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Social before meets yay or nay

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By *hrillseekers123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

northampton

So I’ll keep it brief..

kind of new to all this... been something wanted to do for a while kind... just never had confidence ... anyways I like to meet/social before hand. Yet some people wanna just do n go lol (I get that- after all it’s what this site is)

But would socials be such a bad thing .... is it a bad move to have convo beforehand ?

Please pros and cons everyone please..

Thanks for reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social always for me. No exceptions.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Most definitely.

You never know if the chemistry is really there until you meet.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

A social is a must.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

A social is paramount as it’s how one knows if there is a connection with each other/all.....

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham

Non negotiable! A social is a must - as stated on my epic profile

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

Yes x

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Social first.

There's only been one time there wasn't a social but we'd been talking for a while.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Have always done a Social first but have got down to it with one that I spoke to daily for months beforehand and still a regular friend a year on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Good way to see if you like the goods in person and chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find socials very awkward and difficult. But I never meet anyone unless we've spoken on the phone at length at least once.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Always always always.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social definitely.. sorts out the genuine from weird and strange fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social no chemistry no connection

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Much prefer a social first as im not great with the jumping straight to a play meet first (although it has been know! And it’s been fun)

Mrs J x

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I prefer socials but its not a set in stone rule for me.

Having said that, because I prefer semi-regular meets to one offs I tend to be more interested in local couples and single women who are open to the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first and non negotiable for safety reasons, also I need to fancy someone first!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Social to see if I really want to get in his pants

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

A social is a definite plus, usually my meets have a big social element anyway but always start with a coffee or drink.

Most meets ive had usually end with a few drinks at mine, music and more than likely me cooking while we chat and flirt etc. Makes for a much more human experience than cold fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always do a quick social,there needs to be a connection xx

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I always have a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have a social... It is a great way to gauge someone prior

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I've always had a social of sorts first; in a coffee shop or a hotel bar or a museum or a gig etc There's more often than not the potential for more if we want it on the day. I'm quite fond of those type of socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always had a social of sorts first; in a coffee shop or a hotel bar or a museum or a gig etc There's more often than not the potential for more if we want it on the day. I'm quite fond of those type of socials."

this.....

as a guy I totally agree, a social is essential to find if there is an initial click, but even more than a social, possibly after, I need a kiss, or lots of kissing

if the snogs dont work, the sex wont happen. not with me anyway.

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Social first with no expectations, for safety & so both of us can see if there's an attraction.

Looking for a fwb so the social side is important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not any more i dont want to be friends il just give the best fuck of there lives and never see them again now for a bit

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

I say always social ..

But I have had some amazing meets that started in hotel bars, room already booked, just a quick drink beforehand to get ten minutes chitchat/use my patented 'check not a serial killer' device on them.

So ... case by case basis? Mostly social first. Importantly - if you get any negative vibes on the social - don't ignore them. That's been my mistake - overlooking bad chemistry in a social. It didn't improve on the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always without exception a social first because on here chatting you can write any old bollocks so it’s not a real portray of who you are.

For example “IVE GOT A TEN INCH COCK AND ITS ROCK HARD” I haven’t its 2 inches and as floopy as fuck.

So social, click, hopefully more or if my wife is not happy not!!

Plus if I’m not happy with the social then not!!!

Good luck and enjoy.

T

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Always it's one on many rules we play by x

Ray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always good to have a social to see how everyone gets along in person.

Not to say things haven't gone further when everyone gets along very well

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border


"So I’ll keep it brief..

kind of new to all this... been something wanted to do for a while kind... just never had confidence ... anyways I like to meet/social before hand. Yet some people wanna just do n go lol (I get that- after all it’s what this site is)

But would socials be such a bad thing .... is it a bad move to have convo beforehand ?

Please pros and cons everyone please..

Thanks for reading "
. Ney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's whatever you want fab to be for you and what works best.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes usually unless she says ‘oh Steve you’ve made me wet by saying hello let’s shag’ and then the social is another ‘hello’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up to you, i prefer to have a fair few socials, get to know the person... connection = awesome sex

Ive tried the 'meet & fuck' it just disappoints and is unforfilling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer to have a social first but as someone above alluded too, it is dependent on the situation.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London


"Social always for me. No exceptions. "

Absolutely, same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make this site work for you the way YOU want it. You don't owe anyone anything and those that don't go along with your requirements are not the match for you.

When I was a single lady on here meeting I would always have at least one social, if not more. Beast had to sit through 2 socials with me then a third on the night we got down to it. I only fuck people I know, I couldn't feel comfortable spending the night with someone I didn't feel a connection with.

Also with a couple of socials you know they are really into you and not just carrying on because your there

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