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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley

Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Probably more reluctant to divulge their number rather than a fear of speaking

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone."

Its a genuine fear, or at least can cause high anxiety.

It can also be the sign of a catfish too.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Probably more reluctant to divulge their number rather than a fear of speaking "

Also another reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they dont want to be exposed for Not being who they say they before they’ve collected a few pics or exchanged wank fodder messages. Or could be they’re on fab incognito and a phone convo would raise questions from a spouse?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Freddy Krueger’s tongue might pop out the mouthpiece....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the numbers thing.

Giving out your number to strangers x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Its difficult I'd rather not give out my phone number until after the social, happy to video chat on other platforms, I have had people give me their number and don't realise how many of their social sites are linked and it automatically adds them as a friend on said site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious.

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley

Yes catfish is most likely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to chat on an app where there was an option to send audio messages and I was surprised how many didn't like sending a voice messages.

I thought it was because they were men who were pretending to be women, but no many of them were women because they sent me live pics and sometimes vids, but would often refuse to send a voice message.

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley


"Probably the numbers thing.

Giving out your number to strangers x

"
and yet they want to get intimate with "strangers"

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Because they dont want to be exposed for Not being who they say they before they’ve collected a few pics or exchanged wank fodder messages. Or could be they’re on fab incognito and a phone convo would raise questions from a spouse? "

Or they genuinely don't like talking on the phone and/or giving their number out.

I refuse to talk on the phone before meeting simply because I don't want people having my number, if they don't like that, tough, we won't be meeting.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It depends. Sometimes you know a guy just wants you to talk him off and I can't be arsed with that.

I've given my number and had someone phone me in work even though I told them I wouldn't be available in office hours: I'm never going to answer that call.

I like to chat, but I prefer face to face. If it's by phone it needs to be at a convenient time and with someone who also wants to chat.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Probably the numbers thing.

Giving out your number to strangers x

and yet they want to get intimate with "strangers""

So? I might want to shag them but don't want them ringing me or adding me on facebook.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

Id rather have voice chat over text chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious. "

I'm the same, it's a real phobia

Relieved to know I'm not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably the numbers thing.

Giving out your number to strangers x

and yet they want to get intimate with "strangers""

Who would then potentially have access to our other social media. No thanks. We wouldn't give our phone numbers out. If it's a deal breaker, then so be it, but it doesn't make us catfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably the numbers thing.

Giving out your number to strangers x

and yet they want to get intimate with "strangers"

So? I might want to shag them but don't want them ringing me or adding me on facebook. "

Exactly this

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Because they dont want to be exposed for Not being who they say they before they’ve collected a few pics or exchanged wank fodder messages. Or could be they’re on fab incognito and a phone convo would raise questions from a spouse? "

I'm none of the above. I worked in a call centre for 8 year's yet the thought of chatting to people on the phone literally make my tummy flip. I can't tell you why. I used to actively participate in phone sex regularly (not in the call centre ) but all of a sudden talking to someone on here just makes me really anxious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably more reluctant to divulge their number rather than a fear of speaking

Also another reason! "

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone."
I'm not scared of a phone call but there is no way I'd do a call for a meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would say it is the phone number thing too, although I detest with a passion speaking on the phone.

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By *all broad an naughtyMan
over a year ago

COVENTRY

Be happy to chat, local here!

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley


"Probably the numbers thing.

Giving out your number to strangers x

and yet they want to get intimate with "strangers"

So? I might want to shag them but don't want them ringing me or adding me on facebook. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange thing although I know some fear it. But if they cant talk on a phone I wonder how they manage meeting face to face....

You know that old fashioned way that friends used to share time thoughts dreams and life together.....

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley

We have a seperate play phone, no excuse to not have one. A cheap pay as u go will do.

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley


"Strange thing although I know some fear it. But if they cant talk on a phone I wonder how they manage meeting face to face....

You know that old fashioned way that friends used to share time thoughts dreams and life together.....

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"We have a seperate play phone, no excuse to not have one. A cheap pay as u go will do."

Actually I've got a great excuse. I don't want one.

