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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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Yes, men do it too, surprisingly often.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What does mutton dressed as lamb actually mean in relation to your post op?

Some of the people we've met haven't been how their profile represents them but the vast !majority have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me. I arranged a social and walked in. I didn't recognise her but as I was walking out (thinking I'd been jibbed off) she called my name. Got the shock of my life.

Ever the gent I stayed for the social and we both went our separate ways.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I have bn told i look better in the flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutton -nice one in a curry !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have bn told i look better in the flesh."

Me too

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If I've got to the stage of meeting her then I like her for who she is - so I don't think I'd care.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's never happened to me before, I tend to pay attention to how old people's pictures are, how many they have, angles etc, and I wouldn't go through with meeting someone unless I was very confident they were who they portrayed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your eat anything chunky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have bn told i look better in the flesh."

Me too,however that could just mean that my photos are terrible...

They thought they were meeting Quasimodo,but instead his slightly less ugly brother...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Most of the complaints I read about are of people who don't show up at all, so that wouldn't have anything to do with photos being recent or not.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"If I've got to the stage of meeting her then I like her for who she is - so I don't think I'd care. "

There is that too, if someone was a wee bit shorter, thinner, fatter, older... by that point I wouldn't really mind, unless there was a drastic misrepresentation.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have a mixture of photos on profile so hopefully i don’t dissapoint. I get repeat meets so i can’t be that bad.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"If I've got to the stage of meeting her then I like her for who she is - so I don't think I'd care.

There is that too, if someone was a wee bit shorter, thinner, fatter, older... by that point I wouldn't really mind, unless there was a drastic misrepresentation. "

It doesn't help that I'm not very photogenic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have bn told i look better in the flesh."

That must be quite something then

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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I think it's natural to want to project the best image of yourself on here, and flattering angles and lighting in photos are all part of that. If someone has photoshopped ten years or ten stone from themselves, though, I'd agree that's taking it too far! I think both sexes can be guilty of it.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most of the complaints I read about are of people who don't show up at all, so that wouldn't have anything to do with photos being recent or not. "

Maybe they’re there. They just do a runner.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Apparently I look better in person. My edits are crop, colour effect, and suck stomach in.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I have bn told i look better in the flesh.

Me too,however that could just mean that my photos are terrible...

They thought they were meeting Quasimodo,but instead his slightly less ugly brother...

I just think they say it to get inside my knickers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What does mutton dressed as lamb actually mean in relation to your post op?

Some of the people we've met haven't been how their profile represents them but the vast !majority have.

Well someone pretending to be something they’re not.. if your curvy, taking phones from above as you gaze at the stars may hide it.. but meeting someone in a bar won’t. (Not that I have a problem with curves, it’s an example).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

God and don’t even get me started on snapchat filters..

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It happens to both sexes that people misrepresent themselves. I've met guys who were at least 10 or 15 years older than they claimed to be and a guy who was a lot heavier than his pics were. I wouldn't have minded had they been truthful but they lied to get a meet so it stayed as just coffee.i use colour filters on my pics sometimes but apart from that my pics represent me. Yes they are taken at the best angles but I always tell anyone I'm chatting to that I am a size 16 and have wobbly bits. There is no point in lying because the minute you meet they will know anyhow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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Mrs TMN x"

Guilty!

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By *BWBI2019Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

To be honest, everyone is going to take photos at their best angles. Surely we all know this by now? Whether you are a man or a woman or anything in between. But yeah, I don't have time for filters or snapchat dog faces and the like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have bn told i look better in the flesh.

Me too,however that could just mean that my photos are terrible...

They thought they were meeting Quasimodo,but instead his slightly less ugly brother...

I just think they say it to get inside my knickers

As if men would do that!

I never would...

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

The best angle for a pic of me is 179 degrees, but that's just me being obtuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think beast looks better in the flesh and I look better in pics.

My pics are well angled and I am wearing corsets under a lot of the dresses as well as a hand on my waist to emphasize me curves. In real life I'm more dumpy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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Shit sherlock you saying we all look 10 years older.

My first ever fab meet, picture of male great looking fancied him met him disappointed very much. Had no hair and was so painfully thin.

Photo was him with hair and just right frame. Is that what you saying OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my pictures are me why change them

or maybe that's why i don't get meets on this site loo

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

For every picture I have I probably took 10 to get the best one, no one is going to put up a picture they don’t like, guilty of using a colour enhancer to hide blemishes though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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Shit sherlock you saying we all look 10 years older.

My first ever fab meet, picture of male great looking fancied him met him disappointed very much. Had no hair and was so painfully thin.

Photo was him with hair and just right frame. Is that what you saying OP"

Yes. Why put both people through the upset.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The best angle for a pic of me is 179 degrees, but that's just me being obtuse!"

Tumble?!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I don’t lie ... age is on the profile and pics are 90% this year

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

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Then why not ask for an updated photo via the inbox.. isn't that what it's there for. Why not ask them to hold a piece of paper up to with date and time

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By *asmine73Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane

"I have bn told i look better in the flesh."

I get told this too but I take it with a pinch of salt! Just want to get laid lol

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I take notice of how old the pictures are of someone I’m meeting, but most I’ve meet are like their pictures or better.

My pictures are me and in friends and wrinkles on show. No point hiding who you are, it’s just nonsense. The only comment I ever seem to get is about my height

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

Think most people you've never met look different in real life to their photos as still images leave alot to the imagination. People's mannerisms etc can effect how they are appear. I hate all pictures of myself, but they are there, with my username, to give an as accurate as possible portrayal of who I am. Appearance isn't everything though and have been told by quite a few people that I'm better than I appear in my profile. Attended a group social evening a little over a year ago where the host left me a lovely veri saying pretty much that. Unfortunately she had a break from fab and profile (and therefore veri) for scrubbed. Still shows in summary but the wording hads gone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How many guys get annoyed when they finally meet a woman who’s 10 years older than her fab photos or looks nothing like in the flesh, are us guys guilty of that also?

