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By *agnar1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Poole

How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's causing it?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

How is it being battered? Who's doing the battering? I need clarity on that before I can answer properly.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Id say it depends on the cause

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

As has been said above.

And it's ok to not be ok.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Dave.

Know your worth

Seek your own approval

Do not seek the approval of others.

Tell yourself all the good things about you and KNOW you reach your own standard.

The opinions of others are just that.... opinions.

You are great in your own right.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

BTW Dave..... help those that need help. It can help shift your focus.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish i could help you with this, but I don't really have a lot of self confidence in the first place and if I do get any it's hard to deal with having it knocked back down again by a troll or someone messing me around.

If you're a decent human being and try to be nice to people you just have to know that you're better than those who are nasty and judgemental, and be patient. Someone will come along and there will be mutual attraction.

Good luck!

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By *agnar1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Poole

Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work out whether you are your own worst enemy or not as early as possible.

The lies you tell yourself are worse than any you’ll hear from anyone else.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks"

If it's through being rejected on here i would say log off until your mind is strong enough as fab takes no prisoners on that front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's shit when your confidence has been shattered it will take time and please take the time to heal (going through this myself right now). Your going to have good days and bad days xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong. "

Are you absolutely being serious ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try and present yourself the best you can. Eat healthily, get some exercise even if it’s going for a long walk. Surround yourself with people who really like you like your family and friends. Make a list of all your good qualities or even better ask a friend to do it.

Without knowing exactly what’s knocked your confidence it’s hard to advise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong. "

Nothing, as someone said you're in an environment where disappointment is inevitable. If it affects your confidence then you've got to deal with that either by removing yourself or finding a strategy to manage it.

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By *corpio67Man
over a year ago

hillingdon

Take a deep breath

Count to ten

Then start again!

Works for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. "

Might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but there are beard appreciators on here and only yesterday I saw someone commenting that they love the aforementioned combo.

It just takes time. Getting out to clubs is the most commonly recommended thing here, so if you’re not doing that, get on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I battered some fish earlier

You could always do a headstand and a selfie Dave confuse the bastards !

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By *agnar1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Poole


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong.

Are you absolutely being serious ?"

Yes I’m being serious

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Find your worth elsewhere and invest less in things that bring you down.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Dave.

Know your worth

Seek your own approval

Do not seek the approval of others.

Tell yourself all the good things about you and KNOW you reach your own standard.

The opinions of others are just that.... opinions.

You are great in your own right. "

That is really great advice..I really like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a harsh environment. If you have any insecurities it'll play on them. Fab isn't for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks"

You are the same as many you are equal to many stand tall

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong. "

Dave? You should say to yourself....” I know I've made some very poor decisions recently, but I can give you my complete assurance that my work will be back to normal. I've still got the greatest enthusiasm and confidence in the mission. And I want to help you.....”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confucius say

Fuck em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep trying to you are someone’s type.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks"

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

If you keep doing something that keeps making you feel bad as the end product then stop doing it.

Why put yourself through it?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Seriously though, I always think they’ve made a dreadful mistake and forget them. You’re just as good as anyone else. Don’t let those who say you’re not, affect you. Don’t let their negative energy get to you. Be a beacon and shine on.

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong. "

You haven't done anything wrong.

Youve been talking to people who maybe don't like beards and bald heads.

I'm a confident guy so i I would put both front and center on my profile.

No point talking to someone who doesn't find either of those things attractive, If your aim is to meet them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart"

Seriously? You’re saying suck comments go over your head?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks"

Try not to base your self worth on the opinions of strangers, it's hard but you really need a thick skin to be on fab, it can really give you a kicking if you let it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Dave, if you’re bald with a beard, take a portrait upside down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart"

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Google hot guys beards and bald head and look at the guys on there that women find attractive then re-evaluate what exactly is hitting your confidence,look at it honestly and objectively and work out your next step.