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of calls asking if I’ve been involved in an accident!

When I ask the female caller what they are wearing and they hang up ,it puts me right off my stroke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate speaking on the phone too. I have very occasionally chatted before a meet (withholding my number) but if someone pushes me to call, I’ll look elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone."
more about number i agree you can tell whether they have a personality by speaking on phone though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a seperate play phone, no excuse to not have one. A cheap pay as u go will do.

Actually I've got a great excuse. I don't want one."

nor me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll only exchange numbers if I've already met and built up some trust.. I caught a guy out on here in my early days.. added his number and he popped up as a suggested friend on FB.

He was married etc.. I blocked him straight away

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

The problem here is that people think that their way is the only way, if you like a phone call before a meet, that's fine, but you should accept that some people don't want to, that doesn't mean they are fake, lying, catfishing etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate speaking on the phone too. I have very occasionally chatted before a meet (withholding my number) but if someone pushes me to call, I’ll look elsewhere "

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley


"The problem here is that people think that their way is the only way, if you like a phone call before a meet, that's fine, but you should accept that some people don't want to, that doesn't mean they are fake, lying, catfishing etc. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone."

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange thing although I know some fear it. But if they cant talk on a phone I wonder how they manage meeting face to face....

You know that old fashioned way that friends used to share time thoughts dreams and life together.....

"

I manage very well face to face. I’m a confident, sociable person.

I just prefer to look someone in the eye when I’m talking to them. I love that personal interaction. A picture paints a thousand words ( or something like that)

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley

To shy to phone to shy to meet, yet they have clear face pics on profile, or rather pics of "faces".....

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on. "

There's loads of us who won't do it and we aren't dodgy. Just accept that some people don't want to without accusing them of stuff.

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on. "

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on. "

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"The problem here is that people think that their way is the only way, if you like a phone call before a meet, that's fine, but you should accept that some people don't want to, that doesn't mean they are fake, lying, catfishing etc. "

spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our house which is an old farmhouse you can hear any convo all over what with it being stone and in the past we asked a chap and he said he would only send one on WhatsApp.

So numbers exchanged and we asked him in five separate messages not to ring and the reasons why(kids at home) so he tried to ring three times before we blocked him.

I never talk on the phone and can’t remember the last time I did and it’s not my wife’s thing either but numbers will be swooped before a social!!!!

That’s just us but each to their own and what makes them comfortable I suppose.

T

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I won't talk on the phone as I've often got my children running around. Unless I really know you I won't answer. I have friends that ive known years that I still don't talk to on the phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like anyone phoning me.

My child at home..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem here is that people think that their way is the only way, if you like a phone call before a meet, that's fine, but you should accept that some people don't want to, that doesn't mean they are fake, lying, catfishing etc. "

Yet again keely has the hammer the nail and she hits it right on the head!!!

T

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"The problem here is that people think that their way is the only way, if you like a phone call before a meet, that's fine, but you should accept that some people don't want to, that doesn't mean they are fake, lying, catfishing etc.

Yet again keely has the hammer the nail and she hits it right on the head!!!

T"

I do like my trusty hammer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what the point was in asking the question OP when the only answer you seem prepared to accept is that which fits your own preconceived narrative

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone."

The key in all that is "early phone contact" - I wouldn't give my number out to a random person on the internet who I've exchanged a couple of messages with - I'll happily do so to someone I have established a connection with and intend meeting though.

Yes there is the PAYG option but being honest, why should I go to the effort of running two phones one for here, and one for everyday use? Especially as I am perfectly happy with how I choose to approach Fab and giving out my number.

If others don't accept that is how I run my Fab time then frankly we're not on the same page and they wouldn't be someone I'd want to meet.

Once again this all just comes across to me as a pointless exercise in worrying about how others choose to run their profiles when their way differs from your own.

