FabSwingers.com forum: Socials

By *ustyLeRoux OP Woman
over a year ago

Brecon

I know it is a site which is based on having but why when you post a meet for * just * a social does it seem such a negative - not sure that's the right word. But anyway am certain its nice to not leap into bed with a stranger or just hang out with someone knew who's intentions are genuine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We have "just" socials. They're nice

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I love just socials. I don't think they're negative at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it is a site which is based on having but why when you post a meet for * just * a social does it seem such a negative - not sure that's the right word. But anyway am certain its nice to not leap into bed with a stranger or just hang out with someone knew who's intentions are genuine. "
socials are the only way forward especially for single women

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't think posting for a social is seen as negative. It will probably get less interest than one where sex is offered though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social is always a good thing, getting to know someone before/if anything else happens is a way of finding it that click/spark is there.

Many act like robots on here and are willing just to meet and drop their pants without finding a little out about the person.

Definitely not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a good social meet. Sometimes I have a few before I even start to decide if I'm going to be naked with someone.

Those who are happy to meet me just for a social a few times are showing genuine interest in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a social with someone i wanted to get to know better, but did not want to go to bed with. We had a lovely chat over a coffee and are on our way to being good friends i think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a social with someone i wanted to get to know better, but did not want to go to bed with. We had a lovely chat over a coffee and are on our way to being good friends i think x"
thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love a good social meet. Sometimes I have a few before I even start to decide if I'm going to be naked with someone.

Those who are happy to meet me just for a social a few times are showing genuine interest in me.

Exactly the way it should be, someone should be interested, there should be a mental click too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a good way to judge safety. If I feel safe, I'll relax, and any future sex will be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a good way to judge safety. If I feel safe, I'll relax, and any future sex will be better. "

Safety is a massive priority for anyone on here, and it does also make the sex better and more intense when the time comes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's a good way to judge safety. If I feel safe, I'll relax, and any future sex will be better.

Safety is a massive priority for anyone on here, and it does also make the sex better and more intense when the time comes "

Well, except those who think taking precautions makes you fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a good way to judge safety. If I feel safe, I'll relax, and any future sex will be better.

Safety is a massive priority for anyone on here, and it does also make the sex better and more intense when the time comes

Well, except those who think taking precautions makes you fake

Precautions are a must in most things we do nowadays, but those who think were fake for doing this then are definitely for the delete button haha.

I’ve been swinging on and off for around 10 years and I’ve read some crazy stories haha.

Definitely prefer to have those social meets and check the chemistry is there as this just makes everything far more intense

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We don't see anything negative about a social. We spent the day in Oxford with Fab lady and it was nothing but social. We had a great time.

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By *ndyluverMan
over a year ago

Now living in spain Costa Blanca

Totally agree with your comments stick to your guns and do what’s right for you. Tom

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We're a big fan of social too. I honestly think it should be a thing in the vanilla world, a platonic meeting of couples or singles just to make friends and meet new people.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the people who browse the meets section tend to be those looking for a quick fuck with minimal effort hence they look negatively at social only meets.

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By *ustyLeRoux OP Woman
over a year ago

Brecon

"I think the people who browse the meets section tend to be those looking for a quick fuck with minimal effort hence they look negatively at social only meets. "

Yes this is how I feel! Thank you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like socials

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like socials "
I also like socials then sex and I like just sex.

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By *ustfun1000Man
over a year ago

hanwell

Socials are great for meeting new people and friends, I was at a social last night organised by white rabbit which was small but nice but a lot larger 1 arranged for soon check forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not our favourite thing socials, we do for single females but everyone else we'll just say hello to in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the MLS is coming up soon which will be an amazing social in my home town with lots of nutty fabbers

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They're likely only viewed negatively by the men who expect a near immediate shag op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i enjoy social meets? Id sooner do multiple socials, i love getting to know people seeing what makes them tick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a social meet ... they’re my preference as I want to be able to ‘get on’ with the person I may end up having sex with.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I've never had any issues with insisting on a social meet. I find a lot of people agree they're sensible.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

It's only the same as going for a meal or a drink with non swinging friends, if you message someone and get on with them save wavelength, values, sense of humour then absolutly

Ray

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've never had any issues with insisting on a social meet. I find a lot of people agree they're sensible."

