FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla friends

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you told your none fab friends about your lifestyle and how did they react?

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No. I have heard them discussing swinging and they thought the idea was disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quite a secret lifestyle then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most know there are unconventional aspects to my life. None know the specifics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some know I used to meet random men for sex.

As long as I was happy and safe, they didn’t care.

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By *kiBum_SnowQueenCouple
over a year ago

Swindon ish

My best friend knows all about it and a couple of friends.

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By *lbethereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No way. Most seem to think it's very, very wrong. Kinda makes me feel so none vanilla and out on my own lol Fuck em, tossers

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By *eltonmanMan
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

A couple of my friends know, theyre not bothered.

Wouldnt tell most of them though

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By *assy_AttitudeWoman
over a year ago

RHYL

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By *wingamajigsCouple
over a year ago

Folkestone

Our friends found out by mistake. After logging in to their t.v. to watch a mountainbike race I went to the loo. While on there I checked messages to hear my wife shout out I was still connected. Nothing was said....... (still great friends though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all.

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By *aulupforitMan
over a year ago

Corbridge

My friends know.They just say each to there own really as it is my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite a secret lifestyle then "

For me, yes totally. People would literally die on the spot of shock I’m sure! I do have a very good friend I met on here ages ago who isn’t even on fab anymore. She knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They know I’m dating

So yes

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

"Most know there are unconventional aspects to my life. None know the specifics. "

Yeah, that's me, too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We each have a vanilla friend that knows, neither were shocked but both were intruiged. At least her friend was vanilla, she's now on here and embracing the lifestyle herself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all. "

Scratch that. None of them know. A couple know about our open marriage, none actually know of fab and that I’m on it.

Except my bus driver buddy, he actually joined for a while to creep my pictures

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've a couple of friends that know, one is very curious, the other not at all surprised or bothered.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told a mate of mine a while back that I met a MF couple ( I didnt share any other shenanigans )

She wasnt surprised.

I've always been Bi and she has known me forever.

I didnt share much detail.

Her advice was not to get used and to find my own partner in crime.

I cried.

Only because I'm eternally undateable and have made my peace ( sort of ) with being single probably for the rest of my life.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all.

Scratch that. None of them know. A couple know about our open marriage, none actually know of fab and that I’m on it.

Except my bus driver buddy, he actually joined for a while to creep my pictures

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you could have got a free ride out of that

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

My close friends know, 2 were very supportive once I'd explained things. The other one called me a glorified whore but apologised a couple of weeks later after she'd told another woman (Who I don't know) who said she was on a similar site!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me. "

So why do you do it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think what I do is much more shocking than 'meets man for sex' so if I had non fab friends Im sure I would tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have any just acquaintances nowadays i have no time for mates anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not secret. Private. Private life, clue is in the name. If I was in a completely conventional monogamous relationship I still wouldn't go into detail about my sex life, I figure no one needs to hear about it. I'm all for people being open and sharing if it works for them, it's just not me. But I'm not even close to being ashamed about any of it and I never have any problem with people being open and relaxed about it. I think it's pretty cool.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

My close circle of friends know and are fine with it, the others assume I go on all these dates with the same man

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Not a hope

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I don't tell people what I do, mainly because my sex life is none of anyone's business, other than my own.

Pretty much all of my friends are swingers though, so that does make things easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all.

Scratch that. None of them know. A couple know about our open marriage, none actually know of fab and that I’m on it.

Except my bus driver buddy, he actually joined for a while to creep my pictures

you could have got a free ride out of that

If only he wasn’t such a good, nice guy

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me. "

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say most of them are judgy little twats

I keep it to myself now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of beasts friends know and one of Belles friends. We don't want everyone knowing about our sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope but not because I'm embarrassed or worry what they think.

Because it's none of there business and they don't discuss their sex lives with me so I don't with them.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Our friends found out by mistake. After logging in to their t.v. to watch a mountainbike race I went to the loo. While on there I checked messages to hear my wife shout out I was still connected. Nothing was said....... (still great friends though)"

Ha ha love this story!!

. Glad it didn’t spoil the friendship though

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

One of my closest friends is my safety person and knows. The other could probably guess if she wished to but it's not something I'm explicit about.

Family don't know, because my sex life isn't something I choose to discuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of my female friends know I'm bi, but totally avoid conversation about it. And nearly fell off their chairs when I told them.

I'm not ashamed of it, but it's really nobody's business. If they found out, then so be it...

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I have various circles of friends and a couple in each circle know and have been very supportive knowing what kind of marriage I had and my friends genuinely want me to be happy so as long as I am careful they encourage me. 1 of them met her hubby through fab!!

