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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Today I was feeling very! Horny and I decided to try and strike up a sexy conversation on here.. But it seemed impossible to get a sexual conversation with the women on here.

Even the women who are in my friends who I've had random chats with, didn't want to talk about sex.

Seriously I'd have more joy on Facebook. How come women here, don't want to talk about sex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everytime I asked a sexual question they avoided the question

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I do sometimes, but usually only with people i've met or am going to meet.

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

Maybe try contacting Colour me Bad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everytime I asked a sexual question they avoided the question "

at least you had conversation, thats half way there

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Most of us prefer to be having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need the permanently horny ladies sexual sexy hotline not fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

This!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Unless I know someone, it's boring and often creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because you were feeling horny, doesn’t mean they were.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... Even when I do know someone, I don't always feel it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the secrets out!

Fabs a mirage, its actually fabcelibacy.com

But ssshhhhhhh come over to the dark side of bacon, monster munch and turkey dinosaurs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I talk to women here about yoghurt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no fun in it for me. Talking about sex so some guy can jerk off... it's boring and a waste of my time. What am I getting out of it - nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time have a conversation with your right hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because Thursday night is darning night

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By *uscularLoveMan
over a year ago

london

Yeah bro rookie mistake.

You can't seem desperate or that's the only thing you want from them that's a major turn off.

Unless its your FWB.

I think you shouldn't see these ladies as sex objects they are human beings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

I was already hard. The hard work was done lol.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird "

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I talk to women here about yoghurt "

You know what gets us going

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

Shudders

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it.

I was already hard. The hard work was done lol. "

... Not understanding the female perspective. A prime example.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

That's why it says "Actions speak louder than words" at the end of my profile

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

Exactly x

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"I talk to women here about yoghurt

You know what gets us going "

Totally

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think you can "force" sexy chat - if you do it just feels awkward and stilted - it's when it happens naturally and just flows that it really works and that's not something you can make happen *just because* you're feeling horny.

It's two minds meeting and being on the same wavelength that makes it happen not just one of you.

Just because it's a "sex site" doesn't mean everyone is gagging for it at any given moment, in fact my "moments" are few and far between.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Maybe its your approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style? "

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm rarely horny when I'm on here. I strategise, protect myself, and think with my big brain not the little one between my legs.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

"

Because they don't want to talk about sex with you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Did you try the ol’ gizzashagyabitch?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy. "

Sooo what are you into?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Today I was feeling very! Horny and I decided to try and strike up a sexy conversation on here.. But it seemed impossible to get a sexual conversation with the women on here.

Even the women who are in my friends who I've had random chats with, didn't want to talk about sex.

Seriously I'd have more joy on Facebook. How come women here, don't want to talk about sex? "

They want to do it, not talk about it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

"

What was the question ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? "
and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!”

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? "

My cock is so hard. I bet you want it baby. You want it so much. Oh baby oh baby.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I'd rather talk about cake. Sexy chat gives me the ick and makes me go off guys reeeeaaally quickly.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

"

I'll answer sex questions when asked by someone I have plans to have sex with.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

"

Define a "simple question about sex" though? That could cover anything from "do you prefer it with the lights out?" to "if I were to tie you up, spank you and pound you to within an inch of your life how would it make you feel?" and a whole lot in between.

Sometimes it's not what you ask, but how you ask it, or indeed who is asking.

Perhaps the ladies concerned are happy chatting at one level but not taking it to another.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!” "

Oh yea that is so hot, I'm wanking over your pics right now

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I just don't get it OP. I'm like you, when I have a wide on none of my male friends want to talk to me about fucking and going down on me. It's like they aren't putting my needs first or something.

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By *uscularLoveMan
over a year ago

london

I think you should always avoid sexual conversations online.

It ruins the mystery which is apart of the excitement.

If a girl wants to tell you what she likes let her and ask more questions, but personally I keep my cards close to my chest and they always seem to be hungry to figure me out.

Looking for a quick nut online will almost always ruin the genuine relationship your building with any female.

