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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

FabFet. A user friendly site for kinky swingers, vanilla/soft kinksters, newbies, novices and beginners to the world's of fet and BDSM who may find it a bit intimidating, extreme or intense and off putting.

I've had the idea of FabFet for a few years now and every time I mention it there's a small amount of interest. I'm now wondering how much interest. So for all you kinky forumites, what say you?

Show your support and lets see if the Fab powers to be are watching and listening.

Fuzz

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I'd be up for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! Fab idea

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Definitely would be interested in it also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds good to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Our interest on this side of things does seem to be minimal but that may well be because of it all being a bit overwhelming so it would be a yes from us too

D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m game

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think that's a great idea.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If you can keep out the neanderthals I'm in.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Isnt there another site specifically for that?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Count me in

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Yep, I'd be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohh I like the idea of this. X

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

I support this idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, we’d be interested x

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman
over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

Yes yes yes yes, please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?"

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our interest on this side of things does seem to be minimal but that may well be because of it all being a bit overwhelming so it would be a yes from us too

D."

You guys sound like the exact demographic FabFet would be aimed at.

Fuzz

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

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Ohhhh, fair enough. The more you know I guess.

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

Sounds cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep the other site was too much for me but it is an area of interest .

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Way to go Fuzz can I wear my sexy specs in there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Way to go Fuzz can I wear my sexy specs in there?"

You, M'lady can wear your glasses wherever, whenever however you please

Fuzz

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Wasn't Faba Fett a bounty hunter in Star Wars?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know I would be

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

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I completely agree with this. Scared me witless going to the dark side. I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of FabFet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

I completely agree with this. Scared me witless going to the dark side. I'm in."

I think it's hard to navigate and too much like fb.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Does it really need a separate site ? The light side element you talk of gets mentioned throughout the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes please, I want some rope bunnies for practice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it really need a separate site ? The light side element you talk of gets mentioned throughout the forums "

Things like restrictions on certain style photos as well as words and phrases, even tone of conversation can earn you a reprimand or stint on the naughty step. FabFet would allow a little more freedom of expression.

Fuzz

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Great idea. I tried a full on site thinking it was what I was looking for but it turned out to be a bit too much. Your idea sounds like it would brudge the gap perfectly between here and there so count me in.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Does it really need a separate site ? The light side element you talk of gets mentioned throughout the forums

Things like restrictions on certain style photos as well as words and phrases, even tone of conversation can earn you a reprimand or stint on the naughty step. FabFet would allow a little more freedom of expression.

Fuzz"

Fair enough. Not for me, I like to keep it more private, but good luck with it

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Ooooh yes

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By *ingle Dad SeekingMan
over a year ago

Northern England

The idea of FabFet certainly gets the up from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

#FabFet as your status.... let's get people talking and make this happen. thanks peeps

Fuzz

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Ooooh yes definitely

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

Great idea.

I'm a dabbler rather than it being a lifestyle choice. I can see it working very, very well.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Sounds good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sign me up

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

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Yeah I fit into that category. I have a profile on that site but I rarely use it. Mostly because everyone on there seems to be established long term hardcore kinksters and I'm still just dipping a toe in that side of things.

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By *antric ecstasyMan
over a year ago

Co Durham

There's space for a gentler kind of kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely up for that ??

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I like the idea in principle and am always open to BDSM/fetish discussions when they appear within the forums here - my fear would be that a separate site for it would soon be inundated with either the hardcore element (who can be a little "the right way" about it) or dangerous wannabes and the original concept would be lost.

As a compromise halfway house a forum section dedicated to all things kink/fet could work (although I concede still subject to the elements mentioned)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because the other fet site is horrible to get around on a mobile device

The only downside I can see is a lot into fet are not into and look down on swingers but I do think the world's are merging more and more

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I'd be interested.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I like the idea in principle and am always open to BDSM/fetish discussions when they appear within the forums here - my fear would be that a separate site for it would soon be inundated with either the hardcore element (who can be a little "the right way" about it) or dangerous wannabes and the original concept would be lost.

As a compromise halfway house a forum section dedicated to all things kink/fet could work (although I concede still subject to the elements mentioned)"

We would still be governed by the picture rules dictated here though. Although we can specify our kinks we can upload our photos. Also the discussions here can get a little bit heated with certain kinks, definitely be nice to talk openly with like minded people

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

We would be interested in this

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By *2and3quartersWoman
over a year ago

Bumbletown

I'd definitely be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like this! Please Fab. Get this idea actioned!

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

Sounds like a great idea, would help to identify the kinky fun people here.