Even a couple of my work colleagues know as we are quite friendly too and again fully supportive. I’m not embarrassed by fab just understanding of society’s view of fab which is why I don’t openly go about talking about it.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We haven’t told anyone. I don’t think any of our friends would be surprised but I reckon they’d search for our profile on here just to rip the piss out of us.

As someone else said, we don’t want to know what our friends gets up to sexually and they don’t need to know what we get up to. Our main reason for keeping it a secret though is to protect our children.

Lou x

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By *ustfulmusingCouple
over a year ago

ilpseich

I got a bit tipsy over Christmas and told what l thought was a trusted friend,she immediately went around and told others in the group.l initially felt regret but now l think this is something l’m doing with my husband if they have a problem with that ,it is just that their problem.although l am relieved l have actually moved away from the area and was just visiting.lesson learnt.

I also have a best friend who knows and is considering with her partner trying the lifestyle.

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By *heyoungwolfMan
over a year ago

Stockwell

Every single vanilla friend me and my girlfriend told seemed to be very interested and excited.

So I either have very kinky vanilla friends or they lied to make it less awkward..

I don't make a secret out of it. If it comes up in a conversation I just talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty open about my lifestyle, and my friends know I'm on fab and go to clubs. I never share the intimate details though, for their sake mostly Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told a good friend we were which then ended in the 3 of us having a ffm then a few months later we took her to a club she met someone there and they are now a couple however they don't swing xx

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By *hadow KingsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Have you told your none fab friends about your lifestyle and how did they react? "

AnEmotionalTampon here

All my mates and co workers know.

All saying, top lad or nice.

Even a couple of my bosses have asked me to take them with me but not on the black nights as they dont wanna be shown up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also my mum dad brother and auntie know xx

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By *leasurementMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I’m single, never married and I don’t have any kids at the age of 44....I think they have their suspicions....and I’m sure most of them are secretly jealous....

perhaps not of the swinging bit but mostly of the not having kids part

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

So why do you do it ?"

Hornynes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends know I don’t have a conventional lifestyle but they don’t know about Fab specifically.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We both have vanilla friends that know. I (gem) have more that know though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you told your none fab friends about your lifestyle and how did they react? "

Yes and several are jealous of me being on here.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Have you told your none fab friends about your lifestyle and how did they react? "
the very few that I have know x

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Just not in the habit of sharing details of our sex life people tend to judge and are often wrong so why would you open your self to that ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

So why do you do it ?

Hornynes"

But you consider those that do as wrong?

Doesn't that make you rather 'morally ambiguous' and raise questions about you when you're 'horny'?

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

Omg NOooooo ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

So why do you do it ?

Hornynes

But you consider those that do as wrong?

Doesn't that make you rather 'morally ambiguous' and raise questions about you when you're 'horny'? "

Yeah, Ive spotted a tiny bit of hypocrisy too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

So why do you do it ?

Hornynes

But you consider those that do as wrong?

Doesn't that make you rather 'morally ambiguous' and raise questions about you when you're 'horny'? "

Okay

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious"

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Our private life is just that private ,we keep to ourselves anyway dont have really close friends just each other ,dont think they would believe anyway

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"Have you told your none fab friends about your lifestyle and how did they react? "

Some have judged and look down their nose at me. Others couldn’t give a flying fig.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I told a mate of mine a while back that I met a MF couple ( I didnt share any other shenanigans )

She wasnt surprised.

I've always been Bi and she has known me forever.

I didnt share much detail.

Her advice was not to get used and to find my own partner in crime.

I cried.

Only because I'm eternally undateable and have made my peace ( sort of ) with being single probably for the rest of my life."

You can date a couple you now

Anyway a few of our friends know, All the family know H’s past obviously so they know we have a GF. About being on here not so much, a couple know but still know we are looking for a +1 even on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got two mates who know. One Male and one female. Neither of them judge me. Lots of my friends would judge me though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong. "

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With or without the risk of being judged. I just like keeping it private anyway. It’s fun to have a “naughty” side that my friends would be surprised about.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have a couple of close friends and they know. They don't judge. It may have come as a slight surprise but they have got used to it.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

A while back I took a young lady out for a meal the subject got round to sex and she mentioned what she liked and she had never been with a woman but was curious.I stupidly mentioned I was on a site she seemed interested and mentioned she would like to have fun with another woman but she can’t seem to make up her mind if she wants to attend a social or Rios with me.I think she is just messing me about which is why I don’t message her any more

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong. "

It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!!

you don’t know it if you never had it!!

I understand a bit what he means, when I say catholic guilt to me that means I am self conscious about my body as I don’t feel sexy however do know others find me sexy and this is something fab is helping me overcome so I can do things I want to do without being self conscious

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!!

you don’t know it if you never had it!!