I've had issues, but I tend to think that it's a good indicator of whether someone can be trusted.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

We had a group social in a glasgow pub yesterday, I got the train into glasgow at 2pm and got home after midnight! We had a great time, met new and old friends and it was so easy to chat to everyone with no pressure of thinking he is wanting me to have sex with him soon!

I go out a lot socially with friends male and female but it’s good to go out socially with likeminded people laughing about disastrous meets and gasping at outstanding meets

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Just socials are great. I wouldn't meet anyone who thought they were negative anyways

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I always like a social to check there is a bit of chemistry. I also genuinely like getting to know people, and I find with the right people that initial bit of flirting just heightens desire as the anticipation builds.

I've never been to an organised social event so can't comment on those, but if a guy flatly refused to go for a coffee or a drink then clearly we're on very different wavelengths and there isn't much chance I'm going to want to take things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're going to get less interest for a social only meet. Most aren't here to make friends over coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had any issues with insisting on a social meet. I find a lot of people agree they're sensible.

I've had issues, but I tend to think that it's a good indicator of whether someone can be trusted. "

I refuse social meets. Interesting that people see that as can't be trusted.

What it actually means is my life is busy. I've no need for a friendly cup of coffee. I want sex. I know what I like from a sexual partner. I'm perfectly capable of ascertaining if a potential meet has that without actually meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group socials are a great way of meeting people and I have been to many over the years and met some great friends

Solo "check if we click" socials I gave up a few years ago really. If I want sex or sexy interaction, its easier just to go to a club or event and interact with people there. Whenever I have put a status up wondering if anyone fancies a local drink I am always inundated with the "why dont you just come to mine instead" messages and have found that a large proportion of the guys local to me are just seeking the free escort home visit rather than to make friends or socialise in any way.

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve done loads of socials both organised and one on one before deciding to meet.

Never fails to deliver.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have "just" socials. They're nice

Yes, they're very pleasant

Fuzz

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have "just" socials. They're nice

Yes, they're very pleasant

Fuzz"

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I only have socials with folk i feel i may have a follow up sex meet with. Loads of men ask me to meet for coffee and chats but i am here for much more than that.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Some people enjoy socials, some don't - I guess it depends what you're looking for

I don't think it's viewed particularly negatively, and if it is by some people, they're not for you.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have "just" socials. They're nice

Yes, they're very pleasant

Fuzz

Something to do with the company

Fuzz

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I prefer a social at first. You never know if their will be a true spark until you see them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have "just" socials. They're nice

Yes, they're very pleasant

Fuzz

Something to do with the company

Fuzz"

Indeed it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a social and have had a couple of great ones. Had a lovely one just this morning

It makes me feel safe to meet somewhere neutral first and decide if I want to have sex with them or not.

If a guy doesn't agree to a social first then I'm not interested.

That's just me but everyone is different, I don't judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love a social and have had a couple of great ones. Had a lovely one just this morning

It makes me feel safe to meet somewhere neutral first and decide if I want to have sex with them or not.

If a guy doesn't agree to a social first then I'm not interested.

That's just me but everyone is different, I don't judge. "
me to i insist on a social its the only way to tell if youre suited

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

Just social meets are great, you get to know someone a lot better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because they're looking for a bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are good, and if the person you've arranged to meet doesn't turn up then there's no hardship, plus it gives you an indication as to whether they'd have turned up for a sex meet.

Also socials are an excellent way for both parties to gauge whether or not there's chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say social and see. But it is the safety aspect for me as a single fem. Public place always and clearly set no expectations or guarantees. Of course I have had abuse in the past from someone for saying that. Said I was a slag and snagged half of Leeds. This made no sense cause I said social. But it did mean I dodged a bullet.

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

"I say social and see. But it is the safety aspect for me as a single fem. Public place always and clearly set no expectations or guarantees. Of course I have had abuse in the past from someone for saying that. Said I was a slag and snagged half of Leeds. This made no sense cause I said social. But it did mean I dodged a bullet. "

Agreed

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