FabSwingers.com forum: Having a wobble

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Picture the scene...

Multiple bodies all sexed up and revving, a plethora of people and organs to indulge in and pleasure.

Just one "problem"

They also want to pleasure you.

How is that a problem? I hear you cry... well, I can't multitask at the sex stuff. In fact the moment someone touches me when I'm giving oral I turn into your average oral giver, or even worse......crap and lacking timing and gusto. My mind has now wandered and instead of concentrating on the pleasure I'm giving it's fixed on the pleasure I'm receiving and the fact my once outrageously awesome oral is dire at best.

This bothers me and now I'm confuddled. I don't wanna be one step up from fucking a slice of ham or getting a blow job off a hog roast. That's not fair on them surely?

Anyone else suffer with this?

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

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Yep, I fucking hate 69s.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I get distracted as well so I totally agree. Giving and receiving at the same time is getting more difficult. As you say keeping the rhythm going and technique is difficult when you’re being pleasured at the same time.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Yes one of the only times I’m not good at multitasking

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Yep, I fucking hate 69s. "

Do you mind? I was coming in with this one......

I like to focus on either giving it well or taking it divinely .....

Those that can do both must really be doing a half hearted job .....

It's all in the head. Which is where I am what ever the act. Pure concentration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t have a clue. Never been in the situation. Even in an orgy only had one person at a time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't wanna be crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too long didn't read.

Shorten it for me please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a debate myself and P are having.

To put it bluntly, I argue that her oral upon me is still bloody marvellous whilst she is being pleasured, she argues that it's shit. However as I am the one receiving I am I believe in the best position to judge?

So I win! (In more ways than one..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Yep, I fucking hate 69s.

Do you mind? I was coming in with this one......

I like to focus on either giving it well or taking it divinely .....

Those that can do both must really be doing a half hearted job .....

It's all in the head. Which is where I am what ever the act. Pure concentration."

That’s an excellent reason for ditching the 69!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Picture the scene...

Multiple bodies all sexed up and revving, a plethora of people and organs to indulge in and pleasure.

Just one "problem"

They also want to pleasure you.

This bothers me and now I'm confuddled. I don't wanna be one step up from fucking a slice of ham or getting a blow job off a hog roast. That's not fair on them surely?

Anyone else suffer with this?

Yep, I won't do 69 for this reason and the fact I'm not a huge fan of receiving oral, but if they start doing anything to me while I'm sucking dick I get distracted. Being spitroasted is awesome but the guy on the mouth end needs to swap mid way so he gets some action, I have to stop sucking in case I bite down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too long didn't read.

Shorten it for me please "

That's about 12 lines long that OP is...You may have trouble responding on a certain thread in the near future?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't wanna be crap

Perhaps you’re unconsciously competent if B is to be believed

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Stop thinking. Enjoy the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I'm giving I'm giving with my whole self. I'm listening and reacting to their body, every slight movement I notice, every breath, noise, twitch, I notice.

I can't react, give my best or my whole self when my own body is reacting to something different.

It's like trying to drink a milkshake with no lid on whilst riding a rollercoaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop thinking. Enjoy the moment. "

Indeed get out of your head and into your body

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I just turn myself off get oral carry on with the blowjob get pleasure from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop thinking. Enjoy the moment.

Indeed get out of your head and into your body"

Isn’t that a billy ocean song?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Stop thinking. Enjoy the moment.

Indeed get out of your head and into your body

Isn’t that a billy ocean song?"

Arghhhh bloody ear worm!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop thinking. Enjoy the moment.

Indeed get out of your head and into your body

Isn’t that a billy ocean song?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop thinking. Enjoy the moment.

Indeed get out of your head and into your body

Isn’t that a billy ocean song?

Arghhhh bloody ear worm!!!"

Oops sorry

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Too long didn't read.

Shorten it for me please "

She can be the ice cream or the turkey but not at the same time.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

It's a bit like the Emperor with no clothes P.

It takes someone to acknowledge that it just doesn't work. Then everyone will begin to think and agree.

It's possible to do both but not to climax.

I have a reg partner. He loves 69. I hate it. He's 6ft. I'm 5' 4". I can tongue his belly button but not his cock

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"Yep, I fucking hate 69s.

Do you mind? I was coming in with this one......

I like to focus on either giving it well or taking it divinely .....

Those that can do both must really be doing a half hearted job .....

It's all in the head. Which is where I am what ever the act. Pure concentration."

Sorry Granny-crumpet

You put it much more eloquently than I did

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a bit like the Emperor with no clothes P.

It takes someone to acknowledge that it just doesn't work. Then everyone will begin to think and agree.

It's possible to do both but not to climax.