Yes there *are* those that will have shady reasons for not wanting to give out their number, but there are also plenty who have very genuine and valid reasons too

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on. "

This is so far from the truth it’s actually laughable. I have nothing to hide from anyone. Not a catfish. Not a guy. I defo meet. I’m defo genuine. I just wanna keep my real life and my fab life separate and I don’t even speak to my own mother on the phone so I’m certainly not gonna do it with a stranger to prove a point.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"We have a seperate play phone, no excuse to not have one. A cheap pay as u go will do.

Actually I've got a great excuse. I don't want one."

Exactly I have one phone I don't want another one. I don't talk before meets on the phone no one I have ever met has had an issue either with that. If they do then I don't meet them.

Only 2 people on here have my number and that is because I trust them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange thing although I know some fear it. But if they cant talk on a phone I wonder how they manage meeting face to face....

You know that old fashioned way that friends used to share time thoughts dreams and life together.....

I manage very well face to face. I’m a confident, sociable person.

I just prefer to look someone in the eye when I’m talking to them. I love that personal interaction. A picture paints a thousand words ( or something like that) "

Quite agree. Face to face is always better. All those non verbal signals make up a huge part of all communication that can never be replicated by txt alone. Even the tone of voice adds subtlety and nuance that txt alone can never achieve so voices have an important place in all communication.

Hearing anothers voice can add so much to any conversation. Yet it's up to each to choose if or how they want to interact with another...

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on. "
I dont want to have a phone call... I'm not dodgy. Just not how I do things. I accept that many people wont want to meet me how I meet.. it's not a problem.. I just accept everyone had their own way of doing things x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I actually prefer to talk to someone, even better video chat.

There's a few ways to do it without giving your number out.

Text can be interpretated wrongly quite easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love fo chit chat on the phone. That’s because I’m a chatterbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually prefer to talk to someone, even better video chat.

There's a few ways to do it without giving your number out.

Text can be interpretated wrongly quite easily. "

Loooool ring me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love fo chit chat on the phone. That’s because I’m a chatterbox "

Only menus xx and recipes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a genuine telephone phobia. I never speak on the phone if I can avoid it, and when I do I need heavy anti-anxiety meds.

At the end of the day, I have pictures (including a face picture for friends only) and I have recent verifications, and if there's interest then I am happy to meet for a social asap. If that's not good enough then fine, move on. But expecting me to do something that actually causes me to have full blown panic attacks - and then accusing me of being fake because I don't want to put myself through that kind of stress for a stranger - that's kind of dickish.

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By *ockey LoveMan
over a year ago

Bozeat

I've given my number out a couple of times, one was horrific turned out to be a catfishing escort which I didn't realise. To which afterwards I also noticed had about three profiles. They got blocked very quickly after I got out and made sure I was safe.

I have only since handed my phone number out once I felt comfortable exchanging a few messages and knowing they've been verified. I have also met a lovely couple from fab in a club who don't want to expose their number so we talk on kik. We only done this after we've met.

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By *icked_tongueMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I ask to do this and always say that if they don't want me to know their number then to just withhold it and i'll still answer; it's still surprising how many won't do that which only leads me to one conclusion.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I love fo chit chat on the phone. That’s because I’m a chatterbox "

. And you're drop dead gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange thing although I know some fear it. But if they cant talk on a phone I wonder how they manage meeting face to face....

You know that old fashioned way that friends used to share time thoughts dreams and life together.....

I manage very well face to face. I’m a confident, sociable person.

I just prefer to look someone in the eye when I’m talking to them. I love that personal interaction. A picture paints a thousand words ( or something like that)

Quite agree. Face to face is always better. All those non verbal signals make up a huge part of all communication that can never be replicated by txt alone. Even the tone of voice adds subtlety and nuance that txt alone can never achieve so voices have an important place in all communication.

Hearing anothers voice can add so much to any conversation. Yet it's up to each to choose if or how they want to interact with another..."

I don’t like the sound of my voice! Maybe that’s why I don’t like the phone

Couldn’t agree more that we should all be free to choose how we communicate x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I ask to do this and always say that if they don't want me to know their number then to just withhold it and i'll still answer; it's still surprising how many won't do that which only leads me to one conclusion."