Catholic guilt it is

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong? "

That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few know, my closest work friend, who I talk to about sex and that anyway, knows too. None were surprised!

The person I sleep with away from fab knows too, I thought it was only fair to tell him when we started sleeping together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging may only be seen as wrong because society has deemed it that way.

We're all socially conditioned from the moment we're born by the so called society norms. What's wrong is people not being allowed to be the person they are regardless of sexual orientation, religious and political beliefs. Once it was wrong to be gay now same sex couples are the norm which is progress. People have misconceptions about swinging we did too until we discovered it for ourselves. We've learnt what swinging isn't above all. We assumed to find everyone at it when we first visited a club. That was a misconception. Swingers are just the same as everyone else just ordinary everyday people. Society needs educating about our lifestyle then it'll be even more popular. Some would be ibtrigued and if they aren't it's society and it's misconceptions. rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one who currently knows is my (former) Step-daughter (or, as I think of her, my eldest daughter) who lives with me and my son.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!!

you don’t know it if you never had it!!

Catholic guilt it is

You're a single man looking to meet women. I cant see what catholic guilt has to do with it.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I don't know about my friends sex life and they don't know about mine. Its no one's business.

They certainly don't know about Alex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I've no desire to know about their sex lives and they don't know a thing about mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a close circle of friends and they would be appalled if they knew what I get up to , some things are best kept secret.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you? "

Looking for an argument again lol

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!!

you don’t know it if you never had it!!

Catholic guilt it is

You're a single man looking to meet women. I cant see what catholic guilt has to do with it. "

It’s just a thing that some people have, I grew up with parents who didn’t believe in contraception or sex before marriage and although I didn’t believe that there is a niggle at the back of your head. My ex husband was the only guy I had sex with till I was 45 and even he would talk about other women being sluts or whores even though he had been with plenty women before me and subsequently through our marriage so that contributed to my self consciousness (and he wasn’t even catholic just a bully!)

I genuinely believe mickey didn’t mean it is wrong or that people are wrong in what they are doing it’s just this niggle that will always be there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!!

you don’t know it if you never had it!!

Catholic guilt it is

You're a single man looking to meet women. I cant see what catholic guilt has to do with it.

I genuinely believe mickey didn’t mean it is wrong or that people are wrong in what they are doing it’s just this niggle that will always be there. "

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

There vanilla friends so they have no intrest in it.

Same reason I have mates who I go fishing with but wouldn't discuss fishing with ones that don't

Ray

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol"

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

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over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong. "

I was wondering the same thing

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over a year ago

Yes most work colleges no and some close friends but some of there partners don't like it but that's there problem I think some think I'll corrupt there partners hehe

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By *inman73Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

I have two people that I trust and told, one who can only be described as a cock magnet if she falls over 9 times out of 10 it's onto a cock.

Other my best mate, coz she wouldn't tell a sole.

Other than that no, never tell anyone, but have been some scary moments in a club that people who know us came in like my daughters BF and his mates.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing"

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Some of my friends know, some don't. All of my friends are women (I don't have a single bloke friend

). "Philip" even got a couple of Christmas cards.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try living in a Catholic country for a while and you'll understand it better. It's drip fed like poison from the day you're born.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very blunt about it if the conversation ever comes up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

No, it's got nothing to do with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?"

Isn't that what I just said?

And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.

You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?

Isn't that what I just said?

And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.

You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it. "

With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here

But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?

That would just be silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?

Isn't that what I just said?

And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.

You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.

With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here

But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?

That would just be silly"

I was brought up religious in a religious family and even though I don't go to church anymore, there are still things in my mind which I can't shake off.

If you think it's silly then okay that's opinion.

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over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?

Isn't that what I just said?

And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.

You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.

With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here

But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?

That would just be silly

I was brought up religious in a religious family and even though I don't go to church anymore, there are still things in my mind which I can't shake off.

If you think it's silly then okay that's opinion. "

Mickey, sweetheart

Read wot i rote!!

At no point did i suggest anyone's religion was silly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.

It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.

However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.

How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?

Maybe because I was brought up religious

I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.

Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?

Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?

If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?

Looking for an argument again lol

Not at all.

I'm just asking you questions.

You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.

I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.

I was wondering the same thing

I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.

So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?

Isn't that what I just said?

And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.

You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.

With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here

But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?

That would just be silly

I was brought up religious in a religious family and even though I don't go to church anymore, there are still things in my mind which I can't shake off.

If you think it's silly then okay that's opinion.

Mickey, sweetheart

Read wot i rote!!

At no point did i suggest anyone's religion was silly!"

Read what I wrote too

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Most of my vanilla friends ended up coming to clubs with me .. so no longer vanilla

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