Good luck and drive on.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

Seriously? You’re saying suck comments go over your head? "

They do now, otherwise I would have left fab a long time ago. Not sure the nice women on fab realise that there are woman who are quite nasty

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad "

I’ve have weeks of lovely chats with ladies and then we get to the point of swapping face pics. Then had abuse such as “you’re too ugly to fuck”, it feels (or use to) so horrible and really can knock you

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By *EXDUCEUSCouple
over a year ago

coventry

Pre empt the negative by proactively highlighting your distinguished features.

Try not to jump to a meet so quickly because if there isnt any interest in you as a person, the physical attributes will take priority. Just put your honest self in a description and stop being a snowflake

With all the best love and most warm intentions,

Saz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad "

You can get that on the forums aswell. People deliberately put you down. Be careful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong. "

Being rejected is the worst and you’re right, it does destroy your confidence.

Being bald and having a beard isn’t the worst thing. Like I said in my previous post you’ve just gotta present yourself the best you can and work with what you got.

Looking at your pics you have visceral fat (fat around your mid section) if you’re stressed you’ll produce cortisol which will make you eat sugar fatty foods and salty foods it makes your weight go straight to your mid section.

New year now so make some changes, fat loss will alter your body and your face particularly your jawline, which to me determines how hot a guy is. Don’t have to do anything major just start with walking, stroke some pets dogs or cats if you have any or know people who so cos they’ll help with stress. Cut out sugar, google keto recipes is your best bet. But that’s my advice, if you want to build your confidence back up you have to make some changes so you can feel good about yourself. When people IN THE REAL WORLD start noticing which they will in 6 weeks, you’ll start getting glances and compliments and that should help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad

I’ve have weeks of lovely chats with ladies and then we get to the point of swapping face pics. Then had abuse such as “you’re too ugly to fuck”, it feels (or use to) so horrible and really can knock you"

Ugh. There's a kind of ugly that goes right to the bone the fuck is wrong with people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

Seriously? You’re saying suck comments go over your head?

They do now, otherwise I would have left fab a long time ago. Not sure the nice women on fab realise that there are woman who are quite nasty"

Trust me I know how f****** nasty, bitchy and judgemental women on fab can be! Men and couples can be the same too. Unfortunately people kind behind keypads and think they can say all sorts of damaging things to someone who has done nothing to them. They wouldn't dare say these things to my parents or they literally wouldn't have a leg to stand on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad

You can get that on the forums aswell. People deliberately put you down. Be careful "

Baby, I've been called just about everything over the years. I genuinely couldn't give less of a fuck but i find it hard to hear about other people being called horrible undeserved names.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

Seriously? You’re saying suck comments go over your head?

They do now, otherwise I would have left fab a long time ago. Not sure the nice women on fab realise that there are woman who are quite nasty

Trust me I know how f****** nasty, bitchy and judgemental women on fab can be! Men and couples can be the same too. Unfortunately people kind behind keypads and think they can say all sorts of damaging things to someone who has done nothing to them. They wouldn't dare say these things to my parents or they literally wouldn't have a leg to stand on! "

I’m sure there’s plenty of nasty men too. I always think I’m a nice guy and that gets me no where lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad

I’ve have weeks of lovely chats with ladies and then we get to the point of swapping face pics. Then had abuse such as “you’re too ugly to fuck”, it feels (or use to) so horrible and really can knock you"

I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that. The real ugliness there is in the people that make comments like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad

I’ve have weeks of lovely chats with ladies and then we get to the point of swapping face pics. Then had abuse such as “you’re too ugly to fuck”, it feels (or use to) so horrible and really can knock you"

God I bet it does! That’s just pure nasty. Just think to yourself would you really want to meet someone like that though? Sad people.

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By *agnar1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Poole


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong.

Being rejected is the worst and you’re right, it does destroy your confidence.

Being bald and having a beard isn’t the worst thing. Like I said in my previous post you’ve just gotta present yourself the best you can and work with what you got.