Another one who thinks you must swing their way or you're *insert attempted insult here*

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By *icked_tongueMan
over a year ago

Bolton

And another one that jumps to the wrong conclusions without even asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask to do this and always say that if they don't want me to know their number then to just withhold it and i'll still answer; it's still surprising how many won't do that which only leads me to one conclusion."

That they don't like to talk on the phone?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"And another one that jumps to the wrong conclusions without even asking"

Funny that since you said in your post that you get led to a conclusion, which most likely us wrong. Pot, kettle much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And another one that jumps to the wrong conclusions without even asking"

I have to ask

What conclusion were you led to in your post previous to this?

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

These kind of opinions cos people don’t wanna talk on the phone could be you shooting yourself in the foot and result in y’all missing out on some really good meets.

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By *ittleMissFozzieWoman
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious.

I'm the same, it's a real phobia

Relieved to know I'm not the only one "

Me too!! I have to prepare myself, write everything down, practise breathing even to pick up the phone. I'm ok with my kids or parents, anyone else is awful. I've had certain men on here give me abuse because I wouldn't phone chat with them. All that did was convince me I'd swerved a bullet. Showed themselves up for the nasty people they are!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious.

I'm the same, it's a real phobia

Relieved to know I'm not the only one

Me too!! I have to prepare myself, write everything down, practise breathing even to pick up the phone. I'm ok with my kids or parents, anyone else is awful. I've had certain men on here give me abuse because I wouldn't phone chat with them. All that did was convince me I'd swerved a bullet. Showed themselves up for the nasty people they are!"

That's exactly what this thread is doing for me.

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious.

I'm the same, it's a real phobia

Relieved to know I'm not the only one

Me too!! I have to prepare myself, write everything down, practise breathing even to pick up the phone. I'm ok with my kids or parents, anyone else is awful. I've had certain men on here give me abuse because I wouldn't phone chat with them. All that did was convince me I'd swerved a bullet. Showed themselves up for the nasty people they are!

That's exactly what this thread is doing for me."

This!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

As a guy, if I refuse to talk on the phone, does that make me a catfish?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"As a guy, if I refuse to talk on the phone, does that make me a catfish? "

Apparently yes

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"As a guy, if I refuse to talk on the phone, does that make me a catfish?

Apparently yes"

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"As a guy, if I refuse to talk on the phone, does that make me a catfish?

Apparently yes

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

People with mental health problems find it difficult to speak and use a phone ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone actually use their phone for calls these days? I simply wait till i get the right vibe before meeting, no call needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are on as a Cpl we have face pics and actually not bothered if ppl find me on social media as long as they dont splash all over my page my private life. But I absolutely hate vid chat and phone calls. I barely speak to my hubby on the phone it gives me major anxiety doesn't mean I'm a catfish and can deff confirm I'm female lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m deaf as a post in one ear

Hello hello mum is that you lols

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I will only chat on the phone if I intend on meeting them

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I will only chat on the phone if I intend on meeting them"

Damn. And I wanted you to hear my sexy voice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious. "

Same here with me, always have been. I rather text someone. But yes I will answer and speak on the phone if needs be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t talk to someone on the phone if they demanded it to prove I’m real. The conversation would be too stunted and forced. But if you’ve been messaging a lot and have a lot to say I’ll call, because then it will be a nice natural flow of conversation.

As I’ve said, I’m a chatterbox so the problem is getting me off the phone

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They've not managed to perfect the art of having a second SIM for sex contacts yet, for various reasons. Maybe they got a bit close to being caught out trying to cheat before, when their partner checked browsing, call and texting history before.

For many, their sexual repertoire relates to tugging, whilst someone supplies them with suitable materials only.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I wouldn’t talk to someone on the phone if they demanded it to prove I’m real. The conversation would be too stunted and forced. But if you’ve been messaging a lot and have a lot to say I’ll call, because then it will be a nice natural flow of conversation.

As I’ve said, I’m a chatterbox so the problem is getting me off the phone "

Sorry, what did you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t talk to someone on the phone if they demanded it to prove I’m real. The conversation would be too stunted and forced. But if you’ve been messaging a lot and have a lot to say I’ll call, because then it will be a nice natural flow of conversation.