Also hopefully a little less “worthy” than fet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like my kind of place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like my kind of place "

Hey you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like the idea in principle and am always open to BDSM/fetish discussions when they appear within the forums here - my fear would be that a separate site for it would soon be inundated with either the hardcore element (who can be a little "the right way" about it) or dangerous wannabes and the original concept would be lost.

As a compromise halfway house a forum section dedicated to all things kink/fet could work (although I concede still subject to the elements mentioned)"

I was waiting for your input Gman, thanks. I hear what you're saying but does that mean there's not dangerous hardcore wannabes on this or any other such site? Totally agree there should be a new BDSM/kink forum topic

Maybe starts thread to get Fab to add one

Fuzz

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

In

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Yes could be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be interested!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I like the idea in principle and am always open to BDSM/fetish discussions when they appear within the forums here - my fear would be that a separate site for it would soon be inundated with either the hardcore element (who can be a little "the right way" about it) or dangerous wannabes and the original concept would be lost.

As a compromise halfway house a forum section dedicated to all things kink/fet could work (although I concede still subject to the elements mentioned)

I was waiting for your input Gman, thanks. I hear what you're saying but does that mean there's not dangerous hardcore wannabes on this or any other such site? Totally agree there should be a new BDSM/kink forum topic

Maybe starts thread to get Fab to add one

Fuzz"

Oh not at all as we often see on threads of that ilk (and hence my conceding point) - they'll never be escaped completely sadly whether it be here or any other site although with a more kink/fet oriented level of moderation it could minimise it I guess (which would require a separate site if different rules were required).

Hmmmmmmm *scratches chin*

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

FabFet. A user friendly site for kinky swingers, vanilla/soft kinksters, newbies, novices and beginners to the world's of fet and BDSM who may find it a bit intimidating, extreme or intense and off putting.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I will eat your socks if Fab actually do anything with this.

They can't/won't do simple things like adding to the search function so.....

Good job I like cheese x

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

....newbies, novices and beginners......

Sounds like it's made for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will eat your cock if Fab actually do anything with this.

They can't/won't do simple things like adding to the search function so.....

Good job I like knobcheese x"

You can't un-say that now Lick. I'll hold you to that

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

I completely agree with this. Scared me witless going to the dark side. I'm in.

I think it's hard to navigate and too much like fb. "

It is absolutely too difficult to navigate and very much like FB. I (her) have a profile but haven't logged on in years. My friend keeps me updated on things local to us from that site.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'll always give a new site a go even if I don't end up sticking around I'll at least have a look. Sounds like a cool idea as a lot of us have a foot in each world

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

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I consider myself a full on kinkster but I'm not intimidating I swear .

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

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By *miler6969696969Man
over a year ago

Doncaster/Sheffield

What is one persons kink is anothers norm.

And what is anothers kink is someone elses sick.

Some would say my playrooms and toys are too kinky for them but it's just my norm.x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc"

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me a while but I warmed up to it. It’s a different experience than Fab. And there probably is room for something in between.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I like the idea in principle and am always open to BDSM/fetish discussions when they appear within the forums here - my fear would be that a separate site for it would soon be inundated with either the hardcore element (who can be a little "the right way" about it) or dangerous wannabes and the original concept would be lost.

As a compromise halfway house a forum section dedicated to all things kink/fet could work (although I concede still subject to the elements mentioned)

We would still be governed by the picture rules dictated here though. Although we can specify our kinks we can upload our photos. Also the discussions here can get a little bit heated with certain kinks, definitely be nice to talk openly with like minded people"

Absolutely agree!

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

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It's like adult Facebook, everyone knows every move you make.

It's full of 50 shaders.

And frankly it's boring as dishwater

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By *miler6969696969Man
over a year ago

Doncaster/Sheffield


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for

people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men."

And you don't need to be in your pictures if you don't want to be.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

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It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men."

Ecactly

What I like about the other site it is very much geared around real connections on the scene and using it to hook up while not impossible isn't what it is designed for.

If you dint go to events it's a bit of a shit site. If you are searching for meets it's a shit site. If you use the other site as it is intended itsva pretty decent site

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It's like adult Facebook, everyone knows every move you make.

It's full of 50 shaders.

And frankly it's boring as dishwater "

None of those are reasons that would make it difficult. They appear more as your own reasons for not liking it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the idea in principle and am always open to BDSM/fetish discussions when they appear within the forums here - my fear would be that a separate site for it would soon be inundated with either the hardcore element (who can be a little "the right way" about it) or dangerous wannabes and the original concept would be lost.