I have a reg partner. He loves 69. I hate it. He's 6ft. I'm 5' 4". I can tongue his belly button but not his cock

Then move down some more and get the lazy bugger to crane his neck up? There's a foot and 2 inches between us and we manage alright in that regard!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I always knew youd be a shit shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like the Emperor with no clothes P.

It takes someone to acknowledge that it just doesn't work. Then everyone will begin to think and agree.

It's possible to do both but not to climax.

I have a reg partner. He loves 69. I hate it. He's 6ft. I'm 5' 4". I can tongue his belly button but not his cock

In my limited experience I think you’re right. Whenever I’ve done 69 through to a climax one has sacrificed theirs for the other during the act. That doesn’t mean that you can’t have your cake and eat it, just not at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too long didn't read.

Shorten it for me please

That's about 12 lines long that OP is...You may have trouble responding on a certain thread in the near future?

Hopefully the future thread will be more interesting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always knew youd be a shit shag

*shakes fist*

Just wait Bladey, I'll bosh ya chops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always knew youd be a shit shag

*shakes fist*

Just wait Bladey, I'll nosh ya chopper.

P"
FTFY

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"It's a bit like the Emperor with no clothes P.

It takes someone to acknowledge that it just doesn't work. Then everyone will begin to think and agree.

It's possible to do both but not to climax.

I have a reg partner. He loves 69. I hate it. He's 6ft. I'm 5' 4". I can tongue his belly button but not his cock

Then move down some more and get the lazy bugger to crane his neck up? There's a foot and 2 inches between us and we manage alright in that regard!

Bugger off B ...... I've done more craning than Mcalpines.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, I fucking hate 69s.

Do you mind? I was coming in with this one......

I like to focus on either giving it well or taking it divinely .....

Those that can do both must really be doing a half hearted job .....

It's all in the head. Which is where I am what ever the act. Pure concentration."

This is how I view it.

I don't wanna give a half hearted job, and quite frankly I'm worth more than receiving half hearted ta muchly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always knew youd be a shit shag

*shakes fist*

Just wait Bladey, I'll nosh ya chopper.

P FTFY"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Yep, I fucking hate 69s.

Do you mind? I was coming in with this one......

I like to focus on either giving it well or taking it divinely .....

Those that can do both must really be doing a half hearted job .....

It's all in the head. Which is where I am what ever the act. Pure concentration.

Sorry Granny-crumpet

You put it much more eloquently than I did

I bow to your succinct style x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Picture the scene...

Multiple bodies all sexed up and revving, a plethora of people and organs to indulge in and pleasure.

Just one "problem"

They also want to pleasure you.

This bothers me and now I'm confuddled. I don't wanna be one step up from fucking a slice of ham or getting a blow job off a hog roast. That's not fair on them surely?

Anyone else suffer with this?

Another concern of mine.

"The world according to Garp" fantastic film, but there's a scene in a car where fellatio goes slightly wrong as the car is rear ended. That's what I'm worried about.

Can you imagine the bloodshed if the one at the fanny accidentally went up yer pooper?

These are very real mishaps I tell thee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that. I love 69s but I get distracted from the task at hand! Then I just use their face as a trampoline to compensate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that. I love 69s but I get distracted from the task at hand! Then I just use their face as a trampoline to compensate."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get that. I love 69s but I get distracted from the task at hand! Then I just use their face as a trampoline to compensate."

It ain't just 69s tho, it's when I'm touched (unless it's an arm stroke or something) by another. I'm worried about being in a group situation and simply being one step up from a wank, or being amazing but offending people coz I don't want to be "pleasured" whilst I'm busy giving pleasure.

I'll be like the last sausage on a string.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm apparently good at this kind of multi-tasking, but my performance does suffer.

It's hot. No one cares. Go for it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

See ( unless it's an arm stroke or something )

This is where we all differ. If I told you the most sensitive part of me and the part of me that when touched makes me alert and interested your eyeballs would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naked attraction bring it on for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See ( unless it's an arm stroke or something )

This is where we all differ. If I told you the most sensitive part of me and the part of me that when touched makes me alert and interested your eyeballs would

I don't know where my alert and interested actually is. That's pants ain't it.

Anything near my nether regions makes me alert and meerkatty.

I think some of it comes down to trust tho too, coz my brain starts "what is that they inserted? Have they really covered up or just pretended? How many fingers is that? Fuck me that's cold, get it out"

I just cannot relax properly.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Picture the scene...

Multiple bodies all sexed up and revving, a plethora of people and organs to indulge in and pleasure.

Just one "problem"

They also want to pleasure you.

This bothers me and now I'm confuddled. I don't wanna be one step up from fucking a slice of ham or getting a blow job off a hog roast. That's not fair on them surely?

Anyone else suffer with this?

Another concern of mine.