As I’ve said, I’m a chatterbox so the problem is getting me off the phone

Sorry, what did you say? "

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"They've not managed to perfect the art of having a second SIM for sex contacts yet, for various reasons. Maybe they got a bit close to being caught out trying to cheat before, when their partner checked browsing, call and texting history before.

For many, their sexual repertoire relates to tugging, whilst someone supplies them with suitable materials only. "

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I wouldn’t talk to someone on the phone if they demanded it to prove I’m real. The conversation would be too stunted and forced. But if you’ve been messaging a lot and have a lot to say I’ll call, because then it will be a nice natural flow of conversation.

As I’ve said, I’m a chatterbox so the problem is getting me off the phone

Sorry, what did you say?

"

You know I'd listen to your voice anytime.

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By *ndiscloseddesiresWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham

I won't give my number to anyone unless I have met them in person due to a bad prior experience.

I gave my number out early on once and was harassed. I blocked the number and they would get a new number and start with that. I changed my phone number very quickly to stop the issue but I am now far more cautious about who I give my number to. So just because someone refuses, it doesn't mean they are instantly a catfish (but I totally understand why people presume that.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t talk to someone on the phone if they demanded it to prove I’m real. The conversation would be too stunted and forced. But if you’ve been messaging a lot and have a lot to say I’ll call, because then it will be a nice natural flow of conversation.

As I’ve said, I’m a chatterbox so the problem is getting me off the phone

Sorry, what did you say?

You know I'd listen to your voice anytime. "

I dunno. I’m southern, I know my accent is like nails on a chalk board to anyone north of Watford

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I have a fab phone and only a few people have the number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a fab phone and only a few people have the number. "

Giz it

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I have a fab phone and only a few people have the number.

Giz it "

You'll have to message me first. I'm not that easy..... OK maybe I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably more reluctant to divulge their number rather than a fear of speaking "

Don’t need a number of using kik

I no longer have a mobile so I don’t chat to anyone unless we meet in person

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm reluctant to chat on the phone coz it usually means the guy wants dirty chat. I'm only interested in guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to chat on the phone, never dirty stuff but if you can hold a conversation then its kinda fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they dont want to be exposed for Not being who they say they before they’ve collected a few pics or exchanged wank fodder messages. Or could be they’re on fab incognito and a phone convo would raise questions from a spouse? "

What she said its crazy ppl give so many excuses not to speak but then will have "phone sex"under their Interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking to someone on the phone does not mean that person is genuine and will turn up for an arranged social when they say they will.

I’m saying this from personal experience

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By *nmgCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious. "

I'm the same. Much happier texting or emailing (better still messaging!!!)

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Strange thing although I know some fear it. But if they cant talk on a phone I wonder how they manage meeting face to face....

You know that old fashioned way that friends used to share time thoughts dreams and life together.....

"

Face to Face I'm fine. Just the phone makes feel panicked.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I can talk on the phone all day to anyone... Unless they haven't already heard my voice. I have a speech impediment and won't speak to anyone from Fab via phone unless they have already met me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely hate taking on the phone or Skyping etc.

If someone won’t meet without this then tough.

It’s perfectly fine to use here, or something like telegram/kik.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a big fan of the telephone. I'm much more comfortable face to face

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Absolutely hate talking on the phone. Wouldn't chat to anyone on the phone even you offered to pay me 100 quid an hour.

Just no.

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By *idnightshadows88 OP   Couple
over a year ago

fillongley

Don't meet people with mental health problems.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Don't meet people with mental health problems."

Who was that aimed at?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Don't meet people with mental health problems."

Hate to break it to you, but odds are you have a mental health problem of some form yourself. It would be extremely rare if you didn't. Since you are a couple, even more rare that you both don't.

Have a nice day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet won't talk on the phone to someone she doesn't know,she's not afraid,nothing to be scared off,she just won't do it.

If someone is doubting our profile and authenticity,and over 400 verifications isn't enough for someone,then fuck them,we ain't jumping through hoops for no one .