As a compromise halfway house a forum section dedicated to all things kink/fet could work (although I concede still subject to the elements mentioned)"

Exactly what I was going to type. In theory it sounds a great idea. But I think in reality it wouldn't be great for these reasons

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely interested,

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz"

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing"

I have to admit to being totally confused by it, and not sure how to work it. There are lots and lots of options on there which is overwhelming. The worst bit I found was not knowing if the people I was talking to were online too Not for stalking purposes just knowing if I could start a chat or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this has always appealed to me, how can we track developments & updates 're this?

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By *uscularLoveMan
over a year ago

london

I think this is a great idea!.

If not a separate website they're should definetly be apart of FAB where you can search for other users specifically on kinks and things they are interested in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men."

Ah, ok. See, I couldn’t work it out at all, I found it so confusing and I’m your face.

For me, I’m more interested in meeting than talking about kink, so presumably it wouldn’t be the best option for be anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing"

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men.

Ecactly

What I like about the other site it is very much geared around real connections on the scene and using it to hook up while not impossible isn't what it is designed for.

If you dint go to events it's a bit of a shit site. If you are searching for meets it's a shit site. If you use the other site as it is intended itsva pretty decent site"

Agreed. I have used kink dating apps in the past (i met my partber on one!) as sometimes you get to the point where you know everyone currently a regular your local scene but i quite like having that as a separate thing. If a site like the one proposed was created, I imagine many like myself on the existing site would use it in addition to rather than instead of for the reasons we've discussed.

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over a year ago


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz"

We agree on many things!

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz"

Those and Autumns reasons for not getting on with it are good starters on what you do want in a new site then.

The IM was great and I miss that, I don’t know why they stopped it and I know there’s been talk of fet dating over the years but still not happened

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz

We agree on many things! "

And disagree on others

Fuzz

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I have to admit to being totally confused by it, and not sure how to work it. There are lots and lots of options on there which is overwhelming. The worst bit I found was not knowing if the people I was talking to were online too Not for stalking purposes just knowing if I could start a chat or not "

I kind of treat it more like sending an email haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FabFet. A user friendly site for kinky swingers, vanilla/soft kinksters, newbies, novices and beginners to the world's of fet and BDSM who may find it a bit intimidating, extreme or intense and off putting.

I've had the idea of FabFet for a few years now and every time I mention it there's a small amount of interest. I'm now wondering how much interest. So for all you kinky forumites, what say you?

Show your support and lets see if the Fab powers to be are watching and listening.

Fuzz"

Great idea...I’d join

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz

Those and Autumns reasons for not getting on with it are good starters on what you do want in a new site then.

The IM was great and I miss that, I don’t know why they stopped it and I know there’s been talk of fet dating over the years but still not happened "

This is why Fab should get in there first

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men.

Ecactly

What I like about the other site it is very much geared around real connections on the scene and using it to hook up while not impossible isn't what it is designed for.

If you dint go to events it's a bit of a shit site. If you are searching for meets it's a shit site. If you use the other site as it is intended itsva pretty decent site

Agreed. I have used kink dating apps in the past (i met my partber on one!) as sometimes you get to the point where you know everyone currently a regular your local scene but i quite like having that as a separate thing. If a site like the one proposed was created, I imagine many like myself on the existing site would use it in addition to rather than instead of for the reasons we've discussed. "

And would that be a bad thing? Not looking to "steal" people off FL, just bridge the gaps and make more connections

Fuzz

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men.

Ah, ok. See, I couldn’t work it out at all, I found it so confusing and I’m your face.

For me, I’m more interested in meeting than talking about kink, so presumably it wouldn’t be the best option for be anyway? "

No I wouldn't say it would be though a lot of people on the kink scene prefer to meet people in person than online so you can use it to find events and munchs and then friend the people you meet at them and use it to keep in touch with them and what they're attending in the future.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz

Those and Autumns reasons for not getting on with it are good starters on what you do want in a new site then.

The IM was great and I miss that, I don’t know why they stopped it and I know there’s been talk of fet dating over the years but still not happened "

I met my partner on a fet dating app.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men.

Ecactly

What I like about the other site it is very much geared around real connections on the scene and using it to hook up while not impossible isn't what it is designed for.

If you dint go to events it's a bit of a shit site. If you are searching for meets it's a shit site. If you use the other site as it is intended itsva pretty decent site

Agreed. I have used kink dating apps in the past (i met my partber on one!) as sometimes you get to the point where you know everyone currently a regular your local scene but i quite like having that as a separate thing. If a site like the one proposed was created, I imagine many like myself on the existing site would use it in addition to rather than instead of for the reasons we've discussed.

And would that be a bad thing? Not looking to "steal" people off FL, just bridge the gaps and make more connections

Fuzz"

That's exactly what I'm saying.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I will eat your socks if Fab actually do anything with this.