Stay clear bro, yourll be more lucky putting on a nice shirt and hitting a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only on the odd occasion do my conversations with women move onto sex these days. Maybe just a humorous bawdy interlude in a normal conversation or a flirtatious analogy that takes off and amuses both. On the odd occasion it might be a bit of appreciation of more revealing or explicit pictures. But generally sex chat is not what the women I talk to want. Men are much more likely to be explicit in their conversations, but even then I rarely have them . I’m not a big sex chatter. I’m better at writing about sex in poetry or prosaic terms than in a conversation. If it does happen it tends to be quite natural and has just built on flirty cues.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

What was the question ?"

I asked quite a few different question and all I got back were taking the mick answers.

Basically avoiding the questions each time. They would make good politicians.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!”

Oh yea that is so hot, I'm wanking over your pics right now"

Christ, it’s even turning me off

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I just don't get it OP. I'm like you, when I have a wide on none of my male friends want to talk to me about fucking and going down on me. It's like they aren't putting my needs first or something. "

Selfish pricks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't get it OP. I'm like you, when I have a wide on none of my male friends want to talk to me about fucking and going down on me. It's like they aren't putting my needs first or something. "

You're asking the wrong people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it totally puts me off unless I’m meeting them regularly of course, then it’s totally different. I can be having a really nice conversation with someone and really like them then they’ll say one sentence and I’m like nah. It really annoys me

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

What was the question ?

I asked quite a few different question and all I got back were taking the mick answers.

Basically avoiding the questions each time. They would make good politicians. "

That's a polite way of saying that they don't want to discuss it.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!”

Oh yea that is so hot, I'm wanking over your pics right now

Christ, it’s even turning me off "

Frigid bitch

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!”

Oh yea that is so hot, I'm wanking over your pics right now

Christ, it’s even turning me off

Frigid bitch"

Don't stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no fun in it for me. Talking about sex so some guy can jerk off... it's boring and a waste of my time. What am I getting out of it - nothing!"

This

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!”

Oh yea that is so hot, I'm wanking over your pics right now

Christ, it’s even turning me off

Frigid bitch"

I'm still hard even though I hate you. Oh baby oh baby.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Today I was feeling very! Horny and I decided to try and strike up a sexy conversation on here.. But it seemed impossible to get a sexual conversation with the women on here.

Even the women who are in my friends who I've had random chats with, didn't want to talk about sex.

Seriously I'd have more joy on Facebook. How come women here, don't want to talk about sex? "

They don’t want to provide the material for your wank bank and why should they? As other ladies have said if you’ve not actually met for sex before then it’s a bit pointless because there are no sexual moments to recreate in your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any chocolate based dessert usually does it

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London


"

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

What was the question ?

I asked quite a few different question and all I got back were taking the mick answers.

Basically avoiding the questions each time. They would make good politicians. "

There's a certain irony in your response to 'what was the question?'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

Define a "simple question about sex" though? That could cover anything from "do you prefer it with the lights out?" to "if I were to tie you up, spank you and pound you to within an inch of your life how would it make you feel?" and a whole lot in between.

Sometimes it's not what you ask, but how you ask it, or indeed who is asking.

Perhaps the ladies concerned are happy chatting at one level but not taking it to another."

You know questions about sex.. Like what is your favourite position? How many guys were in the gangbang? etc..

I told one that I thought her verification was very hot and she's since deleted it

I don't mean this in a bad way, but I will never understand women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half on here aren't looking for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex "

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just don't get it OP. I'm like you, when I have a wide on none of my male friends want to talk to me about fucking and going down on me. It's like they aren't putting my needs first or something.

Selfish pricks."

Talk to me next time then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves. "

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting"

Maybe coz they’ve already met someone and they don’t meet multiple people. That’s my reason for not meeting. Doesn’t mean I was never looking. People don’t always leave once they’ve found someone.

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By *uscularLoveMan
over a year ago

london


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

Define a "simple question about sex" though? That could cover anything from "do you prefer it with the lights out?" to "if I were to tie you up, spank you and pound you to within an inch of your life how would it make you feel?" and a whole lot in between.

Sometimes it's not what you ask, but how you ask it, or indeed who is asking.

