then we don't meet. Simple.

Having said that I used to meet a couple that had two young kids. I couldn't get there until they settled, it felt weird but always good fun.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Unreasonable is for them to expect anything less. Their reaction to this serves as a useful filter Op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not unreasonable at all. I wouldn't recommend anyone allow strangers into their house.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Not at all and people should respect your decision. simple as this!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If the men are so insistent on meeting indoors, they can furnish hotel accommodation etc, which is likely better after a social meet.

You must set the rules that are right for you op. Safety and well-being first.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Not only is your own safety & well being important, but that of your family is too.

In the early days of being on here (almost 10 years ago), I'd a lady who invited me over to hers, but said her 1 year old daughter would be sleeping in the cot, in the same room!

That was a No-No for me, creeped me out 100%, and I turned down the meet.

Any guy who tries to say it's ok with him, isn't worth meeting.

Look after yourself and your family first!

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By *ushy 99Man
over a year ago

somewhere nearby


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

No definitely not unreasonable. Very respectful and expected!

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Definitely not unreasonable! It's the decent thing to respect anyones wishes in regards to accommodation and meets.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Him even suggesting coming round to you without you inviting him is an instant block in my book.

First meet def somewhere safe and neutral. His attitude and reaction to coming round to you is an excellent filter for you to use

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Your home, your choice OP. Anyone wanting to meet you should respect your wishes and not be disrespectful. Empathy is the ability to share another person's feelings or emotions as if they were their own. This is something they sorely lack and sets off big alarms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not being unreasonable but you should never show guys who you don't know where abouts you live

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Your home, your choice OP. Anyone wanting to meet you should respect your wishes and not be disrespectful. Empathy is the ability to share another person's feelings or emotions as if they were their own. This is something they sorely lack and sets off big alarms."

This exactly! If that's what someone says or they have specific requirements to meet then that should be respected! Pushing or getting funny just goes to show even more how much someone should think twice about continuing communicating with you...let alone meeting!

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

So let's get this right....some guys won't accommodate you but they expect to be accommodated?

Tell them where to poke it.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Nope. And if anyone kicks up about it just block them without a second thought."

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Your home OP, your rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet at my home

Safety first with myself

It's my children's home too

Keep your standards.

I won't let mine slip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes me laugh to be honest! Definitely don't let strangers into your children's home! Ask them how come they don't meet at their homes?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

If it's such an issue for them why don't they invite you to their homes?!

Ps and remind them you're here for purely selfish reasons and not to provide personal services to entitled men!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Makes me laugh to be honest! Definitely don't let strangers into your children's home! Ask them how come they don't meet at their homes? "

Touche!

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable?

"

Hell no. It's yours and your children's home in which you all have to feel safe.

I am in a similar situation as my son lives full time with me now. He used to live between my ex and myself every other week this give me a free week to myself. Now this has made meeting up with ladies very difficult but my son safty and happiness comes first before needs, but luckily I meet my FwB before this happened still took 6 months before she meet my son at my home. As far as he is concerned she is my new girlfriend much easier to explain than a FwB situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel exactly the same, never accom, it says on my profile. home is your haven, one wrong meet and some lunatic knows where you live, no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it isnt unreasonable.

I'm surprised the OP has to ask.

The family home is just that. For the family.

And if someone gets shirty because some outsider isnt permitted shows what kind of inconsiderate Arsehole he/she is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Not at all unreasonable. You have your priorities sorted.

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By *abat40xWoman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"Can I just ask opinions. I’m a single mum and obviously my child needs comes well before my own. I’ve had a lot of guys get shitty with me as I won’t meet at my home for first meet and I will definitely not entertain a man in my home whilst child here (even if asleep) is this unreasonable? "

Definitely not I never meet when my child is home

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