They can't/won't do simple things like adding to the search function so.....

Good job I like cheese x"

You just 'like' it or would you consider it a fetish.....

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys

OP I love the name and suggest you trademark your idea

Get the big old from me

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By *irtySexyDawgsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge & Welwyn NOT the east midlands!!!

Would def give it a go...FL is too serious and its hard to find other bi-women and couples similar to us here, so gfi.

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By *irtySexyDawgsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge & Welwyn NOT the east midlands!!!


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz

Those and Autumns reasons for not getting on with it are good starters on what you do want in a new site then.

The IM was great and I miss that, I don’t know why they stopped it and I know there’s been talk of fet dating over the years but still not happened

I met my partner on a fet dating app."

Which one?

We met on fab btw...but was total luck and would be better if we could find others like us more easily.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

The other site is far less judgemental and more open minded than these forums...this is controlled by the Mods, so I have feeling that it would not be considered despite there being a little interest..

But I look forward to what happens...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds good to me. Especially if it's easier to navigate than the other site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate that other site, it’s so awkward to use, not user friendly at all.

What I love about Fab, is it’s so simple to find people in your area, really easy filters etc

That site is specifically designed not to be used to search for people by age/gender/location/etc. It means that the women don't get hounded with messages or approaches for play which is why so many stick around. It's more like social media than a dating/meeting site and many people aren't looking for partners/play partners. Personally I like it for what it is and it's nice to have a place I can look at and share kinky pictures and interact with people about kink without getting pestered by horny men.

Ecactly

What I like about the other site it is very much geared around real connections on the scene and using it to hook up while not impossible isn't what it is designed for.

If you dint go to events it's a bit of a shit site. If you are searching for meets it's a shit site. If you use the other site as it is intended itsva pretty decent site

Agreed. I have used kink dating apps in the past (i met my partber on one!) as sometimes you get to the point where you know everyone currently a regular your local scene but i quite like having that as a separate thing. If a site like the one proposed was created, I imagine many like myself on the existing site would use it in addition to rather than instead of for the reasons we've discussed.

And would that be a bad thing? Not looking to "steal" people off FL, just bridge the gaps and make more connections

Fuzz

That's exactly what I'm saying."

Win win

Fuzz

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

Love the idea. I don't find the other site anywhere near as easy to use.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I really don’t understand what it is that people find difficult with it.

It works for many, just not all, Lex

Fuzz

Oh I understand that, just not what it is that people find difficult.

If they could express it then the same mistakes won’t be made.

I am of the opinion like others though, that the reason a lot of people find it “difficult” is because they think it’s like fab, it’s a site to meet people.

And like Lacey and bike monkey, I agree it’s a totally different thing

I understand Fab and FL are different formats. I don't like the FB aspect/feel to the other site. I like my kink to be fun and interactive as it is on Fab. I agree with CitizenSin, I think there is room for this concept.

Fuzz

Those and Autumns reasons for not getting on with it are good starters on what you do want in a new site then.

The IM was great and I miss that, I don’t know why they stopped it and I know there’s been talk of fet dating over the years but still not happened

I met my partner on a fet dating app.

Which one?

We met on fab btw...but was total luck and would be better if we could find others like us more easily. "

It was called Whiplr. We thanked them personally at sexhibition a few years ago .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe more categories in a place people already use ??????

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I will eat your cock if Fab actually do anything with this.

They can't/won't do simple things like adding to the search function so.....

Good job I like knobcheese x

You can't un-say that now Lick. I'll hold you to that

Fuzz"

You bugger!!!!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Way to go Fuzz can I wear my sexy specs in there?

You, M'lady can wear your glasses wherever, whenever however you please

Fuzz"

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Ohhhhh this sounds very interesting! Definitely interested in such a thing

Mrs TMN x

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I agree with lots that has been said on here.

In addition, I've reached stalemate on the other site because I've got to a point of wanting to see the whites of someone's eyes before going any further; there's no way of exchanging pics privately and I'm not yet willing to move onto another chat platform. It would be great to have some of the fab functionality combined with freedom of expression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a fair idea

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Bookmarking

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

Sounds like a perfect combination to me.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Sounds good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FabFet. A user friendly site for kinky swingers, vanilla/soft kinksters, newbies, novices and beginners to the world's of fet and BDSM who may find it a bit intimidating, extreme or intense and off putting.

I've had the idea of FabFet for a few years now and every time I mention it there's a small amount of interest. I'm now wondering how much interest. So for all you kinky forumites, what say you?

Show your support and lets see if the Fab powers to be are watching and listening.