Perhaps the ladies concerned are happy chatting at one level but not taking it to another.

You know questions about sex.. Like what is your favourite position? How many guys were in the gangbang? etc..

I told one that I thought her verification was very hot and she's since deleted it

I don't mean this in a bad way, but I will never understand women. "

Loooool she deleted it OMG.

She must of thought it was a creep magnet and decided to get rid of it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Let's hear the questions ....

One at a time ... thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting"

'Cos they have already found all the people they want to have sex with. Doesnt mean we cant be here still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting

Maybe coz they’ve already met someone and they don’t meet multiple people. That’s my reason for not meeting. Doesn’t mean I was never looking. People don’t always leave once they’ve found someone. "

Yeah but they still ain't meeting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting

'Cos they have already found all the people they want to have sex with. Doesnt mean we cant be here still "

I didn't say any different congrats to them

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

But they maybe do want to talk about it in pm's, just not right now, or not with you.

If it's not usually your style, why is it surprising that it might not be their style?

I don't know, I just thought that sex wouldn't be a subject which women would avoid on a site like this.

I mean if they're happy to chat with me about other stuff then why avoid a simple question about sex.

Define a "simple question about sex" though? That could cover anything from "do you prefer it with the lights out?" to "if I were to tie you up, spank you and pound you to within an inch of your life how would it make you feel?" and a whole lot in between.

Sometimes it's not what you ask, but how you ask it, or indeed who is asking.

Perhaps the ladies concerned are happy chatting at one level but not taking it to another.

You know questions about sex.. Like what is your favourite position? How many guys were in the gangbang? etc..

I told one that I thought her verification was very hot and she's since deleted it

I don't mean this in a bad way, but I will never understand women. "

All questions I *might* ask someone I knew well enough or was intimate with...

....a random friend who I'd not had similar conversations with, or signs that they would welcome it? Wouldn't dream of it.

It's not about "understanding women" but about having some decorum, self-awareness and self-control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of us prefer to be having sex."

what this lady said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

quite

seeing

oi love you wanna fuck me good and hard hardly turns me on unless it was someone I really fancied and was chasing the pants off!

some random stranger sending me a message saying oi love my cock wants to drip in your pants hardly a turn on now is it?

Sex is not the only subject you can talk to someone about, its about the humour the banter and the wanting desire to meet again or first time chasing but even then having sex on a plate is not going to make me want anyone

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The questions you're suggesting are creepy.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I dont engage in sexual chat unless i have met you face to face. Too many fake profiles on here these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets repetitive and boring!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting"

I think they say that they're not meeting not to get hassled.

Until they make up their mind about who they want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everytime I asked a sexual question they avoided the question "

it is like going to another place and seeing that someone wants to have sex with me without even knowing me is going to earn no brownie points and end up on the trash!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The questions you're suggesting are creepy. "

Really?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The questions you're suggesting are creepy.

Really? "

Yes. Really creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird "

like minded people? like who?

swingers site not sex site

and remember women have more control as such when it comes to who they chat with and what they want to chat about not some horny stranger in my pants who wants to get his rocks off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't get it OP. I'm like you, when I have a wide on none of my male friends want to talk to me about fucking and going down on me. It's like they aren't putting my needs first or something.

Selfish pricks.

Talk to me next time then "

You get that they're being sarcastic, right?

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By *uscularLoveMan
over a year ago

london


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting

I think they say that they're not meeting not to get hassled.

Until they make up their mind about who they want to meet. "

Well done sherlock.

It's to aviod creeps asking them dodgey questions like how many guys was in your gangbang LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness to the op. I got into a conversation with a woman that I thought was going well. I was being polite and respectful and getting to know about her.

She then sent a message saying she only wants to fuck and isn't here for small talk then blocked me.

I had an escape really but it can be difficult knowing what to say to who, but I will always remain respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because Thursday night is darning night"

it is knitting for me those willy warmers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The questions you're suggesting are creepy.

Really?

Yes. Really creepy. "

I have to disagree. I've seen lots of forums asking about favourite positions and many of the regular forum user comenting in the thread.. So why would it be creepy in pm with someone who I have chatted with many times before?