Looking at your pics you have visceral fat (fat around your mid section) if you’re stressed you’ll produce cortisol which will make you eat sugar fatty foods and salty foods it makes your weight go straight to your mid section.

New year now so make some changes, fat loss will alter your body and your face particularly your jawline, which to me determines how hot a guy is. Don’t have to do anything major just start with walking, stroke some pets dogs or cats if you have any or know people who so cos they’ll help with stress. Cut out sugar, google keto recipes is your best bet. But that’s my advice, if you want to build your confidence back up you have to make some changes so you can feel good about yourself. When people IN THE REAL WORLD start noticing which they will in 6 weeks, you’ll start getting glances and compliments and that should help.

"

Thank you

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By *agnar1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Poole

Thankyou all for your messages & it’s nice to know I’m not the only one.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Ouch, sounds harsh.

Sometimes life shines a light on what most needs attention ... albeit unfair and harsh. Ask yourself which bit of you that hurts needs healing, how can you meet your own needs. Try not to place your own self value on external events which you have no control over x

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Over the years I have had some really hurtful and nasty comments. At times I left fab alone for a few weeks then came back. Now any suck comments go straight over my head. What’s worse is the nasty rude comment followed by them blocking you before you can reply. Try not to take it to heart

I just don't get why someone would do that I can kind of understand the guys who call me a fat slut because I've said no, it's pathetic but I get why they're lashing out, it makes sense. But why would you insult someone just for approaching you? it's just so inexplicably nasty and makes me so sad

I’ve have weeks of lovely chats with ladies and then we get to the point of swapping face pics. Then had abuse such as “you’re too ugly to fuck”, it feels (or use to) so horrible and really can knock you

God I bet it does! That’s just pure nasty. Just think to yourself would you really want to meet someone like that though? Sad people. "

That’s how I now see it, I’m thankful I’ve seen the true person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is battering your confidence

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong.

Being rejected is the worst and you’re right, it does destroy your confidence.

Being bald and having a beard isn’t the worst thing. Like I said in my previous post you’ve just gotta present yourself the best you can and work with what you got.

Looking at your pics you have visceral fat (fat around your mid section) if you’re stressed you’ll produce cortisol which will make you eat sugar fatty foods and salty foods it makes your weight go straight to your mid section.

New year now so make some changes, fat loss will alter your body and your face particularly your jawline, which to me determines how hot a guy is. Don’t have to do anything major just start with walking, stroke some pets dogs or cats if you have any or know people who so cos they’ll help with stress. Cut out sugar, google keto recipes is your best bet. But that’s my advice, if you want to build your confidence back up you have to make some changes so you can feel good about yourself. When people IN THE REAL WORLD start noticing which they will in 6 weeks, you’ll start getting glances and compliments and that should help.

"

Great advice here. Though obviously do more in depth research to what you should be doing beyond the basic outline given.

For the most part for me rejection is fine. The way the rejection is done, and at times by who ends up being the confidence knock.

It shouldn't be a shock to any of the ladies on the forum to learn that women can often be just as bad, if not at times worse when it comes to being mean, and rude, and plain brutal with comments. There really are horrible people of all sexes and genders floating around fab (just like offline)

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

I shave my head because my hair is receding and I think a bald head looks better than a partly bald head.

I have a goatee and sometimes a beard because I think it makes my fat face look a bit thinner. Also, I believe it’s illegal for a man to ride a motorbike over 700cc without facial hair.

Some people like their men to look like the models out of C&A, and some don’t.

Put some effort in to your profile, get to socials, get to clubs...seek out fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks"

There are a few in the same boat OP, but just know there are also some lovely helpful people out there too. Just takes a time to find those that will chat and be there for you, good luck sweetie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't be everyone's cup of tea mate there will always be someone amazing who comes along who will blow all those who rejected you out of the water.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't be everyone's cup of tea mate there will always be someone amazing who comes along who will blow all those who rejected you out of the water. "

Wise words Mr G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup even some people wear socks and sliders on here I even got a hole in my shoe pic lol

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

It could be the message you send

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire


"Just everyone who realises I have a beard & bald head, is then not interested. Been on here just over a year & meets. I haven’t been pushy or rude. Wondering what I’m doing wrong.