Fuzz"

Can't you just explain you'd like to explore the scene, and find someone from here insted? And isint there already a website for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be into it!

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Brilliant idea!

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By *terobs6869Man
over a year ago

Llandudno

This would be great and I would definitely be in.

The other site has its uses, but it's very badly implemented and there are many frustrating aspects to it, like the bewildering number of groups all covering the same topic, so it's hard to find the best group to join. And so many of them are filled with posts from years ago.

I get that they don't want it to be a personals/contact site, but there is just no sense of anybody else being active on it. Or finding those that are.

And it's not even mobile responsive, so trying to read it on a phone is a nightmare.

So a site that offered the information and alleged social aspects of FL with Fab's way of showing you who is actually still active on the site would be great.

And of course a contact area with filters which included location would be brilliant. Everyone on the other place is in Antarctica

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Yes - definitely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"FabFet. A user friendly site for kinky swingers, vanilla/soft kinksters, newbies, novices and beginners to the world's of fet and BDSM who may find it a bit intimidating, extreme or intense and off putting.

I've had the idea of FabFet for a few years now and every time I mention it there's a small amount of interest. I'm now wondering how much interest. So for all you kinky forumites, what say you?

Show your support and lets see if the Fab powers to be are watching and listening.

Fuzz

Can't you just explain you'd like to explore the scene, and find someone from here insted? And isint there already a website for that? "

As I've explained, as brilliant as Fab is, it's geared up more for swingers than those of us interested in Fet and BDSM. FabFet would allow us to communicate using words, pictures, phrases and tone that is not allowed on this particular site. The common issues with the other sites that cater for kink, are they're not as user friendly, are harder to navigate and formatted more like FB.

Fuzz

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

This is a fantastic idea. I have a profile on the other well known fet site but I find it hard to navigate and find connections. Can't even remember the last time I logged in now. A fet site for like minded people, in the format of fab with its veri system etc would be perfect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is gaining good momentum. Keep it up people

#FabFet as your status.... let's get people talking and make this happen. We've had a couple of non forumites message asking a bout FabFet. We need to get more than just the Fab forum users

Fuzz

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman
over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

The other site is more like Facebook and not designed for dating.

I'd love a site like fab but with more section options for BDSM.

Atm all we have is SM and spanking which isn't very useful to find like minded fun.

Just expanding the BDSM options for interests kinks would help people find each other a lot more. No need for a new site then.

Bondage, D/s, control and an indication of if you identify as a sub/bottom or Dom/Top in addition to SM would be amazing and at least cover the most common fetishes.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We would be up for FabFet.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

up for this right up our street

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Gets my vote.

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Good idea. We are too kinky for fab and (now) too vanilla for fet, in between sounds ideal.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I can see that the gap is there, and that it would be a gentler introduction into the scene than straight into the other site, but what jumps into my head is a safety aspect if no experienced kinksters join and interact to share their knowledge. What I mean by that is personal safety with regards to mainly BDSM practices, which if not done correctly by an enthusiastic yet inexperienced person, can cause injuries or worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be extremely interested in this

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I can see that the gap is there, and that it would be a gentler introduction into the scene than straight into the other site, but what jumps into my head is a safety aspect if no experienced kinksters join and interact to share their knowledge. What I mean by that is personal safety with regards to mainly BDSM practices, which if not done correctly by an enthusiastic yet inexperienced person, can cause injuries or worse.

"

Absolutely. And, there are people known in various scenes for being dangerous. At your local munch you might be told, oh, avoid X, s/he seems nice but trust me...

Those known people would flock to a beginner fet site. I mean, I suspect it's already a problem here and truthfully have narrowly avoided an X or two myself (I have my sources).

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By *ask MasterMan
over a year ago

London

#FabFet

A great idea, when I first joined Fab years ago there was lots of negativity to the bdsm community but no more....

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"The other site is more like Facebook and not designed for dating.

I'd love a site like fab but with more section options for BDSM.

Atm all we have is SM and spanking which isn't very useful to find like minded fun.

Just expanding the BDSM options for interests kinks would help people find each other a lot more. No need for a new site then.

Bondage, D/s, control and an indication of if you identify as a sub/bottom or Dom/Top in addition to SM would be amazing and at least cover the most common fetishes."

Have you actually explored the site fully??? I get messages all the time from totally reasonable kinky people, who do not throw teddies when a polite rejection is returned (and yes I have had it from couples on here, not just men... ).....just communication between kinky people....

Fab is more like Facebook than Fet, with the top fabbed, categorised, short video clips......actually reminds me a lot of Instagram.....funny how people on here cannot see the wood from the trees so caught up it their own little Fab world....

