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By *ruent gent OP   Man
over a year ago

Walkabout

This is open to all.. what sort of first message from someone would you be most likely to reply to? I have tried all sorts now apart from the "hi, fancy a fuck" approach... Any advice welcome

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"This is open to all.. what sort of first message from someone would you be most likely to reply to? I have tried all sorts now apart from the "hi, fancy a fuck" approach... Any advice welcome "
Thats a bit like saying how long is a piece of string really.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if shes hot in her pics and you like what you see then make the effort with the initial message

personally i just let them know im very interested

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

Hmmm not that i dont mind that approach , but it is sometimes nice to have the hello, then possibly introduce yourself first hehe, i do like stories as well, but hmmmm just using imagination ia always a nice thing as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no definitive answer to this. You make it personal and hope they'll like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is open to all.. what sort of first message from someone would you be most likely to reply to? I have tried all sorts now apart from the "hi, fancy a fuck" approach... Any advice welcome "

Personally I look for a couple of key points in the profile and respond to those in my message. But of course do respect any preferences expressed and don't expect a reply. The ladies and couples on here can get many hundreds of messages.

Good luck and nice to see someone asking.

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By *ruent gent OP   Man
over a year ago

Walkabout


"if shes hot in her pics and you like what you see then make the effort with the initial message

personally i just let them know im very interested "
does that work for you? It's so frustrating when you spend ages trying to get that first message just right, click send, wait.... Check sent messages and oh!! Been read 20 mins ago or simply, deleted! Lol x

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Fancy a fuck wont get you anywhere op.Its in to see there r some ppl who even use it. .We just block anyone saying it

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

one that shows theyve read my profile and its not just a copy and pasted message sent to all. by reading persons profile youll also gauge the type/tone of message you would be best to send . remember every person is indervidual so what works for one wont work for another . good luck ! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if shes hot in her pics and you like what you see then make the effort with the initial message

personally i just let them know im very interested does that work for you? It's so frustrating when you spend ages trying to get that first message just right, click send, wait.... Check sent messages and oh!! Been read 20 mins ago or simply, deleted! Lol x"

Nature of the beast im afraid....its a shame that many dont just send a polite "No Thanks" when you have took the time, but its to be expected i suppose if ya getting half a zillion messages every day with the same old same old...lol

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

we wanted to meet a single guy for this afternoon, and, unfortunately, the best message came from a black guy. very thought out, very coherent, and paid attention to what we said in our profile.

the other messages from guys we WOULD have met pretty much came to 'i wanna fuck/lick/eat a cock lovin slut'!

are women meant to be treated with a bit of respect, or is the pure fact you are on a swinging site mean you are just a piece of meat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one that shows theyve read my profile and its not just a copy and pasted message sent to all. by reading persons profile youll also gauge the type/tone of message you would be best to send . remember every person is indervidual so what works for one wont work for another . good luck ! x"

I personally always block and delete any messages which are copy and paste or clearly haven't read my profile.

Why on earth would I want to get naked with anyone who makes so little effort?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lately all I get is..

'hi hows ur back'

it's soooooo dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if shes hot in her pics and you like what you see then make the effort with the initial message

personally i just let them know im very interested does that work for you? It's so frustrating when you spend ages trying to get that first message just right, click send, wait.... Check sent messages and oh!! Been read 20 mins ago or simply, deleted! Lol x"

no it hasnt worked yet

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"if shes hot in her pics and you like what you see then make the effort with the initial message

personally i just let them know im very interested "

n the Summertime - when the weather is fine

If her daddy's rich take her out for a meal. If her daddy's poor just do what you feel

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"we wanted to meet a single guy for this afternoon, and, unfortunately, the best message came from a black guy. very thought out, very coherent, and paid attention to what we said in our profile.

the other messages from guys we WOULD have met pretty much came to 'i wanna fuck/lick/eat a cock lovin slut'!

are women meant to be treated with a bit of respect, or is the pure fact you are on a swinging site mean you are just a piece of meat?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we wanted to meet a single guy for this afternoon, and, unfortunately, the best message came from a black guy. very thought out, very coherent, and paid attention to what we said in our profile.

the other messages from guys we WOULD have met pretty much came to 'i wanna fuck/lick/eat a cock lovin slut'!

"

Maybe you should express a preferenceon your profile with repect to who you will and won't play with?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


" unfortunately, the best message came from a black guy. very thought out, very coherent, and paid attention to what we said in our profile."

Fancy that, a coherent black guy...true say?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"we wanted to meet a single guy for this afternoon, and, unfortunately, the best message came from a black guy. very thought out, very coherent, and paid attention to what we said in our profile.

the other messages from guys we WOULD have met pretty much came to 'i wanna fuck/lick/eat a cock lovin slut'!

are women meant to be treated with a bit of respect, or is the pure fact you are on a swinging site mean you are just a piece of meat?"

I don't understand? why was it unfortunate

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

For me I like a message that comes from a good profile and normally it will be something that makes me laugh or smile at least

Bland how are you messages don't really do it for me

Then again I mainly prefer to send a first message myself if I come across a profile that interests me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most important thing is to make sure you what the other person is looking for, we get loads of messages from people who realy arent what we want, other than that be honest and open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion for what its worth, is given the person fancies you and likes your profile (and obviously that's half the battle), it comes down to a bit of thinking but essentially a lot of luck as to whether you hit the right vibe for that person to interested. Everyone is different, not everyone gets along well with each other, the chances of all the boxes being ticked are quite slim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know, hardly bother now. Works for me

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I would just say no ta ... no pic what good is that to me

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

Either make me laugh out loud or make it so erotic that it sends my pulse rate right up !!

Either one guarantees a reply!

And always have a pic...that shadowy sillouette guy writes to me all the time!

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By *ruent gent OP   Man
over a year ago

Walkabout


"I would just say no ta ... no pic what good is that to me "

On that note, what sort of pic would be best to send?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I need to add that I always read the profile of anyone that messages before I even read the message

The first thing anyone sees is the status and if its a really whingy or negative one then I won't even bother going any further

Take the negative status off and put a happy positive one on or just leave it blank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the best nights I ever had from on here started with a very simple message,

" Indians or Chinese? "

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By *ruent gent OP   Man
over a year ago

Walkabout


"One of the best nights I ever had from on here started with a very simple message,

" Indians or Chinese? "

"

Haha how did that develop...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message that shows the sender has read our profile is always well received.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"we wanted to meet a single guy for this afternoon, and, unfortunately, the best message came from a black guy. very thought out, very coherent, and paid attention to what we said in our profile.

the other messages from guys we WOULD have met pretty much came to 'i wanna fuck/lick/eat a cock lovin slut'!

are women meant to be treated with a bit of respect, or is the pure fact you are on a swinging site mean you are just a piece of meat?

I don't understand? why was it unfortunate "

because black guys dont do anything for Em in that way, otherwise we would have jumped at him

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