"The world according to Garp" fantastic film, but there's a scene in a car where fellatio goes slightly wrong as the car is rear ended. That's what I'm worried about.

Can you imagine the bloodshed if the one at the fanny accidentally went up yer pooper?

These are very real mishaps I tell thee.

There definitely would be bloodshed

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I always knew youd be a shit shag

*shakes fist*

Just wait Bladey, I'll bosh ya chops.

Passes peachy a step ladder

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I'm apparently good at this kind of multi-tasking, but my performance does suffer.

It's hot. No one cares. Go for it. "

This, All three of us get enormous satisfaction from that moment when whoever is doing the bj/tongue work has to stop because of what’s happening elsewhere n them.

In our opinion watching someone else at “That moment” is worth the perceived loss of control/action.

Besides which if whoever was at the other end didn’t get any reaction to their action would they not feel a bit “Meh” too? I think I would, I like the fact that up till now at some Point when I’m fucking someone in a threesome they have stopped what they are doing.

Proves I’m doing my job doesn’t it? & getting that reaction is a pretty damn good feeling in itself

Putting it simply if my work on your nether regions had no effect on your work elsewhere I’d be a bit disheartened.

Bit like when you see some porn star taking a big cock up the arse & you get to her face going “Oh yeah, baby, oh” and she may as well be reading the Sunday paper & scoffing some toast at the same time! Talk about stiffy killer!!

S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a something that needs extensive study and testing.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

"Picture the scene...

Multiple bodies all sexed up and revving, a plethora of people and organs to indulge in and pleasure.

Just one "problem"

They also want to pleasure you.

This bothers me and now I'm confuddled. I don't wanna be one step up from fucking a slice of ham or getting a blow job off a hog roast. That's not fair on them surely?

Anyone else suffer with this?

I think I understand where you're coming from.

I find it hard to give and receive at the same time, with equal enthusiasm.

At some point the receiving means I'm distracted from the giving. This goes both ways though.

At some point I have to just give up my hard work and accept the pleasure until I'm sated, or stop them from pleasuring me, so I can can take them where I want.

One to one it's manageable, but in a crowd scene I've been known to just give up trying and take everything that's given to me.

In the moment, the abandonment is exquisite. After I've come down there's little pangs of guilt that I've been selfish.

I'm a giver. It's almost alien to "give up" and just take the pleasure.

However I've come to realise that my lovers are much the same, they get as much pleasure from satisfying me, as I do them.

There's an unwritten acceptance that at some point in time, someone's going to give up giving, and has no option but to accept, the pleasure is so overwhelming.

Of course, it's important no one is left out, or feels left out. Give me a few minutes to recover, and I'll carry on where I left off.

It's like "now, when was I before I was rudely interupted"

I've also come to understand that how I think it was for my lovers isn't actually how it really was for them.

Perception and actuality are very different.

Simple test, what are my lovers faces telling me, are their pupils dilated, can I feel their heat, their passion, their arousal, their urgency?

And what do they actually tell me, the words, how they say them, the words they choose?

Sounds to me (I read B's post) that hes more than happy. You two are wonderfully connected.

I'd say you've nothing to vex yourself with here. FFS don't beat yourself up or let this get inside your head. That way lies madness.

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Anyone else suffer with this? "

Lady V is exactly this. Hates 69. Wishes to concentrate on one or other not both.

Struggles even if sucking and vibrator teases her. She switches off from the oral...

Like to remind her of her task by perhaps giving her a deeper throat full and Little sadistic breath play. She soon focuses again..

Latexkink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m interested to find out how much I can multitask while I having my arse rimmed or fucked during a bi MMF or while getting a blowjob even, as I’ve never done two of those things at the same time yet. In fact I’ve not been arse fucked yet. That’s an experience I’m really looking forward to. There’s a whole raft of questions I have, but my performance doesn’t concern me too much because the whole thing will be so hot anyway. Will I go soft or will I stay hard with a nice hard cock up my bum? I don’t know? Will I be able to concentrate on giving him a blowjob while she gives me one or vice versa? What will happen if she rims me while I’m giving him a bj or he rims me while I’m lick her pussy or fingering her. Currently I don’t know, but by God it’s not going to stop me finding out. I see it as a mutual inquiry into how we can all give each other as much pleasure as possible.

I think the key is simply to enjoy the moment and if your concentration wavers then there’ll be another opportunity to regain it and focus on your partners soon enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you will have no problem finding males to practice with on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure you will have no problem finding males to practice with on here."

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Just South of Ipswich

3somes / 4somes are actually trickier than people think

Also the combination of giving and receiving at the same time can be too much for some and it's all over with before you know it

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Love the idea of Lady V airtight...

But that is probably a mutlitask to far...... she would be overloaded and Jelly legged before we got her there.....

But never say never

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