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"There's no fun in it for me. Talking about sex so some guy can jerk off... it's boring and a waste of my time. What am I getting out of it - nothing!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because talking about it is boring. Unless you have met someone and know how to toy with them to get them hard, there’s no fun in it."

100% this, I’m so bored of answering the same questions! I like to get to know more about the person then move on to other stuff, talking about it too much is a complete turn off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In fairness to the op. I got into a conversation with a woman that I thought was going well. I was being polite and respectful and getting to know about her.

She then sent a message saying she only wants to fuck and isn't here for small talk then blocked me.

I had an escape really but it can be difficult knowing what to say to who, but I will always remain respectful."

It is difficult knowing what say to who

I thought of was doing no good on here because I hardly mention sex in pms, but today I did and still not good.

But atleast I had a few messages today, so it wasn't all bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting

I think they say that they're not meeting not to get hassled.

Until they make up their mind about who they want to meet.

Well done sherlock.

It's to aviod creeps asking them dodgey questions like how many guys was in your gangbang LOL "

Okay white Knight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because 1: we ain't like a free sexy Chatline, babestation or whatever, there for guys to call on whenever they feel horny and want us to get their rocks off for them. We know when you are really interested in conversing with us, or if you just have a hard-on and want a cheap thrill. We can tell

And 2: experience tells us the guys that want sex chat are just having a wank and good with that. In actual fact, it's they who are the ones unlikely to actual meet

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? "

The Fabs question that's almost as stupid as "hows you?"

We've just had "are you having a good evening?" (answer: had better, thanks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but do not give up

you will find someone

be patient

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"The questions you're suggesting are creepy.

Really?

Yes. Really creepy.

I have to disagree. I've seen lots of forums asking about favourite positions and many of the regular forum user comenting in the thread.. So why would it be creepy in pm with someone who I have chatted with many times before? "

There's a world of difference between replying to a forum thread publically asking the question to no-one in particular, and asking it out of the blue and privately one to one with someone who you've never had a "sexual" conversation with previously

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The questions you're suggesting are creepy.

Really?

Yes. Really creepy.

I have to disagree. I've seen lots of forums asking about favourite positions and many of the regular forum user comenting in the thread.. So why would it be creepy in pm with someone who I have chatted with many times before? "

She just wasn't feeling it I guess...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

like minded people? like who?

swingers site not sex site

and remember women have more control as such when it comes to who they chat with and what they want to chat about not some horny stranger in my pants who wants to get his rocks off! "

Like people who want no strings fun. I thought it wouldn't be much of a problem to talk about sex with someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just don't get it OP. I'm like you, when I have a wide on none of my male friends want to talk to me about fucking and going down on me. It's like they aren't putting my needs first or something.

Selfish pricks.

Talk to me next time then

You get that they're being sarcastic, right? "

Right I know it wouldnt be a problem

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird

like minded people? like who?

swingers site not sex site

and remember women have more control as such when it comes to who they chat with and what they want to chat about not some horny stranger in my pants who wants to get his rocks off!

Like people who want no strings fun. I thought it wouldn't be much of a problem to talk about sex with someone. "

Just because someone is looking for "no strings fun" though doesn't mean they are looking for it (even in discussion) with you though

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"So often the sex questions are boring, repetitive, and creepy.

Sooo what are you into? and then, whatever answer is given “oh, me too!” "
Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because 1: we ain't like a free sexy Chatline, babestation or whatever, there for guys to call on whenever they feel horny and want us to get their rocks off for them. We know when you are really interested in conversing with us, or if you just have a hard-on and want a cheap thrill. We can tell

And 2: experience tells us the guys that want sex chat are just having a wank and good with that. In actual fact, it's they who are the ones unlikely to actual meet "

I think your right there. Some just want to get off online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so there women who want to just fuck, and women who need a connection first, neither of these require sexting.

Unless you are an author of erotic novels chances are you are going to turn a woman off by coming across as wanting something for the wank bank rather than wanting to please her.