The number of women who complain about getting messed around on here / played - while they are the furthest from the image they project of themselves.. is there a link?

I for one prefer more natural photos.. what you see is what you get. Nobody wants mutton dressed as lamb.

Agree?

Then why not ask for an updated photo via the inbox.. isn't that what it's there for. Why not ask them to hold a piece of paper up to with date and time

Proof of life

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I prefer to meet people at group socials and let them make their own mind up. My profile is honest and current. If I’m meeting one on one I’ll generally show multiple live pics to show me in a more natural light. I’d rather put someone off that pretend I’m something I’m not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are all fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why the mental connection is far more important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We once met a guy after looking at h8s pics as he looked great..

On meeting him he was at least 15 years older with awful teeth he looked shocking.. Hubby was very polite and had a drink with him but it went no further.

We have pics on our profile that accurately represent how we look now...we wouldn't want to mislead anyone..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We once met a guy after looking at h8s pics as he looked great..

On meeting him he was at least 15 years older with awful teeth he looked shocking.. Hubby was very polite and had a drink with him but it went no further.

We have pics on our profile that accurately represent how we look now...we wouldn't want to mislead anyone.."

God don’t get me started on teeth!! I’ve a line in my profile that says “doesn’t look like an extra from eastenders” lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both men and women are guilty of this.

Both men and women on this site quite often lie about their age also.

I don’t see the point as when you meet it’s gonna be obvious!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chap I met was 8 stone heavier than his photo.. N a fair few yrs out.. Even though photo he dated was current.

Can hide a few yrs but not 8st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We once met a guy after looking at h8s pics as he looked great..

On meeting him he was at least 15 years older with awful teeth he looked shocking.. Hubby was very polite and had a drink with him but it went no further.

We have pics on our profile that accurately represent how we look now...we wouldn't want to mislead anyone..

God don’t get me started on teeth!! I’ve a line in my profile that says “doesn’t look like an extra from eastenders” lol"

One thing I can’t deal with is bad teeth. You could be the most beautiful man. If you smile and have whack teeth. Nope!

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Suck tummy in, lean back a bit, stretch up, photo from above or below to get the most flattering angle, we are all guilty of it to some extent, myself included, but my pictures are a pretty good representation of the real me.

Though have been told the reality is better than the pictures I still don't believe it.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

"I think both men and women are guilty of this.

Both men and women on this site quite often lie about their age also.

I don’t see the point as when you meet it’s gonna be obvious!! "

Always been my way of thinking. Will be plenty in my profile to put people off but it's all there so people can see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worry about this the other way round though. I'm 41 but look much younger.

I'm worried I'll not look my age.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

This is another reason we don't meet people on here much prefer to randomly bump into people at a club. Then you know exactly what you are getting.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I worry about this the other way round though. I'm 41 but look much younger.

I'm worried I'll not look my age. "

Never worry about looking younger than you are

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Sometimes it isn’t the photos at fault but the persons perception and imagination that’s the problem. You could meet people that think you are just like your photos and others that think you’re not. Be realistic in your expectations and don’t just see what you want to see. That’s how I look at it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Think there are males,couples and females who try this.

I had a social meet,many years ago

He claimed to be 37 then,but was actually closer to 50 and it showed.

It didn't go further as I don't like lies in any form,his pics were obviously years out of date,but he had uploaded them not long before our meet.

Sadly people will try and make themselves look better/younger to get a meet .I don"t know how they think they will carry it off when they meet .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I usually use photos that are mediocre, so there's just pleasure when meeting. I think most people ive met have looked much better in the flesh.

Guys sometimes take pics of their cocks at certain angles that suggest exaggerated length and dimensions. If we're sensible, we can exchange pertinent information before deciding who to meet with.

As many use photoshop or equivalents now, I often assume that many of the more professional looking pics have been adjusted with such tools.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Sometimes it isn’t the photos at fault but the persons perception and imagination that’s the problem. You could meet people that think you are just like your photos and others that think you’re not. Be realistic in your expectations and don’t just see what you want to see. That’s how I look at it. "

Yes, this is very true. In all my years on here, I've only met two people who have looked as I imagined, that's not to say people have looked better or worse, just different. Photoshopping yourself to a size 12 when you're a 26 is ridiculous obviously but I get flattering angles.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Think there are males,couples and females who try this.

I had a social meet,many years ago

He claimed to be 37 then,but was actually closer to 50 and it showed.

It didn't go further as I don't like lies in any form,his pics were obviously years out of date,but he had uploaded them not long before our meet.

Sadly people will try and make themselves look better/younger to get a meet .I don"t know how they think they will carry it off when they meet ."

Yeah, I met a guy once, he claimed to be early 40s, and I liked the look of him but he told me on the social that his age was 15 years out.

If he'd been honest (or it'd been maybe up to five years out) it might have gone further...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Think there are males,couples and females who try this.

I had a social meet,many years ago

He claimed to be 37 then,but was actually closer to 50 and it showed.

It didn't go further as I don't like lies in any form,his pics were obviously years out of date,but he had uploaded them not long before our meet.

Sadly people will try and make themselves look better/younger to get a meet .I don"t know how they think they will carry it off when they meet .

Yeah, I met a guy once, he claimed to be early 40s, and I liked the look of him but he told me on the social that his age was 15 years out.

If he'd been honest (or it'd been maybe up to five years out) it might have gone further... "

Yeah don't get why they do it

They end up losing out

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