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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry if thereis already a thread on this but this ia starting to get to me now as why is it when you looking there is always a no face pic no reply but when you do message and send a face pic you still dont get a reply

How does this site work if no one bothers to reply

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Sorry if thereis already a thread on this but this ia starting to get to me now as why is it when you looking there is always a no face pic no reply but when you do message and send a face pic you still dont get a reply

How does this site work if no one bothers to reply"

You're just not what they are looking for

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you message every profile you visit?

No? Presumably you only message the profiles that interest you?

Well people don’t reply every time they get a message, they reply to the profiles and messages that interest them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab should make this a sticky topic on people's profile page, every dating site is like this, always been, always will be, at least for the foreseeable future.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I would hazard a guess OP its because of your other photos and your married status and your profile wording

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replys

Is there anyone who can give me a few pointers on improve my profile and what photos to post

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

In my opinion your face photo has been taken too close and you haven’t considered lighting or clothes. Try taking a photo slightly from above and slightly to one side and don’t look directly at the lens. Make it look as though someone has casually caught you, not you posing glaring into the camera. Pale skin can look even paler with poor lighting so try natural daylight. Try wearing a suit, that will suit you better than casual I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't accommodate. Your married. So only a small fraction of the ladies on the site will still be interested in you. Then they have to find you attractive, if they don't then why would they reply?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok cool thanks for the pointers i make a few changes and what about the wording as im only being honest about it but dont wont to put people off

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ok cool thanks for the pointers i make a few changes and what about the wording as im only being honest about it but dont wont to put people off"

No, the wording is something you have to sort out yourself. The reason is it’s what you write with the emphasis on ‘you’ cos it’s your profile. If you get other people to suggest things then your profile will become a mishmash of other people’s and won’t reflect you.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Cuz there is to many fakes, TW’s and ego chasing cunts on here ... think the vast majority don’t actually want to meet, but just like writing shit in the forums.... rant over

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Cuz there is to many fakes, TW’s and ego chasing cunts on here ... think the vast majority don’t actually want to meet, but just like writing shit in the forums.... rant over "

The vast majority don’t use the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understood why people find it so hard it baffles me

Its stupidly easy i dont send face pics until i decide guys ffs take back the power but of humour bit of cheek bit of assertiveness and you will be surrounded by an army of minge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right got some changes to make but thank you all i do appreciate all your help im just so bad with this online stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok cool thanks for the pointers i make a few changes and what about the wording as im only being honest about it but dont wont to put people off"

You’re married and here behind your wife’s back, however you word it, some will be put off because of that.

You’re just going to have to expect that.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Right got some changes to make but thank you all i do appreciate all your help im just so bad with this online stuff"
in what way ‘bad’?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bad as in writing online profiles never seem to get it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you. "

This, you're likely just not what they're looking for, that's all.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Bad as in writing online profiles never seem to get it right "

What sort of person are you? What do you do for leisure? What are you good at? What makes you tick? What do you like in a woman? What can you bring to any potential meet? Read your profile and ask yourself ‘would you meet you?’ If not why not?

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By *apeyeMan
over a year ago

worcester


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you. "

Not replying just shows ignorance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

This, you're likely just not what they're looking for, that's all."

Also the fact that you're cheating on your wife would immediately put you on my list of people to avoid, and your status update made me cringe. Maybe consider changing that.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

Not replying just shows ignorance "
no, it doesn’t. The site guides lines day a no reply is a no thank you. What is ignorant is messaging random people and feeling entitled to a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understood why people find it so hard it baffles me

Its stupidly easy i dont send face pics until i decide guys ffs take back the power but of humour bit of cheek bit of assertiveness and you will be surrounded by an army of minge"

This . Too many desperate men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

This, you're likely just not what they're looking for, that's all.

Also the fact that you're cheating on your wife would immediately put you on my list of people to avoid, and your status update made me cringe. Maybe consider changing that."

Was a funny update though

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

This, you're likely just not what they're looking for, that's all.

Also the fact that you're cheating on your wife would immediately put you on my list of people to avoid, and your status update made me cringe. Maybe consider changing that.

Was a funny update though "

‘Busting nuts’ is apt for the time of year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

Not replying just shows ignorance "
no it doesn't it shows they have more shit to do than reply to people they dont wanna bang or that bore the life out of you if thats ignorance sign me up too why waste the time its not a book signing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you just dont appeal to them. We cant all like the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understood why people find it so hard it baffles me

Its stupidly easy i dont send face pics until i decide guys ffs take back the power but of humour bit of cheek bit of assertiveness and you will be surrounded by an army of minge

This . Too many desperate men."
agreed too many cock brains at least we get a good laugh tho

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Bad as in writing online profiles never seem to get it right

What sort of person are you? What do you do for leisure? What are you good at? What makes you tick? What do you like in a woman? What can you bring to any potential meet? Read your profile and ask yourself ‘would you meet you?’ If not why not?"

That is very important. You need to show a bit of personality. You have to sound interesting to spend time with. If somebody isn't interested in meeting you socially then they are very unlikely to get into bed with you. Some humour would really help. Making a reader smile will go a long way.

Your first couple of paragraphs about your marriage are a bit moany which will put off a lot of people. It needs to be much shorter and subtler and put it at the end. Give your reasons why somebody will want to meet you first not last.

Try to make everything positive, so leave out "fat".

Re photos, add a variety of fuller-length photos in different clothes - smart and casual. Women are often very interested in how a man dresses and presents himself. Get somebody to take the photos for you outside in good sunlight. That makes a big difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the replys i have to make a few updates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the replys i have to make a few updates"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's in the site FAQ's

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Single men here need to have thick skin, whilst they become established. I think only a minority can weather it here.

Site FAQ - no reply = no interest.

It's wasted time to focus on who you don't match with. Focus instead on those who you may.

Just as with job applications, you may match their basic minimum qualifications needs but don't get the job, an interview or a reply.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"People reply when they're interested. Delete without reply means no thank you.

Not replying just shows ignorance "

Actually no response is a response. Just not the one you want.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Some people only reply if they are interested.

Don't let things get to you on here. It's meant to be fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think quite a few men probably come on this site with unrealistic expectations...

Reality is there are very few women compared to men and if you are

Married

Can't accommodate

Older

Not bi or bi curious

Only looking single females

A bit tubby

Not packing length and/or girth

..... well you get the picture...

It could be a long wait to get your willy wet...

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