So many men like to try tell me what they are going to do to me and im thinking...no, you are not. Most of the answers to any questions will always be "depends on the person and situation".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy just today after I said sexting does nothing for me, then ask where I like a man to cum??

In your condom is not a sexy response so what is the point.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London


"Today I was feeling very! Horny and I decided to try and strike up a sexy conversation on here.. But it seemed impossible to get a sexual conversation with the women on here.

Even the women who are in my friends who I've had random chats with, didn't want to talk about sex.

Seriously I'd have more joy on Facebook. How come women here, don't want to talk about sex? "

First week or two of January, no one can be bothered for anything. It's the most depressing time of the year.

Give it 2 weeks you'll be fighting off all the pussy afain

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

A pretty important fact about women and how they conduct themselves with men at times is being missed.

Women know full well that if they are being asked sexual questions in private that they are being groomed or simply used as wank fodder.

They know the bloke isn't trying for a discussion on sex and sexuality at all. They know that the bloke is just feeling horny and they just happen to be the nearest breathing object and he just wants release.

What is very funny is that because the men are horny they assume women to be in the same frame of mind and physical condition and to be oh so DYING for a slice of what they've got.

Women do discuss sex in every way shape or form. Some are downright vulgar and take the lead in starting conversations but the minute they realise they are being hit on they clam up.

It's called NOT leading someone on. It's called NOT simply being the object of anyone who wants sex on demand.

It's also called keeping herself safe from a situation she doesn't want.

Best not to make the assumption that because a woman didn't want a sexual discussion with you that she wouldn't want the same convo with someone else.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"A pretty important fact about women and how they conduct themselves with men at times is being missed.

Women know full well that if they are being asked sexual questions in private that they are being groomed or simply used as wank fodder.

They know the bloke isn't trying for a discussion on sex and sexuality at all. They know that the bloke is just feeling horny and they just happen to be the nearest breathing object and he just wants release.

What is very funny is that because the men are horny they assume women to be in the same frame of mind and physical condition and to be oh so DYING for a slice of what they've got.

Women do discuss sex in every way shape or form. Some are downright vulgar and take the lead in starting conversations but the minute they realise they are being hit on they clam up.

It's called NOT leading someone on. It's called NOT simply being the object of anyone who wants sex on demand.

It's also called keeping herself safe from a situation she doesn't want.

Best not to make the assumption that because a woman didn't want a sexual discussion with you that she wouldn't want the same convo with someone else. "

Amen

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"Half on here aren't looking for sex

No. Half on here aren’t looking for sex with anyone that moves.

Wrong half the woman I look at specifically say not meeting

Maybe coz they’ve already met someone and they don’t meet multiple people. That’s my reason for not meeting. Doesn’t mean I was never looking. People don’t always leave once they’ve found someone. "

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"At the end of the day this is a site for like minded people who are seeking sex. But don't want to talk about it in pms!

Its not usually my style, but I tried it today and it was just weird "

Yeah you said it there "seeking" not talking,theres chatlines for that.. lol..

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"A pretty important fact about women and how they conduct themselves with men at times is being missed.

Women know full well that if they are being asked sexual questions in private that they are being groomed or simply used as wank fodder.

They know the bloke isn't trying for a discussion on sex and sexuality at all. They know that the bloke is just feeling horny and they just happen to be the nearest breathing object and he just wants release.

What is very funny is that because the men are horny they assume women to be in the same frame of mind and physical condition and to be oh so DYING for a slice of what they've got.

Women do discuss sex in every way shape or form. Some are downright vulgar and take the lead in starting conversations but the minute they realise they are being hit on they clam up.

It's called NOT leading someone on. It's called NOT simply being the object of anyone who wants sex on demand.

It's also called keeping herself safe from a situation she doesn't want.

Best not to make the assumption that because a woman didn't want a sexual discussion with you that she wouldn't want the same convo with someone else. "

The voice of reason!

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"There's no fun in it for me. Talking about sex so some guy can jerk off... it's boring and a waste of my time. What am I getting out of it - nothing!"

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I don't think you can "force" sexy chat - if you do it just feels awkward and stilted - it's when it happens naturally and just flows that it really works and that's not something you can make happen *just because* you're feeling horny.