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Don't meet people with mental health problems."

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"Probably more reluctant to divulge their number rather than a fear of speaking "

Yes, I've had occasion in the past to regret giving someone my number. It is very rare nowadays that I part company with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle having a phone conversation before a face to face meeting and that has a lot to do with being very aware of how dependant I am on facial expressions and body language. It is only when I know someone well enough that I can imagine their expressions as they talk that I feel really comfortable chatting to them on the phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't meet people with mental health problems."

Statistically at least 1 in 4 people have some kind of mental health issue. In reality, I suspect it is even higher than that. Many people hide their issues well, because of the stigma.

So what I am saying is... chances are, you already have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally there are 2 reasons why I won't speak on the phone.

1. I hate speaking to people on the phone in any situation, I'd rather send a message/email or speak face to face. It makes me super anxious.

2. I don't want to give my number to random strangers on the internet without meeting them first. It's way easier to block people on kik or other apps if they turn out to not be who they say they are.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"I struggle having a phone conversation before a face to face meeting and that has a lot to do with being very aware of how dependant I am on facial expressions and body language. It is only when I know someone well enough that I can imagine their expressions as they talk that I feel really comfortable chatting to them on the phone."

Here here ..couldn’t explain it better

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I hate chatting on the phone, just like webchat and stuff.

It’s not because i’m a catfish. It’s because i’m shy.

The ability to chat to someone i don’t know for longer than a minute, without getting a mental block and turning into a self concious wreck is not a skill i possess.

And it usually ends up with them getting a bit sexual which makes the phone chat awkward.

It’s not something i look to. If someone wants me to prove who i am i am happy to send a vid saying a pre disclosed comment or something, but that’s it.

And i wouldn’t be doing it with my tits out either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate chatting on the phone, just like webchat and stuff.

It’s not because i’m a catfish. It’s because i’m shy.

The ability to chat to someone i don’t know for longer than a minute, without getting a mental block and turning into a self concious wreck is not a skill i possess.

And it usually ends up with them getting a bit sexual which makes the phone chat awkward.

It’s not something i look to. If someone wants me to prove who i am i am happy to send a vid saying a pre disclosed comment or something, but that’s it.

And i wouldn’t be doing it with my tits out either.

"
oh speak to me cmon dont be shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs has a strong bloody Stoke accent, believe me text is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate speaking on the phone. Work socially or anything else I find it cringey

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"I hate with a passion speaking on the phone even with friends and family. I just get really anxious.

I'm the same, it's a real phobia

Relieved to know I'm not the only one "

I'm OK with friends and family, but struggle with a new person. Not quite a phobia or anxiety.... just a thing... no explanation..

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"Don't meet people with mental health problems."

Noted and blocked

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By *arpet manMan
over a year ago

leicester

I worry the very first lady I meet on here I gave my number straight out to we chatted lots no problem then one day I got a call from her husband threatening me then I got calls from her for weeks saying she wanted to leave him for me .

I do still give it my number but I'm more careful now it takes a lot of getting to know someone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone."

I hate the sound of my voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are so many so scared to speak on the phone? We prefer early phone contact, yet most all on here are reluctant to speak on the phone.

Usually because they are not who they say they are. There are so many bullshit excuses about not giving numbers out but everyone has an old phone these days payg sims are free so there is no excuse for not talking on a swing phone there really isn't. If someone won't have a phone conversation when interest has been expressed then there is something dodgy going on. "

I have an old phone. It's the reason I got a new phone. Half the screen is black on it, the battery lasts about an hour so I'm not really sure why I kept it. PAYG sims may be free but surely you'd need to top it up to be able to actually use it or activate it?

There's this other thing you can do which isn't entirely foolproof but does go some way in checking people are real. Read their veris.

If myself and B lived together a fab phone is something I'd definitely consider, but even then with him working away most of the time it would be very one sided so that wouldn't be fair.

P

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Another reason popped up on the forum yesterday. While it is a slightly extreme example with a specific situation surrounding it.

The risk of said person just sharing your number out and around with whoever they like if they are then feeling scorned in some way.

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