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I can see that the gap is there, and that it would be a gentler introduction into the scene than straight into the other site, but what jumps into my head is a safety aspect if no experienced kinksters join and interact to share their knowledge. What I mean by that is personal safety with regards to mainly BDSM practices, which if not done correctly by an enthusiastic yet inexperienced person, can cause injuries or worse.

Absolutely. And, there are people known in various scenes for being dangerous. At your local munch you might be told, oh, avoid X, s/he seems nice but trust me...

Those known people would flock to a beginner fet site. I mean, I suspect it's already a problem here and truthfully have narrowly avoided an X or two myself (I have my sources). "

This is one of the reasons I keep the 2 separate. In my local scene everyone knows everyone else.

I think the other big difference regards to what people don’t like about the other place, for me it’s kink, it’s usually completely separate to sex. I don’t have to fancy someone, I just need to like them, get along with them.

My worry here is that people will associate it with sex, all of the time.

Lex

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?

There is but I, like others find it's not as user friendly to navigate around as Fab. It's also full of "full on" kinksters that some who prefer softer, fluffier BDSM and kink find a little intimidating. FabFet would,I think, bridge that gap.

Fuzz

"

Also not that welcoming to newbies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can see that the gap is there, and that it would be a gentler introduction into the scene than straight into the other site, but what jumps into my head is a safety aspect if no experienced kinksters join and interact to share their knowledge. What I mean by that is personal safety with regards to mainly BDSM practices, which if not done correctly by an enthusiastic yet inexperienced person, can cause injuries or worse.

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Is there not as much risk of over excited and inexperienced kinksters practicing BDSM on this site or the other anyway?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The more I've thought about this, the more I retract my earlier post about keeping it within these walls - whilst, as Deviant Delite pointed out, it *is* possible to find perfectly safe and sane people with an interest in BDSM/kink/fetish here, as this thread alone proves - there are restrictions on what can be discussed and posted etc - add to that the point made about correctly oriented/informed moderation, and a standalone begins to make more sense.

I'll be honest and say I've not *really* used the other site, mainly because whenever I have looked at it I've found it a little confusing, but it's obvious that it works for some but not for others so perhaps a half-way house type site would work.

There actually did used to be just such a thing many years ago (like 20+) called Informed Consent was in the early dawn of the internet so was pretty basic, but in a lot of ways reminds me of this place in terms of how it was set up and run, or more to the point this place is the kind of thing I imagine it would have become over time if it hadn't closed down - it had user profiles, chat rooms, a rudimentary forum and a fairly decent area with information about the scene etc as well as pages for meets/munches etc to be posted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The more I've thought about this, the more I retract my earlier post about keeping it within these walls - whilst, as Deviant Delite pointed out, it *is* possible to find perfectly safe and sane people with an interest in BDSM/kink/fetish here, as this thread alone proves - there are restrictions on what can be discussed and posted etc - add to that the point made about correctly oriented/informed moderation, and a standalone begins to make more sense.

I'll be honest and say I've not *really* used the other site, mainly because whenever I have looked at it I've found it a little confusing, but it's obvious that it works for some but not for others so perhaps a half-way house type site would work.

There actually did used to be just such a thing many years ago (like 20+) called Informed Consent was in the early dawn of the internet so was pretty basic, but in a lot of ways reminds me of this place in terms of how it was set up and run, or more to the point this place is the kind of thing I imagine it would have become over time if it hadn't closed down - it had user profiles, chat rooms, a rudimentary forum and a fairly decent area with information about the scene etc as well as pages for meets/munches etc to be posted."

Come join the dark side G man

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"The more I've thought about this, the more I retract my earlier post about keeping it within these walls - whilst, as Deviant Delite pointed out, it *is* possible to find perfectly safe and sane people with an interest in BDSM/kink/fetish here, as this thread alone proves - there are restrictions on what can be discussed and posted etc - add to that the point made about correctly oriented/informed moderation, and a standalone begins to make more sense.

I'll be honest and say I've not *really* used the other site, mainly because whenever I have looked at it I've found it a little confusing, but it's obvious that it works for some but not for others so perhaps a half-way house type site would work.

There actually did used to be just such a thing many years ago (like 20+) called Informed Consent was in the early dawn of the internet so was pretty basic, but in a lot of ways reminds me of this place in terms of how it was set up and run, or more to the point this place is the kind of thing I imagine it would have become over time if it hadn't closed down - it had user profiles, chat rooms, a rudimentary forum and a fairly decent area with information about the scene etc as well as pages for meets/munches etc to be posted.