It's two minds meeting and being on the same wavelength that makes it happen not just one of you.

Just because it's a "sex site" doesn't mean everyone is gagging for it at any given moment, in fact my "moments" are few and far between."

This

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I'm rarely horny when I'm on here. I strategise, protect myself, and think with my big brain not the little one between my legs. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good points people.

I love the phrase "wank fodder"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Give me your wanker fodder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think you can "force" sexy chat - if you do it just feels awkward and stilted - it's when it happens naturally and just flows that it really works and that's not something you can make happen *just because* you're feeling horny.

It's two minds meeting and being on the same wavelength that makes it happen not just one of you.

Just because it's a "sex site" doesn't mean everyone is gagging for it at any given moment, in fact my "moments" are few and far between.

This "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A pretty important fact about women and how they conduct themselves with men at times is being missed.

Women know full well that if they are being asked sexual questions in private that they are being groomed or simply used as wank fodder.

They know the bloke isn't trying for a discussion on sex and sexuality at all. They know that the bloke is just feeling horny and they just happen to be the nearest breathing object and he just wants release.

What is very funny is that because the men are horny they assume women to be in the same frame of mind and physical condition and to be oh so DYING for a slice of what they've got.

Women do discuss sex in every way shape or form. Some are downright vulgar and take the lead in starting conversations but the minute they realise they are being hit on they clam up.

It's called NOT leading someone on. It's called NOT simply being the object of anyone who wants sex on demand.

It's also called keeping herself safe from a situation she doesn't want.

Best not to make the assumption that because a woman didn't want a sexual discussion with you that she wouldn't want the same convo with someone else. "

Hallejah right on the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I was feeling very! Horny and I decided to try and strike up a sexy conversation on here.. But it seemed impossible to get a sexual conversation with the women on here.

Even the women who are in my friends who I've had random chats with, didn't want to talk about sex.

Seriously I'd have more joy on Facebook. How come women here, don't want to talk about sex?

First week or two of January, no one can be bothered for anything. It's the most depressing time of the year.

Give it 2 weeks you'll be fighting off all the pussy afain "

Yes, that headache you gave me just now.. Depressing?

Noo I love January I do. Fresh start new chapters of life new meets

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"A pretty important fact about women and how they conduct themselves with men at times is being missed.

Women know full well that if they are being asked sexual questions in private that they are being groomed or simply used as wank fodder.

They know the bloke isn't trying for a discussion on sex and sexuality at all. They know that the bloke is just feeling horny and they just happen to be the nearest breathing object and he just wants release.

What is very funny is that because the men are horny they assume women to be in the same frame of mind and physical condition and to be oh so DYING for a slice of what they've got.

Women do discuss sex in every way shape or form. Some are downright vulgar and take the lead in starting conversations but the minute they realise they are being hit on they clam up.

It's called NOT leading someone on. It's called NOT simply being the object of anyone who wants sex on demand.

It's also called keeping herself safe from a situation she doesn't want.

Best not to make the assumption that because a woman didn't want a sexual discussion with you that she wouldn't want the same convo with someone else. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do sometimes, but usually only with people i've met or am going to meet. "

Well, can you do a lecture for all us lads who want to meet you then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't talk about sex. I do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A pretty important fact about women and how they conduct themselves with men at times is being missed.

Women know full well that if they are being asked sexual questions in private that they are being groomed or simply used as wank fodder.

They know the bloke isn't trying for a discussion on sex and sexuality at all. They know that the bloke is just feeling horny and they just happen to be the nearest breathing object and he just wants release.

What is very funny is that because the men are horny they assume women to be in the same frame of mind and physical condition and to be oh so DYING for a slice of what they've got.

Women do discuss sex in every way shape or form. Some are downright vulgar and take the lead in starting conversations but the minute they realise they are being hit on they clam up.

It's called NOT leading someone on. It's called NOT simply being the object of anyone who wants sex on demand.

It's also called keeping herself safe from a situation she doesn't want.

Best not to make the assumption that because a woman didn't want a sexual discussion with you that she wouldn't want the same convo with someone else. "

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