Are you absolutely being serious ?"

I thought this too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It could be the message you send"

Ahhhh is this why you keep ignoring my message re smashing your back door in ??

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"It could be the message you send

Ahhhh is this why you keep ignoring my message re smashing your back door in ??

"

No it's your feet that put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It could be the message you send

Ahhhh is this why you keep ignoring my message re smashing your back door in ??

No it's your feet that put me off"

Lols my feet your arse perfect match looool xx

It’s love isn’t it ?? Come on admit it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be confident in who you are.

I use to hate my body, now im like who cares what folk think. Hence ive got body shots in profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last job... Toxic work colleagues. Knocking my confidence. I walked away from them all. Have interview Tuesday.

I am ugly, not drop dead gorgeous to some but like I give a fuck . I am me and people accept us for who we are.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"It could be the message you send

Ahhhh is this why you keep ignoring my message re smashing your back door in ??

No it's your feet that put me off

Lols my feet your arse perfect match looool xx

It’s love isn’t it ?? Come on admit it xx "

Yes it's love can't help be in with my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It could be the message you send

Ahhhh is this why you keep ignoring my message re smashing your back door in ??

No it's your feet that put me off

Lols my feet your arse perfect match looool xx

It’s love isn’t it ?? Come on admit it xx

Yes it's love can't help be in with my arse"

Shhhh Mr G get Jel babe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you ain’t sending tribute pics bro are you ???

Just asking !

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By *agnar1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Poole


"Op you ain’t sending tribute pics bro are you ???

Just asking ! "

Lol no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a cruel place this world at times.

I try to look past it and remember there’s some one in a worse off position. It can be hard at times though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks"

Take no notice...on fab you can go from being the most beautiful creature they've ever set eyes on to a swamp beast they wouldn't piss on if you were on fire! Very fickle lol you're better than that

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"How do you get over your confidence being battered all the time?

Looking for support & advice rather being knocked down any more.

Thanks

Take no notice...on fab you can go from being the most beautiful creature they've ever set eyes on to a swamp beast they wouldn't piss on if you were on fire! Very fickle lol you're better than that "

Good advice

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

My hubby has bald head and a beard a love it. I think u should redo your profile hundreds of advice on here for that. start there things may change.hollie

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Personally, I love a man with a beard & bald head!

K

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

If there's one thing I've learned on here..women know how to take a photo at a flattering angle to present themselves well..it seems that most of the guys do not!! It amazes me when I meet guys, how much better in real life many of them are compared to the pics they use on here!!

I doubt there's anything wrong with you, lovely. Ask any woman how to get a good pic of you & if anyone still disses you, brush them off like the waste of time they are!! We all know that we're not gonna be everyone's cup of tea so try not to be too brittle & don't let the nasty ones bring you down xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately you do need to try ignore the haters. I'm a bbw not every1s cup of tea but it's there front and centre of my profile least that way ppl wont talk for weeks ans then not like my pics. Be honest in your profile own your look and love yourself for who you are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dave.

Know your worth

Seek your own approval

Do not seek the approval of others.

Tell yourself all the good things about you and KNOW you reach your own standard.

The opinions of others are just that.... opinions.

You are great in your own right. "

Perfectly put...just be yourself!!

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London


"Unfortunately you do need to try ignore the haters. I'm a bbw not every1s cup of tea but it's there front and centre of my profile least that way ppl wont talk for weeks ans then not like my pics. Be honest in your profile own your look and love yourself for who you are xx"

Boom that there.

It is not people with imperfect bodies that are the timewasters on here

It's people coming with their ideal fantasies mental and physical and try to make profiles fit to them.

Communication is the answer.

Sell what you have don't pine for something you are not

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