Come join the dark side G man

Fuzz"

Bit late for that - have lived there for years

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The more I've thought about this, the more I retract my earlier post about keeping it within these walls - whilst, as Deviant Delite pointed out, it *is* possible to find perfectly safe and sane people with an interest in BDSM/kink/fetish here, as this thread alone proves - there are restrictions on what can be discussed and posted etc - add to that the point made about correctly oriented/informed moderation, and a standalone begins to make more sense.

I'll be honest and say I've not *really* used the other site, mainly because whenever I have looked at it I've found it a little confusing, but it's obvious that it works for some but not for others so perhaps a half-way house type site would work.

There actually did used to be just such a thing many years ago (like 20+) called Informed Consent was in the early dawn of the internet so was pretty basic, but in a lot of ways reminds me of this place in terms of how it was set up and run, or more to the point this place is the kind of thing I imagine it would have become over time if it hadn't closed down - it had user profiles, chat rooms, a rudimentary forum and a fairly decent area with information about the scene etc as well as pages for meets/munches etc to be posted.

Come join the dark side G man

Fuzz

Bit late for that - have lived there for years "

The Motherland

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"The more I've thought about this, the more I retract my earlier post about keeping it within these walls - whilst, as Deviant Delite pointed out, it *is* possible to find perfectly safe and sane people with an interest in BDSM/kink/fetish here, as this thread alone proves - there are restrictions on what can be discussed and posted etc - add to that the point made about correctly oriented/informed moderation, and a standalone begins to make more sense.

I'll be honest and say I've not *really* used the other site, mainly because whenever I have looked at it I've found it a little confusing, but it's obvious that it works for some but not for others so perhaps a half-way house type site would work.

There actually did used to be just such a thing many years ago (like 20+) called Informed Consent was in the early dawn of the internet so was pretty basic, but in a lot of ways reminds me of this place in terms of how it was set up and run, or more to the point this place is the kind of thing I imagine it would have become over time if it hadn't closed down - it had user profiles, chat rooms, a rudimentary forum and a fairly decent area with information about the scene etc as well as pages for meets/munches etc to be posted."

I have a feeling it still exists in some way as I came across a twitter account in that name when I was looking for local events.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sounds great. Could accessed Via a portal from standard. Fab

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Perhaps we should get this thread moved to the site feedback area - I think I'm in. Thr lounge but could be anywhere so apologies if I'm talking nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps we should get this thread moved to the site feedback area - I think I'm in. Thr lounge but could be anywhere so apologies if I'm talking nonsense "

I posted a thread in the site feedback area a week who and it died... it could just be me though.

FabFet would be awesome - the functionality and ease of Fab is a huge draw. It has the best functionality against any other lifestyle site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps we should get this thread moved to the site feedback area - I think I'm in. Thr lounge but could be anywhere so apologies if I'm talking nonsense

I posted a thread in the site feedback area a week who and it died... it could just be me though.

FabFet would be awesome - the functionality and ease of Fab is a huge draw. It has the best functionality against any other lifestyle site. "

This was my first thought but then I realised the lounge and swinger's chat has more 'traffic'

What percentage of total fab users, use the forums? 4-5%?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5% maybe that!

Thanks for making me feel like it wasn’t just me - cheers Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"5% maybe that!

Thanks for making me feel like it wasn’t just me - cheers Fuzz "

No worries

That's a lot of Fab users to inform...hmmmmm(strokey-goatie emoji)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely want to push things further so im in x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There actually did used to be just such a thing many years ago (like 20+) called Informed Consent was in the early dawn of the internet so was pretty basic, but in a lot of ways reminds me of this place in terms of how it was set up and run, or more to the point this place is the kind of thing I imagine it would have become over time if it hadn't closed down - it had user profiles, chat rooms, a rudimentary forum and a fairly decent area with information about the scene etc as well as pages for meets/munches etc to be posted.

I have a feeling it still exists in some way as I came across a twitter account in that name when I was looking for local events. "

After a little research any links or references to it take you to the "other" site so can only imagine it was taken over or died and the other site bought the domain

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

I'd be another into Fabfet, but unless the photo rules were relaxed somewhat, then I fear it would not succeed.

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By *ear and pudCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yup we would enjoy that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined FL and found the site very confusing to navigate therefore gave up.

#fabfet count me in without a doubt xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on FL..off now

Not as good as here.

So combo defo works. Count my support

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in. Would be happy to comtribute in the design and programing of the site if it doesn't exist

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Isnt there another site specifically for that?"

I’ve not found a site that caters for BDSM/Fet AND swinging... and have been looking

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

I think it's a great idea

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

There are 3 reasons why I am against the idea. In no particular order.

1. Fab won't allow it. Some of us have the scars from previous attempts to have an educational BDSM room. Each attempt received significant numbers in support and we now have a caravan room, a bike room and a games room. Which says something about Fab's owners attitude to BDSM.

2. Real education would mean allowing links to well known and safe BDSM sites. Where the comments of real experienced and qualified educators could be considered, accepted or rejected. There are some very experienced and insightful people on here (who I won't make blush by mentioning them), but it would be good for newbies to be able to read the views of people who are paid to think about kink. You know those dirty words "expert" and "professional". But Fab keeps to its bizarre policy of banning access to expert's sites even on vanilla subjects.

3. The name " Fabfet" says it all.

Reading this thread it seems it will be full of kinky people looking to meet other kinky people, and who are not really interested in understanding the kink dynamic and range of kink expression apart to the extent it will hopefully get a member of the opposite sex (generally female, but not necessarily so) to allow them to play with that woman's genitalia or to play with theirs. Which is fine to do, we all want to meet people but it would, I suggest be to the detriment of people being able to educate themselves. Particularly if certain men think it is a good pulling room.

My final thoughts are, FL works best by connecting with people and seeing what groups and articles interest them. Then you have media stream of information to look at. However that involves going out and supporting events from munches to workshops to play events (support your local, and not so local, event organiser) and meeting people and connecting with them.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting.

Are you suggesting a site similar to “informed consent”?

My fear is that a “fabfet” would be full of people who enjoy the aesthetics of BDSM but are not actually keen to learn and comprehend the dynamics involved. BDSM isn’t always about sex, would “fabfet” be about BDSM and the expectation of sex?

For me FL has been successful, I have been on there since the beginning. It’s good for connecting will locals and people who are seriously into BDSM.

Hope ”fabfet ” happens for people but it’s not for me.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are 3 reasons why I am against the idea. In no particular order.

1. Fab won't allow it. Some of us have the scars from previous attempts to have an educational BDSM room. Each attempt received significant numbers in support and we now have a caravan room, a bike room and a games room. Which says something about Fab's owners attitude to BDSM.

2. Real education would mean allowing links to well known and safe BDSM sites. Where the comments of real experienced and qualified educators could be considered, accepted or rejected. There are some very experienced and insightful people on here (who I won't make blush by mentioning them), but it would be good for newbies to be able to read the views of people who are paid to think about kink. You know those dirty words "expert" and "professional". But Fab keeps to its bizarre policy of banning access to expert's sites even on vanilla subjects.

3. The name " Fabfet" says it all.

Reading this thread it seems it will be full of kinky people looking to meet other kinky people, and who are not really interested in understanding the kink dynamic and range of kink expression apart to the extent it will hopefully get a member of the opposite sex (generally female, but not necessarily so) to allow them to play with that woman's genitalia or to play with theirs. Which is fine to do, we all want to meet people but it would, I suggest be to the detriment of people being able to educate themselves. Particularly if certain men think it is a good pulling room.

My final thoughts are, FL works best by connecting with people and seeing what groups and articles interest them. Then you have media stream of information to look at. However that involves going out and supporting events from munches to workshops to play events (support your local, and not so local, event organiser) and meeting people and connecting with them.

Good Luck

"

Thanks for your input Zensual. You make some good points. For me that's what FabFet will be about, getting kinky swingers interested and educated in the ways of fet and BDSM. As you can see on this thread there's a lot of potential kinksters who are put off by the other site's complicatedness. So they're less likely to know about, or go to events centered around, kink. It will be less about swinging and more about gently enticing and educating those who do want to understand and explore kink better. For sure you're going to get those who just want to hook up for kinky sex play but it's a chance to educate those who do want to enter the world of kink who are put off by the other site.

Fabfet would allow people to use language and pictures to express their kinkiness in a way that FabSwingers doesn't. That's the idea anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting.

Are you suggesting a site similar to “informed consent”?

My fear is that a “fabfet” would be full of people who enjoy the aesthetics of BDSM but are not actually keen to learn and comprehend the dynamics involved. BDSM isn’t always about sex, would “fabfet” be about BDSM and the expectation of sex?

For me FL has been successful, I have been on there since the beginning. It’s good for connecting will locals and people who are seriously into BDSM.

Hope ”fabfet ” happens for people but it’s not for me.

"

No that's what FabFet would be about. Educating those interested in kink to the dynamics of fet and BDSM and how it's not centered around sex. I think the expectation of sex, in whatever format, is and will be rife regardless of whatever site is being used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is gaining good momentum. Keep it up people

#FabFet as your status.... let's get people talking and make this happen. We've had a couple of non forumites message asking a bout FabFet. We need to get more than just the Fab forum users

Fuzz"

a great conversation starter - instead of, 'wanna fk?'

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